I have no friends and no life anymore. What should I do?

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Last Updated: 07/09/2018 at 6:16pm
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JohnCena11
March 23rd, 2016 2:33pm
People are evil by nature. Go find someone else with no friends. They are the best kind because they will never betray you. When 2 desperate lonely people meet, good things happen
Anonymous
March 16th, 2016 6:15pm
Neither do i, but honestly you don't need friends to be happy. Just be yourself and get a cat :)
fasterturtlespls
June 14th, 2016 6:09am
After going through many phases of depression and anxiety, I found I had lost my interests and my connections with others. I had no real friends and I had no life. It's a difficult process, reversing this situation. I found that the only way to do so was to take some risks with how I interacted with others. Rather than simply talking to others and putting all my effort into upholding a conversation, in the hope of establishing some connection, I told people how I was feeling. Tell a story. It doesn't have to be about anything very interesting. What matters is that you express yourself, and make seem real for whomever listens. In doing so, I found that people would connect with me, and at the same time, I was able to get things off of my chest. Eventually, I made friends with these people and gained a part of me that I'd lost.
reeyseelbeel05
March 14th, 2016 4:22pm
Everyone of us has a friend. I believe in that, maybe you dont notice it or you may not see it but believe me there is always one person who loves you and cares for you. Just open your heart and eyes to see it. There is always life and there is always reason to live. It doesnt mean that you have friends, or you dont have a lot of friends, you are already not a good person. Those things cannot define you as a person. Try to look the brighter side of life, in that case you will appreciate it and value it more.
Lindsaylu
July 4th, 2016 12:50am
You Keep Going. You keep waking up everyday, you keep going to school or work, you keep doing the things you love because one day you're going to have some amazing friends that love you and one day you're going to be happy and carefree and have an incredible life that is going to be 100% worth it. I promise you that because I am living proof and if you ever need a friend I'll always be here. :)
Vixiana
March 23rd, 2016 10:54am
Start over. Try making new friends, build new relationships and create new memories. You can always start over, it's never too late, no matter how down or sad you feel right now for losing what you had in the past, focus on building the future you want. It's worth it.
Anonymous
April 2nd, 2016 12:32pm
Seek friends, learn to love yourself, leave the past that hurts. The best things in life are free, you can find a friend.
Anonymous
March 20th, 2016 8:42am
You don't need friends to have a good life. Make a good life to find better friends. You must learn to be happy with yourself before you can plant happiness in others.
Anonymous
March 12th, 2016 2:23pm
Begin it all. Don't get stuck with your past experiences, give you a chance, accept it and go ahead. Find things to be busy with (ex reading, makes you waiting all the day to know the next part and so on...) there are many little things out there to fullfil your time with. Then why not to try to some old friends or ppl you know but never were close to... If you can't then like others told, meeting new ppl is a good way :) Good luck
forestmist
May 5th, 2016 7:37pm
Try to find time to go outside and go to a club, library, coffee shop. They will get you outside and get you to be in a more public setting.
Anonymous
March 13th, 2016 9:41am
Dont be sad. Dont give up on life just yet. There's so many opportunities to make more friends, and stay happy because life is short.
insightfulParadise25
March 11th, 2016 9:14am
If you no longer have friends because they've moved on, or you've moved away, then you might want to start by establishing a new social life based around your interests. If you have hobbies, try and get involved among groups of like minded people who share these interests. If not, are there any hobbies or interests you might like to explore? Have a look on line to see what is going on. Failing that, ask yourself the question "what makes you feel good?" is that something you can do in a group or do for others? If you would like to meet people, explore taking part in a community activity, join a walking group, a cooking class (I did this and ended up starting a catering business with a friend who I met along the way through a shared interest in cooking). I also wanted to go sailing, so I organised a group of people just by advertising, which formed my "small crew" and I found a skipper to take us voluntarily. I'm now a qualified skipper and have a whole load of friends and a social life surrounding that. Sometimes we just need to find within what we enjoy the most or try something new, the rest will fall into place.
YemekYiyenSincap
April 9th, 2016 5:49pm
Don't get stuck with your past experiences. Go out and meet people who are like-minded. take up a hobby that involves meeting people, You will make friends :D There is always life and there is always reason to live.
WarmShadow8
March 23rd, 2016 1:05am
Never stop trying. As long as you're alive, your story isn't over yet. Try something else, find friends online or in real life. Talk to them. Try doing something else, if not for yourself then help your community. This way, you might see yourself living for someone else, and having a purpose and reason to continue living.
