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What should I do when my depression starts getting severe or I start having suicidal thoughts?

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Last Updated: 08/11/2020 at 11:21pm
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Top Rated Answers
inklesspencil1
June 27th, 2016 2:56pm
You need to assess why you feel that way, and eventually seek professional help. Know that there are people around you who cares about you so much and are willing to listen to whatever it is you want to share.
braveIris99
April 30th, 2015 10:38pm
Surround yourself with things you love(for me it's old jazz vinyls,warm bubble baths,funny films,my dog and soft blankets :)also communicate how you feel with those you love,DO NOT suppress anything.also be aware of your inner monologue.it can be remarkably destructive.to do this you simply watch your breath,be in the present moment and "watch" your thoughts go by,like one would passing clouds.do not label the thoughts(ugh,that was a bad/stupid thought)not not try to stop them.just let them be.soon you you will fid yourself a little more relaxed and aware.also don't chaste yourself for feeling things.if you want to stare at the ceiling for a little while,go ahead.if you feel sad and pitiful,be sad.don't try to fix or change things(no that doesn't mean stop going to therapy) just let go of everything and attempt to relax in this most awful time.
bronwyn4456
August 30th, 2016 12:18am
you should reach out to somebody you can trust and try and get help as soon as you can through either you mental health services or a hospital
BeYOUtiul
May 1st, 2017 11:07pm
Tell someone. It truly is the best thing you can do. Whether is your family, someone here, or even a friend, they need to know. If you find yourself buying weapons, preparing knives, or something like that, call a suicidal life line. They can help
romanticthi3f
July 11th, 2017 1:18am
Reach out. We aren't meant to do this alone. Talk to your friends, family, colleagues, neighbours - anybody who you trust. People do care about you.
BubbleMJ
November 27th, 2017 7:23pm
You should ring suicide hotline for instant support, they can help you understand how you are feeling and give you advice on how to overcome the feeling.
mabel04
February 6th, 2018 7:42pm
Talk to someone you care/love about it. If that isn't possible, I'd recommend looking for professional help. Remember is okay to feel like that. You can cry and let it all out if you want to. Eat mood boosting foods like chocolate, practice a hobby or listen to music you really like, even if it doesn't fit your emotions at that time. It all helps dealing with depression.
Anonymous
March 6th, 2018 5:35am
Come to 7cups and talk to someone who has been in the same position and can help. I know its really hard but talk to your parents if you really trust them its so difficult because they know you but if you really trust them they can help you and not run away.
sunshineBreeze69
April 17th, 2018 2:57am
Talk to someone that you trust because they will be able to guide you in the right direction to better thinking
Annjia
May 28th, 2018 4:47am
If your depression grows so much that it impacts your life so greatly to a point you consider ending it, then it's high time to find trained, professional help. There are a lot of websites and hotlines specialized to help in times of greatest need like 'suicide.org'. The next and also great step would be to realize that life is amazing and full of possibilities even if it does not seem like it at the moment. You are never really alone. There are always people who would love to help you.
Anonymous
October 8th, 2018 12:39am
The best things you can do when you feel your depression is getting severe is to make self care a priority. Really take time to look after you. Don't be so hard on yourself, right now you need calm and you time. Let people around you know how you're feeling so that they are aware and can perhaps help in a way or just know how you're feeling. Try and see a doctor, don't keep these feelings to yourself. Do something that you enjoy, go for a walk, take a bath, hug a dog or a cat, listen to music. Right now you need time to look after your mind and your soul. It's ok to not be ok.
cheerfulCloud12
January 14th, 2019 2:43pm
Hi there! Thank you for reaching out to us on 7 cups. It sounds like you are experiencing a lot of depressing thoughts. Can you expand on how you are feeling? What do you think may have caused this, has this happened before? I’m sorry if it seems like I am crowding you with questions. I have actually experienced something similar to this before. You may not think so, but actually it is quite common. In my personal advice, may I suggest you seek help with any parents or guardians you have. Possibly a counsellor may help. If you feel you may want to self-harm, you should immeadiately contact a suicide hotline, with someone to walk you through it. I hope this helped. If you need to talk again with me, you may. I am available at the same time next week.
calmArrow24
July 8th, 2019 5:48am
First of all, I am sorry that you are feeling this way. Secondly, when it gets to this point, I strongly recommend that you reach out to somebody. A friend, a family member, or a professional. If you are worried about how they will respond, then text/call/message a crisis councillor to get immediate help. And if you are ever scared that you are going to hurt yourself (or you have) you can call your emergency services or go to the nearest emergency room. Know that you are never alone, even when you feel that way and there are people out there who care about you and want to help.
