I have a good life why am I not happy?

Often our definition of 'a good life' is based almost solely on factors and aspects outside of us - for example our house, our family, our car and our job. 80% of happiness can only be found within us - away from any physical possession. We all have demons inside us to conquer; it is as we confront these hurdles and rise above them that our hearts are infused with peace, purpose and happiness.

A good life doesn’t equate to happiness. Your life may be missing something and you just don’t know yet or you could be unhappy with yourself.

This is a difficult thing to experience - I remember thinking 'I'm doing everything I can to make make myself happy, my life looks good when I think about it, but my feelings are totally different!' There are many different views on what happiness is and how you can become happy; I will share with you my view and what worked for me. To me, one of the key factors to being happy is looking after myself - eating, sleeping, exercise when I can. If theres not other obvious cause for unhappiness (e.g. relationship troubles, struggling with work or school etc.), I tend to focus on improving on, or persisting with, attending to those basic needs - This is what eventually worked for me. It took a lot of patience, and it wasn't a smooth journey, but it paid off and now I am overall very happy :) My lows are far milder, shorter, and further apart, and more often than not have an identifiable cause. Of course, if you feel you need help with this journey there are people who can help - Counsellor, doctors, life coaches. If you are struggling, I can't emphasise enough how important it is to reach out and make sure you get the help you need, even if it that help doesn't come at first. Best wishes and I hope this helps :)

Maybe it's because you haven't found your self and your life lacks the aspects that make it fully complete and pleasurable for you, maybe you're living your life pretending to be someone else who you're not instead of being your true self, because if you where your true self, youd be totally happy. Maybe it's because you're trying to live up to everyone's expetations because of societal views, so it feels like playing a role or character in real life and how much longer can you do that

It is the person who in my opinion makes happiness by doing constructive or calming things you like. You will have lows in life but to me life is like a roller coaster so build yourself back up after the fall down. Life has ups and down and we choose the attitude in which to make of the best things and improve. Then find out who you are and what makes you truly happy and it will take effort but this life is yours so make no mistakes with adapting to something not as good for you. Keep learning on this journey and when you find happiness share a smile with others as well.

Because happiness comes from within. Look inside and try and find what is missing. It is usually not material things that make us happy but love, genuine connection and self development/growth and to become our authentic self. Look inside and ask yourself; what am I missing? What would make me truly happy?

Happiness doesn't come to from exteriors - it actually comes from interiors. It's likely that something within you isn't happy - perhaps your self esteem is low, maybe you aren't getting fulfillment from things or even have some sort of depressive episode. Remember you can always discuss this with the 7cups listeners!

Good life as defined by you??!! Other people's definition of good life.. you dont have to set into a mould of others opinions and expectations... We create our own happiness... Include small fun things in your routine which you really enjoy... Doinv same things repeatedly may be boring like feeling like trapped in never ending cycle... Break the cycle.. do things differently or do different things... Happiness comes from within... Treat yourself better.. love yourself more.. enjoy being yourself... you are special and unique... Share your good deeds with others... Changing perception can change the reality.. I hope you to find your happiness..

* What do you consider a "good life"? When I hear this question it pretty much sounds like you live what OTHER people would call a good life. There are all these images, movies, conversations that implant concepts into your brain making you think "this is the way I am supposed to live". Well, most of that is just marketing. You decide what a good life is for you and for you only. * Did you ever think about what you truly want in your life? What is your HEART'S desire? A house, food, money etc will secure your material basis, yes, but it will never fulfill your deep desires. Find out what you really want from life. Become a painter, travel, meet new people, learn, have a pet, connect to spirituality? * Realize what you already have and how lucky you are to have all this. Health, money, a home, a family, friends, nature, freedom; all the things that so many other people do not have. Appreciate the small things as well. * If you found out your true desires -that can take weeks/months- act accordingly. Stop caring what other people say and do it YOUR way. Your life is about you, not about others' thoughts. * Be free in your thoughts and actions, break out of behaviour patterns and try something new. Standstill is death. If you run in a hamsterwheel every day, chances are you are already dead (hence the question). Break the cycle. Anything can help. Be creative and listen to your intuition/heart. * Get rid of energy vampires. Leave people that leave you with bad emotions. If necessary, find new friends or a new partner. Rest assured, you will meet new people that fit better than before.

It's possible that you may feel like something is missing in your life. Maybe you have a nice family and go to a nice school as well as live in a nice house, but you don't really have any friends to talk to. It could also be mood swings and this can just be a stage in your life. This is common during the adolescent stage. To try and fix this situation, it would be a great idea to try new things such as traveling, participating in new hobbies and activities, meeting new people, etc. For some, our brains are fixed on not wanting to be happy and the giver of these thoughts can be called "the demons inside your head." What would be best is to distract yourself, try new things, and do what makes you happy!

