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I have a good life why am I not happy?

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Last Updated: 02/27/2022 at 2:09pm
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October 21st, 2021 1:11am
Its always normal to not be happy with everything that you have. You can be living a great life with a roof over your head and have great family and/or friends, but there will always be something deep within us that we feel is missing. And that missing piece is within us. I too went through a phase like this, and to help I focused on myself. I needed to understand what in my life needs improvement. You may have a good life, but is it the life that you want, you may living a good life on behalf of someone else, and it is important to know that. Because pointing that out will help you improve on how you feel about life. I really hope that helped open your mind to a few things. And I am sorry if it didn't help.
October 24th, 2021 9:52am
It can be frustrating when it can seem on the outside that everything is in place but you don't feel happy. Maybe you could try looking inward at what is making you feel unhappy , even if it seems that it is not something worth being unhappy about. For example, the big house that you worked hard to get, but are now feeling the pressure from the high monthly payments. Or sometimes, it may have to do with self-worth; is your job fulfilling you. It is a hard question to answer and getting some help is always a great step forward.
October 28th, 2021 2:13am
The answer is different for everyone, but I do recall this one quote. I'm not sure where it's from, but I think it fits in with your question. It went something like this, "Living a happy life doesn't mean you're joyful all the time, it's being able to get out all of your emotions, happy, sad, angry, calm, and feel ok doing so". I highly suggest talking further with a listener about this and bringing up a few different questions: what specifically are you unhappy about? What do you personally believe the answer is? Sorry that I couldn't write more back, I'm practically falling asleep at the computer! I really wish you luck, and every single one of the listeners here hopes you overcome this! :)
November 4th, 2021 12:17am
Many times our lives seem complex. We have so many choices in things that it can be overwhelming. One way to find contentment is to simplify your life in whatever way is possible. Life is inherently complicated, but we can make choices that simplify our lives. One way to make things simpler is to hold ourselves to our standards. You don't have to answer to anyone but yourself. Of course, you care about your loved ones, but trying to please everyone all the time isn't realistic. Remember to do what's best for you first, and then take care of others. We can all find ways to simplify our lives, and when we do, it gives us more time in the day and reduces our stress. Another barrier to achieving happiness is trying to achieve too much too fast. It's great to have goals and be motivated to succeed, however, it's important to remember to take one step at a time. You can't do everything at once. We live in a fast-paced world that inherently puts pressure on us to achieve goals. We expect to do everything and have everything in a nanosecond. It's not realistic to accomplish things instantly. Remember that achieving success takes time, and you can work on your goals step by step. That way, you don't have to worry about rushing to get to the finish line today.
January 7th, 2022 12:41pm
There's a popular song by Bobby McFerrin called "Don't Worry, Be Happy." It's a great sentiment. If we could all stop worrying and choose to be happy, that would be wonderful, but for some people, it's not that simple. We all have the desire to obtain happiness, yet at times it appears to be unattainable. Obstacles are standing in your way. It might be a matter of slowing down your pace and analyzing what's stopping you from being content in life. It's natural to become frustrated when you can't seem to find joy in anything and think, "Why can't I just be happy?" The reality is you can't force yourself to be happy if you're not. What you can do is recognize negative thought patterns that keep cycling and make a concerted effort to change them. You may need the help of a licensed therapist or mental health professional to accomplish these goals.
February 27th, 2022 2:09pm
Happiness can mean different things for different people. It can be a promotion at work, flying your first plane, or becoming the next president. But for others it can be a cup of tea on a cold night watching a romcom for the 100th time with a best friend. Start by finding out what happiness means to you. Happiness is an emotion and like any emotion it grows with practice. It is a journey not a destination that can manifest in different ways, feeling blessed, feeling relaxed, feeling secure. It can propel you to reflect and grow. Enjoy the ride.