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I think I'm depressed but I don't want to tell anyone?

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Last Updated: 11/13/2018 at 3:52am
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March 6th, 2016 3:43am
That's okay! If you are depressed and you don't want to tell anyone, it's not a problem! There is no law that says you have to tell everyone you see that you are depressed, or really anyone at all. Just keep in mind that letting it out and also help you. You are the boss of yourself, remember that forever.
March 6th, 2016 1:41pm
If you think you are depressed but not sure about it, then try the 7 Cups Guide to Mental Health and see if there are any information that might be able to help you. Remember that you can't face depression alone and that you can always come here to 7 Cups where there are listeners whom are always welcome to help you!
March 6th, 2016 7:41pm
Indeed I'm pretty sure im depressed but I dont tell anyone because im scared to show to people how I really feel, when all they been thinking that I must be the most happiest person they have ever met. That also makes me very hard to accept it.
March 6th, 2016 8:16pm
I understand you; call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline please and get help, and don't hide your feelings.
March 9th, 2016 6:55am
It's best to really figure out how you're feeling before you tell someone . In all honesty telling someone would be best but only someone you know you can trust and that's able to provide comfort and support towards you :)
March 9th, 2016 10:40am
Would you consider telling a medical professional? They are trained to deal with your situation sensitively and confidentially. Depression is an illness and they will treat it as such, so it may be less daunting than speaking with someone you are close to.
March 10th, 2016 4:10am
You don't have to. But you don't need to hold off because of shame. Depression isn't shameful. It's nothing to be embarrassed about. Sometimes telling someone can offer relief. It leaves you less isolated and can leave you feeling supported. Sharing your story isn't a cure, but it can be healthy and freeing.
March 11th, 2016 2:14am
Well there are always signs, but it's always good to tell someone you think you are depressed before it gets worse.
March 12th, 2016 2:26am
You should let a close friend or someone trustful you look up and if they don't listen tell them that it is wrong to do.
March 12th, 2016 10:03am
There are a few simple signs to watch out for. Do a test. There is a link in the Community Q & A - I do one every so often. See your Doctor - they are experts. Try a phychologist - they really help you get to know yourself and how to move forward. Then read, exercise, spend time in nature, get some sun, spend time with animals, be thankful for small things, dream and take steps towards your dream everyday. Depression is sad but its ok to be sad now and then. Trust your loved ones the truth is they probably already know, chances are they are too. Little steps. Take Care. Big hugs.
March 13th, 2016 8:27am
Depression is a serious issue. It is best you tell family members and friends in attempts to get help and support (both being very important).
March 13th, 2016 8:39pm
You don't have to tell anyone but it can help you to feel less alone and lighten the load a little.
March 16th, 2016 7:47am
It is very natural that a depressed person gets to hide their depression from their family and friends , cause the depression itself gets to cause that , makes the sufferer not to vent , want to stay alone and devoid from the world , also makes them hate themselves and hate getting help...
March 17th, 2016 9:50pm
The first step to dealing with depression is to accept that you are depressed, the second step is to seek help. Only then can you truly overcome this hurdle.
March 18th, 2016 12:04pm
You need to talk to a counceller or psychologist about your feelings before they get seriously worse.
March 19th, 2016 5:13am
It would be best for you to tell a parent and seek help, there are doctors that are fit to help you
March 19th, 2016 11:17pm
You can call a hotline at anytime or refer to the 7 cups guide book. Telling someone that you may be depressed is your first step to happiness and getting better; that's not a bad thing. Take your time to realize what you want to do and what choices you want to make.
March 20th, 2016 8:04am
I felt the same way. But I think you should tell at least one person, someone that you trust deeply and that you can go to when you're in need of someone to talk to. When I first realized that I was depressed, I didn't want to tell anyone, I felt embarrassed and shameful. But that isn't how it's meant to be. Slowly tell a few people that you trust, and if it gets serious than you should at least tell a parent so you can get help. At the bare minumum, tell a friend you'll feel much better, I know i did.
March 23rd, 2016 1:33pm
I know what that is like. I feel depressed a lot too. But, I realised I had to tell someone about it. Trust me, it helps.
March 23rd, 2016 4:25pm
Try talking to a professional as there are many aspects to depression so you could be affected and if your problem is bad you may need a lot of help it is better to open up even if you don't want to.
March 25th, 2016 10:41am
my advice is that it is probably best to tell someone as they can help you but dont scream about it. tell someone you love and trust and that you know will make you feel better
March 25th, 2016 8:56pm
Tell someone, the first few steps to become free from the sadness is to be with people who are understanding of the situation.
March 29th, 2016 2:38pm
I think you should. Tell someone you trust. Tell them how you feel, why you feel this way and maybe ask for solution if you want. Don;t keep it to yourself, it will make you feel worse i think.
March 30th, 2016 12:17am
Why? If you don't want to tell anyone, think of the reasons why you don't. If it's because you're afraid of how they'll react, think logically about how they would react to someone else close with them telling them they're depressed. If you're uncomfortable with them knowing, tell someone close to you what you're experiencing and make sure they know that any pressure from them to know more would be unappreciated. Check with your doctor, if you don't want to speak with someone close to you. List the symptoms and seek help from them; they'll most likely even share this information with your loved ones if you don't want to do it yourself, though your loved ones will want to talk about this with you and understand.
March 31st, 2016 9:44pm
It can be terrifying to share how you feel, but it can also be liberating, remember you deserve support.
March 31st, 2016 11:32pm
Tell them anyway. Let them love you. Let them take care of you. Tell them if you need them. They'll probably notice anyway.
April 6th, 2016 3:49am
7cups is a great place to start for that. The anonymity of it makes the site feel more comfortable--I feel for listeners and members alike. What kept my depression growing for a long time was to keep it to myself, it feels like an internal battle that you hope will fix itself one day. The truth is, there's no better time to talk to someone about it than the present! Depression is a negative self-reinforcing cycle, and only gets worse with time, so talk to a listener or a close friend about it. There's more love in the world then you think, but the depression makes you think otherwise.
April 6th, 2016 11:25am
Think Positive, be with positive people, talk to a best friend, get a pet and do what makes you happy.
April 6th, 2016 3:20pm
It is understandable that you don't want to tell anyone, there is a lot of stigma associated with mental health conditions and it is common to feel afraid. By not telling anyone how you are feeling you are risking falling deeper into your depression as a consequence of social isolation. I am not advocating telling everyone you know, but often people find it easier to share these feelings with a few people they trust such as close friends or family members. As you mention that you "think" you may be depressed it may well be worth researching the common symptoms of depression and trying some self help measures as a first line measure. Speaking to a health care provider such as a GP, or mental health therapist may also allow you to discuss your concerns and alleviate some of the anxiety you feel around telling people, the symptoms of depression can actually overlap with some serious physical health conditions so it is well worth getting it checked out even if you do not want to tell people you are "depressed".
April 6th, 2016 9:16pm
I know how that feels. Although you may feel better if you reach out for help! It's never easier to be alone!