Anonymous
August 11th, 2020 11:21pm
In this case the most important thing to do is reach out to those who are close to you- maybe family or friends and also consult your GP they will be able to help you organise your thoughts and make life seem a little less cloudy. The world is full of beautiful things, and your presence is one of those beautiful things and it is also important to remember that there is a light at the end of the tunnel-though things may be hard right now, the clouds will lift and things will ease and fall into place. Keep your head up high and your heart strong.
Slinky
October 9th, 2014 3:07pm
If your depression gets really bad or you start having suicidal thoughts, you should talk to someone you trust who could maybe help you? Or you could contact a helpline that deals with helping people with depression and suicidal thoughts. From my own personal experience, talking to someone about what is going through your mind really does help!
Rachel1984
October 26th, 2014 10:08pm
What I did when I was younger, which didn't help, was ignore it. What I did that helped was to keep my therapist informed about how I was feeling, and take his advice to heart to let people help me. That included seeing a psychiatrist and getting my meds changed, as well as some time in a hospital program.
anniemarie3
October 28th, 2014 2:44pm
Call the national suicide hotline. Go to an adult you trust at school or work. Talk to someone you trust about how you are feeling.
AK
October 15th, 2014 3:04pm
I tend to self harm when very upset. But I've been working on it. And one of my biggest support systems is right here on 7 Cups. It really means a lot when someone is there to listen :)
Alaa
November 2nd, 2014 1:31am
Best idea would be getting a professinoal help , we all need guidance sometimes , even the strongest
Mel
November 2nd, 2014 3:17pm
Ask for help. You don't have to do things alone and it would be very sad if you end with your life. That's a huge decision, please, contact the necessary help and let's work this out.
Anonymous
November 2nd, 2014 8:58pm
Having a plan in place for dips in mood will be one of your biggest allies. Depression and suicidal ideation are always serious. While you are feeling relatively well, you might consider setting out an emergency mood plan, including who to contact such as a hotline or trusted friend, as well as any activities or places to go which help ground you.
Anonymous
November 3rd, 2014 4:42am
Talk to someone about it. Preferable someone you know very well or a trained professional. If you cant do either of those just find someone to talk to about it that will care.
Anonymous
November 3rd, 2014 4:31pm
You should ask someone - a friend, a family member, a counsellor - for help. You are not alone. Many people have been in your situation before and there is help to be found. Call your local suicide line if you are seriously considering suicide.
Katie24601
October 11th, 2014 6:12pm
Having suicidal thoughts can be scary and often overwhelming, but recognizing that you're having them can be a great first step. There are some things that you can do to help yourself immediately. Contacting someone who you trust - a family member, classmate, or friend - to let them know that you need help is a good way of keeping yourself safe. You can also contact the suicide hotline 1-800-273-8255 or www.suicide.org to get professional assistance.
JaneCollege
November 5th, 2014 7:23pm
When I have suicidal thoughts, I always want to close myself in and hide from people. The best thing for me to do is the opposite. Finding a friend and calling them or asking them to come over.
LevisCorde
November 6th, 2014 2:55am
Talk to someone, please, please, talk to someone. Depression is never something to go through alone.
runawayGirl101
November 6th, 2014 10:07am
I understand, I've been there. What I did is I talk to someone. Doesn't need to be someone you know if you are not talking face-face, can be someone in an organization on depression, anxiety, suicidal etc.
Anonymous
November 7th, 2014 9:56pm
I think its always best to seek help. Dont suffer on your own, and allow yourself the maximum time to practice self care. If its going to keep you alive and happy. Then do it. Don't let anyone tell you different.
Anonymous
November 8th, 2014 3:45pm
You should talk to your parents or a teacher, etc... and see a doctor because you really need help and you can't continue like that
Anonymous
October 23rd, 2014 5:42am
It is most helpful if you could contact a suicide hotline or a website like suicide.org. It will probably be the best option