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Should I quit my job or take leave (FMLA) because I'm having a difficult time trying to function normally.

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Last Updated: 04/10/2018 at 11:48pm
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Harry53
September 10th, 2014 11:37pm
If you qualify for FMLA and you need time to resolve the issues that are getting in the way of you functioning normally at work then you should take FMLA leave. Once you are ready to return to work, as long as that occurs within the twelve week leave period, you will be able to do so. That's a much better option than quitting your job and then having to find a new one.
Erynn
January 3rd, 2015 7:47pm
I don't know what's best for you, but I know that for me, taking a break from school so I could go to a three week intensive outpatient program truly changed my life around. I am in recovery and could not have been doing this well without that treatment. I think taking a step away from everything to focus on your health - mental or physical can be important and very useful at times. However, I think it's important to have a plan your going to and not simply be leaving a situation that isn't working. Do you know what you will do to help heal and support yourself during this break, if you take one? Can you access professional help or a support group? I think how we spend our breaks is crucial in determining how soon and how successfully we can return to our lives and work - and for me that was always the goal. I took a break so I could stop a downward spiral, and so that i could have a future and a life i could enjoy and be proud of.
Cateriyishereforyou
September 22nd, 2014 10:20pm
you should take a leave you might be stressed or to overwhelmed and while you have that free time start looking for a knew job if your job is the issuse you not functioning normally
SkiiiWalker6
December 22nd, 2015 10:49pm
Take a leave so you can go back when you are ready to. I left my old job 8 months ago and always wish i had taken a leave instead :(
Anonymous
September 14th, 2014 2:35pm
Take a leave and see if you feel better. Then go back and if you feel the same as before, find a new job you like and leave the older one.
SandyM
October 21st, 2014 4:31pm
Taking some time off may be your opportunity to think things over with a clear conscience and decide what is best for you when you don't have the pressures of work
Anonymous
May 17th, 2015 9:25pm
I cannot give you advice on this matter, as I feel that advice could harm or hurt your situation. Best of luck with this choice.
FT
June 10th, 2015 1:00am
Nobody can answer this question for you - we aren't qualified to make your life decisions, and you are the only true expert on you - if I were in your shoes, however, I'd talk to some listeners, see if they can help you make that decision.
SilentSerenityy
December 7th, 2015 8:28pm
Quitting your job may be a bad idea in the long run so don't make such a drastic decision when you're not sure. Ask for some time off due to personal issues.
Anonymous
June 28th, 2016 8:48am
Put your own mental and physical well-being first, do what will make you feel better, do what allows you to focus more on yourself, and making yourself happy, You should consider all paths that aid this!
Anonymous
November 15th, 2014 2:25am
Sometimes taking a break is a very healthy way in getting ourselves better. Doing what you feel is the right thing is the best way to get back to normal.
Anonymous
July 6th, 2016 3:39am
Taking a leave of absence may be your best bet; if you recover within that timeframe, you'll still have your job. If you don't, perhaps after that time you will at least be coping better
SageofWintergreenValley
October 16th, 2014 2:04am
Think what's the best for you. Are you sure you want to leave this job or the only thing you needed is a break?
Anonymous
November 2nd, 2014 10:24pm
Take some time to focus on yourself. Figure out what it is that's keeping you from functioning to the best of your ability. It's okay to take time for you!
Anonymous
November 6th, 2014 9:52pm
There is no shame in feeling like you need some time to focus on yourself. Most doctors are understanding, and explaining that you're having a hard time means that many will write you a note to say that you need some time off work. If that's what you need to get your thoughts in order, then that's what you should try.
PhoenixB
December 15th, 2015 6:40pm
It's really up to you, but taking a break from work might be the best for your health. If work is making you feel stressed or negatively at all, it would be appropriate to find the root of the problem, and if you're having trouble functioning properly, it would most likely benefit you to take a second to analyze why you are having difficulty.
cristalia09usagi
April 10th, 2018 11:48pm
Quitting jobs can generally be really big choices to make. A good start could be to beginning to take leave and if you feel like you still are not receiving what you would like to be receiving to then think about further action.
skyblue22
October 23rd, 2014 10:14pm
If I were you I would talk to someone about the difficulties I was having. Here at 7 Cups we are always available to listen to whatever is going on in your life. Look for higher help if talking about it doesn't fix the problem any.
Arkelight
December 27th, 2014 10:52pm
If you have the right to take some time off and seek the help and support that you need then I would advise using it, but make sure you use the time wisely.
PashT007
April 2nd, 2015 4:08am
Maybe taking a leave will allow you address the issue at hand, then you could go from there.
HawaiianAir
April 14th, 2016 10:08pm
Quitting your job because of depression is something that happens to people. If possible, I would try and be honest and open with human resources about what you're going through. They will try and help you work through. Often, you can go "on leave" for a while, without quitting. That way when you're feeling better or more capable, there is a job waiting for you. It's better for you and the company. Just my two cents. Either way, take care of yourself!