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Is it ok to always depend on this site when you feel down?

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Last Updated: 09/28/2020 at 9:25pm
Is it ok to always depend on this site when you feel down?
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VanessaGraceStory
August 11th, 2017 9:57pm
Well if it helps you, then that's your way of coping. Everyone is different and if it helps being on this site then thats a wonderful thing. I would hope it goes well for you on here with others and you become relieved of anything that's made you feel down. This site is here for free and confidential talking, even in the long run for any and every issue you face :) that's why there are guests that become members, because you can also have a long chats and some Listeners accept long time chats and members for when those members need to vent. Its really great to have someone to talk to if you need it, don't ever listen to someone who says it's not normal or whatever to depend on this site so much, We have members come on her daily for the same listeners. It's a learning progress between two people, getting to understand the issue you accompanied by can take time, whether minutes or hours. Don't feel ashamed or anything by being here, you're doing what you feel you should and that's great you've taken a stand to do what you feel is best for you. Thanks for being here, and hopefully your satisfied every time you log onto here :)
Ruek
August 11th, 2017 10:14pm
I think it is good to use something that has proven to be helpful but you can try other things as well so that you do not become dependent on one thing.
Anonymous
August 13th, 2017 4:39pm
This is an amazing site with a very supportive community. If this is how you cope with feeling blue, then it is absolutely acceptable. It would also be beneficial to find other coping strategies for when this site may not be available though. other than that, this is a wonderful idea :)
Anonymous
August 19th, 2017 6:50pm
7cups is a great resource and can definitely be good to help when you feel down, but it should not be used as your exclusive resource. If you find yourself relying on 7cups a lot you may benefit from professional therapy or counseling, and you may want to work on developing a support system of friends and family to help you as well.
OwlsSanctum
August 20th, 2017 5:38pm
Its always ok to turn to this site when you are feeling down, if you are looking for someone to talk to and to listen. It might not be the best place to get quick and simple solutions, but when you are feeling down, the problem never IS simple in the first place. But if you need to just talk to someone who cares, and don't know anyone else you can share with, this is a good place.
Anonymous
September 21st, 2017 6:12pm
Yes, it's perfectly fine to talk to someone when you feel down, however if you keep coming back to vent over and over while doing nothing to change your situation (assuming it is something that can be changed) then it becomes an addiction. Feel down, vent to someone, feel relieved for a short time, feel down again and the cycle continues. I have known people that do nothing but complain online about their problems over and over even when people give them advice. I'm not saying it's wrong to vent--it's definitely fine--but it can easily turn into looking for constant emotional validation.
HealTheHealer
October 18th, 2017 11:29am
When you feel down its important to seek for support, if its here or somewhere else it doesn't matter. I think seeking help isn't being depended on something. It's a step in the right direction.
LightfortheHopeless
November 3rd, 2017 6:38am
Well, that is purely based on you on how you overcome things. There are times that when you're alone & you need someone to talk this site is always here for you, but remember that you still have friends that surrounds you and you can also talk to them
fruitySunset76
November 5th, 2017 10:14am
Coming onto 7 Cups is always a great thing to do when you feel the need for some support. We're always here to help anyone and talking is a great first step into working towards feeling better. Over time, I think it's important to eventually be able to sometimes rely on yourself to make yourself feel better. Learning to become too dependent on someone/a website isn't always a good thing. However, I guess it shouldn't really matter because you're getting help and that's an amazing and commendable thing.
Anonymous
November 8th, 2017 1:31am
this is a good place to go to but if you need help you should seek a therapist, psychiatrist or a doctor
Anonymous
November 9th, 2017 4:53am
of course, this site is a great way to get help. however, if it’s a recurring problem that you are feeling down, you may want to see someone if you’re feeling down often
warmLake90
November 9th, 2017 2:03pm
it is helpful to use it as baby steps until you learn how to calm yourself down, and it is okay to take a while to figure yourself out and take everything slowly.
karenw
November 9th, 2017 5:59pm
yes. we will be here to listen for as long as you need it. everyone needs someone to talk to sometimes.
Inesa707
November 10th, 2017 1:26pm
You should not always depend on this site as you may not have access to it one day. You should figure out a coping or support system for yourself and use this only as a crutch.
peacefulHeart33
November 12th, 2017 3:10pm
There's nothing wrong with looking for someone to talk to here on 7 Cups of Tea. We listeners will always be here for you but we also hope that you'll have someone to talk to, someone who's physically present and who can really hug you tight or someone who can just be there with you. Just chatting helps but if you really need professional help, be brave and go for it! You need not suffer in silence and we'll always be here to listen.
