What do I do when I feel like I've hit rock bottom and I'm not worth it anymore?
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Last Updated: 05/04/2022 at 11:27pm
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Reach out to a friend and vent your emotions to them. Talking to someone will help you feel better and more connected to the world. Sharing your pain with a friend will also help alleviate some of it and make it more bearable. Additionally, you could also rediscover an old love for something, like a hobby. Doing something you enjoy doing will also help you feel better. It will also show you that there is something good in this world for you. Finally, you can come on 7cups and talk to some of our amazing listeners!! Listeners on 7cups are amazing people to speak to when you are feeling down and need a friend.
Anonymous
April 24th, 2019 7:26pm
I can not give you advice but i am always here to listen along with the whole team!!! I completely understand how you are feel but tough times don’t last forever and you will get through it just picture this as a passing storm, there will always be a rainbow at the end! I can see you are struggling with self worth and this is something we all experience. I am happy to listen to how you are feeling and I will try my best to help you progress. Keep on going, even admitting to your feelings is progression sometimes talking about how you feel can clear your head and brighten your day. You have a lot of courage keep going!!
Anonymous
February 10th, 2019 3:15am
I try to find things that are meaningful to me. For me that is writing, poetry, music, exercise and religion. When I'm feeling low I try and write out my experience in a way so that I can understand what im feeling and why. I then just try to express myself creatively through writing and reading poetry. Listening to music helps me get through rough times, artists have a good way of making me feel like im not alone. Lastly but most importantly to me, talking to God is very important in time of need and always gives me hope that there will be better days and the I am strong enough to get through anything.
Anonymous
February 8th, 2019 2:36am
keep pushing! I'm sure you felt like this before some other time. remember what you went through and remember that your alive today! if you can go through one you can go through another. Take what you can from the situation, analyse it and learn from it. nothing that comes our way is more than what we are made of and what we can take, prove to the problem you can figure it out. there are millions of others going through the same thing, the future needs you. just because you don't see the answer in front of you it doesn't mean there isn't one.
Anonymous
December 29th, 2018 5:47pm
I usually feel like this a few times a week, and it can be the worst feeling inside you, like you are deteriorating. My first instinct is to cry, sitting alone on the dark on my bed and go over all the reasons why I’m worthless, but know that that is NOT the answer!
The best thing to do is surround yourself with the people who make you feel like you- friends, family or anyone else that you like to spend time with. That often distracts you, and the distraction helps to make you feel better as you begin to know more of your worth.
I talk to people and let them know how I feel. I listen to them. I drink coffee and take time out for self care. I think about what is making me feel that way and then try to balance it out with the positive things in life, the things that mean life is worthwhile. I try to think about people who rely on me or I help. That makes me feel better. Being in Cups helps me to see that I am helping others. I know that if I am making others feel better then I must be worthwhile.
Anonymous
December 13th, 2018 11:08pm
When I feel like I’ve hit rock bottom and that I am not worth it anymore, I see immediate help. Even listeners like me, need a bit of help sometimes and that is okay. People deserve to get help and I want to be able to provide that for them. I use drawing, singing, writing and music as a few types of coping. It has helped me a lot throughout the years! Even if they don’t help me right I’m that moment of need, I will try to do as much as I can to help myself because I know I deserve it as much as anyone else does.
I talk to someone I trust, or someone who can relate to my problems. I try to make a "to do list" for the day to make me productive and stop thinking too much. I write down things that make me happy, and positive things about myself. I turn off my phone for an hour, and just try to relax and do breathing exercises, like mindfullness. I throw out things that i don't use in my closet or in my fridge, and make a fresh start. I try to go outside for some fresh air, and best scenario - work out.
Anonymous
November 21st, 2018 2:47pm
When I feel like I've hit rock bottom, I like to think back on all of the positive qualities I like about myself and also all of the achievements I've accomplished and am super proud of. It doesn't matter how big or small as it can be super helpful to remind yourself of your values and real worth because everyone is valuable and deserves support and enjoyment in all aspects of life.
Exercise can also be very beneficial to improve your mood and feelings of worthlessness. It's scientifically proven although it can sometimes be difficult to get moving once you've hit rock bottom, but the end result will be worth it.
The easiest thing to do is to just give in. But if everyone did that there would be no hope left. You have to find your personal light in life and focus on that! Whatever it may be... A loved one, something you're passionate about, religion... No matter what it is, if it matters to you it is important. Rely on that to help you in the hardest moments and do all you can to lift yourself back up. Listen to the people who are trying to help and look for help! You are not alone in this and so many people have been where you are now. Just keep going because that's the hardest part. I know you are worth it.
Anonymous
September 30th, 2018 3:18pm
You are never not worth it. Remember that you are important and loved and things will get better eventually but you'll have to stay strong to get there. Some of the best days in your life haven't happened yet, so please stick around for those moments! They will be worth it and someday you will look back on the times when you hit rock bottom and be glad that you pulled through. You are always worth it and deserve love and happiness, never let anyone tell you or make you feel otherwise. Better days are coming. You just have to stay strong and stay here for them.
