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What do you do when you have no passion or drive?

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Last Updated: 03/04/2021 at 3:56pm
What do you do when you have no passion or drive?
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Lisa Meighan, BSc Psychology (Honours)

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Hello, I am Lisa and I work in a person-centred approach mixed with cognitive behavioural therapy. I believe we all have the potential to be the best we can be.

Top Rated Answers
SophieWX
January 30th, 2020 6:02am
You keep looking until you find one! Often when people believe that they have nothing they live for, it is because their taste and interest are niche enough that they have not yet encountered anything that would spark their interest. Perhaps what would excite you is so incredibly unorthodox that you'll have to dig a while to find it. Or perhaps it is simply because you might have developed baseless expectations and your past interests simply didn't live up to them. Reevaluate your beliefs and keep looking for interesting things, dig around, try a little of everything. And if none of that works, make looking for drive your passion.
SebasSchaepe
February 7th, 2020 11:17pm
Believe me, everyone has a passion! You may have not found it yet... keep looking!!! Try everything: arts, sports, writing, taking some classes... until you find something you love! Just remember: Always keep trying. I didn't have a passion either until e.g. I found volunteering and online volunteering, I love helping people, I am sure you love doing something too. Don't worry a lot, the time will come and you will notice when it is here.
AmyJay
February 13th, 2020 9:43pm
When I have no passion or drive, the best medicine I have found is to put something on my calendar that I can look forward to in the future. Something even better is to schedule an appointment for therapy. When I have something on my calendar that I look forward to, it helps me feel some hope and some excitement for what is to come. For example, currently, in April I have a larping event I am sO excited to go to, and at the end of February I have another therapy appointment and I get to see my test results! I am very eager for these two things and knowing they are coming up makes me feel a lot better.
sunshineMelody2530
February 19th, 2020 6:44pm
Usually I stop and think about what I have enjoyed earlier. Or I make it exciting by trying something new. Like learning a different language or starting a new music instrument. Usually the hardest step for me is actually getting started; however, once motivated the drive usually comes. The feeling of being wanted or needed is a good one, and it starts with our own initiative. Do you have hobbies you enjoy, or ones perhaps you would like to try? Perhaps going for a small walk with a friend.
zenjennx
February 28th, 2020 2:15am
I go outside for a walk and reconnect with nature. Listening to the wind blow through the trees or watching birds re energizes me to do more and be proactive. I leave my phone at home to get some downtime from being connected to the world. I plan my next adventure or challenge and go through the steps to make it successful. Just being in nature makes me feel more myself, grounded, centered, and happy overall. I get worn out easily after being around a lot of people so secluded woods are my favorite spots to be in. Happy in nature!
dxphne
March 18th, 2020 4:50pm
I always try to kind of 'force' myself to get ready, dress up a little so you feel more confident and then go out for a walk in nature whilst talking to someone or just listening to music. I always find myself feeling much better afterwards. Remember that it's okay to have off-days, everyone feels like that sometimes. If it happens a lot I would try to track it and see what might causes it and what 'solutions' work best for you. Try to make yourself as comfortable as possible so you'll feel the best about yourself as you possibly can.
Anonymous
March 23rd, 2020 1:41am
I usually will wait. I allow myself to take a day to do nothing and to give my mind to time and space to build up its motivation on its own. Usually during these days, all I'll do is maybe eat something small, take a long shower, etc. Then, the next day, I make sure that I get up and start doing something. Sometimes its doing my makeup for no reason, or cooking, or doing homework, but I do something. Usually after doing a few small things here and there, I'll find myself slowing gaining back some of that lost passion.
Samueljay
March 28th, 2020 4:18pm
from the research I have done. Passionate people go out and get it done. “Passion is the genesis of genius.” – Tony Robbins Passionate people live every day with the anticipation of great things. The passionate are committed to eliminate anything that holds them back from what they most desire. “Nothing great in the world has ever been accomplished without passion.” – Georg Wilhelm Friedrich Hegel People with passion always want to offer their best to the world. Passionate people are great coaches and motivators. They often care deeply for others and do everything they can to help them succeed. Most passionate people who follow their life longings are happy and fulfilled individuals. They focus on their blessings and give back to others.
