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What to do when you're lonely and have no friends?

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Last Updated: 06/01/2020 at 4:44pm
What to do when you're lonely and have no friends?
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Top Rated Answers
seastheheart
June 8th, 2016 10:23am
I would go online and find people that are interested in stuff you are into. Just be careful. Or I would join clubs. Put yourself out there, everyone should have a friend.
daydream94
June 11th, 2016 8:36pm
Friends are important. When I felt lonely and like "I have no friends" I felt very depressed. I asked myself "why". The answer is because you can only have friends, when you be a friend with yourself.
peacefulIris56
April 23rd, 2016 2:47pm
Go out and do things. It it beneficial just to go out and be around people in general. Maybe you could see a movie or go out for coffee or go to a gym if you don't already do that. There are also groups in some areas where people meet up and chat. Check online and see if anything is near.
Dantesangel
May 20th, 2016 8:10am
Eat a bunch of bacon and cheese and drink 7 beers. Then go to sleep.$ kidding. Really just go out and talk to whoever will listen. Be bold. It's worth it.
Aprtylittlemess
May 22nd, 2016 2:12pm
Making friends is not a magical ability that only a few have. It is a learned skill. Most of us learned how to make friends when we were little but many of us need to learn the new skill of making friends as adults. To do that, you need to find groups of people that meet up regularly and have interests that are similar to your own. You also need to learn how to find commonalities with these people beyond that first common interest in order to turn your new acquaintances into friends. If you feel like you are bonding with an individual, meet up with them once or twice in a social setting. If all goes well, you should meet up with them regularly in order to maintain and strengthen the bond.
Anonymous
June 29th, 2018 11:37am
Spend time with yourself . Do some reading or any other activity you like . Spend time with family. Family members are your best friends no matter what.
Anonymous
May 7th, 2016 3:46pm
Reach out to someone. 7 cups is an awesome place to find people seeing with the same issues you are facing. You are never alone!
AngelWatchingOverYou
May 11th, 2016 6:57am
i'd spend my time to reflect myself or do thing what really makes me happy like painting and music.
Ifyousayso
May 28th, 2018 1:10pm
Find what hobbies you are interested in,pick a book, have icecream, go and jump on your bed, dance till you feel dizzy, eat tasty food, play some music and go to the mirror and say " I'm a better person '
QueenBrokenDoll
May 4th, 2016 10:15pm
Make some friends. It might be hard, as you might see a bad outcome, but really you can't speak for them and might find your new friend.
FriendOfBill
May 25th, 2016 1:47am
Well for me I would find myself very quickly on this site or one similar. Carry myself to an AA meeting. Often going for walks can spark interaction between others and myself. Resulting in not feeling so alone. Sometimes I just have to busy myself with something. Doesn't matter what action makes for less introspection for me.
BecomingPeacefulWarrior
June 23rd, 2016 11:27am
Spend time in self-improvement. Learn a new habit or get consistent with an old one.- reading novels, swimming, anything that one enjoys doing. And most importantly fill the lonely feeling with self-love :)
Anonymous
July 6th, 2016 9:03am
Humans are eternally alone, any feelings of togetherness and connectivity anyone has with another human being is a temporal illusion and will eventually come to an end. We are all alone but that doesn't mean we can't be alone together.
Anonymous
April 13th, 2016 1:28pm
Try doing an easy activity like drawing, listening to music, or writing. Finding a hobby that you enjoy will make like seem less lonely
connor18
May 7th, 2016 4:28pm
I would say, try and talk to random people, or if you feel shy, talk to random people using an app like Chatous with the topic being friendship. Chatous is a random chat room that connects you to someone based on shared interests or topics.
HalloHi
May 21st, 2016 1:36am
Find a way to improve yourself. By focusing on a goal it can distract you from loneliness. In the end you come out better.
Anonymous
May 21st, 2016 9:23pm
Try and join some clubs in school or join some grup activity. social media can help make it easyer to branch out
EmpathicVision
May 26th, 2016 5:47am
I like to get outside and be around people. A cafe, a public park, or a bookstore usually helps me feel connected. Also the internet is a great social outlet. Find a chatroom or a forum that has to do with something you love and connect.
Anonymous
June 10th, 2016 12:15pm
If you have enough money you can buy some friends. If you don't have money ,you can start appreciating your solitude and use the loneliness as a growth period. Join a meetup group
Kabira
June 23rd, 2016 8:00pm
I come here, on 7 cups and join it's awesome chatrooms. The community is very live and entertaining here.
xFlightlessBird
July 5th, 2016 6:56am
I read and listen to my favourite music. I find that it generally makes me forget about everything that haunts me. It's a quick remedy.
friendlyIcicle64
January 16th, 2017 10:32pm
You can always find hobbies, join organizations, clubs, groups, anything that you are comfortable with and occupy your time. You can also talk to someone about how you feel and I am sure that they might be able to help you out.
toughRaspberries4998
November 23rd, 2017 4:29pm
Always love yourself, really understand who you are, and your life plan goals, achieve things you thought were impossible, get involved in the things you love, because when you do all these things along the way you'll meet some amazing people, people who are worth developing long last friendship/relationships with. being lonely is a mindset it doesn't exist, just think of it as time to understand yourself at a spiritual level and more.
Anonymous
April 15th, 2016 3:29am
Go to places where you can make friends! Try ..try..and try again. Eventually some people will stick. Try Reddit r/NeedAfriend or subs like that for help :)
WhimsicalPonderings
May 5th, 2016 3:39am
You move on. Don't find your self-worth in how many friends you have. Just be you, and real genuine friends, will come to you.
Anonymous
May 8th, 2016 7:04am
try to develop some activities in which you are interested...go for outgoing ,park at different place ..and try to communicate with people ..you can make friends easily.
brightFish45
May 28th, 2016 3:54am
You may feel lonely and like you have no friends, but if you slow down and look around there are more people who love than you know..
kittyspy
June 4th, 2016 3:42am
Do you really have no friends? Maybe join clubs or sport teams and see if you like it or not. You'll have friends sooner or later!
cryingkoalas
June 10th, 2016 3:58pm
Look for things you enjoy doing. A hobby, reading, writing, music, movies. Things that make you happy and keep you busy. Friends will come eventually, as they always do
wonderfulCupcake00
April 23rd, 2016 7:06am
Are friends important for you not to be lonely? There are many activities to choose from :) What do you enjoy doing? What relieves you?interest? What makes you smile ? Do that :)