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What to say to someone who is depressed?

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What to say to someone who is depressed?
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Top Rated Answers
Anonymous
May 19th, 2016 2:51pm
One day you'll look back and see it as just a small chapter of your life.
verboseIcarus42
May 19th, 2016 9:45pm
People who are depressed need encouragement. Tell them you're here and support them no matter what.
ari88
May 20th, 2016 3:11pm
Tell them that you care for them and your here. Real, sincere "being there" for someone will be able to be seen easily and even if they don't say so, they appreciate it more than you know. If your not good with this, study up on what to do and tell them to get help if they need it.
ElizabethLovesYou
May 26th, 2016 6:22pm
People who are depressed can be very deaf to positivity. Yet, try to support them as much as possible! Help them with things that make them happy. For a person who is depressed, the smallest gestures can mean so much more than you think. Don't give them useless advice ('why don't you just try to be happier?') - in fact, refrain from advice alltogether. Tell them positive things. Tell them what you like about them, talk to them about things that cheer them up and make them happy. Ask them how they are doing. That might be all they need.
Anonymous
May 26th, 2016 11:55pm
say nothing, just be with the person. listen to the problems and give them a big hug. avoid giving advises coz they will feel resistance, just need someone to be there...
Understandinggirl1990
May 29th, 2016 1:42pm
When someone is depressed it is important that you stick by them no matter what. You can't assume that they have other friends helping them out. Just be a friend and listen to them. This can get exhausting so you have to make sure that you take care of yourself as well. If things get to be too much you can always help your friend find a therapist.
saddandelion22
June 2nd, 2016 3:07am
Depression is hard to deal with and to overcome. The best thing is to just be there for them, give them support, let them know you can talk to them, and constantly remind them that it's okay to be sad but eventually things will get better.
sunsetsmile
June 2nd, 2016 7:00am
Things like "I believe in you" and "You'll be okay, this is just another bad thing, I know you can push through this" are usually appreciated but it really depends on the person
J4nne
June 2nd, 2016 6:09pm
Sometimes just being there for someone is enough. If you don't know what to say then ask them if there is anything that person wants you to do for him/her. If you don't understand the situation to why someone is feeling depressed then ask him/her questions to help you understand. Make clear that even though you don't understand the way they are feeling, you are not judging them for their actions/behavior,feelings or thoughts.
AnAvacodo
June 3rd, 2016 1:45am
If you have a friend or family member struggling with depression, the main thing is to make sure that they know you are there for them. Just support them and don't make them feel like their depression is their fault or a burden on others. I hope this helps :)
BlueRaspberries77
June 4th, 2016 11:24am
Make sure they know you are there for them whatever the problem, try to learn by their expressions how they feel, and when they are sad make sure you know it, never tell them they are over reacting or they might feel as if you don't care,
StormyAngles18
June 5th, 2016 2:38am
You can never know the right thing to say to someone who is depressed. The only things that can possibly help is comforting them with encouraging words or telling them how much they mean to you. You could send them special notes or cards of how much you love and care for them if they are someone close to you.
ratboi
June 5th, 2016 5:03am
the best thing you can do is let them know you're there for them. it is an illness, so sometimes it can be hard to help, but being there for the person and showing them support can help a lot more than you'd think. remind them that they're valid.
LittleBecky
June 5th, 2016 7:31am
The thing we all want to know the most is that someone is there for us and that we can rely on them. We all need to know that we aren't alone, and if they tell you the reason for being depressed, don't tell them you understand unless you do. Make sure they know that you're there for them and that even though you don't completely understand the issue, you'll be there for them.
beautifulWaterfall35
June 5th, 2016 1:29pm
This too shall pass. Do the next right thing, whether it be to take a nice bath or make a nice cup of tea and ask yourself can I survive the next 5 minutes?
CuteWoolyWool
June 11th, 2016 1:46am
Just be supportive of them and yet try to be genuine, You don't have to force yourself to say things, but if they're someone you care about, just be there when they need you.
YourePerfect
June 11th, 2016 4:29pm
These 'I know how you feel' and 'You should do this and that' not gonna work for sure. You just be supportive and encouraging when they reach out to you.
Anonymous
June 26th, 2016 12:42pm
Pointing out their strengths amidst the struggle. That I, for one, support and care for them and see good in them.
Anonymous
June 30th, 2016 3:43am
There is no specific words to say to someone who is depressed! The best that you can do is to be there for them, talk to them, and try to understand them.
delightfulOasis62
June 30th, 2016 8:14am
First, you should say to them you're here for them. That they are important for you, and that you care a lot about them. But, never tell them their problems are small, or compare their depression with other persons' one, it will makes them feel less worthy, and guilty.
bestFriend54
June 30th, 2016 12:56pm
Ive been through depression and I've found that everyday, try to count ten things throughout the day that make you smile, it really helped me.
MaddyN
June 30th, 2016 9:35pm
Express your empathy towards them, often people who are depressed feel abandoned or feel like a burden to others. When you show that you care about them and you're here for them, it makes them feel more loved and accepted. All they want is to be accepted and not have their emotions belittled.
Fairygirl1998
July 3rd, 2016 7:01am
Always remind them that they are important and that they are loved and never alone. Even if their brain is telling them otherwise, it is so important to let them know how much they matter.
StayPawsitive
July 3rd, 2016 7:12pm
Depressed people can be hard to talk to but one thing you can say to them is that even though they don't think so, someone always loves and cares for them. Try telling them about 7 cups and also try to relate to them the best you can ♡
Anonymous
July 6th, 2016 1:59pm
Be nice, be caring, and be gentle. They don't need pity, they need someone to be there for them, they need support.
Anonymous
July 7th, 2016 2:43am
There is hope for them and that there are people around them who truly love and care for them no matter what.
amisfit
July 7th, 2016 8:38pm
Actions speaker louder than words, show that you care
helpfulsam99
July 14th, 2016 5:15am
Unfortunately, there is no magic phrase to help a depressed person. In fact, I'd suggest not saying much at all- just make it clear you care about them and that they're important and loved. More important than saying something to the person is listening to them. Be someone they can talk and vent to. Respect their feelings and let them keep the conversation at a pace they are comfortable with.
Hail3yb
July 15th, 2016 1:57am
No matter what you are going through, I am always here for you anytime you would like to talk to me!
Anonymous
July 15th, 2016 11:18am
You can't say much. You just have to make the atmosphere comfortable enough so they open up to you. Let them know you're there for them, no matter what. DO NOT force them to speak, that will just make it more difficult for them. Depression is like quicksand, it drowns the person and keeps them stuck, words are literally useless when it comes to helping a depressed person. Just be there for them.