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What if you don't want to get over depression?

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Last Updated: 01/22/2019 at 12:08pm
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July 30th, 2015 10:17am
I understand your question perfectly well, as I asked myself the very same one for years before I got better. When depressed you often feel sad, out of energy, worthless and a little alienated from the rest of the world. This gives plenty of basis for not wanting to get over a depression - since I'm so worthless, do I even deserve to feel better? On some level, you might not want to try to get over it because it takes so much energy and it comes with a risk of failing. You might know how to live your life now, while dealing with a depression, but might find other people's behaviours strange and you're not sure how you're going to fit in as a healthy person. You might not even want to become as carefree as they seem to be! Even though these thoughts and feelings are "only in your head" they are very much real - but they're not fair to you or to other people. Nobody is better off with a depression. It's a disease that sits in your brain, and it wants to stay there! It does everything in its power to make you believe you're better off with it, but really, you're not. For me, coming to this realization took a long time and when it did, I could start working on feeling better. I truly hope you too will get there soon. You deserve happiness. Everyone deserves happiness.
July 17th, 2017 8:12pm
Depression can be like a warm snuggly blanket. That might sound strange but when you are in the dark dead space it can be so difficult to get out. Just like on a cold morning leaving a nice toasty bed can be one of the hardest things. But to live a life in a depressed state can you really call that living? So to say you wouldn´t want to get over depression can be seen as like a easy step. To stay in the darkness to not go out into the light. But I think it is worth it to leave the bed of depression. To sieze the day and the oppurtunities the light has to offer
July 2nd, 2018 1:43pm
I cannot answer your question but I can certainly empathize with how you feel. I was diagnosed with depression around two months ago after splitting with my partner. It took me a while to drag myself to the doctors who gave me medication which doesn't appear to be working. She also suggested counselling but I do not see the point in talking to people who will tell me what I already know. I'm struggling to see a way out of this and if it wasn't for my daughter I don't think I would be here now! Everyday is turmoil and I wouldn't wish this on my worst enemy.
September 22nd, 2015 10:56am
Often this is merely a manifestation of the depression itself. An important thing to think about is - What is depression doing for you? Make sure you stop and realise that there is a life outside of the feelings you are having at the moment, your depression does not define you.
December 4th, 2017 6:31pm
I think that's the main problem with depression. You don't want to do anything about it, because the depression itself is making you lazy and not at all pro-active about your well-being! Try to take things step by step. You could try making a small change- like a walk to the shop on a Sunday if you don't go out often, or to smile and make eye contact with three strangers if you usually feel self conscious and the need to blend in. Don't push yourself, or give up after a set back. And remember; you're already here looking for help. Good choice.
April 1st, 2015 11:15am
Some people can become "familiar" with depression, they may feel as if that's the only feeling they know now, and therefor don't want to take the risk of feeling something new. The 'unknown' can be scary and people get comfortable after a while; in whatever atmosphere they're in. Others may feel like it might be too hard to go through(deal with) - that depression has taken complete control over their lives and they don't have any more power to overcome it. But that's not true. Depression is definitely not an easy thing and no one should go through it, but it's not permanent. You're only going through a rough patch, and it will make you stronger afterwards (even though you may not feel that way at the moment.)There's a lot of help you can get, and you're not alone. (fact : 86% of people have experienced depression at least once in their lives and are better now.) Feel free to chat with a listener for support or visit our support forums for advice and tricks. :)
February 20th, 2017 5:35pm
It is actually a sign of depression. Sometimes we feel so powerless and unhappy we don't feel like working hard for our own life and happiness. Don't let it get you though. Once you get over it, you'll be much better.
July 28th, 2015 4:42pm
Depression drains your energy, hope, and drive, making it difficult to do what you need to feel better. But while overcoming depression isn’t quick or easy, it’s far from impossible. You can’t just will yourself to “snap out of it,” but you do have some control—even if your depression is severe and stubbornly persistent. The key is to start small and build from there. Feeling better takes time, but you can get there if you make positive choices for yourself each day.
April 23rd, 2015 12:44pm
Depression slowly makes one languish, it makes one miserable. If one does not get over it, it will harm them badly. I don't see a reason why someone would want to stay depressed, but if this happens, they should consider how depression will impact their lives. If they understand that it is for the best that they get over it, and that happiness is priceless, they should move on to getting over it, in any way this is going to happen.
June 7th, 2015 8:29pm
This is a very peculiar question. At least on the surface. I'm certainly not trying to be facetious here. But, who in their right mind would not want to come out of such a state and overcome depression? Almost no one! However, I'm certain there are those who find a certain place of safety and comfort in such a thing. As weird as that may sound, it's a fact. I've observed it with my own eyes. Zig Ziglar refers to excuses or roadblocks to success as a phenomenon he labels a 'losers limp'. I'm aware we are talking about two types of success here. We are, however, talking about the way we think interfering with what we need, want, or even don't want to accomplish. Thereby allowing excuses (distorted thinking) to make us feel better about our decisions to remain where we are. ~Ralph
January 22nd, 2019 12:08pm
That is entirely your choice. Whether you choose to get better is always the choice you get to make. If you choose not to, then try your best to not let it take complete hold of you! :) When you let it take hold you are "lost in the crowd". That can be extremely detrimental to your mental health as a whole. I understand that you do not want to get over your depression, I respect that as, like I said, is your choice. One cannot be helped if they do not want to be helped/saved. Just remember though, you cannot fill from a empty cup!
December 8th, 2015 4:13pm
then you will always feel the same ways, and nothing will ever change, it will get worse everyday, if you dont do something about it.