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What should I do if I am feeling suicidal, but don't want to tell anyone?

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Last Updated: 07/10/2020 at 10:40pm
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January 12th, 2018 2:08am
You should look at how far you have come, how much struggle you have faced, but got through it. you should think back on the people who love you, and how it would affect them, as it would to you. think about what you have accomplished, look at what you have done through out your years. suicide may seem like the easy way out, and it may seem like the answer, but i promise you it isn't. what if you were to grow into a successful human being, you wouldn't get to experience what you could have, if you would have went through with something such as that. as much as you feel the need, look at how many people it would hurt. even if it is just family, they are people as well. they care for you, even though they may not show it everyday. i assure you there is people out there probably don't want you to die. you are strong, and you are beautiful. name out things you want to do in your life time, and think about accomplishing them. don't give up so soon because one day.. one day it will be okay.
January 14th, 2018 8:04pm
It might be hard to tell someone really close, like family or friends, but there are comunities like 7cups or imalive where you can anonymously talk to someone who will help you, but not judge you.
January 14th, 2018 9:10pm
There are many helpful resources such as the suicide hotline and depression management sites that can help you manage what you are feeling or get help from someone in a more anonymous fashion. Keeping in contact with your health care provider can also be good be cause there is an environment of confidentiality that may help you feel more at ease. It also may seem scary or hard to tell someone, but if you are feeling this way, reaching out is the first step to getting better and overcoming these feelings. :)
January 31st, 2018 11:03pm
Since its a very serious topic, I encourage you to tell an adult or call the sucide prevention line.
February 1st, 2018 9:25pm
Think of the persons you love !! My brother did it and he made us feel hurt and sad because we loved him . And I still remember him till now and cry . You have value ... for some people you are the whole world . Believe me this is temporary . Depression can be solved .
February 2nd, 2018 12:41am
It is best to contact the national suicide prevention lifeline 1-800-273-8255. There are wonderful and compassinate people who are always available to provide emotional support during such a difficult time; and it is confidential. Also, it helps to share your thoughts with a therapist.
February 3rd, 2018 7:56pm
Write what you are feeling in a journal to get the thoughts out of you, don't keep the thoughts bottled up inside.
February 4th, 2018 3:05am
If you are feeling suicidal, you should go over your choices on why you are feeling this way. You are more important than you think, and think of all the people affected with your death. Suicide doesn’t take away the problem, you just pass it on. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. Call 1-800-273-8255
February 7th, 2018 10:15pm
You can call a suicide hotline - they will talk to you even if you aren't at immediate risk of hurting yourself.
February 9th, 2018 1:48pm
First of all, never ever give up on your life. Fight yourself as if your life depends on it. That fighting spirit is your only hope when feeling suicidal. If you do not want to tell anyone, be prepared to fight this feeling alone. You need to start getting rid of the things which invoke the thoughts of suicide. Get them out of sight, things like pictures, people, activities. The moment those invoking things are eliminated, your mind will have empty space for you to collect your thoughts of feeling suicidal. This is the part where you will fill up your thoughts with things you really love, things which you will live for. Your favourite food, your favourite activity, your favourite storybook. Let them be the reason for you to live. You can win this fight, never give up!
February 10th, 2018 9:38am
Do what makes you comfortable. Don't want to tell anyone? Then don't. Scream into a pillow, cry, release it physically. Don't want to do that? Distract yourself with hobbies, music, sleep, games. Do what makes you comfortable and safe. You don't have to talk all the time to be okay. You're an amazing creature who is capable of peace and restoration. You got this.
February 16th, 2018 6:09am
For starters, if you are feeling suicidal, tell someone. Even if it is someone not related, as long as you know you can trust them, tell them. It makes it much easier to cope with when you aren't alone. If you still don't want to tell anyone, find mind excersises (puzzles, books, writing happy stories, ect.) And be sure to spend more time outside and active.
February 22nd, 2018 8:20am
The suicide hotline is a great way to speak with someone anonymously and still get the help you need. The key is to reach out to someone before the feeling is too overwhelming.
