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What do I do when I feel like I've hit rock bottom and I'm not worth it anymore?

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Last Updated: 05/04/2022 at 11:27pm
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Anonymous
February 10th, 2019 3:15am
I try to find things that are meaningful to me. For me that is writing, poetry, music, exercise and religion. When I'm feeling low I try and write out my experience in a way so that I can understand what im feeling and why. I then just try to express myself creatively through writing and reading poetry. Listening to music helps me get through rough times, artists have a good way of making me feel like im not alone. Lastly but most importantly to me, talking to God is very important in time of need and always gives me hope that there will be better days and the I am strong enough to get through anything.
Anonymous
April 24th, 2019 7:26pm
I can not give you advice but i am always here to listen along with the whole team!!! I completely understand how you are feel but tough times don’t last forever and you will get through it just picture this as a passing storm, there will always be a rainbow at the end! I can see you are struggling with self worth and this is something we all experience. I am happy to listen to how you are feeling and I will try my best to help you progress. Keep on going, even admitting to your feelings is progression sometimes talking about how you feel can clear your head and brighten your day. You have a lot of courage keep going!!
rosenova1513
May 22nd, 2019 8:00pm
Reach out to a friend and vent your emotions to them. Talking to someone will help you feel better and more connected to the world. Sharing your pain with a friend will also help alleviate some of it and make it more bearable. Additionally, you could also rediscover an old love for something, like a hobby. Doing something you enjoy doing will also help you feel better. It will also show you that there is something good in this world for you. Finally, you can come on 7cups and talk to some of our amazing listeners!! Listeners on 7cups are amazing people to speak to when you are feeling down and need a friend.
Anonymous
June 5th, 2019 7:57am
Remember, this is for you. This time and space to take a step back is only necessary before you can move two steps forward. Reflect, unwind, and remember what you have accomplished thus far and what you hope to accomplish in the future. There is no one way of arriving, no fixed destination, but a constant fluctuation that only asks to be endured and weathered and to come out a different, hopefully wiser person. Regardless, love, live fully to the extent you know, unconditionally for yourself and for others. Be present, persistent, and patient with yourself and your needs. You're always and forever worth that
Anonymous
June 5th, 2019 2:12pm
you are worth it! First take a breath, remember that life isn't smooth and things are going to get better. keep trying and remember its ok to feel down. just be patient with yourself and your situation. life is not always easy, some of us have it harder but those who have it harder are among the strongest I've met, that to me is self worth! you are worthy, the struggle ensures that! When i feel that way I write lists, simple silly lists, about my accomplishments, of compliments others have given me, I write about what I've overcome. this self reflection is a small comfort to me and helps ground me when I feel there is nothing left for me. Maybe this could help you see that you're worth it?
calmwillow12
June 27th, 2019 7:52am
You can work through it. Therapy can be a key help to feeling that way, learning that you are good enough, and that you can do this. Everyone is worth it no matter what, but learning that your worth it is how we grow. And learn to become better people. Life is difficult and it’s like a roller coaster and that’s a fact, you have to push through, and find something that motivates you, makes you want to be here; makes you feel the need to think your worth it. Do whatever makes you happy as much as you can.
Lights9
May 21st, 2015 10:08pm
well, first of all, you have to read about mindfulness and practice it, because you are surely overthinking. then, try to always chase the bright side. Don't ever try to convince yourself that there's no bright side in your life! don't make yourself feel as if nobody's home. there's someone whom you'll always belong to, try to talk with him about you feeling down. it will make you feel much better of course.
BeagleWiggle
July 28th, 2019 6:32pm
Even if you feel like you've hit rock bottom and nothing really matters anymore, you should know, that that's never true! There's always someone or something there for you, waiting to make you feel better! You just have to believe and open yourself up to the people you love, cause at the end of the day, they're always there for you.
MorganRayne
August 7th, 2019 9:14pm
We all have felt like we've hit rock bottom and we aren't worth it anymore at some point in our lives. Be it poor choices or bad situations. When this happens, the best thing to do is get yourself up, dust yourself off and start climbing back up to the top. The journey won't be easy but you will come to learn more about yourself and whom you really are. You may learn from your mistakes or learn about a different side of yourself, you never knew existed. This in turn will open your heart to knowing that you do matter and you do make a difference in this world. Don't give up, keep climbing; the hardest part was letting yourself fall.
Anonymous
August 18th, 2019 4:18am
I try yo talk to my mom or just hang out with my dog and play music and just relax. I also use stress balls and look on you tube and just try to stay positive. Just talking to family helps a lot and if you don't think the list I said help or if you are in a crisis I would go to the hospital. I have had to help so many people send it just makes me so happy and so proud to be able to help people and just try to stay happy and calm it is very important to stay happy.
