What does it mean when I am unable to shed tears?

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Last Updated: 03/05/2018 at 6:49pm
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YouveCatToBeKitten
February 12th, 2015 2:46pm
I have been there, usually it is because I am too emotionally tired and so drained of all energy that I just can't even bring myself to cry. Dry crying is horrible.
Anonymous
April 10th, 2015 7:26am
You are probably feeling numb. When your body doesn't want to be upset about something, you keep it hidden.
FromBrazil
December 28th, 2015 3:44am
Sometimes you just don't have enough power to cry, it doesn't mean that you are not being hurt by this situation. You don't have to cry with oyour eyes to count it as a real cry, sometimes it hurts so bad that you can't even put it out in tears.
Elvalight
July 3rd, 2017 2:33am
Crying is something that makes us feel vulnerable, and you can actually condition yourself to not cry when you may want to in order to retain some order and try to control the situation in some way. Sometimes even when we cry, which is one of the most amazing forms of body language, some people will only get more agitated and, since we subconsciously remember this, we may learn to associate crying with making ourselves weak and only making things worse. I went through a time like this myself, and actually had to take a few years to train myself again that it's ok to cry no matter who you are and it's a natural and healthy way to make ourselves feel better. Crying is pretty amazing, and you need to sit with yourself and consider; are you trying to make yourself look strong? Has anyone made you feel worse when you cried? Are you afraid of showing an image of yourself that isn't perfect? Next time you feel sad, take yourself to a safe and relatively quiet place where you can be alone and keep reminding yourself that you're safe. Just allow things to happen as they happen, and don't try to control the situation.
kindBubbles47
May 31st, 2015 10:37pm
you may be dehydrated, but it also could be a form of emotional detachment that is causing you to be unable to cry
Anonymous
March 5th, 2018 6:49pm
It means that you have no more tears that need to be shed. It is time to move on and shed away the layer of your life that is making you upset. Fix the issue or just find something to make you better!
AndyDufresne1994
February 20th, 2017 10:32pm
Now I am not trying to be funny but it could be a physical issue if you literally have none, just saying. If you can't because you are sad. Well I got that way when the depression got past the "sad stage" and just turned to being numb. For me after being sad and miserable long enough my mind and body told me "enough is enough" and just went into stay numb phase. If this is where you are it is time to look for help. While it may feel good to just pretend you are well or your issues are no longer there, it only delays what WILL happen sooner or later.
McLarry2
May 9th, 2017 12:05pm
Crying is your body's reaction to unhappy or extremely exciting things. When/If a person is 'unable' to cry it may be a deeper problem that should be treated by a professional.
AutumnLeigh
February 12th, 2015 3:17pm
To me, it means that a situation is so overwhelming, I am blocking out the pain. I have found this isn't healthy as pain builds up whether you are blocking it or not. To cope, I will meditate on a blocked pain a little at a time so memories and feelings don't stay repressed. When I'm feeling totally incapable of feelings, I'll "trigger" a laugh or tear with favorite videos or movies.
Anonymous
September 1st, 2015 10:16pm
I have experienced an inability to shed tears when I am taking a certain class of anti-depressant. The medication evens my moods out so that I am never really exuberant, and never really miserable. It's a trade-off, but I'll gladly give up wild joy in order to avoid the depths of despair.
Ariel901
March 13th, 2015 9:58am
That it hurts too much to cry, I think everyone has a point where tears are harder than the problem that's causing them.
Anonymous
April 11th, 2017 7:17pm
Either you're so emotionally distraught that you can no longer shed tears, or the traumatic event doesn't shock you as much.
Anonymous
November 16th, 2015 2:13pm
Not everyone sheds tears. This is fine as everyone is different. You might not be able to cry for a number of reasons but the is no right or wrong answer for this. What doesn't make you cry one day might trigger you on a totally random day. It just depends on who you are as a person and the circumstances at that current time.