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I feel like life is pointless. How can I find meaning in my life?

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I feel like life is pointless. How can I find meaning in my life?
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Aetherius
October 27th, 2016 8:25pm
Meaning in life is something completely different for every person. I think a good place to start is to look to the people you really admire - the people in your life or the ones you look up to - and think about what it is they do to create meaning. Even if you feel like you can't do exactly the same thing - maybe your hero is Neil Armstrong, and their can only be one first man on the moon - you can think about why what they did was special. For example, Armstrong did something nobody else had ever done before - how can you do something like that? And in looking for that answer, you just maybe might find the meaning you're looking for.
Valueyouheart13
October 28th, 2016 10:14am
by breathing and by having the ability to see, feel, touch and exist. How can you not think you have a meaning in life!
Anonymous
October 29th, 2016 3:54am
Life can seem pointless when we feel like we are stuck. Find a new hobby, start a new book, or go for a walk every morning. Rejuvenate and renew yourself!
SeekerOfHappiness01
October 29th, 2016 10:42pm
This is a constant battle in my life too, so I understand how you feel. From personal experience I find something time consuming. For example, last week I set myself a book to read. This week, I'm making a small rug from scratch. Next week I plan to pick a piano piece to learn. I find that if I set a small achievable goal, that it makes me feel a little better. It makes me feel like 'okay, I have something to do now, so I have to keep going and get it done'. Suddenly life has a purpose, even if it's just a small and short lived one. I hope I explained that okay.
Iamluke
November 5th, 2016 3:56pm
well, meaning of life varies from one person to another. finding it can be like finding things that you like to do like a hobby or like a long-term goal for yourself to complete in life
GottafallBeforeyouFLY
November 6th, 2016 7:02am
Talk to people; find friends and family and join this site. Watch YouTubers, listen to music, try writing stories or poems or something.
Anonymous
November 24th, 2016 6:29am
Life is a journey. Sometimes you will feel like there are great voids in the path you take, where you don't really know where you're going, why you're here, or what direction to go next. It's called drifting, it's exceptionally draining and boring, it can make you feel utterly useless and as if you are a waste of space. The fact of the matter is, periods of drifting are a natural part of life. Like ocean tides, sometimes we are strongly motivated, sometimes we are aimless and drifting. There's nothing wrong with you, with what you're doing, you just have to embrace the moment of inactivity and wait for the next surge of energy!
friendlyPerspective32
December 24th, 2016 3:13am
Finding meaning in your life, unfortunately, isn't something you can necessarily do overnight. It's rough, I know, to feel so uncertain but it takes time. I like to think that finding your own purpose is a process rather than an end goal. I'd suggest exploring different hobbies and sports. If you're in school or have the means to return, I'd suggest checking out different organizations and different classes that seem even remotely interesting. Sometimes, the best opportunities may seem to come out of nowhere. There's beauty in exploring different opportunities. I wish you all the luck!
ImHereToHelpYouSee
December 29th, 2016 7:14pm
Think about just how much you have to live for. Like, think about the birds and the trees and the sky and the stars. If you don't feel like you have anybody think about just how beautiful this world actually is, and that if you stay here you can make a difference. You can make other people see how beautiful it is, and help them find meaning. You have purpose.
generousApricot24
January 8th, 2017 12:48am
I find meaning in life in helping others, I do whatever I can to help others in whatever ways I can, and seeing the impact that a single person is able to have on someone else's life is what keeps me going, I don't live for myself, I live to make the world a better place one small gesture at a time, and that makes me tremendously happy
MessengerOfPeace01
January 19th, 2017 1:22pm
You only feel this way when you are not accomplishing anything nor enjoying life. Start doing something, do not sit. Remember that your time is short, don't waste it. Do new things experience life and keep trying and learning till you stumble upon what may fit you and make you happy.
PeacefulWinds
February 13th, 2017 6:59am
Find the most important thing or person in life and make it your center, your anchor. Don't let go, and always keep it with you, close to you and make it your purpose, something to hang on to.
Drusilla451
February 22nd, 2017 9:56pm
No life is pointless you need to find contentment in the here and enjoying each moment of life the sounds and sensations of just existing. We are all pressured with images of people living these seemingly fabulous lives which can make you feel inadequate as though every minute of every day should be an amazing. photo opportunity. Most of those documented lives are not real. SometimesIn life in life you will have those moments when you are not sure what you should be doing there is nothing wrong with that there is also nothing wrong with taking a few different turns along the way. Who is to say what a worthwhile life is you will find your own way it may take a little time that whilst you are waiting do not be so hard on yourself
Anonymous
February 22nd, 2017 11:57pm
Self love is the first step in finding the meaning of life. Once you start loving, accepting, and respecting yourself, you will become a more positive person and get to see the good things in life and start noticing the small things. Of course not everything will be perfect, life isn't perfect. It is okay to be sad though! It's okay to have other emotions besides happiness!
