What do I do when I feel like I've hit rock bottom and I'm not worth it anymore?
Last Updated: 04/02/2022 at 7:00am
Jennifer Patterson, LMFT, ATR-BC
Life can be messy. Sometimes you need a little support to make your way through it. I love to help guide people through their challenges & to find the beauty in our messes.
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Reach out to a friend and vent your emotions to them. Talking to someone will help you feel better and more connected to the world. Sharing your pain with a friend will also help alleviate some of it and make it more bearable. Additionally, you could also rediscover an old love for something, like a hobby. Doing something you enjoy doing will also help you feel better. It will also show you that there is something good in this world for you. Finally, you can come on 7cups and talk to some of our amazing listeners!! Listeners on 7cups are amazing people to speak to when you are feeling down and need a friend.
Remember, this is for you. This time and space to take a step back is only necessary before you can move two steps forward. Reflect, unwind, and remember what you have accomplished thus far and what you hope to accomplish in the future. There is no one way of arriving, no fixed destination, but a constant fluctuation that only asks to be endured and weathered and to come out a different, hopefully wiser person. Regardless, love, live fully to the extent you know, unconditionally for yourself and for others. Be present, persistent, and patient with yourself and your needs. You're always and forever worth that
you are worth it! First take a breath, remember that life isn't smooth and things are going to get better. keep trying and remember its ok to feel down. just be patient with yourself and your situation. life is not always easy, some of us have it harder but those who have it harder are among the strongest I've met, that to me is self worth! you are worthy, the struggle ensures that! When i feel that way I write lists, simple silly lists, about my accomplishments, of compliments others have given me, I write about what I've overcome. this self reflection is a small comfort to me and helps ground me when I feel there is nothing left for me. Maybe this could help you see that you're worth it?
You can work through it. Therapy can be a key help to feeling that way, learning that you are good enough, and that you can do this. Everyone is worth it no matter what, but learning that your worth it is how we grow. And learn to become better people. Life is difficult and it’s like a roller coaster and that’s a fact, you have to push through, and find something that motivates you, makes you want to be here; makes you feel the need to think your worth it. Do whatever makes you happy as much as you can.
Even if you feel like you've hit rock bottom and nothing really matters anymore, you should know, that that's never true! There's always someone or something there for you, waiting to make you feel better! You just have to believe and open yourself up to the people you love, cause at the end of the day, they're always there for you.
We all have felt like we've hit rock bottom and we aren't worth it anymore at some point in our lives. Be it poor choices or bad situations. When this happens, the best thing to do is get yourself up, dust yourself off and start climbing back up to the top. The journey won't be easy but you will come to learn more about yourself and whom you really are. You may learn from your mistakes or learn about a different side of yourself, you never knew existed. This in turn will open your heart to knowing that you do matter and you do make a difference in this world. Don't give up, keep climbing; the hardest part was letting yourself fall.
I try yo talk to my mom or just hang out with my dog and play music and just relax. I also use stress balls and look on you tube and just try to stay positive. Just talking to family helps a lot and if you don't think the list I said help or if you are in a crisis I would go to the hospital. I have had to help so many people send it just makes me so happy and so proud to be able to help people and just try to stay happy and calm it is very important to stay happy.
I would talk to someone close to you, that you know you can trust, tell them what has been going on in your life, so that way your issues will not just be your issues. If you do not feel comfortable doing that, I would recommend going to see a therapist or counselor or something like that, so that you can get the help you need with out possibly bothering a friend. or if you are a student I would recommend going to a teacher that you trust, because they have probably gone through something similar and don't want to see their students suffer.
I eat a bag of doughnuts, regret it, take a breath and move on. Maybe take up some gym time to expel all that negative energy and get a lovely endorphin rush so I'm on top of the world. I hate to say it but: exercise really does help. Even if you can't be bothered with all the sweating and cardio, go for a walk. Baby steps are a good place to start if you're all groggy, exhausted and just not in the mood. Some sunshine and fresh air are good to clear your head and boost your mood.
This may sound silly, but write three things you're grateful for that day. I find myself writing the smallest things that made me happy that day. For example, today, I am grateful for music because I was really stressed out last night. I'm also grateful for my friend Paula who encouraged me to pursue other hobbies that I had put to the side. I am also grateful for my favorite pen, I always carry it and I often meet new people who need to borrow a pen. Finding something you love and care about will be helpful. It's a small task throughout the day to list things you are grateful for, love, and care about.
I find that is the best position to look around for a new perspective. If you are truly at rock bottom you have nowhere to go but up. It's always worth trying again. Try something that's sure to be a natural seratonin boost. Go down a slide at a playground, go to an animal shelter and spend some time with the animals (shelters encourage this so the animals get attention, they won't mind if you don't plan to adopt), look for a free exercise group I your area. Draw a silly picture or just go outside for a moment and take in all of the sounds and smells very deliberately. You are alive and the possibilities are endless!
