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What do I do when I feel like I've hit rock bottom and I'm not worth it anymore?

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Last Updated: 04/02/2022 at 7:00am
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alwayshereforyou8
May 31st, 2020 4:10pm
Deep breathes first. Then think of all the good times I had experienced in my life journey. Not everything is in a doom and gloom situation. All I need to do is change the way of my thinking, my perspective and view things in a calm manner. And hitting rock bottom means nothing else can drag me further down. Plus there are people around me that still needs me, it be selfish of me to behave in such a way around those that truly care for me. If it gets too severe than maybe I might consider counselling to prevent it from escalating.
Anonymous
June 5th, 2020 4:24am
You have to believe in yourself to regain focus and know that you can do anything you put your mind too find your inner happiness to assure your worth and I believe that once you do that then you can become a more happier individual with time and practicing coping because depression is real and eats on the human flesh making you feel like your helpless and don’t deserve happiness and that you are not worth living or being happy when in reality those are just inner thoughts channeling through your mind you just have to shut them off
Vignesh2004
June 21st, 2020 8:15pm
First of all, you must always remember no matter how long you think you are, bouncing back is always possible. No matter what position you are in as a person, you are and always will be worth it to someone in life. Think about how detrimental it would be for the people who care about you if you were no longer in their life. Even the greatest people of our generation were nobodies and hit rock bottom at one point or another in their life, but by staying hopeful and striving for their goals they were able to overcome all odds and succeed in life.
Tyler2626
June 24th, 2020 4:35am
You will always be worth it. Everyone has been put here for a reason and I promise that you are no different. Things can only get better. I’ve personally had a lot of experiences in my life where I feel like I’m not worth it and I should just give up. But you need to fight. Because the harder you fight the better it gets. And soon you’ll realize how amazing of a person you truly are. You’ll realize how many people love and care about you. So my answer to you, is to fight. Keep fighting and never stop. Because things will get better. I promise
hopefulOcean7633
June 25th, 2020 5:54pm
If you feel you have it rock bottom and that you are not worth it anymore, please reach out to a therapist asap. It can help to talk to a professional, licensed clinician when in crisis mode. It can be overwhelming to experience these feelings and it's important to reach out to someone to help you navigate these. Once the crisis has subsided, it may be helpful to create a routine. Schedule your day to day with activities that feel good, talk to friends and family, and watch for anything that might trigger negative emotions for you. Hopefully these tips will help initially!
Anonymous
June 26th, 2020 1:46am
When you feel like you have hit rock bottom and that you are not worth it anymore that is the perfect time to reach out to friends and surround yourself with people who love you. As humans, we are overthinkers and criticize ourselves a lot. In addition to that, most times how we perceive ourselves is not how others truly perceive us. We can be extremely hard on ourselves. Apart from surrounding yourselves with loved ones if you feel that your emotions are too much for you to handle and that you need professional help that is also something to consider getting as well.
ConsoleMagic
July 18th, 2020 6:43am
You take a deep breath. Take a piece of paper and write down every little thing you feel you have done for good, not only for your good but everyone around you. Once you are done making a list, start adding more details to it. How situation started, how it was affected to people, how you learned about it, what made you solve the problem, how you did it, how you or other people were benefited from that. How happy it made you and other people. As you start jolting more and more thoughts to it, it will make you feel happy and rocking again !!!
