What does depression feel like?
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It is as though the world hates you and you cannot find a way to make things better, no matter how hard you try to make things right. It's as though you are rollerblading through marbles. There's always one tiny little marble that will ruin the whole journey and you can't help but consider every freakin' marble in your path.
Anonymous
November 24th, 2015 11:37pm
I have severe depression. And to be honest with you, I'm not going to sugar-coat it, because society seems to romanticise it, but it really isn't a good feeling at all. your days seem long and dark; at the back of your mind you can feel something there pestering you and trying to overshadow you like some kind of beast. when you have depression you have to fight that shadow everyday just to make it seem like you're totally fine. anxiety on the other hand, i'll give a scenario. imagine one day you woke up in a country you've never been to before, you don't know anybody, you have nothing but the clothes on your back, and you have to find your way to make a living and talk to people you have NEVER seen before. it's kind of like that, but every single day.
that's what it's like to have depression and anxiety.
For me, anxiety is feeling like you can't get out. Just can't. No matter how hard you try. Like you're always skipping a step on this huge staircase and you can't reach the top or bottom.
Anonymous
November 30th, 2015 7:23am
I cannot speak for depression but I know that anxiety is where you are constantly worried or stressed out about things.
It's when you thing of everything you have to do but you can't get yourself out of bed. It's being on edge 24-7 yet all you do is lie in bed and watch the problems grow around you into monsters. Your chest hurts and your mind never slows down.
anxiety like being on edge and worrying about the littlest things and not knowing how to calm down and relax your body and wanting to get things done yet with depression is like having no motivation to do anything and feeling either nothing or everything.
Depression - is debilitating and distorts our outlook on ourselves and life in general. It makes us feel weak, exhausted, sad, hopeless and gives us body aches and tension. It takes away the joy of enjoying the things we once liked to do and isolates us and we become moody, irritable and angry.
Anxiety - makes us feel anxious, nauseas, paranoid, afraid, our hearts beats fast, we have sweaty palms, and we can be terrifying. It makes us avoid going outside and socializing.
Anonymous
December 12th, 2015 8:01am
you feel like you've lost control of your mind and your body and that the depression is getting the better of you
I'm not going to lie, it's brutal. Anxiety makes you fear everything you do and makes you paranoid about every little thing that happens. And then depression comes in and makes sure that you think you are a worthless freak who can't stop worrying. It truly is awful to have both and my heart goes out to all the other people with both depression and Anxiety.
When you are afraid, or feeling sad, you often have a reason for having those feelings. For example you can be afraid of a test, or feel sad after hearing a bad message . With anxiety or depression, it's the same thing. The difference is: You can't think of an obvious reason. You just have those feelings.
It is different for each person. For me, having depression is a state where I am forced to slow down and develop compassion and patience for myself as I allow myself to heal. For me, having anxiety creates an opportunity to overcome fear and develop yet another victory to remind myself why I am worthy of love.
It's lonely. It feels like no one understands or actually cares about you... that you're a horrible person and that deep down you believe you deserve the worst life can bring.... "just because"
Everyone experiences those feelings. For some, Depression can feel like a heavy fog or weight that is blanketing you. Anxiety can feel like pins and needles and a constant state of hyper mental activity.
Anonymous
December 16th, 2015 1:38pm
anxiety could lead to depression and depression could cause anxiety. it is quite inter related. being anxious makes you think negatively which makes you depressed
it is...laying in bed before you start your day and telling yourself that you don't care, you don't care if you fail or if you get fired. Then from the back of your head you head " Yes you do and here is 347 reasons why."
A meme summed it up perfectly for me. Having depression is not caring at all. Having anxiety is caring too much. Having them both is the ultimate battle within ones self.
It's not a fun experience. As someone who has them both, the anxiety portion is being hours awake in bed wondering if my boyfriend of 2 years still loves me and if I'm going to do well on that test next month. With depression on top of it, it's thinking that you aren't good enough for anyone and that you will indefinitely fail. Having anxiety and depression is driving several hours just to see a good counselor for half an hour and paying for expensive medications that will only start working 6 weeks of being on them, with slim chances of working at all. It's something I wouldn't wish on anyone.
Most often than not, depression and anxiety go hand in hand. The overpowering feeling of being depressed can make a person anxious of meeting new people, going out or even doing basic household tasks. Persons living with depression constantly faces criticism from themselves. They feel inferior and constantly blame themselves for their sadness. People suffering from depression and anxiety are not always depressed or anxious. The feeling change for a period of time and then return. Due to this, many patients do not choose to socialize due to their fluctuating behaviour. If we can treat a person with depression and anxiety the same way as we treat a person with a sprain or a broken arm, we can help them more than we think.
Anonymous
December 19th, 2015 1:22am
you think you have one? if not, don't even try to find out what that's like, because you are so lucky. if you do, then tell me the symptoms, I can't cure you but I can tell you if you need to see a doctor.
Anonymous
December 19th, 2015 4:18am
It's like feeling completely alone. Depression feels like I'm completely alone and no body can ever understand me, and then the anxiety kicks in and I'm too afraid to try to reach out. It's like I"m locked in a cage, but I'm the one who has the key. I just can't bring myself to let myself out.
Well I didn't know what it was at first.i thought it was my heart or blood pressure.onve I realised I got some help with how to deal with it.
Anonymous
December 19th, 2015 11:58am
Like you're not the one you were once. It's like agony but drowning at the same time. You sometimes feel that you need help but you never want to say it ti yourself.
Having depression and anxiety is very hard to cope with because one part of you wants to succeed and do well, but the other part of you is not motivated enough and feels like nothing is worth doing as it all ends up meaningless. It feels like you don't want to do anything and you do not care for the consequences. However, you're in a state of constant panic and anxiety as you have a fear of failing. When coping with this it's important to reach out for help. That's what we are for!
Anonymous
December 19th, 2015 8:53pm
It's like being trapped in a cage with the door open, but you dont have the courage to walk out the door and you sit and resent yourself for it.
Anxiety makes you scared and worried to do anything, even as small as going outside or going to a public place (for me anyway) and so anxiety keeps you inside a lot and for me, it makes me a social hermit (meaning I can't take the first step to talk to someone in person, I get too nervous) So that results to not going out, not talking to anyone, being scared to go out of your comfort bubble and doing something and so that eventually turns in to depression, (once again, for me. Everyone deals with it differently) and depression for me is when all of you energy has been drained out and you have no motivation to do anything and all you can do is think about how terrible your life is at the moment. And all you can do is focus on the negative.
Imagine living in a world where you're not interested by anything, where you have no energy or emotion left to do anything or care about anything. Living in this gray scale world leaves you with no joy or love but just your own brain constantly thinking about whats coming or whats happened, always worried about whats around the corner.
Anonymous
December 20th, 2015 2:16am
Over thinking things, not able do work on what you want to do, thinking in all-our-nothing terms and thinking everything is your fault
When depressed, people stop to enjoy things. They don't talk much. They avoid social life. Sometimes they stop eating and get angry on little things. Their life becomes a small place with full of darkness and sorrow and lonliness. Some people always keep thinking of ending their life.
It's not a fun feeling. Depression makes me feel like I have nothing inside and I'm just sad. Some people experience it worse than others. But as for me when I really had it, it was bad and I even thought about suicide. I'm better now and I got stronger from it.
Anxiety and depression are like bff's. They both work together to make life tough. It's a challenge.
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