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What should I do if I am feeling suicidal, but don't want to tell anyone?

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Last Updated: 07/10/2020 at 10:40pm
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lovelySunshine44
January 24th, 2018 2:31pm
I've learned that talking to someone is the hardest, but best decision you can make when suicidal.
StarlitSky4762
July 10th, 2020 10:40pm
If your concern is compromising your identity: You can text a crisis text line / chat line anonymously. If you simply cannot admit that you feel suicidal (for reasons other than the fear of being institutionalized or similar practical reasons): - you can seek mental health care professional psychiatrist or psychotherapist without revealing that you feel suicidal. For example, you can tell them that you feel depressed but deny feeling suicidal or having thoughts about self-harm. - you can talk to your primary care doctor about your concerns with depression without revealing any suicidal thoughts. - you can buy a DBT skills training manual (workbook) for $23 and read it alone, privately - you can buy and use a CBT skills workbook and read it alone, privately
electricForest38
March 21st, 2020 1:51am
Take a deep breath and step away from any temptation. Do some grounding techniques - play your favourite song, count backwards from a 100, say the colour of different objects around the room out loud. Find a mantra that you can repeat to yourself when you get these thoughts. For me, I will rock back and forth and repeat to myself ' This too shall pass', to remind myself that any suffering or pain is only temporary. You should make a list of everything that you are excited about - from aspirations about the future and friends/ family you like seeing, to small things like being excited for a new movie or album or looking forward to a trip. Remind yourself that these moments are worth fighting for. Write down 5 reasons why you love yourself and your life, do not allow 'buts'. You are so incredibly strong and you CAN get through this.
Charliequelch
January 26th, 2018 7:15pm
If you are feeling suicidal, it is very important to talk about it. Even if you don't want to, you must! Just remember: Never do something permanent just because you are temporary sad.
lucyy
January 25th, 2018 12:24am
When I have felt suicidal and hopeless, I rarely want to talk to anyone about it through fear of the other person not understanding, or them saying it is only for attention, or making you feel worse about it. These can all add up and be extremely overwhelming. I like to go through the day in detail, and pick out at least three things that made me smile. Three might be a small number.. but when you feel hopeless and like you have no purpose left on this earth, smiling feels like being asked to lift the entire temple of Zeus using only one finger. Take your time and breathe. If that doesn't work, then there are always people to talk to at charities like Samaritans or Suicide.org. You are never alone in this world.
exquisiteCreature95
July 24th, 2016 7:44pm
If you are feeling suicidal and don't want to tell anyone you could write done your feeling in a journal, talk to an online therapist without using your real name, or do calming exercises that you can find online.
TALK4LOVE
July 15th, 2016 7:45pm
Write down five things you are/have been grateful for. Now take this list and analyze it carefully. Try to go back to each moment in time and process the emotion that came along with this sense of gratitude that you felt.
lovelyJewel61
January 12th, 2018 2:08am
You should look at how far you have come, how much struggle you have faced, but got through it. you should think back on the people who love you, and how it would affect them, as it would to you. think about what you have accomplished, look at what you have done through out your years. suicide may seem like the easy way out, and it may seem like the answer, but i promise you it isn't. what if you were to grow into a successful human being, you wouldn't get to experience what you could have, if you would have went through with something such as that. as much as you feel the need, look at how many people it would hurt. even if it is just family, they are people as well. they care for you, even though they may not show it everyday. i assure you there is people out there probably don't want you to die. you are strong, and you are beautiful. name out things you want to do in your life time, and think about accomplishing them. don't give up so soon because one day.. one day it will be okay.
Marribrown
September 9th, 2016 12:18pm
I know it's hard. But sometimes crying helps. Or talking to people you don't know. Online. Get things off your chest. Or maybe something you enjoy. Singing.. drawing you can express yourself in different ways
LaughtItOut
January 13th, 2017 3:20am
If you are feeling suicidal, I please urge you to reach out to someone. It can be a daunting thought to tell someone you know that you feel this way or that you feel depressed at all, due to fear of upsetting them or any other reason. But friends and family are not the only people who can help you. There are plenty of counselling websites online or over the phone. Often speaking to a stranger can be the most comforting thing to do and easy to confide in. I don't know where you live but below are a variety of numbers you can contract at any time, any day and will offer free, confidential advice or simply someone to listen to you. Samaritans: 116 123 (UK and ROI) National Suicide Prevention: 1-800-723-8255 (USA) Lifeline: 13 11 14 (AUS)
Anonymous
July 23rd, 2016 9:39pm
well first, by asking this question, you are telling "someone" that's step one of calming yourself down. its good. you can call a suicide hotline
lauradove
January 31st, 2017 5:02am
Definitely tell someone! Even though you don't want to burden them with your thoughts or you think that they may think of you differently if you tell them it doesn't matter. The majority of the time people just want to help you and they will want to help you get through it and get help! Definitely ask for help :)
Anonymous
February 26th, 2017 2:16am
You should tell someone right away, even if you don't want to. National suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255 you aren't ever alone.