Anonymous
March 30th, 2020 10:28pm
Well, let's start with addressing the obvious - that you, or others, may have depression, and may or may not be getting help to manage your depression. This will take time. Be patient. Next steps. In the meantime. Addressing the lack of passion or drive. I won't try to say this is a cure-all, but it does help. Changing your outlook. Now, this isn't going to happen overnight either, and it can be a difficult thing to do when you don't *want* to change. But you're asking for help, and that tells me, that even an itty bitty part of you wants to change. And that's great! Changing your outlook. Let's start with seeing things as they are, yes? No passion or drive. Okay. Blank slate. Blank page. Perfect. Do you see what that means? That the whole entire world is open to you. You get to choose whatever you want, do and learn whatever you want. You get to experiment, try new things, discover what turns you on! The world is your oyster. There are websites like FutureLearn and Coursera that offer free courses, with open end dates, the ability to re-start or even re-take the courses once you complete them. You can browse these and see if anything strikes your fancy. There are academic courses, art courses, philosophy! There's YouTube, of course. Or even Reddit. Documentaries on Netflix! I doubt you truly don't have any passions or drives. Perhaps you haven't discovered them yet, or haven't explored them. maybe there were things you were interested in, that people told you, 'no, not that!' Maybe you truly are a fresh canvas. And that's okay too. Try to make a list of things you're curious about. Whether they're physical or academic. Curiosity is often how I discover new passions. Ask questions. Do research. Fall down internet holes. Don't stress about it. Let it happen organically. Let your mind wander. I'm sure you'll find something that'll strike you. Good luck!
chayab
April 24th, 2020 4:53am
It is really hard to do anything when we have no drive to do it! I would say, to find something new that we really love, whether it be playing an instrument, or anything else like that! once you find something you love to do, you will WANT to do it. and that will slowly lead you to doing other things! Good luck
Anonymous
April 24th, 2020 10:27pm
I like to think about possible explanations for my lack of motivation. Then, once I can generate a list of reasons, I like to tackle them one by one, little by little. This helps give continual feelings of satisfaction and encourages motivation. Attainable goals is key for boosting motivation, since it can become almost addicting when each one is achieved. It also helps to have a concrete representation of what's holding you back, so then you can physically destroy it and move on from it. It's not only an emotional release this way, but becomes manageable and visible.
sweetOcean8732
May 14th, 2020 12:16pm
Try something new, an activity that you have some interest in. Sometimes a change can help revive passions or gain motivation that can be channelled into different areas. Start small, but it is helpful to develop habits, no matter how small, whether it be writing a journal, exercise, meditation or anything else. Also, what helps me is getting a clear workplace or area - this can be doing a declutter or just cleaning your area to clear your mindset, which gives me more passion and motivation. It is good that you want to get out of this rut, it is just important to make that first leap and then make habits out of that.
Anonymous
May 20th, 2020 6:15am
I ususally find something that I love to do. I go read a book that I loved or I play guitar. I may draw or write poetry, depending on the time I have. People often feel no motivation or passion, and it's a completely normal thing. The best way for me to get through it is do something that I love or talk to friends about it. Confiding in somebody when things go badly is a really comforting thing to do. I'll even go on 7 Cups and talk to some people about what's happening, or I'll talk to the people that I'm friends with on here. :)
Anonymous
May 20th, 2020 2:10pm
When I have no passion or drive, I take a moment to reset my mindset by going for a walk on the beach. Then asking myself how can I get through this? Reflecting on the events leading up to now help me get over this "bump in the road". The lack of passion is completely normal, and everyone experiences it at least once in their life. Resetting and re-establishing your interests, goals, reminding yourself how you got here in the first place, and just taking a moment to step back from reality and releasing the weight of world on your shoulders is the next step in regaining that drive to press forward and work through a difficult time.
lovingWaterfall
June 12th, 2020 11:04am
Everyone will have a feeling like this at some point of their life. When I feel like I have no passion or drive for life, I would like to explore new things. I will try to find which makes me feel good and excited. And list out the things I am interested. I will find that I am good at them or not. I mean I will try to find which stage i am with that particular thing. And based on that I will try to find the realistic passion of my life. If not I will continue explore things until I find something that makes me feel good and enthusiastic. Keep Exploring yourself !! Good day !
