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What should I do if I am feeling suicidal, but don't want to tell anyone?

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Last Updated: 07/10/2020 at 10:40pm
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August 20th, 2017 8:16am
You should immediately go on counselling and contact the national suicide prevention society. Understand that you are not alone and you are the best :)
August 20th, 2017 9:57pm
Please reach out for help. I know that it can feel really scary to tell someone how you are feeling, but know that you are not alone in this. There are many people out there who care about you (pleny who don't even know you) who won't judge you for asking for help. Please call the suicide hotline at1800-273-8255, text the crisis hotline at 741741, call 911, take yourself to the emergency room, or at the least confide in someone you trust.I know that it can feel like a really huge step, but you are worth fighting for.
September 24th, 2017 5:22am
It's understandable that telling someone may feel scary or risky etc but in the end, your safety is important. In many cases, people with suicidal thoughts don't want to die but they are usually trying to escape a problem which is permanent or achieve joy. Regardless, telling someone will help massively with getting you the help you need. I suggest calling a hotline. I wish the best for you.
October 14th, 2017 3:35am
Reach out to a suicide hot line. Sometimes it is easier to talk to a stranger. If that is something you don't want to do then surround yourself with friends and people you love... Then imagine those people and what they would be like if you were not part of their life. Think of every person that you have talked to in life and imagine the emotions you would put them thru. Put yourself in their shoes at the moment they hear you are gone...
October 18th, 2017 12:14pm
Contact your local wellbeing team for more support. If you need immediate response call the Samaritans. All professional conversations are confidential and will give you the support you need.
October 18th, 2017 4:18pm
It is extremely important you tell somebody you are close to e.g. family, as your life is important.
October 19th, 2017 6:16pm
If the "anyone" only includes people you personnaly know, I totally encourage you to call or text the Suicide Prevention Lifeline ( You can also talk with people who can relate online (including here on 7 Cups), and learn how they cope with their urges. If you don't want to talk to anyone, including people you don't know about, you can find many coping tips and "confessions" from suicidal people on the internet without needing to talk, and learn a lot for yourself. I hope this helped! Please stay strong and take care of yourself!
November 4th, 2017 6:17am
Although it's tough, getting yourself back into the headspace of thinking rationally is very important. You don't want a permanent solution to a temporary problem, as cliche as that sounds. Keeping suicidal thoughts and feelings to yourself can be very difficult to cope with, which is why we're often encouraged to seek help when we feel this way. What I have personally found helpful is to create a 'toolbox' where you can keep some of the items that make you happy. These could include your favourite movie/tv show or book, a colouring in book, some playdough, old photos etc. Basically anything you can go to when you're feeling suicidal and need something to distract yourself with or lift your mood. Of course it's always safer to talk to someone you trust, but even learning how to talk back to the negative voices in your head using positive self talk such as "I deserve to live", "I'm worthy enough to get help so I don't feel this way" etc. can also be helpful. Keeping yourself safe is one of the biggest things you can do to help yourself when you don't want to tell someone your feeling suicidal.
November 9th, 2017 2:58am
TELL SOMEONE! That is ONE thing that should NOT stay a secret. If you are having suicidal thought, never keep it to yourself... ever.
November 9th, 2017 6:06pm
You tell yourself all is well. Do not let your heart be troubled. Then write down why you want to suicide and ask yourself is this the solution. Then write down all the solutions you get and start by the easiest one.
November 10th, 2017 5:32pm
Sit down and try to think hard about why should you live and why should you give up. You will find that there are more reasons for you to live than to leave this cruel world. It's cruel but you are still kicking. Why waste your efforts now?
November 10th, 2017 6:49pm
Well firstly I think tell about this to the person whose most special for spitting words such negative thoughts remain only in words not in your loved ones have the right to can't snatch it from them and consult a professional psychiatric..medical help is a boon . just lyk v go to doc for think about your loved ones for once. U don't have the right to punish them
November 15th, 2017 3:24am
Don't force yourself to feel uncomfortable but it is a good idea to get it out to someone when you can. If you can't talk to someone in real life, speak to a hotline online or via the phone that will give you the help you need. Some of these can be anonymous. Suicidal thoughts are dangerous, and all of us just want you be to safe, in the end.
