What do I do when I feel like I've hit rock bottom and I'm not worth it anymore?
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Anonymous
October 15th, 2016 10:32am
You have to keep going.. There will be light through the darkness.. Just try everything you can to get by.. Seek help from a psychologist or psychiatrist. If you don't have the money, try to get a job.. I know that social anxiety can make things really difficult but try to just think clearly and do what you have to, to get by..
I'm sorry you feel this way. I know how hard it. But think about it- only way from bottom is up. Maybe it's time to live life to the fullest. And it's not a shame in finding someone who can help you achieve it. Cause I know you're worth it â¤
I sleep like a child. I don't know, it's a natural response. I crave for communication. I start to get hold of myself once I find someone to whom I can talk to comfortably.
I challenge my thinking by telling myself I am worth it, and build on facts not self seen ideas that brought me down in the first place, and find a friend for support , and come to 7 cups .
Anonymous
April 12th, 2018 10:41am
You are always worth it. Try and remember points in your life which make you happy or do activities which make you smile - whether it be talking to a friend, walking in the woods or reading a good book. The little things in life really make life worth living. Also remember, if you've hit rock bottom, you can only go up from there.
Well, once you've hit rock bottom, there's only one way to go, up. But you also have two options, either stay down there or climb your way back up. I'd suggest looking for the little things in your life that motivate you, even the slightest. A hobby that makes you gets you off the couch and happy. If you learn to treasure the little things in life, slowly you'll find yourself happier and more willing to expand your horizons.
Anonymous
January 3rd, 2018 11:51pm
It's impossible to live your life without ups and downs. You can feel amazing one minute and then come crashing down the next. However, that doesn't mean you're not worth it.
I read this somewhere online:
If I handed you a twenty dollar bill, would you want it?
If I folded it and half and handed it to you, would you still want it?
If I crumpled it up, threw it on the ground, and stomped on it, would you still want it?
Yes!
You're that twenty dollar bill (even though your life is priceless and so much more than money can buy).
You may get battered, beaten up, and torn around the edges. You may fall down and feel like you've hit rock bottom. However, do not ever doubt your worth, because you are strong and none of those things will ever define you
Well, since you're already at rock bottom, there's only one way to go now and that's up. Start small and reward yourself for everything you do. Just saying "good job" to yourself shall suffice. Gradually, you'll find yourself changing. Good luck.
Anonymous
September 11th, 2016 2:57am
I talk to my best friends and they help me get back up by reminding me I'm a unique, amazing person
Talking to others about how you're feeling and why you're feeling that way can help you feel better, they can brainstorm with you to figure out solutions. They will love and support you!
When you hit rock bottom you should think of people you love or do something you love. But we all cope differently. If none of those work I suggest to consult a counselor.
As you come to terms with a rock bottom you recognize that youre at the very worst with just a large flat cold floor underneath you, you need to realize you can only walk on that cold floor full if hurt or take the ladder beside. Even if youre scared of heights, its better to climb than to suffer. You are worth it. If not to yourself there are people out there that know you are worth it. And worst case scenario im yhr only one. I can tell you are worth it because you are trying. Any life is worth living, sometimes its just hard to find your reason. I believe in you
When I've hit rock bottom, I reach out to someone I trust. I would probably tell my dietitian, counselor, and psychiatrist before I said anything to my mom. Having intense feelings and thoughts feels awful, and it's hard to snap out of unless you have a support team to help you climb out. If the only option after you have tried others is to check yourself into the hospital, do it. Yes, it is scary the first time, but if that is what it takes to make sure you are safe, then go with it, even though you probably strongly don't want to. Take Care! Stay Strong!
Remember, you are always more than worth it. You have a purpose. Yes, you have your good days and bad days and this is just a phase of your life. With every day your battle gets stronger, you get stronger and you can get through this. You're amazing and you deserve every bit of happiness.
I keep a notebook with me with little things I've written when I'm feeling good about myself and my life. I write quotes that make me feel good and make me feel motivated. I write things to remind me that everything will be ok, and I've felt bad in the past and I'll pick myself up in a bit soon. I try to have a self care day as well, doing my hair, doing my skincare routines, maybe going to get my nails done and just remind myself like, hey, I'm me! I know I'm not always perfect but I'm still here. I've done a lot of good things in my life and I've come so far, and I should be proud.
Look to the positive. The best part about hitting rock bottom is that there's nowhere to go but up.
Just do something you like, or something that makes you feel better, bad days sometimes come but doing stuff you enjoy can help.