Are you looking for happiness on things inside of you? Are you doing things that motivate you? Are you trying to provide happiness to oher people as well? Have you checked with a doctor/specialist there is no physical condition for your lack of happiness? Do you have friends/a support network that will cheer you up when you feel sad? Besides having a good life, are most of your habits healthy? Are you the first (or maybe second) best-friend of yourself? If your answer to one or more of the questions above is "No", then that may be a good reason about why you are not happy despite having a good life :)

Science has proven that most of dissatisfaction feelings or other painful ones (leading to heart ache, loneliness or depression) can be radically suppressed by GRATITUDE. However, most of us in today's society are very busy handling our own problems, relationships, future let alone our emotions! So we can't blame ourselves for forgetting basic instincts like gratitude. But hey, now that we heard about it again: let's all feel better by thanking the universe (or God if you are religious) for all that it gave to us from that everyday human body carrying us through the adventure that life is that we have, to that life itself being so full of surprises!

Even though there's nothing wrong with your current life, the reason of your unhappiness might be in the fact that this wasn't what you've envisioned or you're not the person you want to be. It's normal that not everything is perfect and never will be the exact vision that you had. But, you have to stay true to what you want from your environment and what you want to be. It's like if someone gave you a nice haircut with short hair. Doesn't look bad, but you won't be satisfied if you wanted your hair long. It's like if you bought a Ferrari because it was the most expensive car you could afford but you like the design of a lower priced car. It's good, but it isn't what you wanted for you. You need to ask yourself who you want to be and if you are this person or not, and that might be the reason of your unhappiness.

Happiness and life can't be related sometimes people are very successful in life but still they are not happy. For example a student who always top in class might be not happy because he want to enjoy but he can't or he want more marks but on the same a average student can be happy, because he is feeling happy from inside. Watching comedies doesn't help untill you feel happy from inside. Which is on eof the most important thing. Most people say money can't bring happiness, but it even doesn't make sense everyone have their own life and it matters on them they wanna be happy or not. Just try to sing songs loud, do stupid things random things.

It could be depression, the thing people despise due to how it hits when it has no reason to. You could dig deeper into this.

I think it's a good question. Having a good life and being happy are two different things. Having a good life means everything is going fine you are surrounded with but that doesn't mean it makes you happy all the time. For ke happiness does not depend on how successful you are or if everything goes fine. What really important is being happy in life that's a satisfactory life. You're having a good life and even not happy it coul be because whatever you are doing is either not Up to your expectation or you are bot satisfied. Like for example if I'm working on something an everyone says it's a good work of art piece but it doesn't make me happy at all because I'm not satisfied with my price of work. What you wanted and what you get are two different things. When you get what you want that makes a person happy.

I think there are some causes that you haven't found yet. Try to see what specific events/people/environment give you the feeling of sadness.

sadness isn't always a logical thing! whether it's chemical, or even the result of something that you didn't know bothered you as much as it did. i've certainly seen that in a lot of people, even when their life situation gets better, and the things that were supposed to be upsetting them the most are no longer an issue, they still struggle with low mood. i guess it's just about talking it out, preferably a therapist, and identifying the little things that are gonna help keep you afloat until you can work out what's causing you the unhappiness, if anything

Some people feel this way even if everything is perfectly fine maybe because of a chemical imbalance in the brain. That is what causes some mental illnesses, because you haven't got enough of a certain chemical in the brain, such as serotonin, which causes you to become less happy. Sometimes it could be a change in your life that triggers it, and sometimes there's no specific reason. It could be because you are lonely or anything. It still doesn't mean that what you are feeling is less valid in any way and anyone feeling like this should probably still get help. Remember that you aren't alone, there are other people that have a good life but aren't happy, just like you.

It basically has got something to do with your thoughts and with your mind. Happiness is not something that you can get from outside. Happiness is already there within you. Happiness is a decision. If you want to be happy, you will decide to be happy and you will definitely be happy. You have the supreme control over your emotions. You are the controller of you emotions. Nobody or nothing external can affect your emotions unless you give them the power to. So instead of seeing happiness as something that you receive from outside, look at it as an emotion that's always been within you to which you have the access to at anytime and anywhere.

Maybe, there are few unrealized emotions you have that are stopping you from being happy. There are times when humans try and suppress our emotions and feelings, just to feel good. But sometimes these emotions and feelings piles up and makes us really feel upsetting or sad. You can either think what are those unrealized emotions that you've been suppressing or maybe try wondering what makes you happy [ This might be a task, as you arent happy today even after having a good life ] Identifying what makes you happy is a task but, its worth giving it a try. That way you'll know about things that makes you happy and you would eventually do those things that make happy.

Well, having good life does not always equalize happiness. People can have well paid jobs, happy families, a successful social life, but still not reaching happiness. In other hand, people with less life qualities may feel happier. The reason is that happy come from what make you happy not from what is in you hands. Imagine having a big diamond in your hand while you are extremly thirsty and exhausted. Will you feel happy? Yeah you may exchange it for some stuffs and things, but the diamond/ the wealth/ the good things by them will not relief you if you are not happy from inside. So rather than looking for good paid jobs lets think about job that you are passionate about. Rather than marrying a bretty smart women, marry the one that matches with your soul, that understand you clearly even if she got some disadvanges. Rather than having busy social life fullfilled with many people and friends, try to spend time with one person that shares you exatct interest or have an interesting life or career. Experience extremmities in life, joy, curiosity, wonder, miracles. Try everything, live everymoment, and feel the peacefulness flows in you interiors. Love yourself and feed it with what satisfy it spiritually. Happiness does ot come with good life , happiness come with satisfying life.

