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My anxiety is getting worse and depression won't let me live my life, how do I overcome this?

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Last Updated: 07/12/2020 at 5:25pm
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Anonymous
May 30th, 2018 12:14am
find an outlet- one of them can be talking to someone, like a therapist. You can color, draw, listen to music... as for depression, you can get medication for it. in fact, you can get medication for anxiety, as well.
caringNight18
May 30th, 2018 12:19pm
You can overcome depression by talking to a professional counselor. It may not always help short-term, but it can help you on the long term. If that is too much for you now, you can talk to the listeners on 7cups.
Livelovedream18
June 2nd, 2018 12:08am
You have to find the positives in life. You have a purpose to live but not just you, everyone does. You can talk to me about it if you want.
tomsterling
June 5th, 2018 5:52am
Anxiety can cause and aggravate a lot of health problems. Anxiety often comes and goes. Anxiety is a state of fear of real or imagined danger, which is manifested as increased heart rate, trembling, panic, weakness, extreme fatigue and stomach or intestinal discomfort. Anxiety, depression, nervousness, worry or stress can cause over 100 symptoms or health problems as in a web search for "over 100 anxiety symptoms". Prescription medication for anxiety, stress, nervousness, depression and worry can give you bad side effects so natural remedies are often much better.
kindMelon90
July 6th, 2018 12:15am
If it is affecting your life directly and making day-to-day activities too difficult to handle, seeking professional help through a General Practitioner can be the first step to a road to recovery.
Anonymous
July 15th, 2018 5:47am
Friends are very helpful, IF you have the right ones. Talking to someone you know and trust may help a lot. Or if you're embarrassed, just talk to someone online. Talking helps a lot. It releases your feelings. And it gives you the chance to find out who actually cares.
Anonymous
July 18th, 2018 8:22pm
Anxiety and depression symptoms can be alleviated by a combination of things. Medication, talking to a therapist, practicing self-care, connecting with a trusted friend, meditation and checking in with a doctor all are proven to help.
Anonymous
July 20th, 2018 2:57am
I would find ways to keep you busy. Things like read a book or do a puzzle. I also find breathing exercises beneficial when I feel my anxiety is going over the top.
Anonymous
August 3rd, 2018 2:22am
In this case, you would need to see a professional therapist who can help you the best. Going through depression and anxiety is very hard. Remember you are not alone and there are people who are going through this as well.
Anonymous
August 9th, 2018 9:16pm
You must talk to someone that can help you with your problem. you can find a therapist on thia app..
Maridas
August 11th, 2018 9:10pm
The best thing you can do is speak to a therapist. They'll be able to give uou tips and ideas to help minimize the anxieties control over you. In turn this will also help with the depression. We're always here to chat, but we aren't counsellors 😊❤
Anonymous
August 12th, 2018 12:25pm
Talking is key. Remember to tell people this because you can’t do it on your own. Wheather the person you talk to is a therapist a doctor a family member a friend a teacher it’s up to you as long as you trust them
softAngel10
August 12th, 2018 1:11pm
Have you ever thought about acquiring an emotional support Animal? In my case it' s a dog that I take everywhere. She gives me unconditional love and support everywhere I go. At home she knows my needs and takes care of me. She gives me kisses when I am anxious and cheers me up when I am depressed. Working with her has been a complete joy for me.
Anonymous
August 22nd, 2018 8:43pm
Talk to someone on your family like a parent or go professional and talk to a therapist. You shouldn’t have to fight this fight alone so I’d advise you to talk to someone you can trust and then if that doesn’t help then that’s when you go and talk to a professional. It’ll help to shut speak to a relative or a friend. There are a few simple steps you can take to overcome the bad days. Do things you love like watch a movie or listen to music, or even go for a walk to clear the head of any bad thoughts
Anonymous
August 24th, 2018 10:46pm
I had the same problem but it’s slowly cleared. I been to therapy and took the CBT. It’s a self discipline monitoring act. Depression got worsted often because the mindset was trapped in a negative cycle and demotivated on activities for daily life. To stop it, it’s to walk opposite of your thoughts. The more you think is not possible to do the more you make it happen. I am experiencing the social anxiety but I put myself in place of being a listener. That affected to appearances, work, families, friends and relationships. It is all tangled together and worsen if it’s not treat it right.