Anonymous
August 22nd, 2019 4:28am
I would talk to someone close to you, that you know you can trust, tell them what has been going on in your life, so that way your issues will not just be your issues. If you do not feel comfortable doing that, I would recommend going to see a therapist or counselor or something like that, so that you can get the help you need with out possibly bothering a friend. or if you are a student I would recommend going to a teacher that you trust, because they have probably gone through something similar and don't want to see their students suffer.
friendlyHeart49
August 24th, 2019 2:10pm
I eat a bag of doughnuts, regret it, take a breath and move on. Maybe take up some gym time to expel all that negative energy and get a lovely endorphin rush so I'm on top of the world. I hate to say it but: exercise really does help. Even if you can't be bothered with all the sweating and cardio, go for a walk. Baby steps are a good place to start if you're all groggy, exhausted and just not in the mood. Some sunshine and fresh air are good to clear your head and boost your mood.
Anonymous
June 10th, 2021 3:42pm
The feelings of hopelessness and despair are not easy emotions to live through or reason with. It’s helpful for me to take time out of each day for self care and self love. I also find it helpful to journal how I’m feeling so I can take what’s taking up room in my brain and heart and get it out into the Open. Meditation and prayer are other ways in which I’ve lifted myself out of the dark and into the light. Talking out my emotions with a therapist or family member or friend is also helpful so I feel heard, understood and supported.
Anonymous
September 27th, 2020 6:08pm
The first thing I would do is consider the things you have managed to do in your life. What have you gotten through, and how did you do it? Maybe it was a breakup, loss of a family member, or a job. I recommend thinking back on those times and looking at how you got through it. For a more practical solution, try doing one small thing. It could be as simple as making your bed, and you're at least accomplishing something. Taking on the big things first may only make you feel more strongly that you've hit rock bottom. In short, consider the past, and start small.
MaxSkyFan
October 1st, 2020 8:59am
The bottom in life seems like so far to fall and in this you don't know if that is the bottom or if, in fact, that bottom will drop out and there will be a new bottom and you will be falling forever, on and on, and not sure if you run out of room to fall and the feeling of self-worth is not there anymore. This feeling of loss is overpowering and I get this sense you don't know where else to turn, but in this there might be hope for the lights to appear in the darness when all hope appears lost.
Anonymous
October 15th, 2020 7:55pm
I self reflect in a positive manner. I think about all the positive things I have done and also think about future things that I have planned. This helps me steer away from any negative thoughts. Although I know that it might sound boring self reflecting helps others become self-aware if oneself. This allows us to look neutrally at our thoughts,feelings, emotions and even our curiosity. We begin to dig deeper in ourself and really questions why do I feel this way. This results from effort and time from others. When I sit down and self reflect I remember that I’m not perfect and I’m human prone to make mistakes.
DaisyDaph
November 7th, 2020 1:19pm
When you've lost all hope and you find yourself at rock bottom; you're wondering if things could get any worse. Well, one thing's for sure; there is no way down anymore, only up. In time you know that no matter what, you will not stay in the same place for long. It can be hard to not know your worth; with the world being so competitive and harsh on us. But take a moment to for example become aware of yourself; your senses, your breathing, your thoughts, the connections you've made with people and all the little contributions (even making someone smile!). It all forms your very own existence. Surely...there should be a reason why you've been given this life in the first place, why you're YOU. And if there's a reason, you're definitely worth it. Even when it feels like you're not. Everything you do is a part of something bigger.
DarkPiT23
November 22nd, 2020 9:04am
The good thing about hitting rock bottom, there's only one way left to go and that's UP!” Hitting rock bottom is the beginning of questioning everything that you've ever thought to be true. You question your motives, other people's motives, your beliefs, your fears, why you did things, why you didn't do things, why you attracted certain people and circumstances, why you succeeded, why you failed. The expression, “hit rock bottom,” was popularized by Alcoholics Anonymous and has become part of our common language. Usually it means that a person has reached a point where there is nothing else to lose. ... The landing is so painful and jarring, we believe, that it just may be enough to motivate a person to change.
MillieHarrison
December 26th, 2020 3:03am
If you feel as if you’ve hit rock bottom its important to understand and recognise how you got there in the first place. Was it something that someone said? Has it built up over time or are you not sure. Once you come to a conclusion you should find an activity that you enjoy this could be something you used to do or something you want to try out. The majority of those who reach rock bottom experience something similar to a depressive episode, by similar i mean that their daily schedule either becomes crowded or dull, making them boring or stressed. In conclusion how to lift yourself up is to change up your routine, find something you enjoy!
Actuallynobody017
January 2nd, 2021 7:41pm
Thanks for the question. I can understand when things don't go right and you feel you have reached a dead end. It is important to remind yourself what makes you happy and what things you still want and if you try a bit you can achieve .It could be anything like savouring your favourite ice-cream and going for it. It will make you happy. You might also be in a transition phase and observe carefully what are the things which recently have made you feel this bad. Do you think you can do anything about those problems or situations ? If not then it's okay, but if yes how much you think you can sort out the problems? Do you need assistance or how much time realistically you will need to solve them? You may think it is the last part but it also could be a new beginning. Take care 💓
caringSunshine7732
January 9th, 2021 9:27pm
When I have hit rock bottom and feel like I am not worth it anymore, I try to find a calm place, mentally or physically. Once I have found this, I try to look at the situation from a different perspective. The question I ask myself to do this is "How would I feel if someone else was in this situation?". Usually this makes me feel calmer and better able to assess the situation. There have been situations where I was too hard on myself, and I realise I never would be this hard on anyone else in my situation, so I should not be this hard on myself either. Or I realised that if a friend went through this, I would still love them and be there for them, so if I confide in the people closest to me, they will probably accept me too and try to help me. And most of all, it makes me realise that it would not make me stop loving this person, so I can believe I am still loved. There are so many good people on this planet, like the ones who use their time to make others feel worth it in this community, that must mean there are still people who love you. This usually calms me down enough to be able to open up about my problems and to start looking for a solution! (For me praying also really helps to calm me down, but I understand this will not be the case for everyone!)