Well. I like to remind myself that what ever I do that it will have a reaction, either now or laiter. When I feel this way, I like to go and serve someone because doing so reminds me that I DO make a difference and serving someone helps me remember that I can make a positive difference in somebody's wether anonymously or not. :)
Anonymous
January 11th, 2017 3:45am
You start over, and you find your worth. If people around you are not being supportive, they don't deserve to even be near you because what you need is happiness. You need people who care about you as much as you care about them. It might seem in this world that there are very few who are compassionate and kind, but there are. And when you find those people, they will be one of the greatest parts of your life. We are all worth something. You are worth something. Whether it takes you a million years to figure that out, if you are not happy with the way you are living or the situation you are in, find a way to start anew because there is a always an escape; there is always a way. Watch Shawshank Redemption.
From personal experiences, when I feel like I've hit rock bottom I also realize two things; I still have life and I have nothing more to lose, With this realization I dedicate my undivided attention towards learning a skill that is unrelated to what I already know and it helps me get back up.
Talk to someone you trust! This can be friends, family, a loved one. Even a teacher or doctor. Good communication is key and you cannot get help unless you ask and you are open and honest with how you feel. Set yourself achievable and realistic goals, what you want in life and then set yourself a strategy on how you are going to achieve these. Everyone in the world is worth it and there is always someone on 7 cups of tea to support and guide you. Talking, even online helps us off load and often that is exactly what we need to feel better
I eat a bag of doughnuts, regret it, take a breath and move on. Maybe take up some gym time to expel all that negative energy and get a lovely endorphin rush so I'm on top of the world. I hate to say it but: exercise really does help.
Even if you can't be bothered with all the sweating and cardio, go for a walk. Baby steps are a good place to start if you're all groggy, exhausted and just not in the mood. Some sunshine and fresh air are good to clear your head and boost your mood.
Anonymous
August 25th, 2018 4:12am
You don’t want to think that way, it’s just your mind telling you so. Wanting to believe what’s not true. Hitting rock bottom will hurt but you have to be brave and shoot for the stars. You can handle anything, keep fighting. You are not alone in this journey. For example each storm has an ending to it. You will get through the rain, thunder and lightning. There will be a rainbow at the end. Letting you know you’ve made it. Do not give up on yourself when you have so much to live for. You are worth more than you think.
Anonymous
September 26th, 2018 6:16am
There's a few things that have helped me in situations like this For one, start by taking a break from your everyday life and do something like going for a hike or hanging out with friends. Break the daily monotony. I'd also suggest don't allow yourself to focus on the negatives. Look primarily towards the positive things in your life and the good things you can do for others. While it may feel like it's not worthless, you can't give up. It's not over yet, even when you think you're finished or you've hit your limits. Keep pushing. You'll make it through whatever you're going through. No matter how cliche it sounds, there is legitimately a light at the end of the tunnel.
Anonymous
September 30th, 2018 3:18pm
You are never not worth it. Remember that you are important and loved and things will get better eventually but you'll have to stay strong to get there. Some of the best days in your life haven't happened yet, so please stick around for those moments! They will be worth it and someday you will look back on the times when you hit rock bottom and be glad that you pulled through. You are always worth it and deserve love and happiness, never let anyone tell you or make you feel otherwise. Better days are coming. You just have to stay strong and stay here for them.
The easiest thing to do is to just give in. But if everyone did that there would be no hope left. You have to find your personal light in life and focus on that! Whatever it may be... A loved one, something you're passionate about, religion... No matter what it is, if it matters to you it is important. Rely on that to help you in the hardest moments and do all you can to lift yourself back up. Listen to the people who are trying to help and look for help! You are not alone in this and so many people have been where you are now. Just keep going because that's the hardest part. I know you are worth it.
Anonymous
November 21st, 2018 2:47pm
When I feel like I've hit rock bottom, I like to think back on all of the positive qualities I like about myself and also all of the achievements I've accomplished and am super proud of. It doesn't matter how big or small as it can be super helpful to remind yourself of your values and real worth because everyone is valuable and deserves support and enjoyment in all aspects of life.
Exercise can also be very beneficial to improve your mood and feelings of worthlessness. It's scientifically proven although it can sometimes be difficult to get moving once you've hit rock bottom, but the end result will be worth it.
I talk to someone I trust, or someone who can relate to my problems. I try to make a "to do list" for the day to make me productive and stop thinking too much. I write down things that make me happy, and positive things about myself. I turn off my phone for an hour, and just try to relax and do breathing exercises, like mindfullness. I throw out things that i don't use in my closet or in my fridge, and make a fresh start. I try to go outside for some fresh air, and best scenario - work out.
well, first of all, you have to read about mindfulness and practice it, because you are surely overthinking. then, try to always chase the bright side. Don't ever try to convince yourself that there's no bright side in your life! don't make yourself feel as if nobody's home. there's someone whom you'll always belong to, try to talk with him about you feeling down. it will make you feel much better of course.
Even if you feel like you've hit rock bottom and nothing really matters anymore, you should know, that that's never true! There's always someone or something there for you, waiting to make you feel better! You just have to believe and open yourself up to the people you love, cause at the end of the day, they're always there for you.
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