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What should I do if I am feeling suicidal, but don't want to tell anyone?

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Last Updated: 07/10/2020 at 10:40pm
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FruityPanda470
July 13th, 2018 7:15am
Call the national suicide hotline. They can provide help for you if you aren’t comfortable with talking to someone you know.
newday17
July 8th, 2018 7:35pm
Firstly, while I understand that you do not want to tell anyone about being suicidal, it's very important that you do. However, if you're not comfortable with talking about this with your guardians/close friends, then I recommend a crisis line. Not okay with talking on the phone? That's fine, too, there is a Crisis Textline that serves the same function and they have always been very helpful when I need them. Good luck to you. You are not alone.
Anonymous
July 8th, 2018 11:49am
Think about the good things of your life. But the most important thing is that you need help, so go for it.
Anonymous
July 6th, 2018 5:07pm
You could talk to someone from a suicide helpline/hotline so no will know who you are. However, if things become too much, please tell someone. Someone you can trust and don’t hold it in. Your life is meaningful, believe that.
gentleGrotto9119
May 5th, 2020 4:50am
Many women automatically believe that an ex ignoring them means it is because of something bad when that isn’t always the case. It may be surprising to you but your ex may be ignoring you because he actually still cares for you and has feelings for you. Breaking up with someone is a highly emotional roller coaster full of confusing emotions as you know yourself as you’re going through it yourself. Everyone reacts to breakups differently though and him ignoring you may be a way for him to heal from the breakup. While you may be ready to start talking again, he might not. He made need more time to get over it and heal before he can be ready to talk. In this instance it is important to not make this about you. It is clear that he still has hurt feelings and ignoring you is a way for him to keep his head clear to be able to think clearly.
Charlie6721
May 8th, 2020 7:34pm
If you are feeling suicidal it is very important to pin-point what is triggering these thoughts. If you know that it is serious, be sure to reach out to a suicide hotline. It is anonymous and no one in your life has to find out, however having a support system is crucial and I would highly recommend finding just one person you can trust and sharing your feelings with them. In times like this, it always feels worse to be alone and feel like you are misunderstood, therefore having someone you can trust who genuinely cares about your feelings, will help you overcome this battle.
Leethelion
July 1st, 2018 2:58am
I think you should really tell someone but there are also suicide hotlines to call or you can get a therapsit
delicateZebra
June 30th, 2018 11:26am
Write it all down, Sit and write how you feel, what making you feel like this and what you want to happen, Maybe put this in an envelope and give to someone you trust or go doctors and just give them the letter, You can also call the samaritins
Shanlife0010
June 29th, 2018 7:41am
Take a deep breath..pause all your sucidal thoughts..think abt how your loved gonna feel when you leave them
Anonymous
June 27th, 2018 7:59pm
In Crisis Prevention training, we are taught to find and subsequently focus on what I like to think of as suicide roadblocks. Basically, these roadblocks embody anything and everything in a person's life that will prevent them from committing suicide. Usually they include important bonds to that person or activities/things that that person enjoys. If you are ever feeling suicidal, first remember that there are people who care about you and are willing to listen and/or assist you in seeking help. Second try to focus on those suicide roadblocks to help you stay safe or maybe to convince yourself to reach out to someone.
Rellen2013
June 24th, 2018 5:39pm
If I were to ever feel suicidal and don't want to tell anyone, I start by exploring what is making me feel this way by writing down on a piece of paper a list of things that are making my life unmanageable. Then I can talk to someone about those problems I wrote down and see if that alleviates the feelings of suicide, if it doesn't I may mention that I have feelings of doing so and how might I alleviate them
Anonymous
June 20th, 2018 2:05pm
Call your national suicide hotline. Talk to your best friend. Someone you can really trust. Your parents. Sibling. We should never keep suicidal thoughts to ourselves and stigmatize it further. Suicidal thoughts are not something that go away when we hide or ignore them. On the opposite, sometimes that makes things even worse. Please know that your struggle is shared by so many others
lucywormie
May 21st, 2020 1:35am
If you’re not comfortable telling someone near you then perhaps contacting a suicide hotline would be best. If you find a specific thing is the reason for why you’re feeling this way then perhaps see if there’s a way you can help with that. Or contact a hotline that’s specific to the reason you’re feeling suicidal. Talking to somebody, no matter whom, is the best path because they can help you through it. Did something trigger you to feel this way? Is there perhaps something you can do or have done before that’s helped? A suicide hotline may be best or if you think you’re in imminent danger of harming yourself then call your national emergency line. If you’re unsure of your suicide hotline number then go to suicide.org. There’s always people there so try to reach out
NocheAzul25
June 1st, 2018 6:40am
I understand it can be scary having these feelings and thoughts, and you might feel vulnerable, or afraid to tell someone else. If you've been feeling this way though, it's very important to tell someone you trust, preferably an adult. The people in your life are there for you, and they want you to feel the best you can. It might be easier to ask a trusted teacher or guidance counselor if they have time to talk, so you have a set time instead of trying to find the 'right' moment. While it's kind of overwhelming to think about now, I'm sure they will understand and want to do nothing more than help you. Good luck to you, and everything is going to be okay :)
RafaelaZini
June 1st, 2018 5:48am
I recommend that you look in referral resources in 7 cups. There is websites and numbers to call for help, its really important that you use one of them because in this case is required a professional.
