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What should I do if I am feeling suicidal, but don't want to tell anyone?

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Last Updated: 07/10/2020 at 10:40pm
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Charlie6721
May 8th, 2020 7:34pm
If you are feeling suicidal it is very important to pin-point what is triggering these thoughts. If you know that it is serious, be sure to reach out to a suicide hotline. It is anonymous and no one in your life has to find out, however having a support system is crucial and I would highly recommend finding just one person you can trust and sharing your feelings with them. In times like this, it always feels worse to be alone and feel like you are misunderstood, therefore having someone you can trust who genuinely cares about your feelings, will help you overcome this battle.
gentleGrotto9119
May 5th, 2020 4:50am
Many women automatically believe that an ex ignoring them means it is because of something bad when that isn’t always the case. It may be surprising to you but your ex may be ignoring you because he actually still cares for you and has feelings for you. Breaking up with someone is a highly emotional roller coaster full of confusing emotions as you know yourself as you’re going through it yourself. Everyone reacts to breakups differently though and him ignoring you may be a way for him to heal from the breakup. While you may be ready to start talking again, he might not. He made need more time to get over it and heal before he can be ready to talk. In this instance it is important to not make this about you. It is clear that he still has hurt feelings and ignoring you is a way for him to keep his head clear to be able to think clearly.
Anonymous
July 6th, 2018 5:07pm
You could talk to someone from a suicide helpline/hotline so no will know who you are. However, if things become too much, please tell someone. Someone you can trust and don’t hold it in. Your life is meaningful, believe that.
Anonymous
July 8th, 2018 11:49am
Think about the good things of your life. But the most important thing is that you need help, so go for it.
newday17
July 8th, 2018 7:35pm
Firstly, while I understand that you do not want to tell anyone about being suicidal, it's very important that you do. However, if you're not comfortable with talking about this with your guardians/close friends, then I recommend a crisis line. Not okay with talking on the phone? That's fine, too, there is a Crisis Textline that serves the same function and they have always been very helpful when I need them. Good luck to you. You are not alone.
FruityPanda470
July 13th, 2018 7:15am
Call the national suicide hotline. They can provide help for you if you aren’t comfortable with talking to someone you know.
Diya83
July 13th, 2018 5:05pm
You should try and help yourself if you feel like you don’t want to or can’t tell anyone. Whenever you feel an urge, beat it. Distract yourself in any possible way that won’t harm you and remember that you can cry it out if you need to
atenana12
July 15th, 2018 1:08pm
First of all, I want to think of happy thoughts, remember the moments when I feel like life is beautiful and think of the people around me especially those who took care, and loved me. In this method, I might be able to think clearly of what I can be and think of the best solutions in life.
Anonymous
July 15th, 2018 7:53pm
Write it down. Ripped the paper. Then throw it away to the trash. I actually talk about it to God. I’m thinking suicidal but at that time i’m thinking thousand hundred billion million whatever way not to do it. It works, for me.
MattInWonderland
July 19th, 2018 5:41pm
That's a very difficult situation to be in, and I know it first hand. Please know that there are plenty of ways that you can anonymously talk to people about these feelings (e.g. via a suicide hotline). If it is possible, it is also an option to find an impartial therapist who you can trust to keep what you say confidential. Whatever you do, don't leave it too late - even if you are feeling well, it is important that you get what you need to keep you safe in case these feeling recur in the future. Beyond that initial help, it might also be worth considering why it is that you don't want to share. Maybe it is because it is not safe to share with the people around you, or maybe it is because it is just a very scary subject to open up about, and that once you get past that it will pay off. This may be something to talk in depth about with a trusted person as mentioned earlier (therapist, hotline operator). My best wishes to you, and I hope this has helped.
KiarasDomain
April 24th, 2020 7:41pm
You could write in a journal. Or you can talk to me about this. I am here for you every single step of the way and you don't have to tell me anything you don't want to. When making hard decisions just remember I am always here and you can always talk to me. I will not judge or discriminate and never think that you are annoying or repulsive towards me. I love my job and I love helping people. I am here for everyone and I will be there for all of you as much as possible. -Burrito
Anonymous
July 25th, 2018 7:32am
I would recomend that you call an anomumus hot line and talk to someone who doesnt know you and wont judge you for expressing your feelings. I would also reccomend that you write down your feelings in a journal.
Allears247
July 25th, 2018 11:38am
I would talk to someone about it. Even if it is a complete stranger talking about it helps you mentally work through your issues. Even a 7-cups listener would do the trick.
Anonymous
July 26th, 2018 12:30am
If you are feeling suicidal, you should contact a mental health professional. If you want to remain anonymous, contact the USA’s National Suicide Prevention Hotline at 1(800)273-8255 for qualified people to help you and give advice.
Anonymous
July 26th, 2018 9:59pm
Focus What is making me happy in life and force myself to think positive daily. Avoid people that harass me, and get closeer to the one who actually care about me.
