What do you do when you have no passion or drive?
Last Updated: 03/04/2021 at 3:56pm
Lisa Meighan, BSc Psychology (Honours)
Hello, I am Lisa and I work in a person-centred approach mixed with cognitive behavioural therapy. I believe we all have the potential to be the best we can be.
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You find one. It doesn't necessarily mean forcing oneself to pressure. Just realize what you do when you have time to yourself.
if you feel you have no passion or drive it may be time to reach out to friends and family and they may join you in the conversation about how they relate and what to do. seeking professiolnal help like a Therapist may be in order to help get you back on track and you may remember what it felt like when you had passion, it probably felt great so you took on more challenges but somehow it went away like you hit a wall. it may be harder to do the things you were doing before. you need to push past what stands in front of you and ask for help from friends and family
Try to set small tasks for yourself and reward yourself for completing small tasks such as making your bed and practicing hygiene.
I try to be gentle with myself. I avoid shaming myself or focusing on guilt about what I "should" be doing. I try to find something i can be curious about, to more naturally build towards interest in something, which in turn could grow into passion. I've heard people make the comparison to plants. You can make sure there's water and sunshine and fertilizer, but you can't rush the growth. I also think it's important to celebrate each step taken. Make that important phone call? Watch an episode of a favorite show!
I listen to music that literally relates to my life or what I'm going through at the moment. I find music to be almost euphoric it can make you feel something you might never have experienced before. Not everybody can talk to someone about their problems and when you listen to music it feels almost like the artist is speaking to you directly. And that they understand you better that you understand yourself. The artist that drives me and inspires me is Jahseh onfroy. He spoke about real world problems. And how to deal with hate and depression he was a really great person.
Try to remember happy, exciting memories. Sometimes recalling your old emotions can invigorate your current emotional state into good or bad, whatever you choose. Choose passion by remembering a time when you were actively passionate. Sometimes it is possible to channel your past emotions from positive memories. They could be favorite, energetic people you remember. They could also be an experience you have gone through and had success as an outcome. They can also be the good feelings you get from reading a good book or watching your favorite tv show/movie. I wish you all the best of luck in life and hope that you all find your peace and balance in this life.
This is something I often struggle with. First- I make sure that I take a bit of time to take care of myself, with both my physical and mental health. Then after taking that needed break I have to just jump into a small task. Often I do not feel motivated in the moment but by just getting started anyway and then completeing a task I feel accomplished. Having just one little task done helps me with my motivation and drive to keep pushing forward and getting other tasks done. There is a saying- A body in rest stays in rests, a body in motion stays in motion. Although it is not easy, sometimes we have to force ourselves to get up and start on something to push us forward and get that passion and drive started. :)
I’m glad you asked. We all feel this way sometimes. But my answer would be: Anything! :) Specifically, anything that gives you a sense of personal freedom from whatever has driven you to feel ‘too drove’. To the point where you have none left. Cleaning house is always a good way to be with your ‘overdrive’ self. Removing the layers of funk and funk works deeply on the soul; cleaning is both a metaphor and a means for self growth. I like to put on some soothing or uplifting music, and just move. Even if you don’t ‘feel it’, the results of your efforts can be refreshingly gratifying. It might inspire a sense of confidence that can further trigger drive. Go for a walk. Or talk. Or bake some cookies: following a recipe is great for concentration and precision, which are both good things to practice for brain health. And cookies smell good! The olfactory sense is directly connected to memory, so in surrounding ourselves with nice smells, we attach a good memory and feeling to what would otherwise be a not so good one. In my experience, when you lose your passion or drive, it means your system - your mind and body as a whole unit - are out of sync and are asking you to get back in touch with true Self; the Self that can be likened to the most honest and amazing mechanic/caregiver for our vehicles. We are not encouraged enough in our ‘chase the things’ world to take time for emotional and personal self care. (Watch the Ted talk on emotional first aid :) And I believe it is because of this that we can periodically feel a lack of motivation. We are not machines. And we cannot expect to feel awesome all the time. But what we can expect is that when we feel flat, we are powerful enough to acknowledge it, and to see it as an opporunity to remember and discover what gives us a sense of passion.
