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Is it my fault for being depressed?

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Last Updated: 08/17/2020 at 4:52am
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Top Rated Answers
musicgeek101
August 17th, 2015 4:41pm
Depression is in no way fault of your own. Its about what we've been through to have that feeling.
RyeRye99
November 24th, 2015 1:31am
It isn't anyone's fault for being depressed. Your emotions seem to have a mind of their own and when a person is depressed.. they aren't asking to be that way.
Ven
October 25th, 2014 2:32pm
Yes and No. There are many factors that will make a person depressed. It maybe a an effect of a choice you made or an effect of other people's choices.
lilyxoxox
October 2nd, 2014 2:52pm
If you think that depression is your fault (or someone else's fault), be aware that blaming yourself or others for your depression only makes you more depressed and prevents you from becoming depression-free.
gracefulAngel96
September 17th, 2015 9:16pm
No. The onset of depression is not controllable, it's what we do once we realize we have it that we can control.
optimisticShoulder67
September 21st, 2015 5:12pm
It's none of the persons fault,we sometimes feel bad on some days and even good on days,it's the point that nothing lasts forever and it's normal
Anonymous
November 16th, 2015 5:32am
It's never your fault for being depressed. Being a transgendered male (Female To Male), depression is a normal thing in my life. I finally learned that the way I felt wasn't my fault, and sought help. Realizing it wasn't my fault helped me more than anything and I think it could help you, too.
Snakefoxbox
June 13th, 2016 8:35pm
No. It is never your fault. Depression is a bully and you are the victim. You shouldn't feel bad for yourself for being depressed. Use the energy you have to work towards feeling better about yourself (taking time for yourself, going to therapy, etc)
AmyJulianna
September 6th, 2016 5:46pm
No.:) Please DO NOT feel guilty for being depressed; you couldn't help it. But you can always start to seek help and help yourself as much as you can from now on. I know it's never easy to get out of depression. Have you checked out the 7cups depression online course? That might help. Maybe talk to a therapist?
rabbitlover122
May 29th, 2018 2:57pm
No it not your fault for being depressed, deprersstion is a feeling none of it is your fault
iammarieyournewfriend
April 24th, 2018 1:11pm
Nobody chooses to be depressed: this disease can strike anyone for no apparent reason at any time.
Missingperiodsandcommas
April 10th, 2018 2:11pm
Being depressed isn't a choice or lifestyle. No one is ever at fault for it, it's a chemical imbalance and an illness. Don't ever let anyone tell you otherwise.
SKCTID
March 20th, 2018 6:05am
Absolutely not! There is no actual understanding of what causes depression but there are numerous theories; most of which have to do with either biological factors or outside events occurring in your life. It is never your fault for feeling depressed but it is your responsibility to try to figure out how to fight and overcome it whether through medication, therapy, diet, exercise, etc.
SantiagoRestrepo
January 8th, 2018 9:10am
It is not your fault, our feelings are something we can’t control, it is a totally natural feeling to be upset at times. It is in no way your fault
Anonymous
December 11th, 2017 10:44pm
No, beeing depressed is not your fault. And also there is often not even a "reason" for beeing depressed.It is a mental disorder.
KyleBr0
July 4th, 2017 9:15am
No. It will never ever be your fault for being depressed. Depression come from a chemical imbalance in our brains, and there is no way that you could be responsible for something like that. There is also no way to prevent or cure depression sadly, but with the right resources, and medicines, it can be managed.
scotty4947
January 9th, 2017 11:46pm
I don't think blaming anyone or anything is right. I think understanding that an event happened that you perceive in a certain way is what is making you depressed. You should never blame yourself or anyone else. Just know that it's something you need to overcome because it is life draining! And talking about your depression to get rid of it is one of the best and recommended ways!
GingerCatGirl
October 31st, 2016 7:10pm
Not at all! Depression is an illness, not a choice. It's a horrible illness that can affect anybody, no matter what their circumstances. You aren't alone and help,is out there to make you feel better. The first step is not to blame yourself.
MartiMileyCyrus
February 16th, 2016 2:38am
It is never someones fault for being depressed, But remember you should always tell someone if you feel suicidal
Millichidulinas
July 12th, 2016 11:44am
Absolutly not. That's not your fault at all. You don't have to think things like these, 'cause these things bring you down. That's not your fault at all.
StayStrong152
June 28th, 2016 10:26pm
No, of course it is not your fault you are depressed. Nor is it anyone else's for that matter. Depression is usually caused by a chemical imbalance in your brain and can't be controlled on your own. It requires medicine to try and give you the chemicals you may be missing.
Anonymous
August 17th, 2020 4:52am
no it is not your fault for being depressed we all have our own kind of struggles and yours just seems to be depression we all get sad at times no matter who you are or where you come from we are all human and we all have a lot of different feelings bottled up inside we just need to take it one day at a time and I understand how you feel right now but it is going to be ok there are people here who can help you or just talk to you if you just need someone to talk to
Anonymous
June 21st, 2016 12:57am
No. Can you do things to try and climb out? Of course but don't think that it is solely your fault. If you are truly depressed and not sad then you may not be able to pull yourself up and out. It can get into a vicious cycle. Never be afraid to ask for help.
Anonymous
June 29th, 2020 4:48am
I understand you, being depressed leads us to believe that we are guilty for everything that happens to us. Depression is a disease. You are strong, you’re here seeking for help. That’s very brave from you. If you were guilty of it, you wouldn’t be here. I don’t think that you want to be depressed. I’ve felt that too. I think you want to feel good that’s why you’re here too. It’s never our fault, being sad it’s not your fault. That’s only an emotion. If you listened this question from a friend, would you think that being depressed it‘s her/his fault?
Anonymous
June 6th, 2016 10:44pm
It is never your own fault for having depression. Depression is a mental disorder that can impact you whether your life is going well or not.
xXScreenSaverXx
April 26th, 2016 5:32pm
No. What we experience defines us, but we have no control over that. Whatever you have gone through - even if it seems to be nothing - changes our perceptions. Depression can be caused by many things, but hardly ever ourselves.
Luckyhottubsandwhiches
April 26th, 2016 10:09am
It is never your fault for being depressed, and it is no one to blame because depression all starts off as a chemical imbalance and sometimes there's something that triggers it and causes a lack of the flow of chemicals or sometimes it's just an accident.
Anonymous
March 14th, 2016 11:47pm
Not at all. However, you do have control on how you manage and deal with your depression. It is normal to blame yourself and feel guilty, but keep in mind this is the depression talking.
Asparagus515
November 6th, 2014 4:57pm
No! Depression is caused by trauma or a chemical imbalance in the brain. Don't feel bad about already being in a difficult situation!
Lunalovelymoon
September 10th, 2014 11:32pm
Depending on the circumstance, but i would say no. Every one should work and do things with positive mind set and intent.