First off, I will say that your thoughts might not be always true. In fact, once something bad happens our mind will unconsciously jump into some Automatic Negative Thoughts or ANT for short. It's crucial to remember that it's completely normal to see this happening. Once you acknowledge the fact that your thoughts might be wrong, you can try to gently identify your thinking traps/cognitive distortions and slowly but surely reframe your thoughts into some constructive ones. Here are some articles that I think will be useful for you: https://www.verywellmind.com/ten-cognitive-distortions-identified-in-cbt-22412 and https://www.healthline.com/health/mental-health/stop-automatic-negative-thoughts#2. Stay strong. I hope it's been helpful
I think of my worst times in the past which I have felt hopeless and thought I could no longer go on but that has passed too and so do this will. I just have to wait a little more and be a little bit stronger. No matter how long the night is the day is always sure to come. and no matter how petrifying and hard the darkness is twice would be the joy and peace of the light. The very hardest thing in life is WAITING. it's difficult to wait and especially when you don't know what will be the result but it's always worth waiting for everything has its own time.
Please remember that you are worth it, and there are people who care about you, regardless of whether you feel like it at the moment. I urge you to reach out to someone as soon as you possibly can; you are important, and deserve the treatment that you need to feel like yourself again, and to live a happy and full life. Please tell a friend, family member, or therapist. If you do not have access to that, or if you need immediate help, please go call the hotline, or check out suicide.org. We are all rooting for you here!
Keep going. I am in the same place. It's easier to give advice than take it. Because when I am alone with my thoughts, I feel like I can't do this. But I do know, from other times I have felt like this, that it does get better. It's kind of like going on a diet to lose weight. You may lose some every day but you don't notice it. and one day you look in the mirror and then see an old pic of yourself and you're like "holy cow, I have lost a lot of weight' - I feel like that happens in how we feel to. We look back on every day we kept going and then before we know it, we realize we are in a better place then we were last week. or yesterday. so if we just keep going, we WILL find a day that we are happy again. We can do this. One step in front of the other. One step in front again. one step at a time.
I close my eyes & internalize. I think of my past failures & how I bounced back from my failures. I always think about the journey I had so far, how I was struggling badly & how successfully I conquered all the obstacles with shear determination & faith. There are moments when I feel broke & the best part I learnt to handle it is through crying. Crying helps me to achieve that relief & then it helps me to internalize & go deep to the core of my being & who I am. When I feel that I've hit the rock bottom, I actually imagine it as I am surrounded by walls around me & my back to the wall, only way to escape is to move forward with full strength. I discuss what I honestly feel with my close ones & sharing this scenario helps me to regain my composure & strength to move forward.
I think it's important for you to go back and think what happened that causes you to feel like this. Sometimes bad past experiences shape us in a way that it prevents us from being happy and that can be difficult to get out and probably take a while. The important thing is you. You need to know what is best for you and what you want. In situations like these reaching out to friends and family can be of big help. It may take a while for you to feel progress but you have to keep fighting for yourself.
Eat healthy, wake up early, go for a walk, sweat, take a nice warm bath, read a book, talk to someone who can support you, breath, look at the sky, and do not get yourself attached to things that will not last forever. Visit your family members, help those in need, give money to the poor. Learn something new everyday, be useful for yourself and others. Persist and keep working and improving. Put your heart in the right place, protect your heart and keep it away from being attached to wrong things or wrong people. Learn about life and always seek the truth.
When you feel like you've hit rock bottom and you're not worth it anymore it's best to take stock of everything you do have. As a cancer survivor I find that it's unfortunately too common that people take their health and circumstances for granted. I can say with certainty that most people feel like they 'need' things in order to make them happy, but when you're truly happy then you realise that you don't 'need' anything at all. In fact when you're happy you realise that you already have everything you need in abundance. Every moment that you have is a gift that you could give to someone else, or to yourself. It's a chance to create something new or to learn something new and to be curious. The world is full of unturned stones just waiting for you to examine them, they are beckoning you and calling you. When you've hit rock bottom it's finally an opportunity to do what you've always wanted to: be yourself.
You should contact a mental health professional. Also consider contacting the The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255. They will be able to help you through this difficult time. It may not seem like it now but things will get better. You may want to talk to someone you trust such as a friend or parent. The important thing to remember is that even though it may not seem like it now, you will get through this tough time. You have been able to get through everything life has thrown at you so far. Don't let this time be any different.
Whenever it feels like skies are falling and crashing right over my head around me, I hold my breath and begin to count. Sometimes it takes only 5, but sometimes even 60 seconds for my body to fight back and force my soul to stay awake. Then when I frantically begin to breathe in and out I realise that I am the one to decide if I'm going to let the world crash me or if I fight back. And by feeling my lungs scream and beg for me to let air fill them again, I also realise that it is me who always decides, and it is me who doesn't want to let go of me, it's me loving myself so much that when I begin to breathe again and open my eyes, I understand what it feels like to safe myself from drowning a little too soon. You do love yourself, you just have to let yourself show you that.