redemptionblue17
August 7th, 2020 4:31am
First we should ask ourself whether is it true? if true, then ask again. Why would even a game designed to have a retry feature once you fail? or why can we play again once we fail (even with no retry or load save feature). A game is design for us to experience a step at a time. The same with our life, we're exerting with beads of sweat for life. Fear comes when you're not certain of what coming from. No exception with the thing we have experienced yet abortive. There's even a proverb that a ball needs to tumble downhill to be able to bounce higher. Now ask again yourself, would you deign to try again? if you still feel it's not worth anymore, then don't slog on it. Try another activities, another alternatives. The world is too small if you're only absorbed on one thing than trying others! Good luck for finding your new journey
manhattanmatcha
August 8th, 2020 3:24pm
I once read a testimony of a SEAL, and he answered a question someone had asked, "How did you do it? How did you survive hell week?" And his response was: "I just focused on the very next thing that could be done." He explained how whether it was running with a boat on your head, or through a muddy ditch, or into the ocean, all he focused on was taking the next step. And then another. And then another. And soon the day would finish, just like that. My point is thinking "I've hit rock bottom" and "I'm not worth it" is harmful not only because it is self deprecating, but because those thoughts create a mindset that often can be hard to break away from. Instead, when you feel this way, think about something that you can do right now. Clean your room. Make yourself a cucumber sandwich. Dance your heart out to songs from the 80's. Do it! And lastly I want to say it will get better. You might not think so, or even notice it getting better at first, because you're going forward one step at a time. But one day, when you've climbed all the way up, you'll turn around and see. You are always going to be worth it.
lyricalStrawberry
August 12th, 2020 5:16pm
Once you feel like you have hit rock bottom it is important to acknowledge that things can only get better. It is really important to reach out to a friend, family member or teacher when you are feeling as if you are not worth it anymore. This will help you show that the people in your life need you and think the opposite to you. If these feelings progress negatively I would recommend going to a therapist to try an find the route of these feelings. In extreme situations there are hotlines where you can talk to trained listeners who help to deescalate a situation.
petlover44
August 22nd, 2020 3:29am
I understand what it feels like to have hit rock bottom and feel as if I have no purpose. It is a very difficult feeling and it is very hard to manage. I cannot advise you anything specifically as I have not walked a day in your shoes or experience. I am however here to listen and support you the best way I can. Would you like to tell me what happened that made you feel as if you hit rock bottom? Why has this event made you feel worthless? How long have you been feeling this way? Things do get getter and I am here to help you.
Cat0202
September 10th, 2020 6:04pm
I take a deep breath and write down things that make me happy and what I am thankful for. If I have time usually I would go for a walk or do some yoga. Also, I find having a support network around me (Ie. Friends and family) it is helpful to talk to them. Talking to friends and family is a good way to relieve some stress. Talking to them you can express how you are feeling etc. Having certain people as your go to to keep you busy can be helpful. Sometimes I find it is good to just have me time and get a bath or do a face mask to feel better.
Anonymous
September 27th, 2020 6:08pm
The first thing I would do is consider the things you have managed to do in your life. What have you gotten through, and how did you do it? Maybe it was a breakup, loss of a family member, or a job. I recommend thinking back on those times and looking at how you got through it. For a more practical solution, try doing one small thing. It could be as simple as making your bed, and you're at least accomplishing something. Taking on the big things first may only make you feel more strongly that you've hit rock bottom. In short, consider the past, and start small.
MaxSkyFan
October 1st, 2020 8:59am
The bottom in life seems like so far to fall and in this you don't know if that is the bottom or if, in fact, that bottom will drop out and there will be a new bottom and you will be falling forever, on and on, and not sure if you run out of room to fall and the feeling of self-worth is not there anymore. This feeling of loss is overpowering and I get this sense you don't know where else to turn, but in this there might be hope for the lights to appear in the darness when all hope appears lost.
Anonymous
October 15th, 2020 7:55pm
I self reflect in a positive manner. I think about all the positive things I have done and also think about future things that I have planned. This helps me steer away from any negative thoughts. Although I know that it might sound boring self reflecting helps others become self-aware if oneself. This allows us to look neutrally at our thoughts,feelings, emotions and even our curiosity. We begin to dig deeper in ourself and really questions why do I feel this way. This results from effort and time from others. When I sit down and self reflect I remember that I’m not perfect and I’m human prone to make mistakes.
