What to say to someone who is depressed?

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What to say to someone who is depressed?
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BirdyThePhoenix
June 12th, 2016 4:28pm
"Hey, depression is a hard thing to go through alone. Want to talk about it? A lot of times you may feel a bit better after talking about situations."
Anonymous
June 12th, 2016 10:26pm
When someone tells you there depressed is a very hard and sensitive situation. You need to be easy on them, they need to know that you'll be there to listen. I mean you may possibly be the only one who can. You need to make sure that your glad that they told you and that now that they have you will be able to listen at anytime, providing advice and support throughout the conversation. Depending on how severe it is, even asking if there ok every now and then can make up anything. Telling them that everything's going to be fine.
Camachik
June 15th, 2016 1:44am
Definetily don't tell them to just "get over it", depression doesn't works like that, its not just sadness, its a weird combination of hopelesness, sadness, and other things, the best you can do is to offer them to listen, to prove them that you are going to be by their side when they need, and that way you will help them manage, if not overcome their depression
marvelousHero56
June 15th, 2016 4:52am
Reassurance and empathy are key. Dark times call for positive reinforcement. Also just conversation in general. Talking definitely helps to distract the mind from dark thoughts and feelings.
Teasile
June 15th, 2016 6:24am
Hug them. Tell them that you are here for them and are ready to listen to their words. They will truly appreciate that.
BassistBriar
June 15th, 2016 10:21pm
If you or somebody you know is depressed, I would seek help from a professional, especially if suicide is becoming an option. If your friend is dealing with depression, try to talk things out with said person. :) Let them know that you are there for them.
DG943
June 15th, 2016 10:40pm
Most of the time it isn't what you say, but it is just being there to listen and support! Let the person know you are there for them and will continue to be until they no longer need you!
Anonymous
June 16th, 2016 12:02am
Above all, tell them that you love them. Tell them that you will be there for them no matter what AND MEAN IT. Gently urge them to seek professional help and to take care of themselves. You probably know them well enough to know how to get them to do well by themselves.
Anonymous
June 16th, 2016 2:39am
Offer them your support. Guide them to seek professional help and online resources such as 7 Cups of Tea or other help lines. Tell them they are not alone in their struggles and there is help out there.
Supergirl94
June 16th, 2016 8:31am
Let them know you are there for them, if you have gone through depression let them know you understand what they are going through, if you don't understand or haven't gone through it, just let them know you want to understand. Talk to them, try your very best to be understanding, know they will have ups and downs and sometimes deep dark holes they go down and they may need you to guide them through it and back into the light
RogerDan555
June 17th, 2016 4:25pm
Cheer that person up. Life's about hits and misses. Talk to him/her and share the dilemmas he/she is facing. This way you are relieving the person off the burden on his/her head. Contact a therapist, if things worsen.
joyfulpresence4
June 17th, 2016 5:22pm
As a person with depression, the thing that someone wants to hear most is that their sadness is valid. Your sadness is valid, it is not in your head. It does not define you, you are so much more and you have already made it this far. You will accomplish great things. You are important, cherished, loved, and you are more than depression.
dreamingCat7474
June 17th, 2016 10:50pm
I've always found that you don't have to say anything specific. Just be there for them and be honest with and about them.
callmefia
June 18th, 2016 10:42pm
Offer support to someone who is depressed and make sure they understand that there is help out there and trained professionals that can help them. Refer them if you find necessary.
Anonymous
June 23rd, 2016 5:05am
I don't really think that there is certain words that you can say to someone to make them feel better about that, but just be there for them, let them know that you care, and maybe that will help them.
PrintedCupcake
June 23rd, 2016 6:03am
Offer them all of you: your time, your energy, your presence. Just being there means everything, if you might not know what to say at first.
NaturalScience
June 25th, 2016 7:05pm
Active listening is a simple technique to help others. Try and understand things from their perspective. Don't prod them, but encourage them to talk. Ask open-ended questions. Try not to tell them they're wrong. Nobody likes to hear they're wrong, unless they are actively soliciting feedback. Being supportive is the key. You probably cannot fix their woes, but you can be a safe and supportive voice in the choir of influences we all face each day!
Anonymous
January 30th, 2017 4:19am
Sometimes its not what you say to this person but how you treat them or be with them. Someone who is depressed may hear a lot of advice but sometimes its how you open your ears to be their listener. They are already bombarded with people speaking but sometimes they just want to talk their problems out.
JaydenIsHere
August 18th, 2017 5:20pm
There isn't one magical thing that you can say to help someone going through depression. The best you can do is just be there for them - comfort them, let them know you are there to talk, and always encourage them to open up. Try to be as inclusive and caring as you can, and over time, things might get better for them, because they have someone like you there to help them.
Anonymous
August 22nd, 2017 3:21am
If you know someone's who's depressed that first thing you need to tell them is that you're there for them. And that you'll support them through this. Even if they try pushing you away, you stay there and be there rock. But depression can really knock you about, but it helps to help them stay grounded.
EndlesslyDreaming
November 21st, 2017 3:53pm
Remind them that you are there. encourage them but don't push. but honestly I think it depends on the person.
quietLion4
January 30th, 2018 9:19pm
Make sure to remember, life is an upwards spiral. Sometimes you may enter a rough patch, but overall you're always climbing to become a better person.
Anonymous
February 3rd, 2018 8:00pm
Try to be there for them and never say things like 'everything will be fine ' or 'snap out of it, will you' because depression is not something which we can snap out of easily.
Apollosdaughter
April 16th, 2018 7:22pm
Try to talk them about happiness and the things they cherished the most. About good times. Ask them about their favourite songs, and tell them feel free to sing it. Try to motivate them and sot out their problems, by giving own experiences.
BoutsofDespair
July 20th, 2018 2:50am
Don't ever tell them "Aww its ok" or "you matter" because they'll think you're lying (Personal experience!). Act like they're not depressed, but be a little nicer to them. You could say stuff like "lets get pizza!" or "wanna watch a movie together?"
MUNlistener1
January 29th, 2019 3:19pm
Depression is a tough illness to go through not only for the person, but for their friends/family as well. In my experience being there to listen to the person generally helps. This allows the person to know that you are there to support them as well as try and help them through what they are going through. It is important to not give the person(s) advice because this could in turn be harmful to them if they do not get the results you provided. Listening and being able to effectively communicate with the person with help in the long run. If you have any other questions feel free to contact me, or any other of the listeners here! We are trained and eager to help out!