November 18th, 2017 6:21pm
I think you should continue doing the things you love, and think about all the positive aspects of your life!
November 19th, 2017 12:02am
Just know that you mean a lot to a lot of people, I know it might not seem like it at the moment but I promise you it’s the truth
November 20th, 2017 11:46pm
If it's the fear of judgement, I believe this website is good because you're just someone online. Even if you do, for some reason, get judged, the next listener you find will most likely be kind enough to deal with it more professionally. In case venting in general really isn't your thing, there are many ways to deal with it and what worked best for me is realizing that there will always be that someone who cares about you, even if you don't see it. You just have to think deep. I find that whenever I'm at the brink of suicide (which happened a few times), at that very last second, I realize that all those people in the background I never notice actually care. That motivation should be good enough to keep you going until you figure something out.
November 22nd, 2017 2:00pm
Tell someone!!! talking about this is the only way to work through it. lots of anonymous places you can speak to. no one judges, youre not alone, don't suffer ins scilence
November 22nd, 2017 5:09pm
From personal experience I whenever I am feeling that way and I don't want to tell anyone I try to just let all my thoughts run it's course. Also I vent writing in my journal or talking to a friend about a unrelated topic. Also I recommend this rule. Do not make any haste decisions while you are feeling suicidal. These are thoughts that don't need to turn to actions because you can't turn back. If you think you can't control yourself it is safe to tell someone. I rather you be safe than sorry. I know it's difficult but hold on.
November 24th, 2017 9:58am
Think about the people I care about, the ones who care about me the most, the ones I dont wanna make them suffer from my loss
November 24th, 2017 9:02pm
Even though telling someone would be really helpful, I get, why it is hard to do so. Texting a crisis hotline would be good if you feel suicidal. There are a lot of resources out there, which don't require you to tell anyone in person. (e.g. 1-800-273-8255 or
November 30th, 2017 1:57pm
Getting help for anything is scary, especially if you are having ideas of hurting yourself. Remind yourself that asking for help is a strength. Even coming on here and asking this question is a huge step in the right area. If you don't feel like talking to anyone you know right now, please try calling your suicide hotline or try calling your local emergency services. They may be able to provide you with professionals who are trained in that area of expertist. You can also chat with trained crisis professionals free on
December 6th, 2017 9:55pm
Call the suicide help line imediately. Your conversations are confidential and anonymous and they are professionals who can help you.
December 9th, 2017 4:03am
It is important to tell people about these feelings, maybe think of all the blessings in your life. Also try to do things for others like compliment people, do volunteer work! Anything so you're not stuck thinking about yourself!
December 10th, 2017 8:23pm
it is highly recommended to contact to suicide hotline or find a therapist, the conversation is gonna stay between you two if the therapist is professional. because that is a big problem specially when people around you are oblivious to your situation, please try to do something about it, do not give up on yourself so easily. Every kind of pain, every problem has a solution even if you cannot see it right now.
December 23rd, 2017 12:28am
If you or someone you know is feeling suicidal but doesnt want to teel anyone,. you should go to your national suicide helpline's website. There, you will be able to find out some anonymous' support and other tools like therapists and other forms of contact besides calls.
January 3rd, 2018 8:18am
I would immediately contact suicide hotline at 1-800-273-8255 or and please get help from a trained therapist and know that people do care about you!
January 3rd, 2018 10:48am
I have felt the same in many situations, the best thing to do is to reach out to someone but if that is not an option than I would surround yourself with positive people or things. Find hobbies you enjoy or find people you can talk to that make you feel happy.
January 6th, 2018 2:09pm
You can always find someone to talk too! Don’t be afraid to seek help, especially on 7 cups where you can do so anonymously!
January 7th, 2018 3:14pm
Just make sure you're near or with someone, Make sure you're in a safe environment that can keep you from harming yourself. Reaching out can be difficult but as soon as you get the nasty things of your back it'll help you feel relieved
January 10th, 2018 9:02am
Not wanting to tell anyone is not a crime, but if you are feeling suicidal, go ahead and visit or dial 911/ your local suicide hotline. Your life matters more than anything. Keep that in mind.