eternalMusic21
June 14th, 2020 8:16pm
I remind myself that the passion comes after the action, if i wait for my emotions to get aligned with my intentions, ill just end up wasting time. So ill just start small, and then most of the time i get the emotion afterwords. As for long term passion or meaning, that too has similar approach from me. I feel like what we do regularly becomes our passion unless if some subconscious barriers are involved, in which case it becomes somewhat tough. It is a good practice though to keep looking for subconscious barriers and then trying to find a solution to them.
wonderousPenguin
June 18th, 2020 2:57pm
I think this is something everyone feels from time to time. It's like being stuck in mud- once you feel that way, it can be hard to come out of it. However, one way to look at it is to see this an opportunity to find new passions and drives you otherwise didn't know you had. Start by thinking about the things that perhaps you like to do anyway, as those are things that will motivate you. Then perhaps take small steps everyday to spend your time with activities you like and appreciate. When you do these things, try to be mindful at the same time you're doing them. Really try to focus on the task, even if your mind does begin to think you aren't fully passionate or driven towards it. If anything, doing this will help clarify exactly what you like as a hobby and something you could engage yourself in more. Having passion and drive isn't something that you can magic overnight. Be kind to yourself and give yourself time to think about what you really want to invest yourself in.
EnchantingIcicle99
June 24th, 2020 2:47pm
You take a break. you relax and let everything go and you focus on you and only you. You learn to take a break to breathe. Maybe even start meditation. you clear your mind from anything that bothers you or keeps buzzing through your mind. You try doing some of things you used to like, maybe watch a series you love, draw, read, listen to the singer/band you love. You maybe cook, watch sunrise when everything is quiet. You go for walks and focus on breathing to relax. How you feel is common and there is nothing wrong with it. we are humans not robots, with the current worldwide pandemic situation, it is okay to feel overwhelmed and demotivated to do anything. So you just take a break, and focus on you relaxing and as time goes buy you'll start feeling like yourself again.
VerseArt
July 25th, 2020 8:12am
Try new things. You will definitely find something you are passionate about. Something that will eventually become your Ikigai- Reason to wake up from the bed in the morning. There must be something that you always wanted to do but couldn't. So, this is the time to try it. Give it a go. Who knows what you might like doing so much that it eventually becomes your passion, your drive at the end of the day. And just remember these wise words from a very wise person- Either you do what you love or you love what you do. Take care!
Anonymous
July 30th, 2020 9:13pm
You've gotta really lean into the lack of ambition. Take advantage of the sort of numb state your in and just mindlessly do something even somewhat productive. Like just read and whenever you wanna stop reading just force lean into the fact that you have no drive to do anything so you may as well just continue to mindlessly read this book. It might be kinda confusing, I'm not sure but yeah lean into it. You don't need passion to do stuff, you can do stuff without drive. Try to let go of the stigma surrounding "lack of drive" and just mindlessly do something.
Duetelll
September 6th, 2020 7:58pm
I partake in the little things in life, and appreciate even the small steps I achieve to move forward, even as simple as getting up in the morning. Sometimes it feels like I don’t have motivation to do anything, so I start with smaller tasks, and reward myself for completing them. Rewarding yourself for completing tasks boosts self esteem, and self esteem is such an important component of motivation and drive. I always remind myself it is okay to not feel super motivated some days, and that when feeling a lack of motivation, it’s a huge accomplishment when I get even small things done. I remind myself that it is okay to move at your own pace.
justcallmeBee
September 9th, 2020 11:45pm
I either pet my dog or reach out to my mom, sister, or best friend. I find that talking about my lack of drive and what's behind it to be helpful. Each of them have a way of getting me to discuss what's really bothering me. This is something that I have done since I was little. It may feel like talking in circles but it ends up making sense to me. Each of them are the best support system I could ask for and they each offer me support in their own way :)
AIRNSWCULA
September 12th, 2020 9:41pm
When you have no passion or drive, you have to know what passion feels like to you, learn what passion means to you. Nobody is perfect and you do not always have to feel or be able to pursue passion. Life happens and we get busy. People struggle to commit to something they believe was a passion. You can be passionate when you are ready to purse them. Just because you haven't been able to dedicate every spare second you have to something, does not mean you cannot be passionate about it. If you look for perfection in a passion, you will never find it.