BloomingSakura
March 5th, 2017 5:22am
That is seriously a complicated feeling. I would suggest for you to call the suicidal hotline. In the hotline,you can tell anything about your suicidal condition and your privacy is secured so you don't have to worry that anyone else will know about it,
Anonymous
April 6th, 2017 1:05pm
Professional help is obviously best. if you're unwilling to do that, sit down in a quiet place and introspect about these feelings. Are these feelings just a temporary low? or some sort of metaphysical depression? eg: hopelessness after a breakup VS a seemingly 'logical' disenchantment with living. I am sure after this recognition, solutions will occur naturally
Anonymous
July 8th, 2017 2:33am
While this is difficult, you should tell someone. A trusted adult who can help get you the support you need. At least call a hotline and talk to them if you're seriously considering suicide. 7 cups is another great resource to use. If you can, make an appointment with a therapist and talk to them about these feelings.
amiablePeace77
July 14th, 2017 12:03am
if not having an emergency plan, do anything which distracts you, get online support, you do not need to say you are suicidal, make your environment safe as possible, exercise, read or watch motivation videos made particularly for this feeling, try to force yourself to postpone it for at least 48 hours, go for a walk, if you have a house cat, dog or so touch them, for the future prepare an emergency journal, write down everything you like about yourself, what you like to do, plans for the future, names of friends, mayebe with a nice story
Anonymous
July 20th, 2016 6:02pm
Sit in a safe place , do not have any sharp objects at hand and do things you enjoy and try to clear your mind of all bad thoughts.
DepressionSurvivor42
July 17th, 2016 2:21am
I've been there. What I did, was I broke down these thoughts on paper. I list everything bad in my life that would in return give me a suicidal feeling. I then forced myself to list all the good things in my life. I learned from my counselor how to do this 'list' and why I should. When you have depression or any other mental disability, it disrupts the ability to think clearly. I understand the 'good' and the 'bad' feelings and can determine whether or not I should seek help. If you truly feel suicidal and you do not think you are safe, you need to call the hospital.
newyorker00
July 16th, 2016 1:45pm
Think about it over and over again. Think about our precious life being taken away by sadness.... Let us talk to one another.
Anonymous
April 8th, 2018 4:13am
If you are feeling suicidal, you should tell someone. But if you can't seem to find yourself opening up, try one of these: writing (journals, letters, and poems are pretty common venting places), chat anonymously on a site like 7cups, draw, read, or do an activity you feel happy doing. Often writing the feelings but not acting on it is the best thing to do. What you write can also be shared with others if you ever feel ready to open up.
KayyRose
July 3rd, 2016 7:22pm
If you're feeling suicidal, you really should speak to someone you trust about it. From experience, I know this will help you. However, if you're not ready to get help from someone else then distract yourself with something you enjoy doing and try to focus on positive memories and opportunities.
DavidPortugal
July 6th, 2016 11:57pm
You should call your country's hotline to get professional support. They always have very well trained persons to deal with this situation.
Anonymous
March 11th, 2020 8:30am
I am really sorry to hear you are suffering so much. If you feel suicidal and do not want to share this with people you know, it is fundamental that you reach out to appropriate help such as calling a crisis helpline. You could also call for an ambulance or go the nearest ER. You can find useful numbers and resources at suicide.org. You can also have a look at the crisis resources page here on 7Cups: https://help.7cups.com/hc/en-us/articles/360026238093-Crisis Please remember that listeners here are not trained to deal with suicidal thoughts and suicidal ideation and cannot support you the way you deserve. If you are not experiencing an ongoing crisis, but still struggling with those thoughts, therapy could definitely help you. There are a few therapists on this website that have suicidal ideation as their area of expertise.
mitchinthebox
August 12th, 2018 3:30am
ALWAYS, ALWAYS, ALWAYS tell somebody. Even if you don't want to talk to them about why you are feeling suicidal, you should always make sure somebody you know and trust is either near you or aware of the situation. Make sure that you tell them so that they can know they need to help you and be ready if you do try to do anything. If you really, really don't want anyone to know, try coming to a website like 7 Cups, or calling a hotline. Those things are anonymous, and if someone did react negatively, they couldn't do anything about it.
Lyrathefairie
July 21st, 2018 9:56am
try to find as many reasons to stay alive as you can think of, that don't make you feel guilty. Live for yourself and don't rely on other people to stay alive
stuckintime92
June 1st, 2018 6:09pm
Well done for asking for help. That's not an easy thing to do. Maybe try one of these: -Talk to a helpline. They're confidential and you'll be talking to a stranger who just want to help you, not someone who might judge you. -Do the three day challenge. See if you can get through three days without smiling. Don't try not smile, just let it happen. Any time you smile, even tiny tiny ghosts of a smile, you start again. If you do make it through three days, try another three. -Distract yourself. This feeling will pass. Start a new TV show. Read a book. Draw or write something. Garden. Listen to a song you've never heard of. Take your mind off these thoughts. Dwelling on them makes them worse. -Watch videos for suicidal thoughts. There are some amazing ones on YouTube if you find them. -Talk to someone, not necessarily about your thoughts but just talk to them. Make a new friend or chat to an old one. Arrange to meet up perhaps. -Join a new club/get a new hobby -Write a list of all the reasons to survive. Big or small. For example, new music being released or your pet being taken care of or finding out your maths test results or completing a goal -Start a gratitude journal or jar -Look for online counselling -You don't want to hear this but : Tell someone. Stay safe Your life is so so so so important. You would be so so so missed. I promise you. Keep fighting. Life will get better and you'll want to be there when it does. We care about you. We want you with us.
Quintonmb
July 14th, 2016 4:41am
The thing you can do if you are feeling suicidal is not to be ashamed of it. Mental illness is not something to hide. The stigma that correlates with mental illness is what needs to change. The best thing you can do is to ask for help from someone you trust. Seeking help can be the bravest task you can perform.
Anonymous
January 14th, 2018 10:10pm
Just think of the happy things you’ll miss out on.. like a family, fun times with your friends, parties, Netflix binge watching, a lover, other fun experiences.. you haven’t lived long enough to know the full value and hope For the future ... stay .. please.. you’re needed here... i may not know you personally but I do know that you deserve to live .. happily .. love you.... Love, nobody important:)❤️
NumberEleven
July 15th, 2016 6:40pm
Write how you feel in a journal, it can help you keep track of how you feel and why you might be feeling this way.