Is it normal to not want to get better?

Some people are desperate to get better while sometimes people are more comfortable with how things are and dislike change or maybe they think it will be too hard or they are scared of change or just unsure. These feelings are normal and it is your choice. Its important to consider all options and decide which one is best for your health and wellbeing.

Yes. Familiarity, no matter how damaging, can be more comfortable than change, no matter how positive. Also, relationships are bound to change as you get better. Sometimes the threat of a relationship ending because of positive growth can make people fearful of continuing to make positive changes. But take heart! Getting better means that you will be in a better position to deal with any perceived negative or positive changes in your relationships (even the one with yourself). So, recognize the resistance to making positive changes and make them anyways. The one surefire way to make the world a better place is to be a better person in it.

Yes, where you are, especially if you've been there for a while, can feel comforting and normal for you. Avoiding change, like getting better, is hard. For example, living a life of chaos, trauma, and instability will make you crave those things. Because it's all you know. Living a healthy lifestyle will feel strange and even boring. When you feel these things, it's a part of the process. You're just taking another step on your journey to getting better. It is not usually very straightforward. There's denial, the first steps like therapy/research, realization, grieving what you lost, diagnosis, change, coping mechanisms, etc etc etc. So yes, it is very normal.

Of course it is. I would of course need to know more about your specific topic, but wanting to be better is just human nature.

I think it's normal to feel like this, but eventually, you MUST find the motivation from within you to get back up! It's the only way forward. Hope this helps

Absolutely! It can be very comfortable to stay where we are. Wanting to get better means accepting change, which can be frightening and difficult - but it can also be so worth it!

Yes! I am feeling the same way right now, it has been so long since I have been normal I don't know what it's like! Normalcy scares me but by using this website you are taking a step towards managing your symptoms! You are taking the first stay! You are being successful! You are taking charge! You are being healthy! Thank you!

It can be normal! Sometimes, we are so used to having our problems/illnesses that we let them define us. At that point, the thought of getting better might seem undesirable because you are so attached to your problems.

Many individuals feel as if they do not want to/cannot get better when they are unwell. This is not unheard of and can be a common thing.

When you feel depressed you usually want to get even more depressed and that means you are not conscience of yourself and sane you have to realize it's all an illusion . Observe your thoughts and watch the thinker and just observe it

Yes, it is. Some of us may be unconsciously frightened of happiness and love because it is so foreign if we have any kind of past repressed or unrepressed trauma. Getting better acknowledges all the feelings we must feel to get there and maybe some of us aren't ready to face those feelings right now, so being 'stuck' is a form of comfort.

yes! this is such a hard thing to grapple with, but in my experience and i'm sure the experience of many others struggling with their mental health, mental illness becomes a part of our identity. sometimes I struggle with feeling like I am nothing without my struggles with mental health, which can make it harder to recover. remember that you are wonderful and that whatever your struggles are, they do not define you. you are your own person, and we are not defined by our struggles, challenges, and hardships. good luck on your road to recovery! i'm rooting for you :)

Of course! A lot of people are accepting of where they're at and don't see how they could make a change. Others know what they have to do but all they see is the amount of work that is needed to be made and it is overwhelming which discourages them from wanting to change.

You have felt this way for a long time so your brain thinks that this is how you like to feel because you feel it all the time its the bodies normal way of dealing with something

Not wanting to get better usually means you have been affected on a deeply emotional or psychological level to where you blame yourself and harbour feelings of shame or guilt and feel you don't deserve to be loved, appreciate, or helped. Talking to a therapist or a loved one about how you feel more will be a big step in moving forward and feeling loved.

It is kind of normal, sadly. This is caused by the fact that getting better is hard and a very long way forward. You might feel better being where you are, but after working for a good life, you'll be happy you did!

I think it’s normal to think that way. For me, I got so used to feel awful that at one point I saw no reason to get better because I was used to not being okay. On top of which, even now, I sometimes feel like quiting and giving up on all the work I’ve done because I feel like I can live with my struggles because I’m so used to them.

Yes! For one thing, "better" and "healthy" are totally subjective terms that are determined by the wider culture. We are constantly bombarded with messages saying we have to be "happy" all the time to be considered healthy, but that isn't necessarily true.

Sometimes people can feel “comfortable” with how they feel. I often describe feeling comfortable with being sad. You may not like change, and that’s okay. Not wanting to “get better”, can be very common, but it is not always the best thing. You should tell someone you trust about this feeling. What you are feeling is valid, and understandable. We all need to get better at some point, and change isn’t always a bad thing. Change can be amazing and wonderful, and it could change your life for the better, and for the good. I hope this helped you understand, and please, be kind to yourself.

