What to do when you're lonely and have no friends?

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What to do when you're lonely and have no friends?
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Top Rated Answers
Anonymous
April 21st, 2016 11:49am
Befriend yourself! You're the only one who'll stay with you forever. Talk to yourself, write,dance,exercise, listen to music, read, find a hobby. Learn to live with yourself. That way, realtions will be a choice and not necessity
nourdennaoui
May 29th, 2016 12:45am
oh maybe try to interact with new people that u like & be their friend or make some online friends + if u want im here 4 youu
Beblessedwithkindness2
June 12th, 2016 3:36pm
If you are feeling lonely, maybe you can go out and feel the wind! There's so much that life has to offer, why don't you take advantage of it? One thing I always say is, you don't have to have friends to be happy. You have to be happy with yourself first. Even if you did have friends, if you weren't happy with yourself, you'd still be unsatisfied. Spend time with yourself first & then friends will find you!
Barliebluejay
December 7th, 2017 11:08am
I Am feeling lonely right now. Having my dinner alone. Just wondering what to do while reads all the comment. Just not my day.
Photography99
April 10th, 2016 2:51am
I go to parks and share smiles with some people. I go to stores and help those those with ailments or disabilities get through their shopping. Wherever I go, I'll smile to or help those who seem to need it and will accept it.
naturalRose97
May 30th, 2016 5:23pm
You can try to approach someone who has common similarity or interest with you, or anyone who is likely you'll be comfortable with. But I know,sometimes there are times when you don't feel fit in with anyone AT ALL. Just really,no one. As I do believe the comfort in friendship is built naturally,you can't force this situation. Be your own best friend and company, do not let yourself sink into this feeling. Focus to do things you enjoy (writing,listening music,reading,etc) and don't put yourself under pressure during the process of seeking friends, Don't bottle up your negative feelings or let yourself lonely,try to discuss with someone (for example your family,siblings,or simply people here in 7 Cups of Tea). Try to create a good atmosphere towards people,be nice to them. The right people will come to you at the right time.
Skoglandskap
May 20th, 2016 8:37pm
Find yourself a pet.
Nicechatter
June 10th, 2016 12:19pm
Actually,i think loneliness is about ourself.If we think that we are lonely we will be lonely.There are always some people that love us.If you think that there is anyone to love you,come here.Cause we love you and we will always be with you.That's what 7CupsofTea means.But if you can't reach us,i suggest you reading books.Books will always listen you and they won't judge you.
ari88
June 9th, 2016 5:57pm
Spend some time to get to know yourself. there will always be people out there who are willing to love you and embrace you as a person but you first need to become the person you're capable of being before seeking friendships or relationships anyway. So many of us waste our time on fruitless, meaningless relationships/friendships when we could treasure that time and instead get to know ourselves as a person, learn from mistakes and grow.
disconsolate
April 8th, 2016 3:49pm
there is a different between living by yourself and being able to live with yourself. my favorite writer taught me that. being alone doesnt mean you have to feel lonely. you have you. and being surrounded by a dozen of people doesnt automatically mean you wont feel lonely. in fact, it hurts more. to feel so lonely even if youre surrounded by so many people.
Anonymous
April 28th, 2016 3:37am
I curl up with a nice book and make a mug of coca. I put on my pyjamas and sit in my chair before I begin reading and sip my cocoa to the sounds of the bees
MajesticTurtle
June 12th, 2016 2:29am
Just do what I did, it may sound like you are mentally insane but make up your own world. Imaginary friends, fake reality. It helps a lot.
calmspirit
April 30th, 2016 3:33pm
I think it's vital to take care of yourself, and remember that you always have yourself. Remember you are not defined by how many friends you know, or how many you don't. Feeling lonely is normal if you aren't around others as much. It's something many can relate to.
booklover1224
April 27th, 2016 4:10pm
You can try approaching people. Perhaps join an activity or volunteer somewhere that makes you happy, and then try and talk to other there so you can find someone you have something on common with?
tranquilSunshine07
May 1st, 2016 5:10am
When you are lonely and have no friends perhaps the best course of action would be to occupy yourself with things you truly enjoy such as exercise, reading, writing, journaling or something like that. It sounds like when your lonely things don't go well and you get caught in negative thoughts which makes you feel worse.
