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What do I do when I feel like I've hit rock bottom and I'm not worth it anymore?

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Last Updated: 04/02/2022 at 7:00am
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Robinzoo
May 5th, 2018 3:13pm
We all do at some point in our life. No matter what, you are a wrothy person. You might have a hard time to appreciate the good parts in your life, but try as best as you can. When you are at the bottom, you can only climb up, it won't get worse.
musicalEnergy94
May 11th, 2018 7:00pm
when you feel like you have hit rock bottom you should seek professional help. that is the right thing to do, reach out to friends and family for help. it is important to stay healthy and set goals for yourself even if it is just putting your clothes and eating breakfast. follow your heart and try to have organization in your life, don't take life for granted, read books on worthlessness and attending groups so you can listen to other peoples stories that are a lot worse than yours.
Anonymous
May 11th, 2018 10:47pm
Realise that now that you’re at rock bottom, the only way is up and acknowledge other alternatives, don’t give up love, it’s worth the fight
starlitestarbrite
May 15th, 2018 3:20am
You are definitely worth it! There's only one of you in this world and you deserve to love yourself for who you are. You also matter to your loved ones and to everyone around you. Believe that you are growing stronger and never give up!
Anonymous
May 18th, 2018 8:03pm
If you've hit rock bottom, the only way left to go is up. Have you told anyone in your personal life or do you not want to? Either way, something that helps me is writing my emotions down by transforming them into a poem/short story. Get the thoughts out of your head and onto some paper or a laptop. Hope this helps x
Anonymous
May 19th, 2018 3:37am
I recommend thinking of things you like about yourself or someone else likes about you and starting from there.
infinitylaura
May 19th, 2018 10:56am
It can be so discouraging when you hit rock bottom. You feel like there's no way out and if there is, there's no point. Perhaps there is still a logical side to you that's telling you you'll feel okay again, but it's so incredibly difficult to believe that thought! Think about every time you've felt the worst you've ever felt. I'm assuming you've gotten out of that, at least a little bit? That's what you try to focus on. You've survived every awful day you've had so far, and you WILL survive every awful day you may be experiencing now. Focus on the little things. The way the sun feels on your skin. The wind blowing on your face. The baby smiling at you in the bus or queue. Seeing your loved ones happy. All those cliches are sometimes the things keeping you going - and that is okay! Reach out to someone. Do something you love. Try a new hobby. Write about your feelings. Allow yourself to feel the way you feel, but also treat yourself how you would a friend in that situation - with kindness and compassion. You will get through it, and you are ALWAYS worth it.
Anonymous
May 19th, 2018 2:35pm
You should try to look at the picture differently. Yes you might have hit rock bottom, but it can only get better from there. That’s the thing it can only be bad for so long before starts to happen. And the sooner you let it come the better you’ll be
Anonymous
May 21st, 2018 4:51am
Think of the things you've accomplished, even if they seem small to you, they actually seem big to other people. You've accomplished being born, going to school, learning, you've accomplished more than you think!
Anonymous
May 23rd, 2018 2:48am
I understand how you feel. I know what it's like to be there, but there's always a reason to keep going. If you think you're not worth it, think of the people around you and the last thing they have done for you, or look in the mirror and find something you love about yourself and cling to it, and try to think of the good parts of you instead of the bad.
gracefulDancer29
May 26th, 2018 2:02pm
In this situation, the only thing you can do is to change your mentality about your situation by merely realizing that the only way to go from rock bottom is up.
lovinglily
June 9th, 2018 7:51pm
you’re never not worth it anymore, and you are not alone in thinking like that. My guess is you’re feeling scared and alone but know that so many people have been through that and have come out stronger. I suggest you try and find some form of professional counselling or treatment from a doctor, to help you deal with your feelings. Just remember to never give up no matter how hard things get. I have been there, as many more people than you think have, and it takes a while to get back on your feet but you will get there if you take the advice and support from the people you surround yourself with and seek help to make you feel happier.
ObnoxiouslyPink1
June 13th, 2018 4:41pm
I try not to isolate. Isolation can make things so much worse. I try ground myself and to distract myself by writing or drawing. If I can, I try to be in contact with friends or family. I may not tell them what is going on with me but talking with them about anything can help ground me.
dancingForest68
June 15th, 2018 12:50am
I have hit this point many times, and it is so difficult to climb out. I found that saying something nice about myself in a mirror every morning when I woke up eventually convinced myself that I was good enough. Depression is real, and even though your thoughts may seem real, you have the power to change them. Every person matters.
