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What does depression feel like?

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What does depression feel like?
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EnchantingFairy
January 17th, 2016 2:54pm
Not fun! For the most part, when you suffer from anxiety and depression, you can't quite understand it. So you spend a lot of time in distress, trying to figure out why you feel the way you feel but still having no answer, which makes you even more depressed and anxious. For me, the usuals are: everything in my life is working out right now, why do I feel so down in the dumps all the time? I have known these people for many years, why is it that spending time with them makes me shake so much I can't talk? It's all so complicated, and frankly, difficult to explain. But with the right tools, you can learn to lessen their effects on your life, and you can learn to manage them, and even be happy!
Anonymous
January 19th, 2016 12:00am
Depression is like your drowning but you can see everyone around you breathing. Anxiety is worrying about EVERYTHING ALL THE TIME.
Anonymous
January 20th, 2016 1:34am
Having depression and anxiety can be very challenging. Its like having two switches in the back of your head that go off whenever they feel like it. It isn't something you can 100% control, but you can try. Anxiety and depression are two totally different things, so to have both makes like harder. Depression can make you sad, and lonely. Then there's anxiety that makes you anxious about everything. They both can be different for everyone, but that's what its like for me.
Plubly
January 21st, 2016 10:46am
Having depression and anxiety can be a struggle, depression means it's hard to care about things, but anxiety means you care about everything.
happyblueberries
January 21st, 2016 5:31pm
Having a combination of depression and anxiety is one of the worst feelings ever. Sometimes it's a drag just to get myself out of bed, to socialize, or attend classes. But it does get better, there are up days and there are down days.
CloudRider
January 21st, 2016 5:35pm
It's feeling everything and nothing, it's feeling like you don't want to talk to people but being to scared not to
selfpositivityxo
January 22nd, 2016 4:46am
Some days are better than others, but just have to cope positively and try your best to go about your day
wecanbeheroes
January 23rd, 2016 3:53pm
Having depression and anxiety it's a very serious situation and should not be taken as "just a season". If you feel like you could have depression and anxiety you should look for professional help.
BlaireMack198
January 23rd, 2016 11:16pm
Well I have both and it's really hard, for me personally depression feels like I'm drowning but I see everyone else around me happy and breathing just fine, and anxiety... the panic attacks are the worst part for me. Basically it's really awful but I always pull through and that's how I know everything will be okay (:
LilithPA
January 24th, 2016 3:10pm
Personally i feel it's like you've stopped in time and don't know how to start it back so you worry.
ChinitaPanget
January 24th, 2016 4:37pm
Depression is living in a body that fights to survive with a mind that tries to die. And anxiety which is worst that can ruined everything in your life, ruined opportunities you can have and leads you being depressed. And people with anxiety probably suffering with depression too. Totally it actually feels like drowning.
Anonymous
January 27th, 2016 10:55am
Depression and anxiety make you feel like you are alone and like no one cares about you. But there are always people who will listen
lexieejolleen
January 28th, 2016 9:12pm
What's it like? It's like being trapped in a dark room with no windows or doors, the walls are slowly caving in. Or its like your life is being swept out from under your feet.
caringUnicorn15
January 29th, 2016 2:05am
depression and anxiety can be very hard, but with help and support is it very easy to overcome it is a mental though that you think you aren't good enough but you should think to yourself why do i feel like this? why am i letting this factor affect my life? but there is no possible answer when your going through this.. this is why you should never go through this alone. because being depressed is very hard i have tried to commit suicide 3 times but when it gets to that stage you think.. im not going to let this control me anymore
Anonymous
January 30th, 2016 6:31pm
For me it feels like i'm almost always sad. I feel very tired most of the time. Its hard to hide my feelings from my friends, I constantly have to hide behind a fake smile. My self esteem is very low. I find that having caring friends gives my hope that I can improve.
blanket7
January 31st, 2016 1:48am
It's a vicious cycle of caring too much and caring too little, it isn't fun. Anxiety is usually the cause of depression in this case.
FindYourStrength01
February 4th, 2016 3:19am
I think we've all felt these things once in our lives. If you think back you might be able to reflect on something that has made you feel like this.
Anonymous
February 5th, 2016 11:33pm
Like you have a monster that follows you everyday, everywhere. You try to keep out but you can't
supportiveSunshine57
February 6th, 2016 8:30pm
It's like being worried about something all the time, but not having the motivation to do anything all at once.
