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What to do when you're lonely and depressed?

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Last Updated: 09/11/2018 at 2:03am
What to do when you're lonely and depressed?
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Kristin Noyes, MSW, LCSW

Clinical Social Work/Therapist

Depression and anxiety can feel overwhelming even on the best of days. I believe in helping clients understand these disorders and help them to reduce and manage symptoms.

Top Rated Answers
BeBeUnicorn
May 20th, 2016 3:04am
Being lonely is always something that i very don't like feeling, and to be completely honest i hate this feeling. To deal with this feeling i always occupy myself with something i truly love to do, like making art or watching my favorite TV Shows (i know its lame but, it helps). Another thing that always brings me up is always beliving in the power i have over my body and my fate. I like to think that "the fate is in your hands and your hands only, and you are the only one who is able to change it", so always stay positive and hope for the best, never give up on anything or anyone.
ari88
May 20th, 2016 3:09pm
There are so many resources you can look at just on this site that have lots of benefits for you. Take a break and be by yourself for awhile, it's okay to be alone and to care for yourself first. Maybe you can advantage of this opportunity to get to know yourself better and get your mindset sorted out maybe a little bit more than it would have been. It's important to know that you're never really alone and it's okay to be depressed and not be okay.
Anonymous
February 27th, 2018 8:32am
Usually, I go for long walks or bike rides while listening to my favorite music plays in the background.
Anonymous
April 9th, 2016 3:39am
It's different for everybody, but here's what I do: curl up in a blanket make some tea sing really loudly call somebody doodle and write poems
Anonymous - Expert in Depression
April 10th, 2016 6:44am
I getting a little creative and try to entertain myself - I write, blog, talk to friends, paint, sketch, dress up etc. Anything to keep my mind off things and keep the positivity in the air
Anonymous
April 20th, 2016 11:47pm
What I do when I'm lonely and depressed is distract my mind. I read, paint (or at least I try, I'm not good, haha). I try not to think at all. Sometimes I watch a movie, or tv. I go out, walk and breathe in the forest. Sometimes I talk to some friends about stupid things. It's really helpful to laugh :)
GypsyStardust
April 21st, 2016 9:11am
When I'm feeling lonely or depressed, I go do what I love to do even if I don't feel like doing anything. I go grab my skateboard and just skate. If that's not an option I write down every emotion im feeling into a notebook.
TrumpVEVO
April 28th, 2016 12:01am
Do something productive Read a book Play an instrument Do homework Create art Go for a walk Surf the web Eat a snack Excercise Netflix YouTube TV Cry it out. Scream Watch funny videos Look up funny pictures/videos Check out inspirational quotes/pics/videos Life: Live well Laugh often Love much
lovelyBeauty59
April 29th, 2016 7:03pm
When you are feeling down and depressed it is a good idea to,have someone to talk to so you won't be a danger to yourself. 7 cups is a great place to go when you aren't feeling 100% great.
pandapopxx
April 30th, 2016 10:58am
I love candles, I sit there and look at candles. It sounds strange, but the look of a controlled fire helps me a lot.
Anonymous
May 5th, 2016 1:53pm
I usually seek for someone to lean on because somewhere out in this world, you will find a person who will listen to you, and accept you, and when you are depressed and stressed, just hope for the best and try to stay more optimistic, because in the future the whole thing you're stressing yourself about might be irrelevant, and you might get over it with time.
Anonymous
May 5th, 2016 6:13pm
When I am lonely and depressed, I chat with loved ones, go exercise or read a good book. This keeps my mind off the loneliness.
Anonymous
May 5th, 2016 6:19pm
When I am lonely or depressed, I usually read a book, listen to music, or talk on one of the 7 cup group chats. Anything that is safe and you enjoy is a great idea.
Anonymous
May 6th, 2016 1:52am
I like to listen to music and read quietly. It really helps to calm me down and lift my mood when I'm feeling down.
Anonymous
May 7th, 2016 9:51am
either distract yourself (which doesn't always help) .Or work through your sadness. listen to music, write it down, etc.
Anonymous
May 12th, 2016 3:54am
Often I have used the technique of going out for a power walk, jog. Also I frequently listen to music or watch movies. Taking a power nap is also helpful to clear the mind.
LemonToLemonade
May 12th, 2016 6:35pm
The hardest thing you can do when you feel like that: go out and do something you absolutely don't want to be doing. Feeling like hiding all day in your bed? Go to the gym. Do you not want to talk to people? Hang out with some friends. It's very hard to do that, but the best thing you can do. Otherwise you get stuck in all the negativity, while if you're active and distracted you'll eventually feel better.
nlpinspiration
May 12th, 2016 9:28pm
Usually, reading good book is good, watching movie, or meditation. Talking to a friend or someone trained for listening is a good strategy
SparklyPeach9
May 12th, 2016 10:22pm
Talk about it! Talk about it with you friends, family or whoever you're close with. If you can't talk to anyone you know, talk to someone here or go to the therapist/psychiatrist.
LolOreoGod
May 13th, 2016 2:05am
If you are lonely or depressed, you can always do things that are fun. It could be hanging out with friends or family. If you don't want to do this, you can always listen to music :)
ambitiousGlobe3000
May 14th, 2016 9:31am
Bug some friends, really, and either let them know or just have a good time with them, and try out new things. And if you don't have friends, avoid browsing websites that just distract you, and actually think about your problems instead of pushing them away, and then pretend you are social until you feel a little bit more social :) And just see if you maybe find others that aren't doing so great either, maybe people you haven't even really noticed before.
blitheGrace36
May 15th, 2016 2:55pm
Attend Classes For A Fun New Exercise Like Air Yoga, Pole Dancing Or Anything make help And you can Volunteer For Something Great
lostinliving
May 18th, 2016 5:43am
You can do what makes you happy, like listen to music, talk to a loved one or express yourself with art
Anonymous
May 18th, 2016 10:33pm
Well, there are lots of things you can do. As long as your mind is busy, you stop feeling depressed. You can work, study, get some sort of hobby such as photography, drawing, writing, read books, build skill in some area of your life, and try to master it. As long as you're doing something, anything positive and it makes you feel well, you're doing the right thing. Just watch out and don't let yourself get into bad habits like drinking, smoking, binge eating.
Anonymous
May 19th, 2016 2:21pm
I like to go out for a walk and just enjoy nature. If you are more of a stay home type of person maybe watching a movie or reading a book might help you. Another idea could be chatting to a listener here on 7cups :)
JasonT
May 19th, 2016 4:57pm
Reach out for help - talk to someoneyou trust. Remember you are never alone. Talk to a teacher, parent, family member or friend that you trust
Anonymous
May 20th, 2016 4:26am
i jst get a stroll wiyh nature and try observe the hidden wonders of it trying forget abt the sad things that make me worried or depressed
Anonymous
May 21st, 2016 11:17am
I go out of the house and take a short walk. Sometimes, I call or text my family and friends. I try my best to keep myself busy and productive.
LovelyMoose
May 21st, 2016 4:27pm
Speak to a trusted friend or loved one, or seek advice from any of the friendly listeners here at 7 Cups of Tea.
Anonymous
May 21st, 2016 6:12pm
i just think of the things that makes me happy and try to think do some exercise and clear my mind up