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What should I do if I am feeling suicidal, but don't want to tell anyone?

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Last Updated: 07/10/2020 at 10:40pm
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May 17th, 2018 1:28am
There are some hotlines through phone and chat, including the Lifeline and the Trevor Hotline, that you can reach out to anonymously. Remember, though, your safety comes before anything else, so if you feel you are actively suicidal or are planning to kill yourself, it may be important to tell someone.
May 17th, 2018 8:53pm
That’s not good, you should tell someone. Weather it be a parent, girlfriend/boyfriend or a friend. Even a helpline/lifeline. They are there to help you to get your mind off the issue. You just have to reach out to them. You can do this! I BELIEVE IN YOU!!!!!
May 18th, 2018 4:36am
Try to journal down your feelings, it can help you feel better about yourself and you can self reflect on how you are feeling.
May 18th, 2018 12:11pm
You should find a qualified listener or trusted adult. Yo can also pen your thoughts down to ensure that you understand your thinking
May 23rd, 2018 4:48am
Remember that you're valuable and this is just a time in your life where you may feel that you've screwed up to the point of no return - but that's just not true. I suggest you seek professional help immediately by contacting a nearby professional therapist. I was once in a depressed state too and was feeling lonely and suicidal, since I thought that my life was just beyond repair.
May 24th, 2018 10:50pm
There are anonymous suicide hotlines, text lines and online chats. They will not send anyone to you if you do not tell them you are about to do lethal harm to yourself. You can always just talk to them about the way you are feeling. I would also recommend having some regular self-care practices you can do if those feeling some up. This can be things like listening to music, drawing, taking a long shower, going for a walk, or whatever else may healthily relax you.
May 26th, 2018 2:55pm
I understand that you don't feel like you wanna tell other people, but its the best thing to tell someone how you feel as it will make you let out how you feel and other people will help you not go through these tough times alone.
May 26th, 2018 8:05pm
It is difficult to tell people how you feel but suicidal thoughts often do not go away on their own and should never be ignored. You should always consider telling someone, even if it is anonymously online.
June 1st, 2018 5:48am
I recommend that you look in referral resources in 7 cups. There is websites and numbers to call for help, its really important that you use one of them because in this case is required a professional.
June 1st, 2018 6:40am
I understand it can be scary having these feelings and thoughts, and you might feel vulnerable, or afraid to tell someone else. If you've been feeling this way though, it's very important to tell someone you trust, preferably an adult. The people in your life are there for you, and they want you to feel the best you can. It might be easier to ask a trusted teacher or guidance counselor if they have time to talk, so you have a set time instead of trying to find the 'right' moment. While it's kind of overwhelming to think about now, I'm sure they will understand and want to do nothing more than help you. Good luck to you, and everything is going to be okay :)
June 20th, 2018 2:05pm
Call your national suicide hotline. Talk to your best friend. Someone you can really trust. Your parents. Sibling. We should never keep suicidal thoughts to ourselves and stigmatize it further. Suicidal thoughts are not something that go away when we hide or ignore them. On the opposite, sometimes that makes things even worse. Please know that your struggle is shared by so many others
June 24th, 2018 5:39pm
If I were to ever feel suicidal and don't want to tell anyone, I start by exploring what is making me feel this way by writing down on a piece of paper a list of things that are making my life unmanageable. Then I can talk to someone about those problems I wrote down and see if that alleviates the feelings of suicide, if it doesn't I may mention that I have feelings of doing so and how might I alleviate them
June 27th, 2018 7:59pm
In Crisis Prevention training, we are taught to find and subsequently focus on what I like to think of as suicide roadblocks. Basically, these roadblocks embody anything and everything in a person's life that will prevent them from committing suicide. Usually they include important bonds to that person or activities/things that that person enjoys. If you are ever feeling suicidal, first remember that there are people who care about you and are willing to listen and/or assist you in seeking help. Second try to focus on those suicide roadblocks to help you stay safe or maybe to convince yourself to reach out to someone.