Anonymous
September 13th, 2020 2:41am
Not having a reason to do anything and not having motivation can be a factor in having no passion or drive. Finding the small things in life that make you happy, discovering new things, focusing on the things worth living for can give new energy and new motivation into going about day to day life. It won't happen overnight, but enjoying activities can also happen through a fake it till you make it method, push yourself the extra mile until it comes naturally eventually. It's not simple and not having passion can suck all the will and motivation out of life, but it's not permanent
caringBerry61
September 16th, 2020 8:16pm
First of all I sit calmly and breathe, simply, whether to force the breath or do anything strange. Then when my mind is calm I ask myself: "What would I like to do today to be happy? Is there something that I'm passionate about and that makes me feel good?" So I look for the answer to these questions among the tasks I have to do for work or for my personal pleasure. Often I find the answer that seems the best, such as exercising to keep fit and healthy, watching a film or a documentary that talks about a topic that intrigues me such as wellness, mindfulness, travel to exotic countries and so forth. Sometimes it is enough to look around and discover that there are still many books to read for my personal pleasure or because I want to learn something new related to my work. Cultivating passions is like going to the gym. The body finds its best shape only thanks to constant and disciplined practice. Passions are like muscles and thoughts: if you do appropriate exercises they improve their performance and produce positive effects on the whole body and mind. To have passions that truly engage you you must find those that make you feel good, that you do with joy, that is not a burden to you and that, above all, you are happy to cultivate because you have discovered something that changes your life for the better because you think that you deserve to be happy when you do something just for yourself.
PrincessPea247
September 20th, 2020 8:19am
Sometimes it can be helpful to take some time to check in with yourself, see how you are feeling - take a mental health day (it shorter or longer if you need!) where you can dedicate time for yourself. This is especially important in the world that we are in today, it is important that you can ensure that you are feeling safe and comfortable in your home and in your life. If you are experiencing a loss of passion/drive for a specific activity it can be useful to integrate a rewards system as you achieve certain milestones (e.g. the activity is school or work, reward yourself at the end of the day/week) to help positively reinforce your ability to complete something that you have no drive/desire to do. You may also consider switching activities to something that you may be more interested in (if this is possible - things like hobbies are a realistic thing to change). On the other hand if your lack of passion/drive is more generalised and you are struggling to get through day-to-day activities (let alone anything else), especially if this is paired with other symptoms like continued fatigue and low mood it is best to visit a healthcare professional to see if there is anything more serious (and I say 'serious' in terms of need for longer term support or solutions) underlying the lack of drive/passion.
Anonymous
September 24th, 2020 9:29pm
Pick the smallest thing I need to do and force myself to do it. Sometimes I will break other things down into several steps. I.E. I need to take a bath but can't get myself to do it. I may force myself to brush my hair, I may just force myself to fill the tub. I may try to sit in the water. I tell myself I only have to do one step, and if that's all I can manage then that's that, but many times if I fill a tub I'll at least sit in the water, and if I sit in the water I will pick up the soap. The same thing with chores, if the house needs to be cleaned I might just do the dishes if I can't make myself do them all I will be like okay do just one, or just start to unload the dishwasher. Or if the clean laundry is backed up I'll go fold one towel and put it up. Sometimes I'll put on headphones and turn on some hyper music to try to focus in on that or reward myself with something small for just getting up and walking to the mailbox.
Ribz
September 25th, 2020 4:25am
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Anonymous
September 26th, 2020 3:30pm
To be honest, i dont know.. i mostly do negative stuff. I waste time and cave in into my shell... but not that i think about it, most of these situations i could have done the least effort instead of procrastination and fear. Nowadays when i lack passion i tend to make time for self care and wellness which helps me deeply and pave the way to a better tomorrow when i hopefully have a more sense of purpose and a clear goal to work towards. Hard days will pass.. all days will pass, so why not make them count?
Yati2
October 9th, 2020 3:34pm
Did we ever ask ourselves, why do I have this drive this passion? We enjoy it and never question it. Its a simple of way to saying human's like movement and standstill seems like tough time. That being said instead of asking why, feel what is it have no passion, from your own point of view, not by comparing yourself with anyone else. Person with no drive still feels hungry, fall asleep, and rest of the daily chores. So this question will come from a person having a desire but no passion to going after it. Really question here is whats wrong with having no passion? Its not permanent anyways.