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Is it normal to not want to get better?

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Last Updated: 11/09/2021 at 4:18am
Is it normal to not want to get better?
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Anonymous
February 8th, 2018 3:44pm
It is a common thing to not want to get better when it is something your used to. It is like a routine and whether its good or bad it's hard to get out of. It is a normal feeling to feel however when you are ready to it will be easier to get better.
overtherainbow17
February 14th, 2018 12:48am
It is very normal. Just like anger, grief and sadness, etc. But when it becomes an unhealthy amount, where it's interfering with daily tasks and performance, it's best to try and get in with a therapist as soon as it's an option, because there is hope. No matter how debilitating a sickness may be, or depression episode, stress, anything. No matter what, you are so important, and there is hope. It matters on how you take that and perceive what's going on around you. At least for me, I've been scared to come out of my "little rock" I've been living under for quite some time now. Repeat hospitalizations,, day patients, 911 calls, therapists, bullying, depression, anxiety, BPD, etc. I am scared because I don't want to leave this familiar place. I am afraid to 'be happy'. I've loved the idea of it; always. But when I try, that depression grabs me right back down. Until and as soon as I can figure out a way to get past that, as soon as depression is trying to sneak up on me, the better a chance I have at making a full recovery, or at least succeeding in my path to true happiness. It's a familiar world, but I have to learn to try to enter new worlds, and be less shy. I've learned a lot from being a listener on here. Giving advice I hardly tried giving myself; because I felt worthless, pathetic, and more. And for you, or those seeking help, that is a great thing. As soon as you spot the first sign of something, try to advocate or get yourself some help. No one should ever feel like they don't want to get better. It's mostly about attitude, perseverance, support, and hope. Stay strong you all.
Anonymous
February 14th, 2018 5:46pm
Indeed this is normal. The idea of either returning to, or discovering a world of "normality" can be tremendously unnerving for an individual. Also it is normal to come to define oneself by that which has been diagnosed , by that which separates you from you immediate community . However these issues can be alleviated with the guidance of a Therapist
Anonymous
February 21st, 2018 7:00pm
It can be. Although this is common for some people, it is not healthy. Some people might feel they deserve to not get better and that is a negative way to think. This is a way people "punish" themselves and it is not healthy. You can want it, but it will be much harder to feel better the longer you put yourself through that. Please know that you deserve to feel better and amazing and loved, even if you don't want it or feel like you do. YOU DO.
Meggy123
February 21st, 2018 7:36pm
Yes. Unfortunately it is, at least from what I've seen. I know that I personally don't want to get better, and I haven't in the past. However it's important to get better, for your health and for your future.
flowering
February 21st, 2018 10:48pm
You may struggle for a while therefore when an opportunity comes by where you can get better, it might be the case of fearing what would happen next when you're so used to feeling the way you did.
Anonymous
February 22nd, 2018 4:50am
Yes it is completely normal. I can sometimes feel like that myself because depression can sometimes feel cozy in a way.
Anonymous
March 1st, 2018 5:12am
It is definitely normal, at least in my experience and that of my friends. I feel that it’s hard to want to get out of a difficulty when it starts to feel familiar. They can sometimes start to work like a toxic safety net, one that only pretends to catch you when you fall.
Alyssapositive
March 3rd, 2018 2:47pm
It is completely okay to feel unmotivated every so often. Life is exhausting. But if you feel that this is affecting your everyday life, there may be a more serious issue which needs to be addressed.
Anonymous
March 4th, 2018 4:51am
It's normal to not want to get better because you may not be ready to take a huge step in getting better in the meantime but are looking to be better another day.
meritocracyis
March 4th, 2018 11:23am
I think it's pretty normal. When you're in a deep hole, everything is tiring. Getting up from bed is tiring, thinking about getting out of the bed is tiring, and so on. Basic things are tiring let alone wanting to get better. It just takes too much energy.
compassionateDay97
March 4th, 2018 10:01pm
I would say this is very normal. It could be due to the comfort zone of being in a routine, where you are most comfortable. It can be scary knowing if you're better things may change.