Anonymous
November 7th, 2020 1:19pm
When you've lost all hope and you find yourself at rock bottom; you're wondering if things could get any worse. Well, one thing's for sure; there is no way down anymore, only up. In time you know that no matter what, you will not stay in the same place for long. It can be hard to not know your worth; with the world being so competitive and harsh on us. But take a moment to for example become aware of yourself; your senses, your breathing, your thoughts, the connections you've made with people and all the little contributions (even making someone smile!). It all forms your very own existence. Surely...there should be a reason why you've been given this life in the first place, why you're YOU. And if there's a reason, you're definitely worth it. Even when it feels like you're not. Everything you do is a part of something bigger.
DarkPiT23
November 22nd, 2020 9:04am
The good thing about hitting rock bottom, there's only one way left to go and that's UP!” Hitting rock bottom is the beginning of questioning everything that you've ever thought to be true. You question your motives, other people's motives, your beliefs, your fears, why you did things, why you didn't do things, why you attracted certain people and circumstances, why you succeeded, why you failed. The expression, “hit rock bottom,” was popularized by Alcoholics Anonymous and has become part of our common language. Usually it means that a person has reached a point where there is nothing else to lose. ... The landing is so painful and jarring, we believe, that it just may be enough to motivate a person to change.
MillieHarrison
December 26th, 2020 3:03am
If you feel as if you’ve hit rock bottom its important to understand and recognise how you got there in the first place. Was it something that someone said? Has it built up over time or are you not sure. Once you come to a conclusion you should find an activity that you enjoy this could be something you used to do or something you want to try out. The majority of those who reach rock bottom experience something similar to a depressive episode, by similar i mean that their daily schedule either becomes crowded or dull, making them boring or stressed. In conclusion how to lift yourself up is to change up your routine, find something you enjoy!
Actuallynobody017
January 2nd, 2021 7:41pm
Thanks for the question. I can understand when things don't go right and you feel you have reached a dead end. It is important to remind yourself what makes you happy and what things you still want and if you try a bit you can achieve .It could be anything like savouring your favourite ice-cream and going for it. It will make you happy. You might also be in a transition phase and observe carefully what are the things which recently have made you feel this bad. Do you think you can do anything about those problems or situations ? If not then it's okay, but if yes how much you think you can sort out the problems? Do you need assistance or how much time realistically you will need to solve them? You may think it is the last part but it also could be a new beginning. Take care 💓
caringSunshine7732
January 9th, 2021 9:27pm
When I have hit rock bottom and feel like I am not worth it anymore, I try to find a calm place, mentally or physically. Once I have found this, I try to look at the situation from a different perspective. The question I ask myself to do this is "How would I feel if someone else was in this situation?". Usually this makes me feel calmer and better able to assess the situation. There have been situations where I was too hard on myself, and I realise I never would be this hard on anyone else in my situation, so I should not be this hard on myself either. Or I realised that if a friend went through this, I would still love them and be there for them, so if I confide in the people closest to me, they will probably accept me too and try to help me. And most of all, it makes me realise that it would not make me stop loving this person, so I can believe I am still loved. There are so many good people on this planet, like the ones who use their time to make others feel worth it in this community, that must mean there are still people who love you. This usually calms me down enough to be able to open up about my problems and to start looking for a solution! (For me praying also really helps to calm me down, but I understand this will not be the case for everyone!)
creativePassion3991
January 13th, 2021 9:59pm
Accept your situation and how you feel. Remember that it does not define you. Shift your energy to that of gratitude, it could be as simple as saying thank you for the sun or the flowers. Think about everything that you like about yourself, maybe keep a journal and make a list. Find little ways to take care of yourself that make you feel better like going for a walk, exercising, reading and remind yourself that you are worth it and you deserve to be at peace and have good things. Try to empower yourself by reminding yourself that you are strong and can overcome this.
Anonymous
January 20th, 2021 7:57pm
When I hit rock bottom, I look for anything to give me hope. It can be something as small as a new episode of my favorite show comes out next week or I have some chicken nuggets in the fridge for lunch. I try to find even the small motivation to keep going. I think trying to find just a spark of joy to keep the flame burning. Rock bottom is awful, no one likes being there but they say the best part of hitting rock bottom is knowing that they only way to go from here is up and that's what I always try to tell myself before making any decisions on what to do next.
