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I hate myself for being fat and ugly. What can I do?

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Last Updated: 10/22/2019 at 8:40pm
I hate myself for being fat and ugly. What can I do?
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Tanyia Hughes, Adv Dip Psy


I have been through a lot in life too, which helps me to be able to empathize with situations, thoughts and feelings that we have. Sometimes, it's not easy just being human.

Top Rated Answers
May 7th, 2016 12:32pm
Accept who you are. No one is perfect, the best we can do is to be live in ourselves, find the good in you.
June 3rd, 2016 5:03am
you can look into the mirror and realize how beautiful your cubes and skin is. you're gorgeous in every way possible.
June 3rd, 2016 5:06pm
Look in the mirror. Everyday look at yourself and out loud say one thing(ay least) that you love about yourself. Before ypu know it, youll be oozing confidence.
June 3rd, 2016 9:27pm
You are beautiful inside and out! you have to love yourself first to make any changes., but if you have family let them know how you feel and you want to change it. you need people to encourage you! Keep your head up!!! SMILE
June 5th, 2016 6:16am
Everyone is beautiful in their own way,what do you think could help you with motivation to make your situation better?
June 5th, 2016 6:44pm
Often I hate on myself for the same reason. Try looking at yourself not by your physical attributes, but the stuff about you that's hidden under your skin. For instance, your talents, hobbies, etc.
June 10th, 2016 10:42pm
realize that nobody is perfect, and that no one is truly content with their body. Learn to accept the way you are; tell yourself that if you want something to change, only you can help yourself. But never beat yourself up over having to do more and more, let your mind and body work naturally to help yourself. Don't tell yourself you have no fight left, there's always something there, you just have to find it.
September 13th, 2016 8:29pm
Love yourself for being fat and differently beautiful. I am fat and chubby. I love to pull my own cheeks. What happens when you want to eat a pizza of your choice? Simple you eat it. But for your so conscious and confused friends it is not that easy. They have to think! So you are lucky. Your relationship with pizza is much more stronger than millions of Romeo-Juliet kinds. :)
July 2nd, 2019 9:46am
First of all. Find something about you that you love. Eyes, personality, smile. Whatever it is. Find it. Slowly start getting healthy. Reason why I said slowly because you don’t want to rush into something and make big plans and in three weeks hate yourself because it falls apart. Eat healthy homemade breakfast. Make stuff you love in healthy ways. Find something you honestly like. Gym, boxing, walking and try to stick to it for one day a week. Then when you get comfortable maybe two days or a new activity to add on to that. Keep it simple. You are loved. Even if you don’t feel like you are. Stop! dear god stop! Belittling yourself you are worth more then you know. Just start small and work your way up. Recently I have been signing up for a lot of meetup groups meeting new people. Doing the activities I love. Such as biking, snowboarding, and other stuff try it.
April 27th, 2016 9:51pm
Well atleast learn to respect ypurself. There are many people in the world who doesnot get enough feast to eat. They might be thinking of being in your place. Maybe you are at the right place. If you think people around you make fun of you or insult you, at least you give respect to yourself. How can you ask others not to insult if you are also one of them.
April 28th, 2016 3:26am
Accept yourself for who you are, their is only one of you on this earth. Show everyone what you can be.
April 28th, 2016 5:09am
First of all, being overweight is not synonymous with being ugly. If you feel self conscious about your looks, do something to make you feel better about yourself. Self acceptance is key.
April 28th, 2016 7:10pm
Remember that you are blessed with with a beautiful, functioning, whole body that so many people do not have. Your appearance does not depict your self worth. Self worth only comes from the inside. Ugliness is only a comparison. One everyone makes with each other. Being pretty and slim will not somehow make you a better person. Society's judgement on looks should not stand between your love for yourself. Your body takes so much burden everyday...mental and physical. Care for it. Love it
April 29th, 2016 1:43pm
First, I would like to say that nobody is ugly. No matter your size or appearance, there is something beautiful in everyone. If you are truly unhappy with yourself, start to eat a healthy diet and try to get at least 20 minutes of exercise in a day. You will slowly start to feel better about yourself!
May 2nd, 2016 2:37pm
All people we are different, we are a universe. You're beautiful in your own way, do not let the stereotypes you say otherwise. Whatever your body, no matter. What really matters is inside.
May 4th, 2016 1:55am
Try your hardest to overcome this awful feeling, its going to ruin your life, You are beautiful , yes maybe there's room for improvement but only when you want to and you're ready, make a simple change, one step forward to changing this feeling.
May 4th, 2016 1:49pm
Try to walk/run/jog more, do some sports go out with friends and walk around with them eata little healthier than you already do
May 4th, 2016 11:03pm
If you dont like being fat work towards it...try maintaining your weight and eating habbits...and everyone is beautiful in their own way! Moreover dong be ashamed to be fat its just a descriptive word not something offensive
May 4th, 2016 11:24pm
You can start by loving yourself for being you. For being smart, kind or creative. For having a nice voice, or being really talented at cooking! Your appearance does not define who you are. You do! All you talents and dreams define you!
May 5th, 2016 8:33pm
you can try your best to love yourself, because there is nothing wrong with being fat, and there really is no such thing as "ugly". you can surround yourself with positive people who will encourage your self-love (which im sure people here will do as well!) because self-love is a journey and it can be a hard one, but it is worth it in the end
May 6th, 2016 10:57am
Start loving yourself for whatever you are. Look around and you will see that people less fortunate than you love themselves for anything that they are and have. Being 'fat' or 'ugly' really has no impact on the person you are underneath. In this world, it's what you do that defines you, not what you look like. Be a good person and everyone will love you for that!
May 6th, 2016 3:34pm
I have personally experienced this many times in my life and honestly, there is nothing you can do apart from accept yourself. Obviously if you're uncomfortable with your weight you can loose it (Make sure to do it healthily and don't do too much straight away!) - Good luck!
May 7th, 2016 10:45am
I used to be fat almost obese.... But what i learned through the years that if you finds yourself ugly only you not someone else if only you find that than its youre job to change that than you have to work hard go for jogg eat less junkfood train but build it up build the sport jogging etc up cuz only than you will get the full whole experience out of it and dont quit eating dont use pills medichine for it dont throw up dont stop eating you still have to keep eating but healthyer and smaller portions off it and believe me its a very long road to take on it took me 2 years to become healthy etc but im here and ill never go back and if i can do it than you can do it too but ask for help go jogg walk more sport more but build it up and keep eating but healthyer:) that said goodluck and have fun on taking on that long road my brothers and sisters:)
May 7th, 2016 6:47pm
First off, don't hate yourself because you are most likely not ugly and the fat is only temporary. Having a healthy diet and exercises routine is the best way to help you not only live a healthy lifestyle but will help improve your overall mood as well.
May 8th, 2016 5:36am
You are perfect the way are you are. Everyone is. An option would be to exercise daily and give yourself a compliment everyday too!
May 8th, 2016 9:46pm
Hi. I have no idea who you are but one thing is sure, you're not ugly. I think ugly is a ridiculous adjective used by bullies who decide what's pretty to make themselves feel better because deeply, they hate themselves. You should not feel bad for what you look like. The only important part of a person is what's inside. I'd compare the exterior with perfume. It's only here to attire, but then if what's inside of you is not attractive, they'll go. If you really think you're fat and ugly, show them it has nothing to do with who you really are. Show them how amazing of a person you are, show them WRONG.
May 11th, 2016 9:38pm
Don't hate yourself. Most likely you're curvy and gorgeous. Don't let society shape your view of yourself. If you truly want to change start small and do little exercise. Don't worry about what others say or make you think you're perfect.
May 12th, 2016 6:04pm
Who you are as a person isn't determined by your physical appearance.. your looks is just one of your features, it's not the only thing.. it's like hating someone just because they have one flaw or one bad habit.. We tend to ignore all their positive aspects just because we are so focused on their mistakes.. Being fat is not a problem as long as you know you are healthy... you have so many other qualities that make you an amazing person and let me tell you that you are definitely beautiful... While you may think that I haven't even seen you, I know that what I've said is a fact because you're not judged by your looks.. If anyone says otherwise, then please remember that's just their opinion... Please let me know what these people have achieved in life with their so-called good looks, that makes it alright for them to bash people with such hurtful comments... If you know that you haven't hurt people with such ignorance and hate, then you're already much more amazing than them... don't let anyone tell you otherwise..
May 13th, 2016 2:49am
Think positive, don't think negative or the opposite, ugly isn't a real thing, everyone has their own beauty, and being fat is not a bad thing, depending on the situation
May 13th, 2016 4:32am
look at yourself in the mirror every morning and remind yourself how beautiful and wonderful you are