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I think I'm depressed but I don't want to tell anyone?

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Last Updated: 11/13/2018 at 3:52am
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Top Rated Answers
April 7th, 2016 7:12pm
talking to someone about your depression can be very rewarding and can help in the recovery from a depressive episode
April 8th, 2016 8:11pm
You can talk to many of the amazing Listeners here to help you understand what makes you feel this way.
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April 9th, 2016 6:58am
It's absolutely essential that you get help at the first signs of distress, the best thing that can happen is that it's a false alarm. Don't hold back, get the support you need before things worsen
April 9th, 2016 8:45am
I know how hard it can be to tell people, but honestly it may help in the long run. There are times no one will believe you or they'll play it off because it's too much for them to handle. Someone will listen tho don't worry.
April 9th, 2016 2:54pm
You could tell someone on this community your feelings. Or, you could go to a psychiatrist, if you like face to face contact better.
April 9th, 2016 8:07pm
If you think you're depressed it would be best to confide in atleast 1 person you trust. That way they can talk to you about whatever may be going on.
April 9th, 2016 11:29pm
I've been through that. Don't worry, I know how you're feeling. The best thing you can do is look for a purpose to keep going through your life. Life is hard but it gets better when you start fighting.
April 10th, 2016 9:25am
If you are depressed, it is important that you have a way to express your emotions in a healthy way. If you don't want to tell anyone, there are other ways you can do this. For example, you can write in a journal daily. It doesn't matter what you write down, what is important that you are letting out your emotions, no matter how insignificant you may think they are. Or, you can find a creative outlet/ a hobby you are passionate about like playing a musical instrument, drawing or singing. If you can't think of anything, that is fine. Meditation techniques like mindfulness can also be very helpful at managing your emotions. If you don't want to tell anyone because you're afraid of negative feedback, you can call helplines or come to 7 cups for free counselling and someone to listen to you. Just remember that depression is like a dark winding tunnel. When you are inside it, it feels like the darkness is enveloping and consuming you, it feels like it will never end. But if you keep walking inch by inch, you'll eventually get out of this dark time and see the light on the other side. Good luck, and keep strong. :)
April 13th, 2016 6:55am
You shouldn't keep it to yourself. Having a therapist or a parent to talk to can really help out.
April 13th, 2016 3:57pm
Depression isn't something to be ashamed of. Talk to someone here on 7 cups and I promise we will boost your convenience. People can help you just have to have a little bit of faith.
April 15th, 2016 6:41am
Telling someone is hard but it shares the weight of it and just saying it outloud can help you sort it out!
April 15th, 2016 8:16pm
You don't have to tell anyone, you can do so when you are ready! It may be good to speak to 'someone' however, such as your doctor or a professional, just to perhaps get some advice or guidance. Depression can sometimes be temporary and other times can be long lasting, but there are always people around you that care!
April 21st, 2016 5:22am
In some groups, there is a stigma with mental illness and some people believe that one must buck up and get over it. I have seen it and feared that I would be labeled a crybaby or lose my security clearence and hence my position (and I might have a hard time getting another job because back then, employment applications often included a question about whether you have ever had any treatment for mental/emotional issues - it was right next to the one about convictions for crimes) if I was diagnosed with any mental problem. My own mother died in a mental hospital, and I will avoid that at all costs. When I decided that not being able to feel joy like normal people was not an acceptable lifestyle, I found a way to get help. Besides the many online assessment tools and questionaires (which can give you a good idea of whether you really are depressed), I have always been able to find someone who was qualified as a therapist who was not associated with my work or my immediate circle of friends. Sometimes, it was a referral through my church or a community program or school, but somehow help was available, This site is a good resource. I might mention that not all therapists serve all people equally well-at times I had to try more than one until I found someone who helped and with whom I could work. It IS worth the effort to get things straightened out.
April 22nd, 2016 2:03pm
It is hard to admit something personal about yourself, but soon it's best to tell an adult or parent
May 23rd, 2016 3:48pm
That's entirely up to you. Your mental health matters are your business, and it is up to you to decide who you want to tell. Just make sure to reach out and get help if/when you need it.
August 22nd, 2016 8:00am
It's very normal that you do not want to talk about feelings of depression because in general there is still some stigma surrounding any mental issue affecting people HOWEVER (and this is very important) the best way to battle depression or feelings of depression is talking about your issue. If you feel you cannot share it with friend and family you might be able to share it with a listener of a therapist. In therapy you'll be introduced to a concept called the therapeutic relationship, a good therapist will talk to you as if he or she is a very good, but in a way objective and distant friend and create an atmosphere that allows you to open up more easily. Feeling depressed or even clinical depression is the most common mental problem, for a therapist its like the flu and it's been studied and researched for decades. 7 cups has a network of professional therapists where you can share your feelings with anonymously and I highly recommend this program if you can't make yourself open up in real life.
August 30th, 2016 5:07pm
Tell people when you feel comfortable doing so, however know that you can gain a lot of help from telling at least one person. Taking that big step can greatly help you
October 3rd, 2016 7:34am
these depressions are like black tunnels in our life. Most of the time it leaves us with feeling of helplessness. If you try to share you may feel good.
October 17th, 2016 12:34am
It's not a good idea, I'd say. Being depressed usually makes us hate ourselves and feel lonely. You should find someone to talk to. I assure you, everything will get better!
July 18th, 2017 11:13am
You can always talk to a health professional, that's confidential and you can find out if it's depression you're dealing with. You should not go through this alone!
July 31st, 2017 5:11pm
Although it may feel like it's better to keep depression to yourself, in the long run you are probably doing more harm than good. It can be scary to admit to something like depression, seeing as there is a stigma around it. However, like a cold, ignoring your symptoms doesn't make them go away. It's always best to seek help and take care of yourself if you find you need it. You'll likely discover many people are more willing to help than you'd imagine.
January 23rd, 2018 2:06pm
You don't have to yet. Take some time to gather your thoughts, then talk to someone you trust. Be ready to answer questions that they may have about your depression.
January 23rd, 2018 6:18pm
Yes! The depression isolates you from everyone. You feel alone and extreme sadness. And don't feel like doing anything or telling anyone. If you are not comfy to tell someone close to you. You could begin in here! Always taking self-care and doing little steps that helps you to improve.
August 14th, 2018 1:53am
It takes time to be ready to speak to someone. It's all on your own when you're ready. Never feel like you have to talk to someone if you don't want to. You can do your own research and find how to cope. You can work up to talking to your regular doctor and they can tell you how to handle it the best way. You have options.
November 13th, 2018 3:52am
Are you afraid that others will judge you because you are depressed? Will they think less of you somehow? It is okay to keep your business private if you don't feel like you need outside help and support. But this can sometimes be a problem with depression. When people are depressed they tend to self-isolate and hide away. This is like a defense mechanism to give much needed rest. The depressed person is attempting to work it out alone and recuperate. However, this isolation actually can make the depression worse. Unless you are in crisis, you don't need to share your private state of mind. But you should make an effort to be around other people. Sometimes the companionship can help to lift the depression. If you are in crisis and need help, it is better to confide in someone else so that they can find the resources you may need. In that case, just let go of your worry about what others think. Put yourself first and do what you have to do to get your needs met.