I have no friends in high school or college. What should I do?
Last Updated: 06/30/2020 at 9:17pm
Trishna Monplaisir, LMSW
Clinical Social Work/Therapist
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Start working towards making friends. Be confident and proud of yourself...just see the people who could be your true friends and try being a friend
Making friends is easier than it looks! You can simply go up to people who also look lonely and/or scared who are on their own or make friends with someone in a class or extra curricular activity and potentially be accepted into their friend group or just be friends with them. (Or you could do what I used to do and message them over social media). Just remember to be kind to people and don't make yourself look unapproachable.
If you would like to make friends and are the social type, you could try to join some clubs or activities your school offers. Many friendships are made through school activities where students get to work with fellow classmates and get along with similar interests.
You could find a hobby you like doing, if your school library is open during break times, you could read or listen to music to pass the time. You could try finding and approaching other people that look lonely and you could go to a youth center to meet new people.
don't worry, you just need to find at least one right friend and you don't need many friend just one unique friend
Go talk to new people. Meeting new people is the best way to make friends. Or perhaps you could join a group of people with similar interests.
Get out more and talk to people. Take each interaction as a chance to get to know that person. You will soon find people wanting to come back for more and you will make friends. Maybe ask someone you know if they want to meet up. It's very flattering when people ask that so don't be afraid that they will reject you.
Just be yourself! People will love you for who you are. You're best by being yourself, don't try to change yourself for others. You'll have friends by being yourself.
Having no friends doesn't have to be bad - it can be good too, depending on your personality. Living without friends has to be approached differently during school years, whether you are in elementary, middle school, high school, or college. 1. Be active. 2. Be creative. 3. Use your imagination and dream. 4. Join an online community. 5. If there's something that means a lot to you, such as world peace or stopping animal cruelty, take time out to fight for it. 6. Sign up for volunteer work. 7. If your parents will allow you, get a pet.
if you have no friends , so first of all try to go out and observe people around you, see what are they wearing , what are their preferences, tastes, then see whether anything matches with them , if yes, BINGO !, you found a friend !! If not , start the hunt again , like i do like this only ...
I went through the same thing. I recommend working on yourself and following your talents or hobbies. Good friends often find their way to you through unlikely circumstances
You could try joining a club that can develop new relationships with people. As well as consider summer camps and/or talking with a school guidance councillor if needed.
Be open to meeting different types of people. Join a club and get involved in school activities! Even volunteering in your local community will allow you to meet new people and make new friends☺️
The world is a very populated place. Maybe try a social media website or app for people in your area.
Realize that you are worthy of love and friendship. Reach out in small steps by joining clubs, societies or common interest groups.
The best thing to do would be to join a club, join a team or even start a new social group that interest you. You will meet many people that have the same interests as you, which definitely helps spark a light in the direction of a new friendship.
Talk to people. Try and make friends! You never know if you don't try. The perfect friend is probably just out there waiting for you!
True friends take time to find, Dont overthink the situation. Give yourself time, and be kind and compassionate
Join a club! In many educational systems, there are clubs or teams you can join. Maybe find something you enjoy, or you have a natural talent for. And, usually, people will have common interests, and there you go. Friends!
You could join a club or make yourself more approachable. You could even do the approaching if you feel up to it. Making friends is about putting yourself out there and finding things in common with the people around you.
High school is only a short part of your life. Once you get out of school you genuinely start learning who you really are and will find plenty of people like you
The best way to make friend is to just keep getting involved in activities you enjoy. It can be hard to get out there, especially when you feel so isolated, but getting involved in something you enjoy is the best way to find people with similar interests. I met some of my best friends by writing on a Disney roleplay blog--we had so much in common and kept interacting because we were having so much fun! Volunteer work would be another great way to meet people, especially people who are caring and compassionate (great qualities in a potential friend!) Volunteering for a good cause is a very effective way of increasing your feelings of belonging in a community.
You could try to go out and join programs or classes to meet people with similar interests, such as pottery classes.
try to talk and show them who you really are not all of them will accept you so keep searching.
Try small talk with people you like after class. Joining groups because remember that at college or school most people don't know each other. It's a great time to make some new friends !
Go out? Meet new people? Find those who have same interests/values as you? And important thing: it's ok to judge, so you don't make loser friends.
Friendship can be a struggle, what helped me most when I was lonely and didn't have any friends was really trying to discover what I had a passion for. I found volunteering for various causes very helpful as it allowed me to meet some wonderful people who had similar passions to me.
Let your heart sing out. Try to be yourself in public and be friendly, ready to talk to everyone. Put up a smile and start a conversation on casual things like weather, school.
This is both the easiest and the hardest answer- make some. Study in public. Eat in the cafeterias. Interact with strangers, even little things- especially little things. Compliment people on small stuff without being creepy. Join clubs- oh my gosh JOIN CLUBS. Even if they don't seem SUPER interesting, there has got to be SOME kind of club on your campus that is cool. Get a job. Talk to people about internship opportunities. Find a hobby! If you have a hobby, research what going on involving it in your area! Increase your social activity, your circle by doing things you wouldn't normally do. Practice social skills. There are so many websites and blogs and awesome books and all kinds of things that can help you along in social skills. Its really hard, and you aren't alone- just a little lonely right now. It gets so much easier the more you do it. Just put yourself out there. Fake it till you make it if you need to.
Put yourself out there! You'll find friends where you look. Become involved in extra curriculars your school offers. They'll be interested in the same things as you!
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