Anonymous
August 29th, 2018 11:37pm
Looking for someone to talk to can be really helpful! If it is hard you can start by talking with someone online (just being safe) and over time trying to talk in person eapecially while feeling anxious or depressed. Also it is important to find a reason why do you feel this way. Of course breathing excersise can be also increadibly helpful. Sometimes people try to distract themselves and it might be helpful for some people. Finding the best way to express yourself and feelings is the key. And also not forgeting who you actually are while looking for your ways to go! 😊
friendlyBird03
September 8th, 2018 5:25pm
I suggest that you seek a therapist on 7 Cups or talk to a listener to help you overcome your anxiety and depression. And to talk to your friends and/or family about it. Talking really helps. The first step is always the hardest. But keeping secrets will probably eat you up inside. What I mean is that dealing with things alone will only make it worse. Even though it’s hard to talk to someone, maybe because you don’t know how they’ll react, it’s better to not go through with it alone. I hope that this helped you with your question!
bellyachem
October 2nd, 2018 8:55am
I totally understand where you're coming from. I used to be in a dark place with anxiety and depression, and it will get better. If there anything specific causing this feeling? Is it several aspects of your life spiraling out of control? Or is this solely because of school, or a relationship? Is it because of your parents? Or is it because of yourself? I used to be the frequent cause of my depression with my pessimist thoughts and self hatred. But I can help you get out of this, or be able to control your anxiety/ depression better
musicalEnergy94
October 5th, 2018 1:23am
anxiety can get worse when you don't prepare yourself when you are well. depression is serious and therapy and taking your medication can help but everyone is different so try to use what works for you. sometimes you need to give yourself praise not doubt. if depression and anxiety won't let you live your life then you may need more support from friends and family and professionals. you are not alone and talking it out or writing in a journal can help too. walking in nature and excercise can be fun by distracting your mind from all the details that make up your depression and anxiety.
Daisy7cups
October 12th, 2018 4:50am
Initially try to find the your strengths. Look for hobbies likes painting, singing, playing instruments , cause doing them you will feel good. It will give you a new zeal to live life happily. Focus on the things you can control, like your health, communication with people. once your health is fine and you carry on communication with people, it will help you make friends and hence share your feelings with them. by the they will help you tocope with your depression as well. So all in one, coping with depression and anxiety may take time, yet keep patience, and learn to love yourself. find the best capabilities of yourself and embrace them, by coping with your failures so that in future you will not commit the same mistakes you had done in the past that makes you to regret and get depressed. Take easy and stay calm, everything will be fine
Anonymous
November 17th, 2018 3:08am
One way you can overcome this is by talking to someone. Whether it is a listener at 7 cups, a therapist, a friend, or even a family member. You are so strong for making it this far and remember that. You can take small steps to help yourself feel better. For example, you can write little notes for yourself, and maybe a couple of times a day you can just take a break. That can be just doing breathing exercises or even sitting down listening to music. Just remember you are so strong and can get through this slump.
cuddlyLion98
December 5th, 2018 9:34pm
Everyone’s going to tell you to keep your mind busy to forget about being depressed but that’s actually not helpful at all. I’m always going to recommend getting professional help. Speaking to someone on this app or an actual therapist or doctor can do wonders for you and it isn’t something to be afraid or ashamed of. After speaking with a professional and maybe getting on medication, getting a hobby can help. I started doing photography and writing for forums online to get my mind off of being depressed. It’s helped a lot. Please don’t push aside your feelings or try to hide them, hiding your feelings can’t help you
Anonymous
December 13th, 2018 4:58pm
The best thing to do is to consult with a trusted individual or visit your counselor (at school if you go to) to get more support. That is a very big step for anyone to take, but it's 100% worth it. If for some reason you can't go or, you have no one to go to, try something new, or make tiny goals to be fulfilled. That could be eating breakfast or tidying up your room. Explore new things, and don't hide your emotions, if you feel the need to cry, let yourself cry, feel your emotions express it. Take the time to go to the mirror and compliment yourself, or say something nice even if you don't believe it. If you feel nervous, don't let it control your life, take deep breaths and encourage yourself, talk yourself into doing new things, do whatever that makes you feel comfortable as long as its healthy. You can do it.