Engineeringhappiness
March 6th, 2018 4:47am
if you feel like you dont want to get better its because you have gotten used to your situation. you need to get help. your jar is full, so let go of some things.
Sintix
March 29th, 2018 9:12pm
Yes. A lot of times when people go through things, their mindset changes. Such as someone who is battling severe depression may be in the mindset that they are worthless, or need to harm themselves. I sincerely hope whatever you're going through isn't that severe. Sometimes not wanting to get better could be lack of attention or motivation as well. No matter what you're dealing with, it is normal to struggle with wanting to get better and not. It definitely takes devotion, and often times that is hard to have.
wonderfullLake74
April 4th, 2018 5:29am
Sometimes when we are depressed we don't care if we get better and feel apathetic. It's normal, but if it lasts too long, it would be in your best interest to speak to someone.
Anonymous
April 4th, 2018 7:12pm
For people with depression it's very hard to make progress. So they just give up, and don't want to make any progress (get better) since they may think their case is helpless.
lolitarose13
April 4th, 2018 10:20pm
Yes. Often when we go through hard times, our thoughts are so incredibly complex that we can't see straight, and therefore we may opt for no help, as we do not see it the same way a loved one may.
MissHeather
April 6th, 2018 5:10pm
It may be easier this way, but it the more challenging way may bring more positive results in life.
Anonymous
April 12th, 2018 11:15pm
Yes, this is normal. Sometimes change can seem scary, or we find comfort in our troubles. Getting better can take a lot of commitment and sometimes it might feel like we're not ready.
iliketurtlesthemost72
April 15th, 2018 8:40pm
Of course it is. I would of course need to know more about your specific topic, but wanting to be better is just human nature.
kindHand56
April 18th, 2018 11:02am
I think it's normal to feel like this, but eventually, you MUST find the motivation from within you to get back up! It's the only way forward. Hope this helps
KnitterGirl
April 18th, 2018 11:23pm
Absolutely! It can be very comfortable to stay where we are. Wanting to get better means accepting change, which can be frightening and difficult - but it can also be so worth it!
MilkyHoneyTea
April 21st, 2018 3:02am
Yes! I am feeling the same way right now, it has been so long since I have been normal I don't know what it's like! Normalcy scares me but by using this website you are taking a step towards managing your symptoms! You are taking the first stay! You are being successful! You are taking charge! You are being healthy! Thank you!
riv3rrr
April 25th, 2018 3:16pm
It can be normal! Sometimes, we are so used to having our problems/illnesses that we let them define us. At that point, the thought of getting better might seem undesirable because you are so attached to your problems.
Anonymous
April 26th, 2018 1:35pm
Many individuals feel as if they do not want to/cannot get better when they are unwell. This is not unheard of and can be a common thing.
HugsNPugs3
April 28th, 2018 10:06am
When you feel depressed you usually want to get even more depressed and that means you are not conscience of yourself and sane you have to realize it's all an illusion . Observe your thoughts and watch the thinker and just observe it
EspritDuKaren68
May 2nd, 2018 3:28pm
Yes, it is. Some of us may be unconsciously frightened of happiness and love because it is so foreign if we have any kind of past repressed or unrepressed trauma. Getting better acknowledges all the feelings we must feel to get there and maybe some of us aren't ready to face those feelings right now, so being 'stuck' is a form of comfort.
LivingOnFaith743
May 4th, 2018 12:59am
Of course! A lot of people are accepting of where they're at and don't see how they could make a change. Others know what they have to do but all they see is the amount of work that is needed to be made and it is overwhelming which discourages them from wanting to change.
incredibleEnergy81
May 4th, 2018 2:25am
You have felt this way for a long time so your brain thinks that this is how you like to feel because you feel it all the time its the bodies normal way of dealing with something
bluehorizons
May 4th, 2018 8:59pm
Not wanting to get better usually means you have been affected on a deeply emotional or psychological level to where you blame yourself and harbour feelings of shame or guilt and feel you don't deserve to be loved, appreciate, or helped. Talking to a therapist or a loved one about how you feel more will be a big step in moving forward and feeling loved.