BraveWings116
July 31st, 2019 5:20pm
Although it can feel terrifying to reach out to someone about your suicidal feelings, I urge you to talk to someone. It doesn't have to be your parents if you're not comfortable with that, but could be an older sibling, a trusted teacher, a family friend, the important thing being that they are a trusted adult who you feel comfortable with. Alternatively, you can always call a suicide hotline. The reason that I really hope you do reach out to someone is because feeling suicidal is a heavy burden to bear by oneself and it only gets heavier with time. Often, even just telling someone about it can lessen that weight considerably. Telling someone will not make the feelings go away, but it will make you feel less alone and isolated. And hopefully the adult that you tell will be able to help you. A word of advice, though, if the first adult you tell does not react in the way you want and does not help you, then reach out to another trusted adult. Do not take their negative reaction personally, since suicide is a heavy topic and the individual may just not be psychologically equipped to help you. Please keep reaching out until you find the help you need.
Anonymous
January 18th, 2019 8:29am
It's very hard to get through a period where you are feeling suicidal, without extra support. Often times, those feelings are exacerbated by feelings of isolation and loneliness. The best thing to do, though it can be very hard, is to try and find hope. Find little things that make you want to stay alive and begin to see a future for yourself. It can be something you love doing or something like your favourite tv series. Just little things that help you get through the day and make you feel hopeful for the future. I read this quote once, "You don't have to feel hopeful about the future, it's enough to just be curious about what is coming." You've already come so far, and I can see you're trying very hard. You should be very proud of yourself! Better days will come.
Ashes2Ashes1984
January 30th, 2019 7:27am
I used to have the same problem. And I would like to firstly say, I am happy that you are reading this and looking for some distraction from suicide. And I will also like to add that you have nothing to be shame of because these thoughts do happen regardless of our lives and events. And I used to surround myself with friends or just one person that I care deeply for as long as I was not alone. The saying that their are safety in numbers hold truth in this case. And I would force myself to go out and do something as long as I was around others that care about me. It took me years of struggling until I had the sense of security to openly confident in someone that I had these feelings. I hope this help. Take Care
Earsopen14
February 10th, 2019 9:55pm
Try contacting a anonymous hotline. I understand how telling someone may be hard but I encourage it strongly. I hope everything turns out okay for you in the end. You got this. There are resources on the website you your use if you need them. I would also be more than happy to help or show you where they are. I am here as well and many other listeners. We all support you and want the best for you in the end. I hope this helped and that you find your way to the hotline and eventually get the nerves to tell someone.
sugarcrumbRosalina0
February 16th, 2019 4:17pm
The suicide hotline is anonymous, as far as I know. Yet, if you don't feel like using it, especially if you have anxiety/social anxiety, there's a "textline" - a hotline but in a chat version. It's much easier to talk about those things via chat to some people, so if you know someone in this situation DON'T PRESSURE THEM. It will only make it harder to go through. Instead, let them know their feelings towards calling are valid and that there's options. Same applies for yourself: don't shame yourself for being scared or intimidated. Remember you will get out of this.
Anonymous
March 28th, 2019 2:17pm
Thoughts and feelings of suicide are very serious and should be addressed. I know and understand how scary it is to approach someone and tell them you wish to end your life. If you are not comfortable talking to a trusted friend or family member, or you do not have that option, you could go to your doctor or call a helpline, there are many free confidential helplines that will make sure you get the help and treatment you deserve. If you feel as though you cannot talk to someone face to face you could write it down and hand it to them for them to read. This gives you time to collect your thoughts and for them to process what has been said
IamblessedSue
May 3rd, 2019 3:04am
If I am feeling suicidal and did not want to tell anyone close to me. I would reach out to the texting crisis line as an anonymous texter. I would ask for help and try to create a plan with a listener or crisis line counselor to keep me from engaging in the behavior. Most of the time people who feel suicidal want to reach our for help but don't know how. It is important when working as a listener or crisis counselor that one follow established procedures and check for intention, plan, means and timeline. Reaching out and talking to a person could save your life or someone else's its important that we all learn the signs of suicide.
Anonymous
May 31st, 2019 2:09pm
Write your feelings down. Cry if you want to, really helps. Think about what is making you feel this way. Is it worth it? It will be a new day tomorrow. This too will pass. I have been there it may seem like nothing will change no matter how much you think about it but it will. Go out, pick up a book, start reading or drawing or painting or whatever it is that you enjoy doing. It may seem mundane but sometimes we just need to do these mundane things to feel. Go outisde, feel the sun, feel the wind on your skin, look at the clouds and feel.