June 29th, 2018 7:41am
Take a deep breath..pause all your sucidal thoughts..think abt how your loved gonna feel when you leave them
June 30th, 2018 11:26am
Write it all down, Sit and write how you feel, what making you feel like this and what you want to happen, Maybe put this in an envelope and give to someone you trust or go doctors and just give them the letter, You can also call the samaritins
July 1st, 2018 2:58am
I think you should really tell someone but there are also suicide hotlines to call or you can get a therapsit
July 6th, 2018 5:07pm
You could talk to someone from a suicide helpline/hotline so no will know who you are. However, if things become too much, please tell someone. Someone you can trust and don’t hold it in. Your life is meaningful, believe that.
July 8th, 2018 11:49am
Think about the good things of your life. But the most important thing is that you need help, so go for it.
July 8th, 2018 7:35pm
Firstly, while I understand that you do not want to tell anyone about being suicidal, it's very important that you do. However, if you're not comfortable with talking about this with your guardians/close friends, then I recommend a crisis line. Not okay with talking on the phone? That's fine, too, there is a Crisis Textline that serves the same function and they have always been very helpful when I need them. Good luck to you. You are not alone.
July 13th, 2018 7:15am
Call the national suicide hotline. They can provide help for you if you aren’t comfortable with talking to someone you know.
July 13th, 2018 5:05pm
You should try and help yourself if you feel like you don’t want to or can’t tell anyone. Whenever you feel an urge, beat it. Distract yourself in any possible way that won’t harm you and remember that you can cry it out if you need to
July 15th, 2018 1:08pm
First of all, I want to think of happy thoughts, remember the moments when I feel like life is beautiful and think of the people around me especially those who took care, and loved me. In this method, I might be able to think clearly of what I can be and think of the best solutions in life.
July 15th, 2018 7:53pm
Write it down. Ripped the paper. Then throw it away to the trash. I actually talk about it to God. I’m thinking suicidal but at that time i’m thinking thousand hundred billion million whatever way not to do it. It works, for me.
July 19th, 2018 5:41pm
That's a very difficult situation to be in, and I know it first hand. Please know that there are plenty of ways that you can anonymously talk to people about these feelings (e.g. via a suicide hotline). If it is possible, it is also an option to find an impartial therapist who you can trust to keep what you say confidential. Whatever you do, don't leave it too late - even if you are feeling well, it is important that you get what you need to keep you safe in case these feeling recur in the future. Beyond that initial help, it might also be worth considering why it is that you don't want to share. Maybe it is because it is not safe to share with the people around you, or maybe it is because it is just a very scary subject to open up about, and that once you get past that it will pay off. This may be something to talk in depth about with a trusted person as mentioned earlier (therapist, hotline operator). My best wishes to you, and I hope this has helped.
July 25th, 2018 7:32am
I would recomend that you call an anomumus hot line and talk to someone who doesnt know you and wont judge you for expressing your feelings. I would also reccomend that you write down your feelings in a journal.
July 25th, 2018 11:38am
I would talk to someone about it. Even if it is a complete stranger talking about it helps you mentally work through your issues. Even a 7-cups listener would do the trick.
July 26th, 2018 12:30am
If you are feeling suicidal, you should contact a mental health professional. If you want to remain anonymous, contact the USA’s National Suicide Prevention Hotline at 1(800)273-8255 for qualified people to help you and give advice.
July 26th, 2018 9:59pm
Focus What is making me happy in life and force myself to think positive daily. Avoid people that harass me, and get closeer to the one who actually care about me.
July 29th, 2018 1:19am
If you dont wish to share that info with friends or loved ones, you can always come on 7 cups or call a suicide hotline and talk with an anonymous person about how your feeling!
July 29th, 2018 8:54am
Call the suicide hotline or distract yourself or make a list of reasons why you shouldn't kill yourself.