When I have no passion or drive I write exactly what's going on in my head and then I get up put of bed and get a big glass of cold water (even if it takes a lot of effort) and I drink the entire thing to energize me and then j run back to my room (slowly building up my energy) and then I listen to a fast paced upbeat song that gets me exited and by that point I have a little bit of energy to do average daily things. Its kind of dumb but for me it works!
I will make a time table plan for those tasks which need to be done within a certain time for the day so important things will not be missed out because of my low feelings. I will feel better and become more confident in coping with my emotions when those plans are achieved. At the same time, I will spend sometime to read book or articles which I am interested in a way to help me relax myself. I would also try to talk to friends if anyone of them is available. I always feel better after talking to a friend.
Well, first of all you don't want to quit trying to find your inner peace. Whatever, you do try to spend sometime alone with your Higher Power reassessing your life. Try using some candles in a dark room and listening to soft comforting music. Music that you can feel the spirit moving and music that relaxes your soul. I have been there many times in my life where I did not want to do anything but stay in my bed. Also it would not be a bad idea to go to the doctor to get you something to help you to relax and to try to find yourself again. There is nothing wrong with reaching out to the medical professional for help when you are not feeling your best. I hope that you can get your joy and your inner peace of mind back my fiend. Hang in there my friend.
When I have no passion or drive I've learned to take a personal day to recharge (if possible) I pamper myself and treat myself like a friend. I revise my goals, go for a walk, take a nap, play a round of disc golf, enjoy nature. If not possible i listen to music, and if needed have a cry day - watch some sad movies and let it all out. It helps! Other times i reach out to my friends or family and try to see other points of view. At the end, I just need to do this for myself and I have to have me to be kind to myself. Remind myself of what my dreams are and keep on keeping on.
Choose 1 thing that requires the least effort possible but it might still be something that would make you feel happier/somewhat productive to have done it - it could be something as small as taking a shower. Let yourself feel happy about having done it and try to let that spur you on to the next thing, if you feel up to it. Most important thing: try not to be overly self-critical, as that will only make it even harder for you to do something. Everyone has hard times, and there's no need to punish yourself if you find yourself struggling to motivate.
Based on my personal experience, it is very challenging to get out of that rut when you have no passion or drive. Sometimes it may be situational, or do you to medical diagnoses such as depression. One of the first things I do is reach out to somebody that I trust, who is a good listener and offers words of encouragement. Sometimes it’s something as simple as someone reminding me that I am worthy and I can do something, even when my brain tells me otherwise. That’s why I think 7 cups is a great steppingstone for someone with no passion or drive to at least get started. It takes courage to get online and talk to someone anonymously about my downfalls or lack of drive and talking it out can be motivating in itself.
When I feel like I have no passion or drive, there are a few tips that I employ to try and bring it back. 1. Write it out. When I don't know how to move forward, if I don't feel particularly motivated to do anything, I free-write. I open a document, or get out my journal and stream-of-consciousness my way to some answers. If I don't know what I say, that's how I start! "I don't even know what to say right now, but I feel like I'm out of mojo." I follow the path for 750ish words, and see what comes out. (If that's nothing, that's totally fine too.) 2. SING. Playing music I love, and singing along gets me to a place with more rhythm. Literally! If you can sing your favorite driving song at the top of your lungs, and not have a slightly higher vibe, never fear, we have more ideas. 3. Talk to someone. If I'm really struggling with feeling down, it can really help to chat with a listener. That can be here on 7Cups, or it can be a close friend or relative. It's good to express what's going on for you. 4. Take a shower. Sometimes when I'm at a loss for how to get going in my day, whether it be that I need to be more productive, or try and feel better than I do in that moment, a great way to reset is to take a shower. Even if I don't feel like it! Sometimes it sounds like a lot of work when I'm feeling down, but once I'm in there, I'm pretty sure I'll just move in, that water is so soothing. A shower is a great way to reboot your system, and begin again.
