I hate myself for being fat and ugly. What can I do?
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Last Updated: 10/22/2019 at 8:40pm
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Think positive, don't think negative or the opposite, ugly isn't a real thing, everyone has their own beauty, and being fat is not a bad thing, depending on the situation
Anonymous
May 13th, 2016 4:32am
look at yourself in the mirror every morning and remind yourself how beautiful and wonderful you are
Anonymous
May 13th, 2016 10:34am
Firstly you need to understand that you are a beautiful person who matters in the world and nothing will ever change that.
Anonymous
May 13th, 2016 12:00pm
Think of yourself as someone else. You wouldn't call someone else fat and ugly, would you? Try talking to yourself kindly and compassionately, as if you were a good friend. Take care of yourself and reward yourself. Believe it or not, self-kindness is the best thing a person can have.
Your not fat or ugly your YOU and your beautiful dont listen to what anybody says dont change for them
The first step is to stop hating yourself, if you are seeing that being fat and ugly is problem which need help , so you never will help yourself while you are hating yourself. So self acceptance is the cornerstone here and at this point you will have the power and energy to work on your body .
I'm sorry you are frustrated with the way you see yourself. For me sometimes it helps when I am frustrated with something about myself to tell myself it is just one part of me and focus on the positive things I feel about myself for a bit..
Find a part of you that you like (there is something, I promise) and focus on that bit. Look at that in the mirror and smile :)
Anonymous
May 18th, 2016 6:02pm
Know that outside appearance doesn't matter if you're beautiful on the inside. If someone really loves you then they will accept all of you.
You'll hate yourself if you are thin and beautiful. Learn to love yourself above all else, because it won't matter what you do, you'll loathe your appearance. But if you learn to love yourself and respect yourself, no matter how you look, it'll be fine.
I am sure that you are not fat and ugly. In my opinion being beautiful is something that comes from within and radiates in to the world with beauty. And also little flaws, make you "YOU" and it makes the world beautiful, imagine all people looking the same, as media tells us to be, to me that would be very boring, so always be proud of who you are and stay positive.
The most important thing you can do is to focus on the positive aspects of yourself. If you continue to focus on what you believe to be the negative aspects of yourself, you will feel as though they are true. Learn to love yourself as you are first and foremost.
nobody can be fat and ugly because that is impossible nobody is fat i know this for a fact and your not fat just please listen to everyone when they tell you that you are beautiful because every body is and i can't stand when people say bad stuff about themselves and others. everyone of 7 cups can tell you this and if you don't believe us you believe a lie.
Try to look at the positives. Maybe you should try a new hair style. Or a new style of clothing. Be nice to yourself. Get your nails painted. Or get a facial. Take a bubble bath! Who cares about how old you are! Bring your rubber duckie!
Anonymous
May 22nd, 2016 8:26am
Be satisfied by how you are and you have so many blessings count them because a lot people out their may wish to be like you or to live a life u have
Anonymous
May 22nd, 2016 7:09pm
Love you for you. If you really can't, try to exercise where either there is change or not you gave your best effort and that's all that should matter.
Anonymous
May 25th, 2016 4:59pm
We should never hate ourselves, if we don't like that we're fat it's the love for ourselves that'll give us the strenght to lose weight.
you are not fat or ugly and why would you hate yourself when there is a reason you were put on this earth? One thing you can do is not try and change yourself. and that is the truth
Look in the mirror everyday and tell yourself that you look great, till' you believe it! Because you really are beautiful
Weigh yourself..if you really are that obese..GET OF YO ASS AND GO TO THE GYM! Whats the point in complaining about it??
Get fit. If you're fat, it's probably for a reason. Talk to your doctor if it's your genetics, but if it's your diet, then go to the gym. Go vegan. Try your hardest to eat healthy and work out.
First, learn to love your body. Each of our bodies are a little bit different, and each unique. There will never be another of your body exactly. Second, instead of thinking your ugly, think of this: "Everyone is a 10. It just depends on who's looking" or "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder" in other words.
I have to realize that nobody is perfect. I have to be less harsh on myself, and focus on changes I can make to feel better about myself, such as exercising and eating healthy.
You are not ugly or fat! But if you don't like it then you can fix it! You could Exercise if you wanted too!
Anonymous
May 27th, 2016 4:11pm
Learn to love yourself for who you are. My friend had a similar problem. She wrote nice positive notes for herself and she put them around everywhere. Especially on mirrors. She would read them out loud when she needed to feel good about herself.
You mean you really hate it or You hate the feeling that no one liking you ?
If Its the latter case, you must realize that, those people are not the one who deserve to be in your life and you must not give a fuck.
If you really hate yourself, then find solutions to love yourself. How? So, You hate because you are fat and ugly?, Try transforming yourself. Being overweight isn't something you cannot overcome. Try working out get in shape, trust you start appreciating yourself and your ugliness will vanish away.
Everyone is beautiful in their own way. Would you like to tell me more about how you think you are those things?
You need to look at yourself in a more positive light. If you aren't pleased with yourself, then you should try to do things to make you feel better about yourself.
Anonymous
June 1st, 2016 8:03pm
Try to contact a listener here at 7 cups so you can talk about it, he will surely help you. And no one is ugly.
you can look into beginners exercise regimes if you feel that you do not do as much as you should. you may also want to ask others to answer honestly if they think you are overweight.
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