March 3rd, 2018 3:06pm
When you are feeling suicidal, sometimes the best thing to do is to tell someone. It's not easy and you might think that they won't understand, but it is the best thing to do. Try talking to someone you trust, if not, don't be afraid to call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline.
March 11th, 2018 12:54am
You can call the National Suicide Hotline. They are anonymous and talking about it and getting it out may help.
March 28th, 2018 12:42am
You should connect to for professional help. As active listeners, listeners here on 7 cups have been trained to help you through the hard times, but we aren’t in the position to help you when you feel suicidal.
March 30th, 2018 1:16am
Think of how amazing your life is, pause all the bad thoughts. Look in the mirror, what do you see? A beautiful self being huh? I know right :) your life is amazing and most beautiful thing! Don't let the problems get to you, there is people who care for you but you don't know it or don't want to see it. Talk to someone, talking to someone is always a good thing. I've been there and I recovered! Like I always say be your own therapy, be happy and try to think of what makes you happy ! If you think that's not working, please talk to a professional! Remember your life is amazing
April 5th, 2018 4:40am
I highly recommend keeping one of the hotline numbers handy. 7 cups has them readily available on the site. Some can be texted. Having a safe outlet is important. With that done let’s examine the why of feeling that way. Often can be something that a medical professional can be of help with and it does not have to mean medications. If you’re a child talking to a school counselor can be helpful. If you’re an adult and work many employers have assistance lines to give free or cheap counseling to employees in crisis. I have used all of these resources at one time or another. And something is almost always better than nothing.
April 7th, 2018 5:15am
Please please reach out to someone, anyone! You are never alone, never ever! You are enough!!! Keep pressing on!!
April 7th, 2018 7:08pm
When you are feeling suicidal, you should always reach out to someone. You do not deserve to go through this alone. Please seek out someone, whether it be a parent, friend, counsellor, person in your community, or a helpline.
April 7th, 2018 8:07pm
If you are worried telling someone you know about this, you can try calling a suicide prevention lifeline or get help from a counsellor/therapist (confidential and not people see/work with) who specialize in helping people that are having these feelings. It can be difficult opening up to those close to you about how you are feeling in fear of how they might react, but you really shouldn't try and get through this alone. Seek help for those that love and care about you. Your life is a gift you should cherish!
April 11th, 2018 2:24am
Contact a therapist or contact a suicide hotline and ask them for further advice to help manage your thoughts and feelings.
April 11th, 2018 10:56pm
Please find a way to stay safe, take away the plan hat you have and get rid of what you plan to use as your method. Reach out on 7 cups, phone a confidential helpline where whatever you say will not be shared.
April 11th, 2018 11:36pm
Feeling suicidal is very serious, and if you feel this way, you should try to get help from a trusted friend or professional if possible. If you don't want to tell anyone and do not feel that you are at immediate risk of hurting yourself, then it might help to distract yourself until the feeling passes, maybe by talking to someone, or getting out of the house. If possible, try to be with people so you're not isolated, which can make things worse.
April 13th, 2018 1:49pm
You can call a suicide hotline: 1-800-273-8255, there you are anonumous. But I would recommend telling someone, you don't have to mention "suicide" if you feel like that is hard, but it is very important that someone knows that you're not feeling well
April 15th, 2018 9:04am
There are people who can help 1-800-273-8255 or .... If you feel you will benefit from seeing a therapist but don't want to speak to your guardians about doing so there is also an online therapist available on this platform here (
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May 5th, 2018 6:19am
Try to calm your self, try to breath in and out deeply and thing about something that made you happy
May 9th, 2018 2:52am
I would suggest talking to someone over a crisis line. Technically, it’s still telling someone, but since you do not know them, it might be easier. This is not something you need to struggle with alone, and even if you don’t want people you know to find out, try and see if you can find anonymous resources to use. I used an online chat for a few months before the people close to me found out.
May 9th, 2018 2:25pm
If you're feeling suicidal it's necessary for your wellbeing to let someone know. It doesn't have to be a parent or staff member at your school, though. It could simply be a close friend of yours that you trust. Suicidal thoughts, usually if left untreated, will manifest and become unbearable. You need to let someone know how you feel before that happens. Alternatively, you can contact these sources: National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (available 24h) 1-800-273-8255 or use this online version: