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I hate myself for being fat and ugly. What can I do?

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Last Updated: 10/22/2019 at 8:40pm
I hate myself for being fat and ugly. What can I do?
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Top Rated Answers
Anonymous
May 13th, 2016 12:00pm
Think of yourself as someone else. You wouldn't call someone else fat and ugly, would you? Try talking to yourself kindly and compassionately, as if you were a good friend. Take care of yourself and reward yourself. Believe it or not, self-kindness is the best thing a person can have.
gentleBeauty19
May 13th, 2016 7:03pm
Your not fat or ugly your YOU and your beautiful dont listen to what anybody says dont change for them
miraculousLove88
May 14th, 2016 1:08am
The first step is to stop hating yourself, if you are seeing that being fat and ugly is problem which need help , so you never will help yourself while you are hating yourself. So self acceptance is the cornerstone here and at this point you will have the power and energy to work on your body .
drayofLight
May 14th, 2016 10:10am
I'm sorry you are frustrated with the way you see yourself. For me sometimes it helps when I am frustrated with something about myself to tell myself it is just one part of me and focus on the positive things I feel about myself for a bit..
moonfly94
May 14th, 2016 11:11am
Find a part of you that you like (there is something, I promise) and focus on that bit. Look at that in the mirror and smile :)
Anonymous
May 18th, 2016 6:02pm
Know that outside appearance doesn't matter if you're beautiful on the inside. If someone really loves you then they will accept all of you.
DaveMcGrath
May 19th, 2016 5:18am
You'll hate yourself if you are thin and beautiful. Learn to love yourself above all else, because it won't matter what you do, you'll loathe your appearance. But if you learn to love yourself and respect yourself, no matter how you look, it'll be fine.
BeBeUnicorn
May 20th, 2016 3:12am
I am sure that you are not fat and ugly. In my opinion being beautiful is something that comes from within and radiates in to the world with beauty. And also little flaws, make you "YOU" and it makes the world beautiful, imagine all people looking the same, as media tells us to be, to me that would be very boring, so always be proud of who you are and stay positive.
LucyInTheSky
May 20th, 2016 6:01am
The most important thing you can do is to focus on the positive aspects of yourself. If you continue to focus on what you believe to be the negative aspects of yourself, you will feel as though they are true. Learn to love yourself as you are first and foremost.
energizingRainbow91
May 21st, 2016 11:49am
nobody can be fat and ugly because that is impossible nobody is fat i know this for a fact and your not fat just please listen to everyone when they tell you that you are beautiful because every body is and i can't stand when people say bad stuff about themselves and others. everyone of 7 cups can tell you this and if you don't believe us you believe a lie.
Link22
May 21st, 2016 7:13pm
Try to look at the positives. Maybe you should try a new hair style. Or a new style of clothing. Be nice to yourself. Get your nails painted. Or get a facial. Take a bubble bath! Who cares about how old you are! Bring your rubber duckie!
Anonymous
May 22nd, 2016 8:26am
Be satisfied by how you are and you have so many blessings count them because a lot people out their may wish to be like you or to live a life u have
Anonymous
May 22nd, 2016 7:09pm
Love you for you. If you really can't, try to exercise where either there is change or not you gave your best effort and that's all that should matter.
Anonymous
May 25th, 2016 4:59pm
We should never hate ourselves, if we don't like that we're fat it's the love for ourselves that'll give us the strenght to lose weight.
RywantstoHelp
May 25th, 2016 11:32pm
you are not fat or ugly and why would you hate yourself when there is a reason you were put on this earth? One thing you can do is not try and change yourself. and that is the truth
Coloursofthewind
May 26th, 2016 5:10pm
Look in the mirror everyday and tell yourself that you look great, till' you believe it! Because you really are beautiful
HennaDSalvatore
May 26th, 2016 6:29pm
Weigh yourself..if you really are that obese..GET OF YO ASS AND GO TO THE GYM! Whats the point in complaining about it??
Aggie
May 27th, 2016 1:41am
Get fit. If you're fat, it's probably for a reason. Talk to your doctor if it's your genetics, but if it's your diet, then go to the gym. Go vegan. Try your hardest to eat healthy and work out.
RaveRae
May 27th, 2016 2:10am
First, learn to love your body. Each of our bodies are a little bit different, and each unique. There will never be another of your body exactly. Second, instead of thinking your ugly, think of this: "Everyone is a 10. It just depends on who's looking" or "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder" in other words.
Indie
May 27th, 2016 2:26am
Remember that you are beautifully and wonderfully made! No one person on this planet looks like you! Understand that every single person is the definition of beauty; each person is an art piece, beautifully created. Don't deprive yourself of the love and acceptance you deserve!
sweetZebra91
May 27th, 2016 1:01pm
I have to realize that nobody is perfect. I have to be less harsh on myself, and focus on changes I can make to feel better about myself, such as exercising and eating healthy.
competentHeart51
May 27th, 2016 1:16pm
You are not ugly or fat! But if you don't like it then you can fix it! You could Exercise if you wanted too!
Anonymous
May 27th, 2016 4:11pm
Learn to love yourself for who you are. My friend had a similar problem. She wrote nice positive notes for herself and she put them around everywhere. Especially on mirrors. She would read them out loud when she needed to feel good about herself.
CuringRainfall
May 28th, 2016 11:44am
You mean you really hate it or You hate the feeling that no one liking you ? If Its the latter case, you must realize that, those people are not the one who deserve to be in your life and you must not give a fuck. If you really hate yourself, then find solutions to love yourself. How? So, You hate because you are fat and ugly?, Try transforming yourself. Being overweight isn't something you cannot overcome. Try working out get in shape, trust you start appreciating yourself and your ugliness will vanish away.
BrokenHarmonies
May 29th, 2016 2:58pm
Everyone is beautiful in their own way. Would you like to tell me more about how you think you are those things?
Vaux
June 1st, 2016 2:33pm
You need to look at yourself in a more positive light. If you aren't pleased with yourself, then you should try to do things to make you feel better about yourself.
Anonymous
June 1st, 2016 8:03pm
Try to contact a listener here at 7 cups so you can talk about it, he will surely help you. And no one is ugly.
DrSir
June 4th, 2016 1:44pm
you can look into beginners exercise regimes if you feel that you do not do as much as you should. you may also want to ask others to answer honestly if they think you are overweight.
TashHereToCare
June 4th, 2016 2:34pm
I love you the way you are. You do not need to do anything, because you are a beautiful human being...
delicateHorizon73
June 8th, 2016 6:57am
Go to the mirror every day and tell yourself compliments and compliments only. It takes time for self love but soon you will get there.