petitepeach
January 13th, 2019 2:47am
It is best to seek help from someone you trust (preferably in person). Bottling up your emotions can have serious consequences on your health. Asking for support is never selfish. It is hard in the beginning; however, once you admit that your anxiety and depression are overwhelming you, you have a huge weight lifted off your shoulders. Depression and anxiety are not easy to live with, but remember that it is manageable and that’s when reaching out to others whether it be a friend, family member, a trusted co-worker, or even going as far as telling your doctor is important.
savingimage
January 23rd, 2019 5:20am
Sometimes, mental illnesses become too much for us to handle on our own. Not long ago, I was in a position with my anxiety and depression that made me feel so trapped within my own mind and experiences that I couldn't even bring myself to speak a single word about it. I would stand in front of family and friends, struggling to pull anything from my mind to express the pain I had been experiencing, but I felt as if I had something stuck in my throat that kept me from speaking. If you feel like you're getting worse, if you feel like nothing is working, know that you are not alone. Know that so many others have been through these experiences and made it out. It is so, so important to communicate to family, friends, and/or therapists in these situations. Communication can get you the help and validation that you need. Depression and anxiety are extremely hard to deal with, and you don't and shouldn't have to deal with on your own. I know it's not as easy as people make it out to be. For many, even thinking of telling someone can bring on a surge of guilt. But everyone deserves help. We are all humans. We are all people with our own personal experiences and minds. Trying to figure out something as serious as anxiety and depression on our own can be dangerous. Sometimes, the best course of action is to go to someone else for help. In my own experience, waiting for it to pass - waiting for it to somehow get better makes things worse. It makes you feel more hopeless, more isolated, more worthless. It's OK to get help when you feel like things are getting out of control, when it feels like you don't have a handle on anything anymore.
dancingButton25
February 16th, 2019 11:12pm
You should first of all try and find your trigger for anxiety, in my experience the anxiety always triggers the depression, so maybe if you find the trigger for the anxiety we can work on that and then tackle your depression. I understand how difficult this can be but I am here to talk you through every step you need to take, I have been through exactly this and have come out on the other side so it really does get better when you have the right help. We can discuss every aspect of your life until we figure out the triggers if that is what you need.
Spiritualvegan68
March 6th, 2019 11:28am
I have always struggled with anxiety and depression. I know how debilitating it can be and how isolating it feels. I do several things to help improve my mood when i am feeling this way. One way to help would be meditating. Another thing that always helps is reaching out to a family memeber or friend that you can talk to. Generally if you allow your mind even just a few seconds to slow down and process information in a safe space the anxiety will subside. For the depression i make myself get up and leave the house. Whether all you do is step outside and stand in your yard for 10 minutes or you get up and go to the gym as long as you leave your house it is a step in the right direction.
Anonymous
May 30th, 2019 8:45pm
Mental health issues can be draining and hard to deal with. Try to take it one step at a time, so you do not feel overwhelmed. Set short term and long term goals, to help with your progression. Try not to isolate yourself and get a hobby. Do something for yourself daily that makes you happy. Always practice positive self talk, so you don't stay in a negative rut. It is okay to feel down and sad, just don't stay there. Try to use a journal to get all of your feelings out, so they don't stay bottled up.
blueberryanna02
May 31st, 2019 4:27am
The first step towards achieving anything is believing in it. You should believe that you can win over your depression and get over this anxiety. Try to focus on the positive aspects of life and remember, no one has it easy. Life is not meant to be a piece of cake; it's filled with struggles and you just have to accept it. Keep fighting cause there's no battle which we can't win. If you ever feel down, I would say, listen to music or just talk to someone. Getting the reassurance that it's gonna be fine might help, even though it doesn't sound much. We're always here to help if you need any :)
AlyssaFJ
June 11th, 2019 3:08am
I know this is probably something you've already been told previously. But please, get therapy. Talk to someone about this. Most people I know who get therapy say it's helped them tremendously. It's hard work and you have to really want to overcome it, but you will. Let someone help you carry this load. Things will get better. You will make peace with yourself. It may take a while, but it will be worth it. It's probably hard for you to be positive right now. This is hard. But you've done hard things before and I believe in you. I