I often try to brainstorm what things I do well and am competent in. Just by visualizing myself doing the things that I do well at, I am able to realize my potential and get back on track. Additionally, I have asked friends and family what they think I can do in order to realign my life. When the "rock bottom" comes in the form of a change in plans or rapid changes in my life, It is often best to chart out a new plan given the issues at hand. sometimes, restructuring in the face of adversity can provide relief.
Once you hit the bottom the only way you can go is up. It will take time and it won't be easy but if you really want to you can go up. You can get help here in 7 Cups, or ask friends and family. But if you really want to and you find motivation you can make your way up. Now of course it won't be easy But if you really put your mind to it you can do it. You just have to believe in yourself. And if it ever feels impossible remember that impossible is I'm Possible.
at some point in life, we all go through tough circumstances that leave us in the deepest trenches. when you are there wondering when you will see the light again it can be draining and tiring. everything you do becomes difficult and takes so much effort, making every single day an absolute nightmare. no one wants to be here. yet, there are lessons that you learn that no one else will teach you. you dont have to remain in the trenches. you can choose to focus on what you can change or what you cant. what you are greatful for and what you can work towards. there are about 5 things that can be helpful 1. let yourself feel feel the pain and use it. pain will make you take action. 2. reach out you dont have to be down there alone. 3. hit reset rock bottom offer you a chance to start all over again. the good news is , there is no where else to go but up. rebuild 4.realise you have nothing to lose every action no matter how small or insignificant is a win. 5.apprecite the good you still have there is always something to be grateful for. remember, be kind to yourself. you are worth it. you did not choose to hit rock bottom and you are stronger than you think. take time to reflect, have faith, listen to music and remember even the best of them like JK Rawlings, Steve Jobs and the likes have all hit rock bottom. it happens to us all. you will get through it. again there is no where to go but up.
You remember that you ARE worth it and have ALWAYS been worth it. The good thing about "rock bottom" is that it means you can see everything you have the potential for. Kind of like laying in the grass and looking up and the clouds. You can see this vast sky with literally no end. No, you'll never be a cloud, but there are a lot of amazing things between the ground and those clouds. Choose an attainable goal that's there in between the grass and clouds and you focus all of your energy on that. Find something that ignites passion in you. No one is worthless. You matter!
I personally keep an album named "appreciation" where I keep all things that were positive for me in the past. Could be a well done..an 'i love you', or a funny moment between friends.. Or similarly, a very loving moment through text or anything similar. As long as it makes me feel GOOD, it goes in that album. Nothing forced. Just pure, authentic positive moments. I look at that when I've hit rock bottom to the point where I feel I do not deserve anyone's time or attention. After all, an image is not sentient. It cannot judge you. Stay valourous.
Place your hand on your heart or feel for your pulse in either you're wrist or neck and just feel the steady beat of it. Step back from reality feeling your pulse & know you're worth it. Know you're worth everything. You are important to a lot of people in your life who love and cherish you. We all have our bad days and feel as though we are not worth it anymore however we really are. I believe we are all here for a reason and we might not know that reason straight away but over time through the highs and lows we will find out.
People think once they hit rock bottom that they should just give up because they feel like it's not worth it; however, hitting rock bottom isn't as bad as you think. I'm not here to lie to you; yea, there will be times when you feel unworthy and a piece of crap and that everything is too much, etc. but just because you’ve hit rock bottom doesn’t mean you can’t overcome it. Life is a constant battle, sometimes you’re going to be put in a place where you hate it, but if you keep reminding yourself how much you hate it and how much you want to leave then things aren’t going to get better. Accept the place you’re in. Accept and learn from your pain. Use your pain to push you forward instead of pushing you back. Nothing is ever given to you and nothing is ever easy, so why expect this to be easy? Easy is boring; however, where it gets difficult is most interesting and is the time where we learn the most. Remember that this isn’t the end of the world. Remember that you deserve happiness and deserve whatever you’re fighting for, but most importantly, remember you’re worth fighting for yourself.
When you hit rock bottom, it means something in your life may not have gone as planned. It causes you to question yourself, have doubt how to move forward into the future and enjoy certain aspects of life again. There is no right answer except to find achievement in small growth. This can help to build up self worth and make yourself realize no matter what happens, you are truly the only person in charge of your happiness. It takes a substantial amount of losses to really appreciate small achievements and there is a certain beauty to that. Just know, no matter what has happened, you are always worth it, you add value to life no matter what has happened.
I can see you are going through a tough time and feeling low. It happens. you are strong enough to identify your feeling. I am pretty sure you'll overcome this feeling the same way you've identified it. Stay positive and you'll get through anything and everything. it may happen that sometimes we lose hope and feel like nothing's going to work out, but eventually it does. you have taken a very good initiative to seek help, and that shows your strength. It takes a lot of guts to do so. If you can do this, you can surely sail through this feeling you are having right now!
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