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I have no friends and no life anymore. What should I do?

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Last Updated: 01/05/2021 at 10:55pm
I have no friends and no life anymore. What should I do?
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Top Rated Answers
BecomingPeacefulWarrior
June 23rd, 2016 11:30am
No friends does not mean no life. It means more time for yourself and less drama( according to me) Don't brag about not having friends. Become your own best friend and indulge in self-improvement. Get healthy, eat right, exercise a bit, go out for a walk. But don't let not having friends bring you down. Also just because you don't have as many friends as others do doesn't mean something is wrong with you or right with the other person who has more friends.
Anonymous
March 12th, 2016 2:15am
You have a life because you gotta enjoy it must as you can so you can make a lot of new friends and find away to find friendship and interest they they might have with you to get you started.
Anonymous
March 13th, 2016 6:25am
Well friends are important but friends don't make your life , of course you have a life, it hard not having friends but they are not everything in life because it comes a moment when you chose your own path in life, i'm sure you can do it even without them :)
Bblovetj
March 13th, 2016 8:45pm
Sometimes we may need to talk some time to get to know ourselves. Time alone is healthy and it allows you to learn about yourself. If you don't feel like you need that then go out and find people. There are plenty of places to find people you just have to look.
Thearrow
March 20th, 2016 10:39pm
Well, it might seem like an end, but think of it as a beginning, start from the scratch, get along with people alike you, you can do it.
KateK8Kate
March 25th, 2016 10:04pm
Take it step by step. Text an old friend, pick up an old hobby for 15 minutes, go out and do one thing you wouldn't normally do. Gaining everything back again is a huge task, and it starts one little piece at a time.
MahwishK
April 8th, 2016 6:52pm
You are your own best friend. Start by spending time on yourself. Make yourself a better person. And someone will join you on your way.
musicalTouch59
April 10th, 2016 11:09pm
Don't give up. Keep fighting. Find a support system. Even if it's just one person, have them support you. Find help. If you can get a therapist. You've taken a great first step just by coming to 7Cups for help!
Anonymous
April 27th, 2016 8:03pm
i'm sure there's an amazing lifetime ahead of you. don't fret about what's happening right now! also, i'm sure that people still care about you, and many people will really love you! Just try to relax!
Anonymous
June 1st, 2016 5:34am
you are friend of mine a good friend of mine i am here just for you my friend why you think you dont have life lets go out and chill in fresh air hangout with ur friends just enjoy your life why to worry.
Anonymous
June 2nd, 2016 11:26pm
Please keep trying to reach out to people! Sometimes people are really much nicer than you imagine and everyone probably at some point also thought they had no friends and no life. Just try and be out there with confidence, and you will find your position in life again!
cryingkoalas
June 10th, 2016 8:30pm
Never give up. Life never stops, it's sort of a cycle. It might be tough, but just as your old friends went new friends will go, You will have more things to worry about in life, more things always come, good or bad, and we have to grow from them. Find something you like to do and go out, have fun or look for new stuff online, new friendships will eventually appear.
CuteWoolyWool
June 11th, 2016 1:44am
It sounds like your going through a hard time. You can always talk to anyone on here, as everyone's very friendly. Take up some new hobbies and try and meet people! You can do it!
Anonymous
June 11th, 2016 8:38pm
Start afresh. You may not believe this just remember you have the power to change it. You are a strong and capable individual who I have complete faith in will be able to overcome this feeling of having no friends and no life. Go and start talking to new people who have the same passions as you and you will find love and happiness I promise you, you beautiful human being.
ladycat946
June 24th, 2016 6:36pm
You could consult someone and talk about it; having a neutral opinion might help you find solutions or see your life on a different perspective. You can try different things like watching new movies, doing a different sport, etc.
Ashiya
February 7th, 2017 7:29am
Re-evaluating the situation and finding the first step to your next path can be very handy in situations like these. People come and go, it's an elevator in life. You won't be alone forever and finding a step to take in life can help remove that "lost" feeling.