Anonymous
March 4th, 2021 5:28am
Take a step back and think about your support systems. Who can you have a conversation with? Whether it be family, friends, or someone on this site. Sometimes reminding yourself that you have the strength to overcome this obstacle is not enough and there are people out there who want to support you through the crisis you are having. Think about how far you've come since the last time you've felt this way. Think about your goals. What is something you want to be doing right now. In a week? In a year? In five years? Find your reason and don't be afraid to ask for help.
Anonymous
March 5th, 2021 11:19pm
Everyone has a place in this world. You have woken up every morning so far for a reason. You have purpose. Try to use words of affirmation. They work best when you look at yourself in the mirror while you say it and say it like you really believe it. Never say can't. Saying can't means you won't. The worst thing to do it talk negatively about yourself. Think about talking to yourself as a little kid, would you tell them that they are not worth it anymore? Probably not. But that little kid is the same person that you are today, so why should you believe anything different.
AmarahSofia
March 19th, 2021 3:15am
Take a look back where you started. Life may not completely happens the way we plan and expected it to be but there is so much more on the other side. Take a look at all your reasons why you ended in this path. Remind yourself the reasons how excited you were at the beginning, seeing how things will become success once you went through all of the struggles completely. If you're tired just rest hut never quit. Always give your best, and be better. Everyday is a chance to improve, take risk and fight for what you love. We can never predict how long we could stay on top of life or we could possibly hit the rock bottom but what we can do is to give our best the chance to always learn and improve.
Aledge98
April 21st, 2021 8:48am
I understand this feeling, I too myself have felt like this. It can be really difficult to get back up and fight and I truly sympathise with you for feeling this way. In my experience I decided to focus on all the things I wasn't very good at. Such as I didn't read a full book since I was a child and I completed it and felt truly happy. I think small goals being set could help. Sometimes listening to really upbeat and inspiring songs can help. It may be worth you looking at the growth path if you haven't already?
Anonymous
May 8th, 2021 3:21pm
Have you considered reaching out for professional help? Professional therapists might help you work through issues like trauma, depression, and figure out where do these feelings of unworthiness come from, working it out and changing our mindset. Thoughts precede feelings, so it's really useful to figure out the road of thoughts you are going through that might be taking you to 'hit rock bottom'. Sometimes it's also really helpful to give ourselves a break and try to do some self care routine, doing something that makes you feel good like a warm bath, coffee with a friend or a walk in the park.
Anonymous
May 19th, 2021 1:45am
It is important to first acknowledge the feeling and allow myself to feel it. I think of it like a wave passing through me or like allowing myself the full rainbow of emotions. Then, time for self-care: a yoga session, a chat with a friend, a prayer, a nature walk. Just something gentle to help me process and get past. I also like to help myself with positive self-talk and with reframing my negative thoughts to thoughts that can help me move those difficult feelings. Finally, sometimes just petting my dog or hugging my daughter is all I need! A little bit of love from a special person or pet goes a long way to help me feel better! :-)
Anonymous
June 10th, 2021 3:42pm
The feelings of hopelessness and despair are not easy emotions to live through or reason with. It’s helpful for me to take time out of each day for self care and self love. I also find it helpful to journal how I’m feeling so I can take what’s taking up room in my brain and heart and get it out into the Open. Meditation and prayer are other ways in which I’ve lifted myself out of the dark and into the light. Talking out my emotions with a therapist or family member or friend is also helpful so I feel heard, understood and supported.
Anonymous
June 16th, 2021 6:37pm
I take a moment to meditate, and then call a family member or a friend who I know will not judge me on my feelings and will just listen to me when I need it. I tend to read a book or something to get my mind off what is going on. Sometimes I try and go for a run or exercise; other times I watch a movie that is a favorite of mine and I know will make me feel better. Other times I will try and take a bath or a shower because the warm water calms me down too.