Anonymous
September 26th, 2018 6:16am
There's a few things that have helped me in situations like this For one, start by taking a break from your everyday life and do something like going for a hike or hanging out with friends. Break the daily monotony. I'd also suggest don't allow yourself to focus on the negatives. Look primarily towards the positive things in your life and the good things you can do for others. While it may feel like it's not worthless, you can't give up. It's not over yet, even when you think you're finished or you've hit your limits. Keep pushing. You'll make it through whatever you're going through. No matter how cliche it sounds, there is legitimately a light at the end of the tunnel.
Anonymous
August 25th, 2018 4:12am
You don’t want to think that way, it’s just your mind telling you so. Wanting to believe what’s not true. Hitting rock bottom will hurt but you have to be brave and shoot for the stars. You can handle anything, keep fighting. You are not alone in this journey. For example each storm has an ending to it. You will get through the rain, thunder and lightning. There will be a rainbow at the end. Letting you know you’ve made it. Do not give up on yourself when you have so much to live for. You are worth more than you think.
Talk to someone you trust! This can be friends, family, a loved one. Even a teacher or doctor. Good communication is key and you cannot get help unless you ask and you are open and honest with how you feel. Set yourself achievable and realistic goals, what you want in life and then set yourself a strategy on how you are going to achieve these. Everyone in the world is worth it and there is always someone on 7 cups of tea to support and guide you. Talking, even online helps us off load and often that is exactly what we need to feel better
Anonymous
July 25th, 2018 1:14pm
Stand up. You've got that thought only in your head but that's not what others see. All you have to do is stand up and stick up to yourself because you haven't really hit the bottom.
Well, make a list of things you like about yourself, the smallest things like your eye color will do. Then start to carry around a small purse or box or something, and whenever you get something that’s really important to you, that you absolutely love, put it in the box and take it out whenever you feel like that. Also put lots of chocolate in it. Chocolate helps everything.
Anonymous
June 30th, 2018 1:33am
i call someone- go for a walk- and let time pass. i try not to think or make major decisions. i try to be the change i want and not isolate.
I’ve been down this path before and what really motivated me to shake off the darkness is to look towards the future and ask “what can I do now so I can end up where I want to be?†If you ask yourself that question you’ll see a brighter future and a better more worthy you.
Anonymous
July 7th, 2018 4:37pm
These feelings certainly can be scary. However, if you've hit rock bottom, you must recognize that there's only one direction you can go - up.
In life, there are highs and lows and in order to live your happiest and best life, you have to hit rock bottom at some point. The only way you can go now, is up. You and every other human being is valuable and special, find something/someone that inspires you and let that lift you up.
Remember that things can only get better, my friend. Everyone has pitfalls and if you make mistakes it proves your human. Get back up and show the other human side to you: Determination.
Anonymous
July 13th, 2018 4:14am
You look at yourself in the mirror and remember who you are! Tell yourself you can over come anything as long as you out your mind into it !
Start to love yourself first, Slowly you will see your value which no one could see and then you will realize you can so do anything and achieve anything you want.
I truly believe everyone's amazing in their known way. I always tell everyone this, but the reason we put ourselves down so much is because we only see ourselves in the mirror. No one else. And that's why we are our worst critic. So you may think you're not worth it, but other's (for sure) think the opposite. To get over feeling worthless isn't easy, but to start off, think of ten good thing about yourself. even if its just your personality.
Anonymous
July 15th, 2018 7:49pm
Cry. Cry. Cry. Cry a lot. Then pray. Pray. Pray. Pray. Pray a lot to God and apologize because of what i’m thinking. Consider suicide? I think that too but it’s just spread another pain and someone else will think that they are not worth it. That’s not the way out.
Start everything from all over again. If you are on rock bottom, the people have forgotten you, even if they know you. Change everything, ignore social opinions, and re-build yourself from scratch, until you find a new enviroment for yourself.
you find something worth living for. it doesn’t matter what it is. it could be your pet, the taste of your favorite food, your favorite song, your best friend. anything. cherish that thing. know that as a living breathing human, you have inherent worth. it doesn’t matter what obstacle you’ve run into. your worth still exists. pick yourself up off the ground, tell yourself that you are worthy of everything life has to offer, and move forward. the only way to go from rock bottom is up.
Anonymous
July 21st, 2018 3:33am
I weigh out my options and take a step back breathe. Reanalyze my situation and what caused me to feel the way I do. If it doesn’t apply let it fly.
This is a common, and difficult feeling. We all are unique in our own way, meaning we all have worth. Sometimes it is hard to see if we keep listening to the negative self-talk that often dominates our rational or positive mind. Finding someone to talk to--a support person (friend, family, clinician) can help you to find strategies to deal with this feeling. You are never alone, reach out and talk, even to us.
I don't know if you believe in God but pray, if you do! I'll tell you right now... YOU ARE WORTH IT and you are worthy of all things great in life. You do matter and you deserve to be happy. We all have felt thar way but get negative thoughts out your head. Guess what? If you are at rock bottom now, you can't go any lower. You can only go up. Things will get better. Stay strong.
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