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What to do when you're lonely and depressed?

110 Answers
Last Updated: 09/11/2018 at 2:03am
What to do when you're lonely and depressed?
1 Tip to Feel Better
United States
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Kristin Noyes, MSW, LCSW

Clinical Social Work/Therapist

Depression and anxiety can feel overwhelming even on the best of days. I believe in helping clients understand these disorders and help them to reduce and manage symptoms.

Top Rated Answers
Link22
May 21st, 2016 6:55pm
Do you have any hobbies? Try talking to someone. Have a good laugh. Look up funny videos on YouTube. Try to smile!
AnimalOfFood
May 21st, 2016 9:14pm
This is quite a common mix, so don't feel like you're by your self on these emotions. It's just few of us feel this way sometimes.
Anonymous
May 24th, 2016 4:22pm
When I'm lonely or depressed one thing I do is go on a walk and listen to upbeat music to bring my mood up. Another thing I do is call or text someone so I'm not alone and don't feel quite as lonely.
kingdom20
May 25th, 2016 8:22am
i keep my self busy with things i care a lot about! i find the most important things in my life and when i focus on them i just get better
Anonymous
May 25th, 2016 9:15am
What I find works really well is to engage in an activity or find a new hobby that you would not have previously engaged in. As hard as it sounds, branching out and pushing yourself to develop new friendships with unlikely people is a great way to fight depression and help your feelings of loneliness.
ImGladToHelp
May 25th, 2016 6:28pm
When I'm lonely or depressed I listen to music and I just lay down and relax. If that doesn't work, it always helps to find someone to talk to because people want to help you
nitrons
May 26th, 2016 3:07pm
I find a supportive friend to talk to and express my feelings to them. If my friends or family are busy I would write in my journal.
FaithDaLibra
May 26th, 2016 4:48pm
Find the thing's that you actually like . Find your happy place . It's hard to do I know . But If eating helps you calm down EAT !
HereToHelpYou742
May 26th, 2016 8:00pm
Go outside to a park or local cafe and just get out even though you may not want to it really helps.
Anonymous
May 26th, 2016 8:48pm
The most effective solution is to reach out to a friend or family member and spend some time talking to them. Plan more social outings throughout the week. Maybe see a professional about it. However, sometimes those solutions are unavailable. I highly recommend getting involved in online communities, or focusing intently on your studies. Video games are a really great escape, especially those that are interactive and involve teamwork. Start a blog. Drown yourself in a new series. Pick up a coloring book and blast music. Any of these distractions can help enormously.
Aggie
May 27th, 2016 1:38am
I'm a musician, so when I'm lonely and depressed I play music. I pick up my guitar and make some sounds.
RaveRae
May 27th, 2016 3:17am
7 cups helps me a lot. Yes, sometimes we listeners need an ear too. I try to ignore the feeling. Sometimes, it goes away. I also draw, write and listen to music when I feel this way,
tranquilDaisy76
May 27th, 2016 11:52pm
Practice a self love act, be that meditation, a soak in the tub or listening to music. I find a great deal of comfort in my cats, chat to a friend. Just do anything that you enjoy, something you love.
ElizabethLovesYou
May 28th, 2016 9:42am
If you experience such negative feelings - don't be afraid to express them! No matter how hard it may be, try to tell others about what you are feeling and don't be scared to find professional help. It;s nothing to be ashamed of, and definitely nothing you should live with. You deserve happiness - keep telling yourself that! Go outside, search company, try to find things, small things, that make you happy. Cherish those little happy moments you experience during your life, keep them in the palm of your hand, write them down and re-read them when you are feeling down. Don't forget - you are the boss of you. And if you want to feel better - take matters into your own hands!
Ryannn03
May 28th, 2016 1:44pm
I like to talk to my friends over skype in a group chat and just chill with them, which usually makes me feel a lot better. Sometimes though I just want to talk alone with one of my most trusted friends and talk to them about what's going on. That usually seems to help a lot.
Noretos33
May 28th, 2016 5:39pm
i would call a friend or watch a new movie or videos on youtube,relax, deep breath, thinking positive and read there are a lot of things to avoid feeling lonely.
Anonymous
May 29th, 2016 3:29am
I write in my journal, put on some vinyl, and light some candles. It helps me relax sometimes and is a better coping mechanism than I used to go to.
Anonymous
June 1st, 2016 5:22am
Do hobbies or anything that you enjoy doing. Many hobbies are social and can definitely help you meet more wonderful people. Therefore, doing things you love will not only cheer you up a little, but they will also send many new friends your way :)
charmingMusic32
June 1st, 2016 6:25am
Talk to someone who is close to you. Share your thoughts. Do some exercise and try to think positive about yourself.
Helpfulhedgehog21
June 2nd, 2016 6:46am
While there are countless things to do. I like to listen to podcasts, read old books, take walks in the woods, talk to someone, or color
Oniichan
June 2nd, 2016 10:19am
Find the things that make you feel good. Is it playing a game? Drawing? Getting some fresh air? Whatever it is, find the little things in life and make them bigger. Every little thing that you enjoy, every person you enjoy talking to. Make them a bigger part of your life.
CaptainObviouslyOblivious
June 2nd, 2016 9:52pm
What to do? Anything you can that doesn't involve wallowing. Sing, play video games, get into a good book, get up and move, go for a walk, draw something. The opposite of destruction is creation, remember?
BestMotivationer
June 2nd, 2016 11:46pm
Go outside! Find a hobby your intrestested in and join a club that does that. Unlike me, I love books.. so I'd rather read a bunch of books then go out.. but I still go out to keep in contact with people. Go have FUN!
Anonymous
June 3rd, 2016 9:27am
Personally I try to do something that will make me feel accomplished, such as cleaning up or excersicing
Anonymous
June 3rd, 2016 7:38pm
Go out for a ride. Call up a friend. Go out and meet new people. Basically try and do everything that make you feel uncomfortable when depressed. When you don't ease into the state that depression comes with you dont fall into its trap. So next time when you are depressed, take a bath, go out for a ride or a walk, have a cup of coffee or lunch/dinner with friends. It'll help ease things up. Also share your problems with your better half or anyone close to you. They'll help and support you in numerous ways.
Cherishlife20
June 3rd, 2016 7:52pm
When I'm lonely and depressed, I take a long nap. It refreshes my mind. I take a nice long shower then pull on my ear plugs and start dancing around the house and enjoy and cherish life. At that moment I feel carefree and just like myself. It's amazing that something as simple as music and dancing makes me feel amazing. ☺
Anonymous
June 4th, 2016 5:53am
I like to read a book or watch a show. Helps redirect my mind from overanalyzing things. I also like to write down my feelings or my thoughts.
Anonymous
June 4th, 2016 11:09am
I read my favourite book or draw my favourite character! I also listen to music with lyrics similar to my state (you have a bad day) for example, that song really connects to you when you feel down, and the end kind of relieves you!
TeenWolf
June 5th, 2016 12:11am
My best suggestion is find somthing you enjoy doing like hiking or hanging out with friends to help with the stress
StormyAngles18
June 5th, 2016 2:56am
Try to write In a journal to get all your feelings out or you can try listening to up beat music or spend time with family and friends, Or you can find new hobbys.