I feel like life is pointless. How can I find meaning in my life?
Last Updated: 07/01/2020 at 1:10pm
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There are times when all of us feel like that. Those are the times when we are stuck in a loop of monotonous routine doing things that make life pointless. Getting unstuck would mean that you add meaning to your life rather than finding it. Do things that define you and make you happy, and if that means breaking the monotony, so be it. You are your first priority. So, make sure you take care of yourself by making a 'purpose of life' if you can't find one. When you have goals in life, it will feel less pointless and more valuable. I hope it helps! Cheers!
feeling this way is common and totally normal. when we feel this way, we should find time to give yourself "me time" and figure out what is something you are passionate about or something that brings you joy. during this time, you will find out who your authentic self is and hopefully the things that inspire some meaning in your life. it won't come easy and we have to take little steps day by day but everyone will find something in their life that gives them meaning. it won't be the same for everyone or happen at the same time but you will find it.
Firstly, it is normal to feel this way. It is common that people feel like this at some time in their life. It may be that your life at this moment in time does not hold a lot of meaning for you personally. Trying to find things that are important to you and seeking these out is a good start. Be that a hobby, job, subject to learn about, spending time with loved one, being a parent etc. There are a lot of things that can give life meaning, working out what is important to you personally is your first step. If you are unsure, talking to someone impartial, perhaps a 7cups listener, could help you to work this out.
I empathize with this completely. At one point it felt like I was put on this planet just to live and die without meaning. But as time went on I realized that the people around me make up my whole purpose of life. Being grateful for the things I have was all it took for me to realize that these people could make me happy. That's what life is, you go through ups and downs and you find your people. Although it may feel pointless to be alive, life is full of surprises and you never know what you're going to find the next day. Uncertainty can be scary but life is just one big giant surprise. Hope that made sense :D
Maybe it is, but that doesn't mean you can't try to find purpose in it. Maybe I'm staying alive for the next season of Killing Eve. Maybe I'm waiting for my favourite author's next book. Getting invested in little seemingly inconsequential things like this kept me alive for longer than you would think. Then, from there, find something you're passionate about, or someone who you enjoy being with. Maybe right now, you're not feeling particularly happy or passionate about anything, but that's okay. Spend some time doing that thing, or with that person, every day. Improve your skill or relationship. Eventually, it'll seem like you're doing all this for a purpose again. Even if that purpose is something you just made up.
I have also felt this way extremely often!! I know it is hard to figure out this crazy life! I find myself thinking of this- why are we all here? Why is there consciousness? It is one of the main mysteries of life, so you are totally valid in asking this question!! To find meaning in life is all a personal journey! You can find it within the observation of nature's beatuty or within an indiviual meditiation between yourself and your mind's eye!! Anything can be the meaning of life, if it partains to who you are, and your motivation on being on this earth. I wish you well on this path!
Finding meaning in your life is a journey that looks different for everyone. Theres not magical answer that just suddenly makes everything feel worth it. It takes time and honesty with yourself about the things and people in your life that make you feel something good. We all have different passions and motivations, finding something that drives you and makes you feel light when things are at its darkest is what brings meaning to your life. It gives us hope and combats the pointlessness. We all have something that just makes you light up when it's apart of your life, you're unique and special, embrace it and find your meaning.
As humans we are social beings, meaning that a huge part of our lives involves other people. To find purpose in life, we should work to love and grow ourselves, but even more importantly than that, we should find something greater and outside ourselves to focus on. Show your friends and family that you care for them, or involve yourself in a job or form of community. Even if you don't naturally feel like a "team player," try to find the people you click with and a mission higher than yourself. Start off by identifying your passions or interests and expand on that. For example, if you like writing, try to write on your own, but take it a step further. Ask yourself, "How can I take this to the next level and serve something greater than myself?" Maybe your friend could use some help writing her essay, maybe there's a writing club at school, or maybe you could submit things online or the newspaper.
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