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I feel like life is pointless. How can I find meaning in my life?

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I feel like life is pointless. How can I find meaning in my life?
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Anonymous
August 11th, 2017 1:19am
Find a goal you want to complete or something you want to get better at. find something you like doing anf do it, or work toward doing it
VanessaGraceStory
August 17th, 2017 3:28am
Hobbies, what makes you happy, what makes you laugh, who or what you love in life, religion, the beauty of nature, what you're capable of doing in life. Think of this, some people are physically disabled, unable to either walk, talk or even move like paralyzed. Being thankful for what you have or what you are capable of, whether dealing with a mental illness or not. We are all equal people and unique, but if you want to find meaning in life then think of some things i mentioned or hopefully i opened you mind to ideas. Some mental illnesses or conditions, can leave people seeing no meaning to life as well. Many things affect the brain, this world isn't perfect and neither are we and because of that we tend to need motivation to guide us through the days.
Heartland202
August 31st, 2017 5:40pm
Find something that you love. It could be drawing or painting or animals or children. Whatever you enjoy try to think of ideas that include this and start to expand on it. It can take time and effort but life isnt pointless and once you find meaning you will feel like a different person. Dont be afraid to ask for help with your ideas and dont lose faith if you fail the first or tenth or 50th time just keep trying because when you succeed you will feel so proud of yourself
Binam123
September 7th, 2017 5:49pm
1) Try to find out if there is something that you really want and seek means to get it, and put your best into it (ethically of course). 2) Go out, explore, volunteer... we often find meaning in the work we do, the help that we do or the relationships that we create with other people. 3) And always remember: "Life does not give us a meaning, but asks for one. And each individual with his own unique circumstances creates a meaning in his life by the work he does" -- i.e everyone's circumstance is different and we must seek to give our life a meaning in and despite those circumstances rather than trying to copy or expect what other ppl have done in their own lives. 4) Remember than the meaning in your life need not be a so called 'big single achievement'. It could be small things that you do that makes a big difference in your life and the life of others. It's usually the small things that compound over time and become big contributions.
Clarkguild
September 14th, 2017 12:14pm
You, my friend, are not pointless. We all have a time in our life when we feel hopeless or feel as if we're here for no reason. It's just a normal thing. If you want to find your purpose, it will take a lot of time. Your meaning can be in a person, someone who you love and would do anything for, or for a passion in something, whether it be a hobby or a career. You just have to go out and try new things
Anonymous
September 15th, 2017 6:09pm
Was there a time when your life was meaningful? Look back at that time and recognise what you had that you don't have now, get it back and live with it happily.
Anonymous
September 20th, 2017 2:54pm
Write yourself a list of everything positive about yourself. You can't write down anuthing negetive. For example, you're a good friend, you study hard, find a hobby youre good at, you're good at helping your mum with the housework etc. Im sure you have a list full of positive things about yourself. And these things listed should be places where you can see them on a daily basis. Read them at a glance when walking past and hopefully it will put a smile on your face knowing you are a good person. Make a list of goals to reach. Maybe start with small things such as get a new hobby, pick up a pencil and become creative. If you have goals and targets to reach it keeps you focused and do something you enjoy.
Anonymous
September 27th, 2017 8:39am
Some people find that the meaning of life is to have a career, get married, and raise a family. However, that doesn’t mean that everyone is meant to do that in their lives! When you are living a life that is dictated by others it becomes hard to find the purpose of your own life. Children are often directed in one way or another by their parents. For instance, their parents want them to become doctors or lawyers, yet as they grow up, they have a strong desire to do something else. Many of these children ignore their own desires because the rules dictate that they can’t have what they want. If that sounds like you, then it’s time to dump the rules and start living the life you want. Why would you want to live your life for someone else? You will only regret it in the end. Once you realize that no one has to live behind a set of rules and that everyone is unique in their desires, then you will be able to better find the meaning of your life and where you are headed.
Anonymous
October 4th, 2017 12:58am
Feelings of pointlessness used to bombard me daily, and steadily on throughout weeks, and months, and vestiges of it haunt me to this day. I don't feel ashamed of having felt and continuing to be pained with thoughts of pointlessness because I still consider it and considered it a valid part of my being. Now, looking back, what snapped me out of my sleepiness -- what woke me -- was asking myself what I really cared about, and what I wanted to do with my life. The latter, to me, is a silly question because the answer always changes because life happens. The one constant I had, was being around my friends, family. I seemed to be able to love and to help others but I lacked the same dignity and respect for myself. So, I then pursued self-care above everything else because it was the one thing that kept me from resenting people, so that I may do what I truly feel is my purpose in life, which is to serve others.
Sorenn
October 20th, 2017 5:02pm
For me, I had to begin focusing less on myself and more on others. I began to put my energy in helping them succeed or lead less stressful lives. By doing so, I think I made room within myself to better be able to determine what my purpose was. Sometimes we are simply to close, too involved with doing a thing that if we simply back away from it and breathe, we can gain some much needed perspective.