BatmanAtYourService
April 10th, 2016 8:03pm
Get out of your house. Travel. Explore. Meet strangers. Make friends. Try new food. Life will still offer you the best. Just go out.
Anonymous
April 28th, 2016 3:24am
Best thing I do, is talk to the man in the moon. Hes quiet, listens to everything, and is so bright he just looks friendly
Anonymous
May 18th, 2018 4:10pm
dont lsiten to any of these losers.
JonTR
April 14th, 2016 8:42am
Funny this question should pop up for considering I have been wondering this myself for sometime. However, I came to the realization that the world wasn't going to wait for me to get it all back together. I knew I had to take proactive steps if I wanted to become the person I wanted to be. Its a difficult path for sure, but its been worth it so many times over.
Anonymous
March 17th, 2016 11:11pm
Join an after school club, people there usually get close and become friends! Do community service, try to join things where there are several people there to interact with and hopefully become friends with
Anonymous
April 23rd, 2016 3:22am
Friends and having life are different issues altogether. Rediscovering your own self is a great thing in itself. You are your best friend, and no one can understand you better than you do. However, trying to find a few people of your own interests/ hobbies is the best step towards making new friends.
pavlinm
May 28th, 2016 10:30am
Well, you have to know you are not the only one who feels like in this If you are not happy with it, you need to start taking steps slowly to change it, for example enrolling into Clubs, calling your old friends, See a counselor...
Anonymous
June 10th, 2016 12:16pm
You forget that to be anybody's friend you have to be your own friend. Ask yourself what it means to have no life and think of your present moment as part of a journey as opposed to focusing on your loneliness period.
Alexisheretohelpyou2
July 26th, 2016 8:16pm
Hey sweetie, I know how you feel, and you're not alone on this one. I have no friends and no life either, and if you ever need someone to talk to, you know where to find me! There's not much you can do right now, but the best thing you can do is either socialize, or join 7 cups, because 7 cups gives you something to do.
RogerDan555
June 17th, 2016 4:30pm
Talk to us on 7cups. 7cups is portal where you can join and talk to people from entirely different backgrounds and yo get to learn and know different things. You make friends here, or get experiences that help you move further in life and to make it more prospering. Take a step ahead, it's just the beginning. ;)
Anonymous
June 4th, 2018 7:37pm
Chances are, if you are alive, you have friends. You may simply have them in a manner which you have not had, previously. Also, the older a person gets, the more discerning one becomes, so the number of friends will, indeed, drop. As for your life, again, if you are alive, you have one. There is a cause/reason for your existence, even if it is to simply get through the day. Chances are is that your reason for being is a bit higher than just getting through the day. Perhaps you are a questioner of life. Perhaps no one has been able to see things as deeply as you do. Do you ascribe to higher things in life? Most won't, so you'll be left out of a whole lot of parties just for that reason. Find a place you've never been before. Go to that place and just walk around. Take no intention of doing anything else, other than just walking around. Don't take a camera. Don't hold any thought of finding anything. As you walk, do not look down at the ground. When you pass by others (who will probably have their heads down), greet them. Do not greet them timidly. Make your voice loud enough so that it's unmistakable that you'd be heard. Well... don't scream or anything, but I think you get my drift. In your greetings, do not expect any return. Walk. You will have had one friend with you, all along. It'll be up to you to see that. You will also have been proven wrong in your thought that you don't have a life, as you've proven the fact to others, whether they choose to acknowledge you or not. You will know that you do.
Violetta1998xx
April 3rd, 2018 3:05pm
Get out there and make new friends, life is all about adventures. You do have a life you just have to find your purpose so you can work towards it, just remember suicide is never an option.
Anonymous
March 11th, 2016 1:02am
Go out and meet people who are like-minded. take up a hobby that involves meeting people, You will make friends :)
serene63
March 15th, 2016 10:39pm
join a club do activities start a hobby do something this way you will meet new people and find friends and enjoy your life
Josho93
June 9th, 2016 3:26pm
To answer this question you will need to find yourself and thus find the answer Within Yourself. Happiness starts with you, being positive and find things you like to do is key. Friends will come along after.
tranquilsue
June 10th, 2016 9:57am
A good way to making new friends is going to a group or even starting your own group for people like yourself. You could also take up some hobbies that are of interest to you is another great way of making new friends. Social Media can be a good way of talking to others who may feel like you self help groups can be an amazing way to meet people too.