It is absolutely normal to not want to get better. Sometimes our situation provides a sense of comfort and familiarity to us.

I understand how it feels not wanting to get better because every second you spend in this 'place' makes it comfier and it just becomes your home if that makes any sense, but i want you to know that things can get better and feel better! You should be the change and allow yourself to at least try to be happy!! Doesn't it sound better being happy that forever staying in this darkl sad place? Next time you think about staying where you are at now, think about how much better it could be. Hope this helped at least somehow.

It is normal, especially for an individual who has a mental illness. For example, having an eating disorder or an anxiety disorder like OCD, an individual may not want to get better as these disorders are familiar to them and make them feel safe and in control. All mental disorders can make an individual feel this way, because of the above or simply because you may be scared of what getting better means or involves. You may feel like you may not want to change the way things are going because of things happening at home or simply because of stigma in which is an extremely powerful thing. Sometimes talking to someone about how we are going and feeling doesn't necessarily mean getting better, it just means talking about what is happening to us.

Yes, it's normal to feel this way. Your feelings are perfectly valid. Sometimes, though, our feelings of "not wanting to get better" stem from fearing things "will never get better" no matter what we want. Sometimes it's easier to trick our minds into thinking we want all this negativity, so it feels like we're in control of the situation. Again, it's perfectly ok to feel this way. And you have every right to experience it for as long as you need to. Your emotions are the most natural part of life. They come and go like wind or rain. The most important thing to remember is that nothing is permanent. There are thousands of people waiting with open arms to catch you when you fall. If you're feeling down, if you feel like the bad things will never end, always remember help is a heartbeat away. All you have to do is ask.

It may be easier this way, but it the more challenging way may bring more positive results in life.

Everything has cycles. We have times when we just want to relax and times where we are really active. These should be in a balance that is fine with you. I think permanent not-growing is impossible since life will always give you things to grow on, maybe you just dont realize. If that's the case think how you were with 5, 15 and 25 years. Did you change over the course of the years or not? If so, you became most likely a better version of yourself. Extreme lazyness can be an indicator that you didnt find your true goal in life. Maybe you just run around in circles because you haven't found your purpose. Life wants to show you that you need to change something, that is a function of boredom. On the other hand if you did find your purpose and enjoy doing it, I see no hard need to get better. If your emotions are joyful, happy and loving, why would you want to change anything? Try seeing that a lot of this "becoming better" also comes from society. I see growing as one of the biggest treasures we have in life. It is more or less my purpose and way. Especially by growing mentally you will improve your life easier than you thought. What used to be a problem is not one anymore just by changing your mindset. On a side note, there is no "normal". Everyone is individual, and you decide how to live your life ☼

Sorry, but not it is not. Not wanting to get better means that you will turn worse, and It is not fair for yourself and your beloved ones. Not getting better means you are used to your current situiation and that is even worse cuz it tells that right now in your perspective you can not find a difference line between the good situiation and the bad one. I know seeking for help can be embarassing and hard and the beginning, and healing journey could be long, but it worth the Try and the effort. Think that you always deserve the better, you deserve healthy and succesful life, respectful and safe relationship, happy family, understanding friends. You deserve a high quality life. Fight for it.

There is no "normal." But the feeling of not wanting to get better comes from the comfort level one feels in a place that one is used to, simply from having spent so much time in that emotional place. For many of us, remaining how we are is much safer and more comfortable because it is familiar. Changing would mean leaving a comfort zone. The phrase "the devil you know" is a reference to the fact that it is easier to stick with an unpleasant circumstance that you already know than to change and take a chance on the unknown, even if it is likely to be better.

From personal experience, sometimes I didn't want to become "better" for two...maybe three reasons. For one, I felt like my issues set me apart from other people. I felt "unique" and believed no one will ever understand what I'm going through. So in that way, I was never another part of the monochrome crowd. For another reason, I have an issue with feelings. I can't feel anything unless it's negative because that's what I felt like I deserved to feel. So feeling like a piece of crap, in a twisted way I think I like it because at least I'm feeling SOMETHING other than just emptiness. And lastly. I felt like "wanting to get better" meant that something was really wrong with me. Like I'm a diseased freak that needs to get better. But the first step to recovery means admitting something's wrong.

Yes it is. When you battle with mental health or an illness we know no better then the symptoms of being sick. Being happy, full of energy and so on is very understandably scary. Maybe you can write out what it be like for you on a good day. Be honest with yourself and how it be. Hope this helps some.

Yes, completely but in this case it would be the best to seek help and talk with somebody to help you understand the reasons behind this type of emotions.