xMidnightDemon
June 9th, 2019 1:24am
I totally understand how it is to feel that way. To be suicidal and scared to tell someone. I was scared to tell anyone I knew in real, so I decided to talk to someone I met online. I tried a lot of apps and sites. It’s never good to keep it for yourself. The best way to help yourself, is talking about it. If you don’t want to tell anyone you know in real, talk to a random person. I downloaded a game where I could talk to someone. So whenever I felt depressed, sad or suicidal, I went on it and played and talked to people. So I could distract myself. I also knew people I met online months ago or even years ago. So I trusted them. I talked to them about my problems and they have been an incredible help. They were there for me and even tried to look for solutions. It helped me a lot when I talked about it, because I didn’t have to bottle up everything anymore. My advice is, talk about it. For real, just talk about it. Sometimes it feels good to talk about it with a total stranger. They don’t know you and can help you. You don’t need to feel ashamed. If you don’t want to talk about it with anyone at all, write it down. Keep a journal, write about it. Write about how you are feeling, what is causing it, etc. It helps, because you will feel relieved.
ConscientiousHarry
June 15th, 2019 2:59pm
If you don't want to tell anyone, at least try to think about anyone who you would affect if you were to suddenly disappear. Even those who don't think they are loved by anyone still have the capacity to be loved by someone. Talking to strangers is easier than talking to people you know or people face-to-face because there is no prejudice when you start to tell them why you are feeling the way you are. Keeping everything to ourselves is unhealthy, and even if we find it difficult, try and find ways to communicate with others - anyone - with how you are feeling. Don't give up hope, the world may be a dark place, but there's always a light shining at the end of the metaphorical tunnel.
Anonymous
July 3rd, 2019 9:44am
Telling someone what is going on inside your head is one of the crucial factors to healing. If you isolate yourself and don't talk to people, your condition won't get better. Sometimes pouring your heart out is a step to feeling better. No it won't stop you from feeling the way you feel but that cry for help might make the person aware of your condition and well being. Let others help you. You wont make much difference if you isolate yourself, you will just make it worse. There is nothing bad in telling people how you feel .
yancore
July 10th, 2019 6:12am
If you're feeling suicidal WITH A PLAN, it's strongly recommended that you contact The National Suicide Prevention Hotline at 1-800-273-8255. If you aren't great with calls, there's the Crisis Text line at 741-741. Don't wait to receive help. You matter. However, if you're experiencing suicidal thoughts, that's a different thing. once again, it's recommended you tell someone. It could turn into where you truly consider it. A parent, pastor, teacher, anyone. it's important. once you receive therapy, your therapist can take things from there. Once again, again, if you feel suicidal with a plan, don't hesitate to get help. listeners can only do so much. I hope you get the help you need
Sydneyohl
July 14th, 2019 5:47am
If you are ever feeling suicidal, you should seek help right away. Suicide is a serious thing. Mental health is not talked about enough these days and it should be changed. You may feel that reaching out makes you seem weak, but trust me it only makes you stronger. Reaching out to an adult or therapist can be really helpful even if you are scared to do so. Yet doing so can completely change your perspective on life for the better. Please reach out to someone for help. I believe in you! I want you to get better :) !
Parn442
July 19th, 2019 8:26pm
The first and the most important thing to do is to stay around people. NEVER BE ALONE IN SUCH A SITUATION. In fact, I'd suggest that you take some medicines to help you sleep so that you can fall asleep quickly at night and aren't left alone with your thoughts at night. Stay around people and have a general talk with them so as to divert yourself from the thoughts even if a bit. Also, sometimes it might be the case where you aren't comfortable with talking to someone you know about those thoughts. So you can talk to someone you don't know. A stranger who would actually care and help. There are many suicide helplines. You could talk to them and they will really help you. Do what you need to in order to keep yourself going. Because no matter what, those thoughts are not permanent and believe me when I say that for reasons related to experience. So just keep going for a while and leave it all up to time. Time heals everything. Even your mind. Do things that you love to do or that you 'loved' to do before and find new interests. Also, music does help. It really does help. But remember to not go with the flow of the music and then alienate yourself again. Pick your genres very cautiously if you're easily affected by art, be it any form of art.. music, acts, drawings.. whatever. Don't let it get to you no matter how much you may feel like you relate to it. Also, try to find new interests and new distractions. Reading helps too, but as I said, pick your genres carefully. Find humourous stuff and try to bring your apparently lost sense of humour appreciation back. Do everything it takes to survive because remember, you're facing this because you're a fighter. Not everyone can do this as bravely as you are and trust me when I say that you're brave because you are here, seeking for answers to this question. You, sir/ma'am, are certainly too courageous and life will welcome you once you have been in and out through it, having gained a priceless experience.
majesticSoul2608
December 21st, 2019 2:53am
Telling others is the best way to seek help. It is strongly suggested that to tell others. They cannot help you because they do not know you need it their help. However, if you really really do not want tell others. Here is some method to protect you. 1. Find 5 things that help you feel better when you are thinking about suicidal. 2. Find 5 things that can give you hope. 3. How can you make your environment safer? (For example, throw away dangerous objects/ drugs) Finally, if the above methods do not help. Please, promise me, call the emergency service. You are not alone.