Anonymous
June 20th, 2018 5:53pm
I have had such moments, and whenever I do feel that way, I do something really stupid. I place a hand on my chest and feel my heartbeat. I think of all the ways my life could have ended if my organs hadn't been working properly day in and day out. This reminds that each day there are so many things which could go wrong but don't and I am able to live for another day for a reason. Because there is still something left for me to do. That always gives me the courage to undertake any and all challenges.
GreenShades
June 21st, 2018 1:49am
Feeling low? We’ve all been there! There are times when everything seems so difficult to achieve. You are going to face a lot of hardships in your life. You’ll be met by criticism and people will try their very best to break you and bring you down. It is usually at such points in life when you are most likely to degrade yourself to such an extent that in the end, you’ll consider yourself nothing but a loser, someone who doesn’t deserve anything and is a complete failure. You’ll believe whatever people tell you about yourself and will start criticizing your own self as well. However, what you need to realize is that everyone faces hardships in their lives but that does not mean that you continue to beat yourself. Don’t let people’s words affect you because people will always talk no matter what you do. Unfortunately for a lot of us, we listen to the judgments of other people. This in turn leads us to only focus on our negatives. We ignore all of the positives that we possess. No individual will be able to achieve anything in life if he or she thinks that they are a failure or keeps on experiencing a low mood. Bringing yourself up again can be tough but it isn’t impossible.
BeHappy8888
June 22nd, 2018 8:04pm
Think of all the people you have who love and care about you. Try to find hobbies and activities that make you happy too.
Anonymous
June 27th, 2018 11:29pm
Talk to someone. That's what us Listeners are here for or talk to a friend or someone you trust in your life, whether it's a sibling, friend or and adult. Talking often times help.
sevysnepthesnek
June 27th, 2018 11:57pm
When I feel like I have hit rock bottom, I try to talk to the people close to me. I make sure that I surround myself with the people who want nothing but the best for me, and I try to realize that it is a bad day, not a bad life!
wonderfullSummer84
June 29th, 2018 4:49am
Well, make a list of things you like about yourself, the smallest things like your eye color will do. Then start to carry around a small purse or box or something, and whenever you get something that’s really important to you, that you absolutely love, put it in the box and take it out whenever you feel like that. Also put lots of chocolate in it. Chocolate helps everything.
Anonymous
June 30th, 2018 1:33am
i call someone- go for a walk- and let time pass. i try not to think or make major decisions. i try to be the change i want and not isolate.
CupKnows
July 5th, 2018 3:48pm
I’ve been down this path before and what really motivated me to shake off the darkness is to look towards the future and ask “what can I do now so I can end up where I want to be?” If you ask yourself that question you’ll see a brighter future and a better more worthy you.
Anonymous
July 7th, 2018 4:37pm
These feelings certainly can be scary. However, if you've hit rock bottom, you must recognize that there's only one direction you can go - up.
blanket7
July 7th, 2018 9:59pm
In life, there are highs and lows and in order to live your happiest and best life, you have to hit rock bottom at some point. The only way you can go now, is up. You and every other human being is valuable and special, find something/someone that inspires you and let that lift you up.
vertige80
July 11th, 2018 7:53am
Remember that things can only get better, my friend. Everyone has pitfalls and if you make mistakes it proves your human. Get back up and show the other human side to you: Determination.
Anonymous
July 13th, 2018 4:14am
You look at yourself in the mirror and remember who you are! Tell yourself you can over come anything as long as you out your mind into it !
StWilson
July 14th, 2018 11:35am
Start to love yourself first, Slowly you will see your value which no one could see and then you will realize you can so do anything and achieve anything you want.
TranquilDreams
July 15th, 2018 5:57am
I truly believe everyone's amazing in their known way. I always tell everyone this, but the reason we put ourselves down so much is because we only see ourselves in the mirror. No one else. And that's why we are our worst critic. So you may think you're not worth it, but other's (for sure) think the opposite. To get over feeling worthless isn't easy, but to start off, think of ten good thing about yourself. even if its just your personality.
Anonymous
July 15th, 2018 7:49pm
Cry. Cry. Cry. Cry a lot. Then pray. Pray. Pray. Pray. Pray a lot to God and apologize because of what i’m thinking. Consider suicide? I think that too but it’s just spread another pain and someone else will think that they are not worth it. That’s not the way out.
SirMaDDaM
July 18th, 2018 10:20am
Start everything from all over again. If you are on rock bottom, the people have forgotten you, even if they know you. Change everything, ignore social opinions, and re-build yourself from scratch, until you find a new enviroment for yourself.