You probably think or feel that you do not have any passion or drive because you have not found it yet. My advice is to try different new things, who knows, even the craziest things could turn out to be your passion, things you've never considered before. You will never know unless you try. You can also look at what you have enjoyed in the past, the things that made you joyful in the past can often times be something that is directly or indirectly related to your true passion or drive. I hope this helps you in some way.
When I have no passion or drive I try to find something that will motivate me. I think about everything I have been through and realize if I stop now, I did all of that work for nothing. I always remind my self that no matter what I cannot give up. I need to keep going to prove to others and myself that I can do anything. I always tell myself that everything is temporary even bad things. This help me to realize that no matter what happens it will always work out in the end and everything will be fine.
I once watched a video of Elizabeth Gilbert talking about having curiosity instead of passion. She said that not everyone has or feels passion or knows what their passion is. Passion can also be a very fiery, burning thing, while as curiosity is much more gentle. If you can just do things that make you curious or read about it or try things, follow your curiosity it's an easier thing to do. It's as if there is less pressure with curiosity. You can just try something or check it out and if you don't like it then you can just change direction again. No damage done. Maybe that is just something you can consider or think about instead of feeling that you have to have passion or drive.
I grab a piece of paper and some crayons and colored pens. I take a deep breath, and then, using the crayons and pens, I let my emotions spill out onto the page. The messy colorful scribble done without thought often helps to clear up that creative block. Once that creative block has turned into a galaxy of vivid technicolor scrawl, I turn my attention towards either what I need to work on or something I'm passionate about wanting to create. Whether it's a blank canvas or a new Adobe project, I now sit in front of it, take a deep breath, and let the creativity and passion flow once more.
When I have no passion or drive, I stop and think of all the things that make my life worth living and then I put the strength that I get from that into my drive to complete things. If that doesn't work then I will message a friend or family member and talk to them about it and the are if we can hang out to maybe help motivate the fact that there is always a reason to keep going and to do things. And lastly if that doesn't work I will give myself some time to think about everything before continuing on.
Find your passion, and act towards fulfilling it. If it's not now then when! Normally, we tend to delay things because we think it is not the right time, because we think that we are not ready to pursue our dreams yet. We leave our plans, goals, and dreams to later when we get less busy, when the right time comes, or when the right person shows up. But what if that right time never comes, what if we never get less busy, what if suddenly we have to leave this world? Sometimes we get very clear on our passion, on our personal vision, and on our dream. But something is missing. It is Action. We have lots of plans but we are not taking a step toward accomplishing what we want to do. We delay things because we think it is not the right time yet. The message: don’t leave your dreams to later because later may never come. Things are happening suddenly and who knows may be in the next few years this cycle of the world would come to an end and that time it would be too late to regret because we would not get another chance. If you think you are too busy and do not have time to think about your dream and do something about it now, my suggestion to you is to get up early. Don’t miss the power in getting up early. Start with waking up one hour earlier than your normal wake up every day. You will see how positive the impact would be on your progress in life. Find what you love and do it. Find your passion and act toward fulfilling it. If you don’t do it, it will never get done and you will never be satisfied.
I hear you. Burnout happens to best of us. It sucks when you have a lot of things you should be doing but you have no desire to start doing them at all. When I feel this way, I like to just take a step back and think about how I’m feeling. Sometimes doing nothing and just being with yourself for a while can be even more beneficial than forcing yourself to get up and do something you don’t want to do! Take this as an opportunity to practice some self-awareness and mindfulness, and then talk to someone about how you’re feeling. I hope this helps! Remember that you can always come to 7Cups if you need a listening ear.