Alex2Beach
September 9th, 2019 3:11pm
Everyone experiences good and bad times, and right now you are simply in a low period. Perhaps something to try would be to make a graph of your life - each month will do - of the amount of life and number of friends you had at the time, along with a few notes of major events and any other details that you think are relevant. A spreadsheet with columns of "month / year", "number of friends", "% of life", "major events", and "notes" is a good start. Use each row as a data record. You may see a pattern that indicates some causes, or things you can do again to regain some of the better metrics you once had. If you get stuck, ask some former friends to help you fill out the data. I hope this helps. =)
Thewildwest
March 11th, 2016 11:34pm
Try thinking about what you like to do and what you want to do and try doing it(: If you have a hard time making friends, maybe you can try to make some online friends, or try to find some people who have the same interests as you(: good luck
Ginieboops
March 15th, 2016 11:49am
You should try and put yourself out there, and try out new things with new people, maybe join a club or get in touch with some old friends.
lovingWhisper46
March 18th, 2016 3:56pm
Take a deep breath and close your eyes. Think of someone important to you in your life right now. Maybe it is your Mom or Dad, or sibling. Think of them and how they make you feel as a person. Think about the last conversation you had with them? What do you enjoy about them? Have you talked to them recently? Even though you might not have friends or think you don't have a life, your family is always part of your life. Open your eyes now.
happytalk
March 23rd, 2016 7:25am
So what if you dont have a friend. You shouldn't be dependent on a friend. Live your life freely. Sometimes the best company you can enjoy is your own.
zaix
March 25th, 2016 1:09am
Go out and meet new people, do things that make you happy and do you. Most of us say oh i have no life and no friends when they're are really 100 people that take us as friends.
Skygivesyoulight
March 25th, 2016 9:37am
Make a change for the better. Better yourself. Learn to love yourself. It's all about being independent.
Anonymous
March 26th, 2016 7:09pm
There are 7 billion people out there in the world. 7 billion people you can approach and talk to. And while it comes to "having a life," that's up to each individual to make up their mind about. Whether or not it's art, or a sport, a hobby, or having friends, everybody's lives differ and the definition of "having a life" is very broad. You are feeling. You are breathing. You are living. And that's all that matters. You're living and you've got so many oppertunities, even if it doesn't feel like it. Millions, if not billions, have been in your position, some at multiple points in their lives. All storms pass, and even if they don't, you can still dance in the rain. If you are feeling suicidal, please contact your countries suicide hotline which can be found at suicide.org Stay alive! x
Anonymous
March 26th, 2016 9:27pm
Please stay strong your worth the fight even though you BELIVE this I'm sure your stong enough to make it through this battle this war called life.
lipsticklez
April 3rd, 2016 12:10am
Go to study group social clubs or to bars and let loose have some fun go put a lot more it isn't always going to be comfortable but go with the flow
cal1860
April 3rd, 2016 4:01pm
Sometimes we feel like we're at rock bottom, with nothing. The only thing is to rebuild - list any problem areas and get help with them. It's not easy keeping friends, and life is not easy especially for young people today. Try to see life as a series of challenges of varying degrees. The secret is not so much as overcoming events especially, but managing how you cope with them - the loss of a loved one, redundancy, expectations failing to happen, relationship breakdowns, illness, disappointments. It's a bit like a train journey - sometimes there are tunnels, sometimes beautiful scenery, often boring parts. There comes a time when they all pass. A time and season for everything.
JungRogers1950
April 3rd, 2016 9:31pm
Get involved in a community of shared interests! Maybe a church, club at school, local society, etc. And, see what you can do to tap into your gifts and pursue them!
dxlight
April 3rd, 2016 9:48pm
Think what is important to you and make a list of your dreams and try to achieve them also keep in mind what is important to you and hold on to it
Anonymous
April 6th, 2016 7:23am
Try making friends even if there online sometimes online friends are better with helping you........