Melissame
May 26th, 2018 8:05pm
It is difficult to tell people how you feel but suicidal thoughts often do not go away on their own and should never be ignored. You should always consider telling someone, even if it is anonymously online.
enlightenedHeart75
May 26th, 2018 2:55pm
I understand that you don't feel like you wanna tell other people, but its the best thing to tell someone how you feel as it will make you let out how you feel and other people will help you not go through these tough times alone.
UntilThen
May 24th, 2018 10:50pm
There are anonymous suicide hotlines, text lines and online chats. They will not send anyone to you if you do not tell them you are about to do lethal harm to yourself. You can always just talk to them about the way you are feeling. I would also recommend having some regular self-care practices you can do if those feeling some up. This can be things like listening to music, drawing, taking a long shower, going for a walk, or whatever else may healthily relax you.
Anonymous
April 11th, 2018 2:24am
Contact a therapist or contact a suicide hotline and ask them for further advice to help manage your thoughts and feelings.
Pugsandpebbls
May 5th, 2018 6:19am
Try to calm your self, try to breath in and out deeply and thing about something that made you happy
onedirection1213
April 15th, 2018 9:53pm
https://metanoia.org/suicide/ read this!
sereneShoulder53
April 15th, 2018 9:04am
There are people who can help 1-800-273-8255 or www.suicide.org .... If you feel you will benefit from seeing a therapist but don't want to speak to your guardians about doing so there is also an online therapist available on this platform here (http://www.7cups.com/online-therapy/)
Anonymous
April 13th, 2018 1:49pm
You can call a suicide hotline: 1-800-273-8255, there you are anonumous. But I would recommend telling someone, you don't have to mention "suicide" if you feel like that is hard, but it is very important that someone knows that you're not feeling well
Anonymous
April 11th, 2018 11:36pm
Feeling suicidal is very serious, and if you feel this way, you should try to get help from a trusted friend or professional if possible. If you don't want to tell anyone and do not feel that you are at immediate risk of hurting yourself, then it might help to distract yourself until the feeling passes, maybe by talking to someone, or getting out of the house. If possible, try to be with people so you're not isolated, which can make things worse.
LucieG
April 11th, 2018 10:56pm
Please find a way to stay safe, take away the plan hat you have and get rid of what you plan to use as your method. Reach out on 7 cups, phone a confidential helpline where whatever you say will not be shared.
XenSoftly
April 7th, 2018 7:08pm
When you are feeling suicidal, you should always reach out to someone. You do not deserve to go through this alone. Please seek out someone, whether it be a parent, friend, counsellor, person in your community, or a helpline.
healingCloud74
March 30th, 2018 1:16am
Think of how amazing your life is, pause all the bad thoughts. Look in the mirror, what do you see? A beautiful self being huh? I know right :) your life is amazing and most beautiful thing! Don't let the problems get to you, there is people who care for you but you don't know it or don't want to see it. Talk to someone, talking to someone is always a good thing. I've been there and I recovered! Like I always say be your own therapy, be happy and try to think of what makes you happy ! If you think that's not working, please talk to a professional! Remember your life is amazing
AlluraNine9
April 5th, 2018 4:40am
I highly recommend keeping one of the hotline numbers handy. 7 cups has them readily available on the site. Some can be texted. Having a safe outlet is important. With that done let’s examine the why of feeling that way. Often can be something that a medical professional can be of help with and it does not have to mean medications. If you’re a child talking to a school counselor can be helpful. If you’re an adult and work many employers have assistance lines to give free or cheap counseling to employees in crisis. I have used all of these resources at one time or another. And something is almost always better than nothing.
Anonymous
April 7th, 2018 5:15am
Please please reach out to someone, anyone! You are never alone, never ever! You are enough!!! Keep pressing on!!
lightandmermaids
July 9th, 2020 10:56pm
Reaching out to a hotline might be a good idea, you can always keep anonymous and you will be able to receive professional advice and support. Personally, as someone who has struggled with this in the past, my best advice to you is to hang on -- think about the things that bring you joy or comfort or the people around you that you care about and love. Envision them. Think of how far you've come and everything that you've gone through, every obstacle that hasn't brought you down -- they're your accomplishments and you should feel proud and dignified for making it this far. You deserve to live, for better days, for happier days, for a happier you.