What if my parents are my trigger for anger/depression?
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Last Updated: 04/20/2020 at 11:10pm
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Lindsay Scheinerman, MA, LPC
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I have been in a position where my parents were a trigger for my anger and/or depression. It is hard to deal with sometimes because if you aren't moved out, you see the everyday, you live in the same household. However, when I was living with my parents before I moved out, I dealt with this issue and some of the things that helped me cope with it was music and just spending much time by myself. I found that a lot of times I would already be in an off mood due to something at school, or at work, or maybe even with friends or my relationship and I would just get so triggered by anything my parents did or said. So in this situation here is what I recommend: 1.) Take time out for yourself when you are feeling triggered. This means if you start to get agitated, as soon as you get the chance, respectfully remove yourself from said place and spend some time by yourself to cool down... 2.) Find something you can enjoy during your cool down time. Maybe it's playing an instrument, playing video games, listening to music, drawing etc. Do something that is going to let you cool down, get your mind off of everything, and allow you to think more clearly. 3.) Embrace what you are feeling and be vocal about it. I got to the point where I would bottle so much up and finally I couldn't take it anymore and I finally talked to my stepmom about how I was feeling. It sounds awkward and cheesy, but it helps you, as well as your parents, understand what is going on. If you feel angry, or depressed, don't ignore the feelings but come to acceptance that they are present and allow yourself to feel it in a healthy manner. Tell your parents, either one or both, what you are dealing with and state you are not sure why sometimes. And when you feel triggered be honest and be like, "I feel kind of upset right now, I am not sure exactly why, I may have just taken something the wrong way." The key to addressing this stuff is being respectful to your parents and being honest with yourself as well as them.... I hope this helps.
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