Even if you may have a good life, you can sometimes may not be happy, or may feel an emptiness inside. Though you might have friends, family, good food, education, and so much you can be thankful for, you still could not feel happy because you might not feel like you are complete. It could be procrastination, previous unpleasant memories of other people who may have hurt, maybe because you haven’t found love yet, or maybe because you haven’t achieved a goal you were really determined on. These could all lead to your unhappiness, but it’s always better to check with a professional, such as a doctor. I hope this helps!

Happiness is more about the way you perceive life as opposed to the things that are actually occurring in your life. You may believe you have a "good life" (which can mean completely different things to each person as some people think a good life is having a good job and stable income while others think it is about finding someone they can love for the rest of their life), so you think you SHOULD be happy, but you view things in a manner that makes you unhappy. It is totally understandable and I can relate to that - it's okay to have a "good life" and still feel unhappy. Part of it can have to do with using more gratitude to appreciate the goodness in our lives, no matter how small. Another thing could be setting goals for yourself and asking yourself if the current life you have is the ideal life you want. Maybe you have a good job, but maybe it isn't something you're passionate about, so at the end of the day you have a stable life that feels like it lacks purpose. When you do feel happy, take note of what it is that made you feel that way, and try to implement it into your life as much as possible.

Its always normal to not be happy with everything that you have. You can be living a great life with a roof over your head and have great family and/or friends, but there will always be something deep within us that we feel is missing. And that missing piece is within us. I too went through a phase like this, and to help I focused on myself. I needed to understand what in my life needs improvement. You may have a good life, but is it the life that you want, you may living a good life on behalf of someone else, and it is important to know that. Because pointing that out will help you improve on how you feel about life. I really hope that helped open your mind to a few things. And I am sorry if it didn't help.

The answer is different for everyone, but I do recall this one quote. I'm not sure where it's from, but I think it fits in with your question. It went something like this, "Living a happy life doesn't mean you're joyful all the time, it's being able to get out all of your emotions, happy, sad, angry, calm, and feel ok doing so". I highly suggest talking further with a listener about this and bringing up a few different questions: what specifically are you unhappy about? What do you personally believe the answer is? Sorry that I couldn't write more back, I'm practically falling asleep at the computer! I really wish you luck, and every single one of the listeners here hopes you overcome this! :)

It can be frustrating when it can seem on the outside that everything is in place but you don't feel happy. Maybe you could try looking inward at what is making you feel unhappy , even if it seems that it is not something worth being unhappy about. For example, the big house that you worked hard to get, but are now feeling the pressure from the high monthly payments. Or sometimes, it may have to do with self-worth; is your job fulfilling you. It is a hard question to answer and getting some help is always a great step forward.

True, lasting Happiness doesn't comes from the external circumstances of life. The conditions of external life might make us happy temporarily. Money and Material objects come and go. Relationships and opportunities bloom and then disintegrate. Our body is sometimes healthy, other times we are riddled with illness and pain. We might feel happy while the currents of life are shifting in our favor. But then we suffer when they change or don't go our way. People suffer or thrive similarly whether they have a good life full of resources, or a very difficult life devoid of opportunity. A wealthy person could be stuck in a state of constant misery, while a person with very little might be radiating in a state of bliss. The difference lies within. The true source of fulfillment and happiness is deep within oneself. This is based in the condition of one's own inner Mental / Emotional landscape. And it is also based on how each of us chooses to view our life and everything around us. We choose how we want to create meaning in each and every moment of life. And the way we create that meaning brings either pain and suffering, or expansion towards happiness. Although the Mind sometimes feels like it has "a mind of it's own," the truth is that we can learn to master ourselves, question our own unhelpful thoughts and emotions, and find that coveted source of peace and happiness within. Every person who finds the Source of Silence, Wisdom, and Peace deep within themselves will experience lasting happiness no matter what happens in their life. This is the kind of self growth and transformation that is worth striving for. Never give up. Never stop working on yourself. Never stop growing. We are like a beautiful Lotus flowers reaching through the mud in order to open to towards the light into full bloom.

Sometimes when what we define as a good life and a happy life may not align with each other. For example, I could define a good life as being financially stable, and a happy life when I could have time for my travelling hobby. If my job that keeps me financially stable (and have a good life), is so demanding that I could not travel and satisfy my hobby, then I would feel unhappy. So it is all about the gap in how you define your good life and happiness. That's my take on this. It could also be different for everyone.

Having a good life has a positive effect on being happy, however it is not always enough itself. Sometimes even if every thing seems like great, we can feel somehow unhappy. Also, it can cause us to feel bad about why we are unhappy even if we have a good lives. Don't accuse yourself for that. It is happening in some part of our lives. It can be a chance to explore new pathways or it can guide you to explore your inside. It is being at peace with yourself. You can practice writing the things you would like to change in your life (daily tasks, relationships, emotions etc.), and you can score them. Then, maybe it is time to make them really happen. Hope it helps to your question. Best wishes,