The thing about your question that makes me sad is the last line- “I feel like I have no purpose.” I also feel like there is an implied “should” in your statements- like as if you “should” have passion. Having worked with people who have extreme passion about what they do I can tell you there is a negative side to it- they just can’t see things from other people’s points of view. They will tell you they can’t possibly be bothered to work on anything other than their pet project, even if that puts you in the lurch. I have to say when I read other people’s Quora posts about how when screening future employees they look for people with passion- I cringe, because it can be really awful to work with people like that. They have tunnel vision that is focused on what they want and worse, they will try to convince you that what they want is THE BEST and only thing on the planet. On the other hand having diverse interests is not necessarily a bad thing. I agree with other answers on here that yes, in some situations you really need to commit to something (like being a parent), and it’s not fun to be friends with someone who is a flake. You may just be searching for the perfect thing for a while. I’m guessing you are in your 20s or 30s? Hey, people live longer now, so you have some time to figure out what you want out of life. Be true to your nature, life will reveal your true purpose. Hope that helps.
I would focus on the reasons why you should or want to do something but have no passion/drive. I would start by writing on a piece of paper what you exactly would like to achieve, write reasons why you want to achieve the particular thing, but also write things that are stopping you or are causing you to feel like you have no passion or drive. Find ways to boost your motivation :) You could do this by getting someone else to help motivate you and address the reasons why you might now be motivated. Having someone on your side is a great idea in order to achieve things in our lives! :)
I like to read my favorite books sip some tea! It always inspires me to read wordsmiths at work! I love to think about the heart of a book, and take it into my heart if that makes sense. I love to read and it clams me. Tea does to. If you are a little nerd like me I highly suggest doing this? Do you have a favorite book? Why is it your favorite? Sometimes just living in a different world for a little help me think of what to do in the real world! It’s a little time to think.
When you have no passion or drive you go back to the basics. You find the simple things in life that makes you happy or you try a number of things and see what sparks your soul and your life. Sometimes we have to go out and try different things and see what will make us happy again. It isn't always easy to do but it can be done. It also takes will power to not get complacent with not having any passion or drive. Force yourself to get out there and see what can make you happy again, what drives your passion again and what can spark the change you may need.
Evaluate as to why you have no drive. Know that you can achieve all. Life is hard but sit down and ask yourself what can I do today to make me feel motivated. What gives you motivation? Do something that makes you feel that you gave accomplished something. Everyone has their own reasons. Know that you are an important person and not just to yourself. Do something that gives you positive feeling. It could be as small as giving someone your smile of a hug . Maybe volunteer at a local charity
Maybe your mind is tired, burning yourself out especially in today's world is common. Take some time off and get recharged to get the drive back. Do something you love to do. Smile more and relax. It is okay to feel out of drive at times. Happens to the best of us. Just be at peace with yourself and things will fall in place. Take care of yourself and your mental health first. I understand it is easier said than done and we have to balance life but try to take a break every now and then so that you don't feel burnt out.
At times when I find myself lacking in passion; I try listening to motivational or powerful literary works. As I am listening to I will write down or type out lines that "speak" to me. For example a long time ago I couldn't find the motivation to do anything as I felt I wasn't being true to myself. I reached this conclusion while writing down the entirety of "Man in the Glass" by Dale Wimbrow. After coming to terms with this realization I was able to formulate a plan to cope with the lack of sense of self I was experiencing which; Thereby beginning to rekindle that inner spark of passion and drive I had been lacking.
It can be feel hard to lose passion and drive but if i do i try to see people who love me the most as much as i can, and this helps me a lot to stay on track. Surrounding yourself by good people who love and care about you is a good way to get through a stressful time and they can help you take your mind off things. Sometimes just taking a minute to yourself can also help, listening to some music and shutting off from the world for however long you need can also help to reset your mind, and remember nothing is permanent.
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