CallMeMeow
February 7th, 2016 5:22am
To have depression is to not care what people think of you, to have anxiety is caring too much what people think of you. The anxiety half is constantly arguing that no matter what you do, people will never like you, you'll never make any friends, or if you do, you'll scare them away with your actions or your words. It makes you too nervous to talk or move, and when people fuss over you, it makes you feel like your burdening them by being there. Having depression can be the same or the opposite, and it can change hourly. Depression makes you feel like your worthless, that no one cares about you, not even yourself. Sometimes your depression and anxiety mix to create the worst type of sadness you can experience. It makes your innards twist and overwhelms your brain and sometimes you just can't take it anymore, so you take your own life. People with depression and anxiety at the same time have the worst ways if dealing with emotions, and they know that, and deal with them anyway. That is what its like to live with the constant fear that everything will overwhelm you and you'll just break down in front of everybody, which goes into a full circle of your anxiety and burdening people with your problems.
Anonymous
February 7th, 2016 9:07am
Well it's actually really hard because when other people find out they don't want to be friends with someone who has a mental illness and it's hard being a loner. It's also hard to be around others and go to school because of the amount of people. it's so fustrating to get anxiety attacks in the middle of class and everyone look at you like your a weirdo. It's hard being judged.
LidiaEvans
February 7th, 2016 6:37pm
Locked. Lost. Sensitive. And whatever you do you can't feel okay. You can not smile, unless it's a fake smile. Do you feel suffocated, but you don't die. It's terrible. A body who wants to die and a heart that wants to fight.
Anonymous
February 7th, 2016 8:22pm
It is nerve wrecking and overwhelming for people who have depression and anxiety happening at certain moments.
Anonymous
February 7th, 2016 10:48pm
Paralyzing. It can completely overwhelm everything. Desires and interests can get so lost that they seem impossible. Learning to Paul through depression and anxiety feels like you are dragging weights along by your ankles and wrists, through deep sludge or high snow. It is dark there. Any light gets squelched the instant it breaks through. No one else understands anything you are thinking or feeling. Until you realize that's false and others can help you tear open the sky and reveal some light...
Lindin
March 16th, 2016 6:06am
Depression is really a mix of feelings. It can feel like nothing and everything at the same time. To summarize, depression can feel like sadness, worthlessness, anger, fear, anxiety, exhaustion, or emptiness all at the same time. And all of those emotions is tiring. It drains your energy trying to either suppress those emotions or hide them. It ends up being a cycle as one can eventually come to a point where their energy is just so low that they feel empty and when one feels empty, they can feel sad and the cycle continues.
Anonymous
March 16th, 2016 8:16am
Depression feels like you are a lost cause. It feels like you can't be helped. You feel like you've lost all hope and can't regain it and it goes on for more than 2 or 3 weeks.
RememberYouAreNotAlone
March 16th, 2016 3:16pm
To be honest depression is different for everyone and there aren't really words that can describe it but this is what it felt like for me. Depression is like a constant shadow that follows you everywhere and traps you in a corner of your mind. The shadow grows and grows even though you try to stop it but it just keeps on growing and consuming you. It feels as if the shadow was feeding on your life force and was sucking out all your energy and motivation to do anything. in the process the shadow has managed to make you feel worthless, cold, sad, alone, and like if you were just not good enough. The shadow pushes away people that love you and makes you feel as if there was no one supporting you. The shadow blinds you.
ClarionCall
March 16th, 2016 5:03pm
Most people think of depression as simply "being sad all the time." While this can be a form of depression, it can manifest in all sorts of other ways as well. Depression can feel more like apathy -- losing interest in things you usually enjoy, finding it hard to concentrate on anything, and being tired all the time or sleeping a lot. Or it can cause you to be much more irritable than usual, or to engage in reckless or self-destructive behavior. Any combination of these symptoms can be indications of depression. Everyone feels depressed sometimes -- we may be down in the dumps for a few hours, a day, or even a week. But if you feel this way all the time, you may have clinical depression and you should seek the help of a mental health professional. Please remember that if you find yourself with the urge to self harm or with thoughts of suicide, you do not have to deal with it alone. Please call the hotline at 1-800-SUICIDE, or, specifically for young people, 1-800-273-TALK.
Anonymous
March 16th, 2016 8:41pm
Depression feels like a lump in your throat and tears in your eyes without any good reason. Depression feels like tossing and turning at 3 am while you recount countless bad memories. Depression feels like loneliness despite being surrounded by people. Depression feels like a churning in your stomach and an aversion to food despite not having eaten all day. Depression feels like desperate anger that melts into sadness because there's nothing to aim it at. Depression feels like questioning the happiness you feel because you think you don't deserve it. Depression feels like a rollercoaster of ups and downs that seems more and more impossible to get out of as time goes by.
Anonymous
March 16th, 2016 11:27pm
Depression is different for everyone, but in a lot of cases it's the inabilty to motivate yourself to do anything, you feel sad for no reason, and you can't get out of bed without a struggle