Anonymous
October 22nd, 2017 5:26am
You can find meaning in life through many different things. Try finding something you are good at. If you are in school, try to find clubs or if you are an adult try to find social groups or make friends with the same interests.
PaulaInanum
October 28th, 2017 5:49pm
I personally don't think life has any inherent objective meaning, and if one wishes to find meaning in their life they have to give it themselves, it's very much a struggle as much as it is a journey. I don't think meaning is an end to attain, rather something that reveals itself as result of a process.
ElleFriend
November 9th, 2017 12:00pm
Don’t let the fast-paced superficial world take over your life. The world is fast paced and it keeps people in their comfort zones. It stops people from thinking and keeps them busy. Being busy searching is wonderful, but don’t get so busy doing that you don’t allow yourself to feel.
CalmSea8
November 10th, 2017 11:04am
Try too many new things in different ways till you find out your passion. Make sure when you find it, you can move forward and have goals.
alexwolfgirl87
November 16th, 2017 6:55am
Try looking for the good in life, not the bad. There will always be struggles but at the end of those struggles, there is a finish line.
HelpWisely
November 17th, 2017 4:29am
Life does not have any meaning, it’s you as an individual that creates the meaning to life depending on your perception or how you choose to live the life that has been given to you to experience.
lovelyJewel61
November 17th, 2017 2:36pm
life comes with many struggles, that is true. it may seem pointless, and in many ways. but you have to look past that, and see that there is more to life. there is so much to see, so much to expierence. sure life seems a little tough right now but whos to say it wont get better? you just have to look past all the bad.. and see the good
mcstar
November 26th, 2017 9:14am
Find and do the things or activities that makes you smile, laugh and makes you feel good. Something that you look forward to doing the next morning and the next day, and the day after. Find those activities that resonates with your soul.
ParalleliUni
November 29th, 2017 11:17pm
Finding meaning in your life can be done if you try to think about things that matter to you, things that you wouldn't give up on your life for. That's when you find the meaning of your life. It can be different things. Sometimes is as simple as just being you. But that means that you live your life as yourself and that you don't give up until you've achieved something that makes you feel happy and satisfied. It can be the smallest thing. The greatness doesn't matter really. What matters is you. You are the meaning of your life.
ChooseHappiness1992
December 5th, 2017 4:28pm
Sometimes the purpose or meaning of life is to be happy and contented with who you are and to live without judgement and prejudice.
MelodyRuth
December 6th, 2017 6:24am
Think of a time when you were the happiest you ever were. I know it might be very difficult, but just think hard. Now use that as motivation to find meaning and live for that happy moment.
xsaalihahx2
December 6th, 2017 5:04pm
Try to look for something that makes youse happy as a person and stop thinking about others and just think about yerself for once
havartilikeits1999
December 8th, 2017 2:24am
Do nice things for the people you love. Find things that you're good at and find ways to do them more often. Appreciate the good things in your life, even if they're small.
Anonymous
December 9th, 2017 9:46am
Well one cannot do something well if they don't know why they are doing it. Same with life you cannot live life without knowing why you are alive. So what i think is that we have to keep living watch things carefully and we will eventually find meaning the meaning of life is not one specific thing it differs from one person to another from one perspective to another. Whether is to be happy, doing what we love, feeling that connection with someone, or to understand others ....or living to help others with their troubles and making my the life of everyone better. Life has a meaning all you need to do is to watch carefully and you will find it in pain, suffering , laughs , even in death it self.
Anonymous
December 17th, 2017 12:01am
At times, life can lose purpose and become pointless. This is especially true with depression in my experience. Finding that purpose is not easy. Reaching out to loved ones, and talking it through can help a great deal.
Ganimed
December 17th, 2017 12:40am
Every one of us is unique, thankfully. We find happiness in stuff we like and doing things we like, we create our own meaning to life.
ChamomileTea5202
December 23rd, 2017 4:43pm
This is a difficult question that many people struggle with. It is human nature to ask this as we are fully aware that our time is limited. I heard one of my professors once say that it's not about finding meaning in our lives as much as it is making meaningful moments in our life with people who mean a lot to us.
Anonymous
January 4th, 2018 5:27pm
Find the things you love/like, even if they seem tiny or silly, and invest your time in them, so that you can find more joy and meaning in life. This can be a very lenghty and troublesome process, though.
PieCat
January 14th, 2018 3:55am
Find something that you enjoy or something that you'd like to see happen. Many people find meaning in their hobby, career, or family. Some people like traveling or seeing new places. Others like helping others and look forward to waking up to a better world. Each person's life has its own meaning.
Anonymous
January 24th, 2018 2:44am
try joining clubs, sports, or other extra-curricular activities. make new friends! maybe start going to the gym, starting a blog, becoming an activist. i find writing in a journal helps and using my high follower count on instagram to an advantage- spreading positivity and equality. so, you can try to do something like that. or even volunteer work! that can be incredibly fulfilling.