LemonToLemonade
May 12th, 2016 6:31pm
You can always talk with someone here when you're feeling lonely. If you're shy in real life then maybe you could try signing up on a forum with people who share the same interests and make friends like that. Otherwise just ask someone from school or work to hang out sometime, maybe you two will click and make very good friends.
LifeAddict1
June 2nd, 2016 10:34pm
When I relocated to a town miles and miles away from friends and family TV was my only friend. To start making other friends I listed my passions and how I could continue pursuing them in this new town. I joined a hiking club. I met new friends and in no time I was getting invited to dinners, book clubs etc. My lonely days became my past.
Anonymous
May 1st, 2016 1:34am
Alone time is needed at times- to self evaluate, to introspect. Often times the best way to spend a few time without friends is to listen to music, read books, or even look over the internet and browse through a few good sites on one's interests.
EmilyAnnMarie
June 15th, 2016 5:09am
Sometimes the closest friend you can have is yourself. You have to love yourself before you can love anyone else
Jessicka
June 17th, 2016 6:48pm
Well you can do a variety of things such as.. Reading, doing volunteer work, reconnecting with old friends, getting a job, taking classes, and you could meet people online in your area if you look on google! :) Hope this helps!
compassionateSunshine38
June 2nd, 2016 7:09pm
I would concentrate on my lovely activities and involve myself in them i will discover my new talent
Pandette
June 1st, 2016 6:47pm
I lost quite a few friends and have been in the midst of spending more time on myself. I recently began going back to school, so I have been preoccupied with that, looking and setting future goals, and I also began going to the gym again. What about doing activities that you find enjoyable? Who knows, there is always a possibility of making friends that way! Also, if you aren't comfortable with social situations, try working on making friends through other means (FPS games are marvelous for this). In any case, I will be your friend. :) Sending love and hugs your way!
justjace00
June 3rd, 2016 2:12pm
make friends! i know its hard, i suffer from social anxiety and chronic awkwardness but you have to get passed that. you can also focus on you for a bit. its fun to do things alone sometimes,
Anonymous
May 1st, 2016 1:30pm
Do something nice for yourself. Buy yourself that thing you wanted, go out to lunch/dinner, call your mum, listen to your favourite song, even just have the day in, just make yourself feel happy and you'll be able to cope a little better by yourself
ShadowAngel15
April 8th, 2016 8:06pm
Do your best to make new friends or maybe even hang out with your family. I would say the last resort is making friends online, but that can lead to more loneliness and even more social anxiety. Friends in real life are better than making ones online.
RogerDan555
June 17th, 2016 11:43am
Talk to us on 7cups. :) Loneliness is when we aren't able to reach out to people, and they tend to judge us on the basis of their opinions.
lovelizze
July 7th, 2016 4:20pm
actually, there are lots of stuff you can do alone (which is sometimes better than being in crowd). keep yourself busy with the things you really love. i believe that if you enjoy what you do, then it won't matter if you have friends or not, because at the end of the day, it is you who would make yourself feel complete and happy.
Anonymous
April 9th, 2016 6:44am
Make some of course! Try and get yourself involved in new things such as sports and clubs. Try out online penpals and immerse yourself in more social events
ErinKay
April 13th, 2016 2:11am
The first step is trying to understand why you're lonely. A great way to do this is to keep a journal to write out your feelings. Nothing can be fixed without understanding it. The next step is to treat yourself. There's no way you can get to a point and go out to find friends if you aren't ready or in the right mindset. A great way to do this is realize you aren't alone. Find someone you can share your feelings with, whether that's a family member, therapist, or a random person on 7 Cups! Then, you need to get to a point where you're keeping yourself busy. Create small but powerful goals for yourself every day. Make a plan. Today I'm going to go grocery shopping and clean up the kitchen table. Getting out to do social activities by yourself is essential. Go to the park but bring a book or journal with you. Finally, when you've taken care of yourself and are on a schedule, you can start getting to the point to get involved in activities to meet other people.
WOlfDima
April 23rd, 2016 5:14pm
First of all this question is divided into two parts because what he/she has first asked is "what to do when you're lonely?" There are many things you can do when you're alone, good stuff of course 😊 including leisure time activities like playing an instrument, playing outside, photography, video games, listening to music,etc. many stuff! And the second part of the question is "what can I do when I don't have any friends?" So the answer to this is simple, find a socially intractable community like charity work or donation camp, and work with them,laugh with them, enjoy or you can come to 7cups.com and talk with one of us until your mind is relaxed 😊