Anonymous
January 20th, 2021 7:57pm
When I hit rock bottom, I look for anything to give me hope. It can be something as small as a new episode of my favorite show comes out next week or I have some chicken nuggets in the fridge for lunch. I try to find even the small motivation to keep going. I think trying to find just a spark of joy to keep the flame burning. Rock bottom is awful, no one likes being there but they say the best part of hitting rock bottom is knowing that they only way to go from here is up and that's what I always try to tell myself before making any decisions on what to do next.
Anonymous
March 4th, 2021 5:28am
Take a step back and think about your support systems. Who can you have a conversation with? Whether it be family, friends, or someone on this site. Sometimes reminding yourself that you have the strength to overcome this obstacle is not enough and there are people out there who want to support you through the crisis you are having. Think about how far you've come since the last time you've felt this way. Think about your goals. What is something you want to be doing right now. In a week? In a year? In five years? Find your reason and don't be afraid to ask for help.
Anonymous
March 5th, 2021 11:19pm
Everyone has a place in this world. You have woken up every morning so far for a reason. You have purpose. Try to use words of affirmation. They work best when you look at yourself in the mirror while you say it and say it like you really believe it. Never say can't. Saying can't means you won't. The worst thing to do it talk negatively about yourself. Think about talking to yourself as a little kid, would you tell them that they are not worth it anymore? Probably not. But that little kid is the same person that you are today, so why should you believe anything different.
AmarahSofia
March 19th, 2021 3:15am
Take a look back where you started. Life may not completely happens the way we plan and expected it to be but there is so much more on the other side. Take a look at all your reasons why you ended in this path. Remind yourself the reasons how excited you were at the beginning, seeing how things will become success once you went through all of the struggles completely. If you're tired just rest hut never quit. Always give your best, and be better. Everyday is a chance to improve, take risk and fight for what you love. We can never predict how long we could stay on top of life or we could possibly hit the rock bottom but what we can do is to give our best the chance to always learn and improve.
Aledge98
April 21st, 2021 8:48am
I understand this feeling, I too myself have felt like this. It can be really difficult to get back up and fight and I truly sympathise with you for feeling this way. In my experience I decided to focus on all the things I wasn't very good at. Such as I didn't read a full book since I was a child and I completed it and felt truly happy. I think small goals being set could help. Sometimes listening to really upbeat and inspiring songs can help. It may be worth you looking at the growth path if you haven't already?
Anonymous
May 8th, 2021 3:21pm
Have you considered reaching out for professional help? Professional therapists might help you work through issues like trauma, depression, and figure out where do these feelings of unworthiness come from, working it out and changing our mindset. Thoughts precede feelings, so it's really useful to figure out the road of thoughts you are going through that might be taking you to 'hit rock bottom'. Sometimes it's also really helpful to give ourselves a break and try to do some self care routine, doing something that makes you feel good like a warm bath, coffee with a friend or a walk in the park.
Anonymous
May 19th, 2021 1:45am
It is important to first acknowledge the feeling and allow myself to feel it. I think of it like a wave passing through me or like allowing myself the full rainbow of emotions. Then, time for self-care: a yoga session, a chat with a friend, a prayer, a nature walk. Just something gentle to help me process and get past. I also like to help myself with positive self-talk and with reframing my negative thoughts to thoughts that can help me move those difficult feelings. Finally, sometimes just petting my dog or hugging my daughter is all I need! A little bit of love from a special person or pet goes a long way to help me feel better! :-)
Anonymous
January 26th, 2022 3:53pm
First, is realizing that if I am at rock bottom, the only way for me to go is up. I start rebuilding myself. Second, is turning to my higher power for guidance. Next, would be to take it a day at a time and focus on getting myself back on track. Finding my self worth. Focus on the things that bring me joy. Using my support system. Reaching out to a health professional. Joining support groups that in line with my thoughts and feelings. Continue to be positive and finds ways to motivate myself and empower myself everyday.
Anonymous
February 2nd, 2022 2:26pm
Coming from a person who has felt like they have hit rock bottom, it sucks. I think the best thing to do was realize that things have to get worse before they get better. If I am already at rock bottom, it can't get worse, right? I just have to wait for things to get better. And usually you have to put work into things to make it better, so being at rock bottom can be part of the motivation. If you are in a bad place, it's okay to reach out to people. Having friends, family, anyone be by your side, can help get you out of rock bottom. Anyways, I love you all, and there is always someone out there willing to help you.