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Shouldn't I be able to get over depression on my own?

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October 25th, 2015 8:21am
Yes, however it takes a lot to get over it on your own. You can get over it on your own but it's important to know you don't have to. Any listener on 7 Cups of Tea is here to help you with your depression and we can possibly make it easier to deal with, or completely demolish this feeling of dysphoria.
October 25th, 2015 10:51pm
everyone is different, i'm sure some people get over it alone but i know from personal experience without the support from my mum and a psychiatric team i really don't think i'd be here today. i was in such a dark place that i just couldn't have made it by myself
October 28th, 2015 12:02pm
Sometimes you need to ask for help. There is nothing wrong with asking for help the world itself is hard to concur on your own. Friends, family, doctors and myself, we are all here to help you.
October 28th, 2015 6:40pm
No. The support of those around you is so vital with things like depression. They can help recognise your negative behaviours before even you can, and help to stop them spiralling.
October 29th, 2015 2:44am
It is possible to overcome some stages of depression, but not everyone is invincible. If you truly need help, please seek it out. Don't always assume you can do everything alone, sometimes a shoulder to lean on can save your life.
October 29th, 2015 6:24am
No. Depression is an illness. You wouldn't try to recover from a broken leg or pneumonia alone. It's the same concept.
October 29th, 2015 2:39pm
Yes you could, if you have the disposition you can do it, but it's so difficult and it's easier when you have someone that helps you and understand you when you are through this
October 29th, 2015 6:59pm
Many people cannot get over depression because they let it build so much. If you catch it early, it can be conquered. Depression is like a cancer, if it cannot be removed then sometimes you need another method of removing it.
October 30th, 2015 3:19am
Personally, I don't think depression is something most people can get over on their own. People suffering from depression often need support and motivation from others at the start in order to pave their own way to recovery. I know I still need to be picked up and dragged along sometimes, when I was alone I struggled deeply. I don't know how every person feels but I know many who have been freed from the grasp of depression with support from those who love them
October 30th, 2015 4:37pm
Well, not really. You should look for help because depression is something really serious and it can be hard to get over it by yourself
October 31st, 2015 12:38am
If you can, it is great but most of the people cannot do it on their own. When a person is in that state, he/she sometimes cannot see a solution or help himself/herself. That's why such professions as therapists, psychologists and psychotherapists exist - to help us to deal with things that are difficult to cope on their own.
October 31st, 2015 10:58am
Yes, you can but sometimes, people can be in need of support from other thus not being able to get depression over by themselves.
November 1st, 2015 1:25pm
Thats a really hard question. Shouldn't is a harsh word. For some people, yes, with enough time their depression might pass on its own. But why prolong the suffering. Depression is often associated with feelings of isolation and loneliness. That is why asking for and receiving support from others can be part of the process of recovery in itself.
November 1st, 2015 5:51pm
No. Depression is a chemical imbalance in the brain that controls thoughts and behaviour to some extent. You can not be expected to just command your brain to stop overproducing chemicals you don't need.
November 4th, 2015 3:55am
Depression is a monster, it takes hold of a person and takes away their passions and personality sometimes. It is incredibly difficult to deal with and there is no fix all method, it's whatever works for you. You certainly do not have to fight alone, fighting sometimes means using the help of others if for no other reason than to talk about what might be causing it or wade through your feelings out loud. You do whatever you can and don't put any pressure on yourself to get over it any "right" way because there isn't one.
November 4th, 2015 12:09pm
no, you can get over depression. Trust me! I did it, I did it and I recovered. Be patient, practice self-love everyday and keep in mind that you're not alone in this
November 4th, 2015 7:36pm
Honestly, most people don't. Needing companionship in order to get over depression is just the nature of the illness. It isolates us, so in order to get rid of it, we have to no longer feel isolated.
November 5th, 2015 3:56am
You should NOT be able to get over your depression by yourself. I most certainly did not without the support of my friends, family, psychologist and psychiatrist.
November 5th, 2015 3:43pm
Depression is a mental illness and is best treated with medication and therapy. You are not weak or faulty for not being able to do this on your own.
November 5th, 2015 7:18pm
Getting over depression on your own is a very hard thing to do. I tried this when I was going through my hard times a couple years ago. If you hold in your feelings to long and don't talk to anyone, it will make things way worse then you have to be. If you have advantage to talk to someone, take it. They're there to help you for a reason.
November 6th, 2015 2:25am
If your depression is something you think you can handle on your own then by all means thats the best way. But if you think that it is overwhelming you or that you are lying to yourself then please seek help.
November 6th, 2015 5:41pm
It is possible, but depending on the severity, You can't just get over it. As someone who has depression, talking about it with someone you trust helps a lot!
November 7th, 2015 11:00am
no not all, depression can be incredibly hard to overcome on ones own, although its not impossible either. Depression can feel like you have to control over your own mind and your actions.
November 8th, 2015 12:58am
Not neccesarily. I got over a lot on my own but everybody is different. It takes real courage to realise and ask for help. You should not be ashamed to have tge support of others. Unity is a great and powerful thing
November 11th, 2015 9:47pm
I think (i'm not a specialist but i think i have it :-D ) U can tame it by yourself track ur feelings and trying to be social ( I have a concept i used to fear the rejection of people so i was shy then i said i'll try knowing people and if they rejecting then i've reached the same point i'd have reached if i continue to be shy ) anyway i'm now a promotion head in a student activity , :-D Search for friends 'love but be careful too :-)
November 15th, 2015 12:44am
Shouldn't I be able to fix my broken arm on my own? Doesn't that sound ridiculous? Depression is an illness, not a personality flaw.
November 15th, 2015 2:51am
It's not always easy to battle depression on your own. There are resources that are available to help battle depression but sometimes it's hard to do that unless you reach out to family, friends, and your community. Also when you are depressed you don't necessarily think about feeling better, you only focus on those things that make you feel unhappy. It's hard to get better when you are doing this.
November 15th, 2015 4:10pm
Depression is a state of mind. Technically, the power of one's mind is that it can develop itself to think that it is alright. However, practically it takes a strong will to do so and a lot of determination. So. you can get over depression on your own, but it is easier to be helped by someone. Besides this, someone's help might mean that you won't fall into depression so easily again.
November 18th, 2015 2:34am
Depression requires the love and support of those around you to help lift you up and make you aware of your full potential.
November 18th, 2015 4:31pm
Not necessarily. Sometimes the depression can be very severe and trying to work it out on your own can be like falling deeper into the same web. Then one begins thinking that they're no good and can't even help themselves. Of course, if you're taking the initiative to get better and begin recovery, that's great because your involvement and willingness is important. Psychotherapy is highly recommended so that recovery may be lasting . Medication with psychotherapy works best for persistent, moderate-severe depression. And for the most severe cases, ECT [Electroconvulsive therapy] or electroshock treatment is tried out. So to answer your question, yes, you can try to get over your depression on your own by trying to really recognize where the faults lie and informing yourself more, reading self-help books, making an active effort in doing things that relax you and trying to observe the mind and its thought process. Most often though, and this happens with me, we get tangled up in a big ball when we go at it alone. A little help and support is never harmful! So don't beat yourself up if you can't get over your depression all alone; it is often a very deep-seated illness and hard to shake. But keep trying and seek help because there is plenty out there. Don't lose hope.