UnderstandingFriend
February 26th, 2017 8:03pm
Think of one amazing thing that has happened in your life, something that makes you smile, something you wish you could go back to and relive. Your purpose is that you are the only person in the world with this amazing memory, if you weren't alive, that wonderful moment would fade into the past and be lost to the universe.
SophieDarling
March 10th, 2017 1:12am
Go out and meet some new people and treat your self to a makeover! Write a list of things that you've always wanted to do!
Anonymous
March 21st, 2017 10:59pm
Looking for a hobby is a simple way to find enjoyment even when things may seem bleak. Try doing new things, and see if any interest you. There are a million things to try, and even trying them can make you feel like you are working towards a goal
DavidT85
April 1st, 2017 10:18pm
This one of the most important questions, yet one of the hardest to answer. I have no idea, and I guess no one has. I know my life's meaning, and I think this is the single most important factor in my well being. Yet, although I think my purpose ((walking through a path which increases mine and other's happiness and well-being) is one that would fit many and could be embraced by others, ultimately it is anyone's own choice and task to figure out what would be the meaning that suits you. Unfortunately, this is the one thing in life, I guess, where we can't find an instruction manual. On the bright side, once we find it, the rewards are great and anything else after would be much easier to figure out
PotatoListener27
April 6th, 2017 5:30pm
That is a question only you can answer. You must search for what you love, and stick with it. What makes you happy can be your meaning for life. It can be anything, big or small
Anonymous
April 14th, 2017 1:03am
My go to method when I start to feel worthless is to meditate. I'll sit for a while and reflect on things I have done, successes, friends, family, and even failures. I'll prioritize things in my life. Another way I do this is to look at old pictures of things. This often reminds you of what you strive for.
Anonymous
May 13th, 2017 8:27am
Explore the things in life that interest you, the more you are interested in life the more reason you have to live
grintaehyung
May 14th, 2017 7:35am
Find something that makes you calm. Meditations and go to adventures. Do the best things in life without wrecking your social status. Talk with your friends and therapist. Try to be optimistic
Anonymous
May 18th, 2017 10:00am
Learn how to love yourself. Don't be afraid of what people are going to say , because you can never make everyone happy. You have to treat people the way you want to be treated. What you have inside is much more beautiful than the outside.
Anonymous
June 25th, 2017 12:38pm
Think of what truly matters to you. Any hobbies? Anything that gives you joy? Any talents of yours? Any moments in your life where you experienced happiness through accomplishment? If not, then you are still finding yourself. Try going out in nature, exploring different activities, etc.
solabee
June 29th, 2017 6:41pm
By surrounding yourself with positive things! Things that you love, people who are good and caring, and content that is encouraging and meaningful. But you have to decide what the meaning of your life is, because someone else's meaning of life might be different than yours. The only way you can find it though is to work in seeking it out.
Bella26
July 15th, 2017 9:26pm
Discover who you are and what you love to do. Find a hobby. Gymnastics gives my life meaning. It makes me feel free and like I've achieved something. Find something that you love to do and put all your energy into it.
Anonymous
July 30th, 2017 8:09am
Every life is worth living. And everybody has a fire and a passion within them, but maybe just haven't discovered it yet. Try out new things, pick up old hobbies, take risks with good intentions and jump out of your comfort zone every now and then. Each step you take to exploring more about the world; the more you will learn about yourself - your strengths, your talents and exactly why your life is not pointless.
Elvalight
August 3rd, 2017 8:42am
I feel like this a lot, but I remember that, yes, life doesn't have any set meaning, but in a way that's kind of nice because you can give it whatever meaning you wish. It can be saving lives, having kids, finding the love of your life, traveling to beautiful places, helping people, seeing lovely sunsets and sunrises, really the possibilities are endless. There's no right answer. Anything that keeps you waking up each day is a meaning. Essentially, life does have no meaning, but any meaning you can imagine is life.
Mattkins
August 9th, 2017 10:17pm
Meaning comes from learning your self worth and not from anything you can do physically. Once you realise how great you really are you'll find meaning.
Anonymous
August 10th, 2017 12:31am
Look at yourself, what do you like to do? Do what you love, and you'll realize you already found it.