Anonymous
November 12th, 2017 4:24pm
It's ok but not entirely..you could become overly dependent on one of your listener. Use this site for what it is..as a supporting relieving environment for when you have no one to talk to.. but in the meantime look for people who'll be there for you in real life as well.
Anonymous
November 17th, 2017 3:05am
try practicing small mind exercises. for example, you feel panicked practicing talking your self down in your own way and maybe come on after to celebrate ^_^.
Mityvac
November 19th, 2017 12:31pm
Of course it is, behind the site are people who care about you. I may not know you personally but i care about you because i know how it feels.
NotAGod
November 22nd, 2017 2:50am
Never "always" depend on anything or anyone, but most of the times, we are here for you - to help, to listen. We care.
Heavenlyhorizons
November 22nd, 2017 5:06pm
7 Cups is a great resource and you're always welcomed here when you feel down but remember that professional help is important and sometimes necessary. It's important that you seek help from a Therapist if you want more specific care which we have but sometimes we just need someone in person to listen. Also you never know if you might need medication to help with a mental illness that you never knew you had.
Anonymous
November 24th, 2017 2:51pm
somehow depending on this site is not much an option to me. i would rather go and find the solution to my problems on my own
MindfulHermit
December 1st, 2017 5:23am
Dependency leads to disappointment. Surely come here when you feel like it but also have your other go-to methods or people.
elsalovelove
December 2nd, 2017 9:00am
Of course! This is site is built to help people feel better and connect with other people. Listeners can help you think more about the challenges you're facing and how you might be able to solve them. If you need more professional help, there is also online therapy.
supersensitiveStrength
December 3rd, 2017 6:51am
This site was made and is kept up for supportive use. Your concern may be that turning to it for support will keep you from seeking support from people you know or have yet to know IRL. But that is not necessarily an either-or question; it may be a false dichotomy. Even if you stop using this site, for example, does not mean you will get and/or seek support offline. I suggest, instead of terminating the use of this site, seek support "in real life" alongside from here. (Also, it's okay to feel down sometimes.)
Nasrz8
December 6th, 2017 7:09am
I think it is okay but not for too long, it is much better to depend on a physical figure more than just texts. But if you didn't find that figure, we'll take good care of you don't worry !
LetsTacoBoutIt44
December 8th, 2017 2:27am
7cups is a great tool for you to talk things out, and talking things out is a very helpful and healthy way to deal with your problems. Some people like to do that more than others do. One thing that you should also consider is starting to figure out personal coping skills that help you get through your low points. This could just be doing something small like spending some time with yourself in whatever way you want, journaling privately, or something else that helps you feel strong. You can work with a listener to find some coping skills that work for you, or explore specific 7cups help guides to learn more about what you're struggling with and how to manage. Doing this will help you get to know yourself, and feel empowered. It doesn't mean you have to give up 7cups altogether, but you might find yourself here less once you get some more tools in your toolbox. :)
usefulLight67
December 8th, 2017 8:21am
Depending on the resulted outcome sometimes it's the best way for you to get over the negative thoughts and hard feelings. However, having physical support is more important regarding matters that may be best discussed in a face to face conversations.
EmRivale
December 21st, 2017 9:51pm
It is probably not a good idea to entirely depend on this site, since of course the outside world comes with a lot of challenges. However you might find 7 cups a good way of relieving stress and anxiety, and it might help you get on your feet when you need it most. Talk to the people you can around you as well as the listeners on 7 cups who will of course dedicate their time to help you in your time of need.
SilverisSarah
December 22nd, 2017 10:50pm
Always and Never "strong words". Everything that is excessive can be harmful. Of course, I want people to join our community, but not creating dependencies - there is a life out there and other kinds of support that are also very important. :)
Anonymous
December 23rd, 2017 2:18pm
What is important is to have a set of tools that we can use when we are down. And quite often that means we reach for the same tool first every time, and that is Ok. But do look into expanding your "tool box" too, you can never have too many tools and techniques at hand when you are feeling down. Check out 7-Cups self-help guides to get more ideas that might help https://www.7cups.com/supportGuides/selfHelpGuides.php