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Is it ok to always depend on this site when you feel down?

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Last Updated: 09/28/2020 at 9:25pm
Is it ok to always depend on this site when you feel down?
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October 26th, 2016 7:25am
It definitely is! This site is an excellent tool and way to reach out to others in a health, safe environment. If you find other ways to cope using the various guides offered on the site, that's awesome! However, it is also okay to depend on a group of kindhearted people when you're feeling down. c:
October 26th, 2016 11:23pm
It's not always okay, there are some times where you will have to seek professional help. But for those times we will be actively listening.
October 27th, 2016 5:47am
No it's not. You have to learn and be responsible for yourself and make your own choices in life. Never make 7cups or any other site a crutch or a tool to escape from your own responsibility of being in control of your own feelings and thoughts.
October 29th, 2016 4:05pm
I think it is, there is always somebody there to listen to what you have to say and to try and help the best way they can.
October 30th, 2016 4:56pm
Yes, but it shouldn't be a 'lifeline' so to speak. Try to find someone in real life who cares, but until then, the listeners here will always be here for you
November 9th, 2016 6:56am
This site is meant to help you and listen to you. That being said, listeners on this site are not professionals. If your matters are serious or prolonging, you should seek further help, and any listener will gladly assist you in getting the help you need.
November 12th, 2016 4:15am
This site is a good place to go when you feel down but try not to depend on this site too much. Learn to pick yourself up by yourself because at the end of the day, you are the only one that can help you.
November 19th, 2016 1:42am
This site is a resource you use when you feel you need someone to talk to. My goal is that people develop the ability to cope with sadness. I am here to help, but I want to build resilient people. Let's work for a better world!
December 2nd, 2016 1:00pm
7 cups is always here to help but there may come a time when it's best to seek further professional assistance.
December 2nd, 2016 6:45pm
I think seeking support is a good thing. Maybe you can also try to find a person in real life you dare to open up to?
December 11th, 2016 10:16am
It's definitely okay to come here and chat with a Listener as much as you would like but if you feel you need advice from a therapist then that's what you should do. You have to remember that we aren't licensed and can't diagnos anything. We are just here so that you can have someone comfortable to talk to in an anon, judgement free area :)
December 16th, 2016 5:36pm
We are always here for you and want you to feel supported when you feel down. But I think 'always' can be unhealthy too. If you find yourself spending your entire day on your computer or phone and getting online support, you may be shutting out the rest of the world. Take a chance sometimes and talk with family or friends you trust. Take care!
December 23rd, 2016 1:34am
It is perfectly okay to come here whenever you are feeling down, in fact it's wonderful that every time you can identify negative feelings or emotions within yourself you decide to turn to a place of help! We very much encourage that here and there's no shame in needing a boost or tune up with your emotional/mental well being, no matter how often that may seem to be.
January 5th, 2017 2:40pm
I don't think complete dependence is a good thing. It sets the stage for a sort of co-dependency relationship. I think the site can augment the services that the member/guest is already receiving. It can also be a resource to fill the gap until professional services are set up. If a member/guest just struggles from time to time, or if they are on a path to maintain their progress with mental health treatment, then this is a good resource to have. It's a safe place to vent and know that someone cares about them.
January 8th, 2017 6:55am
I personally think that in the long run, building healthy coping mechanisms to confront life will be the best defense to overcoming everyday obstacles. Whether this site helps you achieve that or not will depend on the receptiveness of the individual and the group effort of compassionate people willing to lend an ear on 7 Cups. Whatever works for one person may not for another, so it is up to the individual to determine what their best relief is.
February 2nd, 2017 11:17pm
I think to always depend on it is a bit of an extreme. This site can do plenty of things. Practically everything! But the time that I've been on here for... Quite a long time [First frequently as a guest for two years, a member for 6 months, a listener for 6 months, and back to using my member account again for help on recent Trauma]. And as fun and as helpful as it has been, there's also times where I knew I needed other things to depend on when I felt down. I still even do. Sometimes not even a community of wonderful and welcoming people can help you in these low moments, as stressful and frustrating as it is for both parties to come to that realization. And I'm not even questioning the validity of the work here at 7Cups. I've seen the things it's done for me and the things it's done for other people, and it works wonders. Although I feel as important it is to have this site as a site you can depend on when you feel down, I also feel it is important to be able to depend on yourself, as cheesy as that might be. I mean, what's the point of a personal growth path if you can't allow it to teach you how to cope on your own, how to manage on your own, how to live through these moments of feeling down? Although you know, if depending on yourself or the resources around you don't work as well as 7 Cups does, then I suppose that's okay too. I just feel that sometimes we need to learn how to be there for ourselves and to depend on ourselves to know how to cheer up when we feel down. Even if that means we just sit down and curl up with a blanket and a book, or watch a show, or if we pull our sneakers on and go for a walk. I think it's just nice to know that you're always your #1 supporter in cloudy times.
February 10th, 2017 2:27pm
Using this site is just one of many options available. Talking to family and close friends, spending more time outside the house, trying to find a meetup/group of others facing similar problems and seeking medical help if needed are others. This site is one step among many.
February 11th, 2017 7:08am
This site is awesome for providing support when you're down, and I know I've relied on it a lot through my times of struggle. But you always want to find other ways to aid yourself, in case you're in a position where you aren't able to use 7cups at the time you're down
February 26th, 2017 6:31am
I feel like some things you have to try to deal with by yourself. However, it's always nice to have someone to talk to when you need them. Specifically here, you can talk anonymously and don't have to work about judgement.
March 1st, 2017 4:49pm
This site is a tool, not a solution. We can be there for you, support your decisions, give you pointers, but we can't be right next to you all the time. So in that sense, depending on this place, however great it might be, won't give you the same satisfaction you could gain by depending on yourself while using 7cups and other ressources as tools. It seems to me by your phrasing that you already know this, deep down. Best wishes!
March 8th, 2017 2:32pm
I think it is justifiable. I feel that listeners here would be happy to have a person talking to them instead silently suffering when we listeners wait here. Also, this site having a lot listeners is a big plus as well.
March 10th, 2017 3:52am
I would say yes. Building up a healthy support system is a very important step to recovering, and if 7cups of tea is a part of that support system, then by all means, continue! Of course, at some point, when you are feeling healthier, it is important to be able to break off some of that dependence.
March 11th, 2017 5:21am
Visit this site regularly may help. Physical contact is good, be with people, talk to them is also important.
March 17th, 2017 2:38am
Yes, it is definitely okay. If you feel down and you feel like you have no one to talk to it's a good idea to come on this website and talk about your feelings.
March 30th, 2017 9:46am
Why not ? We're here for you ! However even listeners have limited knowledge. if you really feel down sometimes going to a therapist could be a better option
March 31st, 2017 12:25am
Yes! It is completely okay. I depend on this site when I feel down, there are so many helpful people on here that can cheer you up or help you.
April 1st, 2017 1:26am
Although you can't completely depend on this site, as you are the only person who can pick yourself up, you can always go here if you need someone to talk to or support.
April 2nd, 2017 6:06am
Yes indeed this site is available for you 24/7 and 365 days. Whenever you feel down you can always depend on this site. We have over 150000 listeners here from across the globe who will be available for you at all times to listen to you.
April 2nd, 2017 10:28am
No, it is not. It is not good to depend on anything too much, especially if you're depending on it to keep you happy. It is okay to depend on this site to an extent, but don't become completely dependent on it or anything for that matter.
April 7th, 2017 8:14am
It's okay, we are here for you to support you when you feel down. On the other hand, if this feeling occurs most days I would advise you to seek professional help. I know it's hard to reach out but it will be so worth it!