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What's the best way to get over loneliness?

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Last Updated: 08/25/2020 at 9:48pm
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Anonymous
July 24th, 2015 6:41am
I have found that trying find things or activities that I enjoy or seeking out friends or family and spend quality time with them helps me to overcome and enjoy any times of loneliness.
Anonymous
July 25th, 2015 12:31am
For me: animals. Being around animals, particularly dogs and other domestic pets, can be extremely comforting for people experiencing loneliness, and even depression.
Anonymous
June 28th, 2015 7:19pm
Keep yourself occupied. Talk to friends or family. The less you think about it, the less loneliness will affect you. Interact. Interaction through community service for example is one way to keep yourself occupied and meet new individuals that can possibly impact your life like you impact theirs.
Anonymous
June 25th, 2015 5:32pm
Keeping busy, meet new people! don't sit alone feeling sad it will make it worse. Try just talking to someone you know you might be surprised what response you get from them
AuralMaster
June 26th, 2015 2:28pm
Loneliness isn't something that you get over, it's an emotion. Think of it like a cup. When we are with people it fills up a little, and when we are alone it slowly empties. When we get lonely we have to refill it to feel better. Pets are a great way to fill up your cup, but so are friends and family. Reach out and connect with someone.
Anonymous
July 17th, 2015 2:47pm
Find someone who you truly love and spend the day with them. Or, what i did was, get a pet, pets can solve loneliness very quickly.
jibran2k14
August 6th, 2015 8:57am
Do random things, different things. mostly i like to be alone but loneliness means that when you don't have anyone to be with so at that times go out and do random things, like once i went to another city for no reason.
Brok3nHeart
August 6th, 2015 1:12am
Face the fear. Think about what really makes you lonely and work to improve that negative thinking process. Break the excuse and move forward.
waterlilyfarmer
August 5th, 2015 9:14pm
As an extrovert, I find that just going out and meeting people is a treat for me. I like volunteering at organizations that have fun group activities. My city has a community rain garden that I go and work on a couple of times a week. Usually I just talk with people about plants and gardening, but sometimes I meet people for coffee later.
ahistoryimake
August 5th, 2015 8:36pm
Get out of the house. Don't be afraid to smile at strangers and don't overthink your situation. You wont be lonely forever =]
justkindness
August 5th, 2015 10:07am
If you can learn to love yourself and accept that you are special and unique in everyway you will never be alone. Every person has something to offer.
Anonymous
August 5th, 2015 4:45am
Talk to someone that you're comfortable with, or simply find a pet or hobby to interact with to keep you busy.
BohoHippie
August 5th, 2015 12:41am
To surround yourself by people you love and who love you. Find something you like to do and do that thing whenever you find yourself becoming lonely or sad. Don't distance yourself! Talk to people! :)
mysticalcod
August 2nd, 2015 3:35pm
Push yourself a little, its all too easy to keep yourself to yourself and its only when isolation sets in you realise how lonely you are. I have to push myself when I moved to a new area. I joined a knitting group and I regularly stay for a drink with my work mates. I felt quite nervous at first but its made me happier and less lonely in the long run
Keyson
August 2nd, 2015 7:10am
Definitely, focusing your mind on other things, mostly fun things :) Watch TV, go to that jazz bar you love or whatever you know that will make you good.
Anonymous
August 1st, 2015 12:55pm
Start listening to the world. Get out there. Surround yourself with good friends and fun times. Don't be afraid to put yourself out there.
gigantIceCream37
August 1st, 2015 12:55pm
mm... Best way is not to think about loneliness. Try to think of happiness and appreciate things that sometime thing won't be as much as you like but smeday they will but if you are not willing like thinking that it won't happen. It will be so be positive in life. There are a lot to discover in this world try to catch up and look fr it okay?
Jenniferroseh98
July 31st, 2015 10:08pm
The best way to get over loneliness is to find something you love or meet new people or even just getting a pet.
Anonymous
July 31st, 2015 7:37pm
Love and accept ypurself. If people cares about something is how you act. If you act confident people will like to be with you
twelvetigerlillies
July 31st, 2015 12:56pm
As silly as it may sound, the best way I myself get over the feeling of 'loneliness' is to learn to enjoy my own company. I read a book, do yoga, walk my dogs, I try to try things outside my comfort zone that teach me more about who I am as a person and what is important to me. The first step to reaching out and being comfortable and confident enough with others to bridge that gap between loneliness and comfortable with solidarity is by first learning to enjoy your own company so you can then enjoy others.
Rojoe
July 23rd, 2015 12:24am
surround yourself with things and people who you care for. spend time with yourself. enjoy your own company..
Anonymous
July 25th, 2015 12:54pm
Communication is the key. No one wants to be lonely but if you talk so many people, make friends, or go out with them. I am pretty sure you will do the best thing you want :=)
Anonymous
July 25th, 2015 6:10am
When I am lonely I know I am in a terrible place and that I need to get out of it, but I just can't bring myself to. It's almost as if I'm trying to isolate myself from people even more. This might apply to so many people. If you're feeling lonely, the best way to get over it is to fight it head first. Even though you want to stay in bed and sleep for the rest of the day, force yourself to get up and attend that party. Surrounding yourself with people is the best remedy. Being lonely also is the key way to convince yourself that you are alone in this world. That will never be true. You are never alone. Telling a family, friend or even reaching out to someone on 7 Cups about the way you are feeling can make the world of a difference. By letting someone know, they will help you. They will drag you out of bed, message you and all in alone remind you that they are there for you. Fight the constant urge to isolate yourself by doing the exact opposite. Initiate meetings with people you love, and I assure you, at one point or another, you won't be feeling as alone as you were before. There's also the issue of feeling alone despite that you are surrounded by people. This can be considered the worse kind of loneliness. From my experience, telling people you are feeling this way (as mentioned before) can help. Who knows, they might completely understand where you are coming from.
tranquilBubbles99
July 24th, 2015 8:25pm
Hangout with friends or listen to music. Sometimes you just have to think positive thought. Go out and meet new people.
befree87
July 23rd, 2015 9:28pm
go out and meet people. join groups and take part in activities. maybe get a animal to keep you company
Anonymous
July 18th, 2015 10:04am
try and join a club or something that you enjoy , then when you go you may meet someone who you click with , because you both like the same thing .
Pretzelsandchocolate
August 25th, 2020 9:48pm
I like volunteering as a way to connect with others, whether in person or online. You are automatically connected with people who share at least one thing in common, based on what type of volunteer work you are doing. Animals, kids, nature... there is a shared interest. You already have something to talk about! Plus, doing good for an organization can help you feel connected in a big-picture way to the whole world. You are making a difference, the world needs you. Volunteering also uses up time, and feelings of loneliness seem to hit hardest when we have nothing else going on.
alise
July 17th, 2015 10:49pm
There's really no "way" to get over something. You just do. I suggest surrounding yourself with the people you don't feel lonely with, and if you don't really have anyone (which is totally okay!) immerse yourself in the things you love to do. You're bound to meet some fun people you can relate to along the way!
littlesnowflake1
July 25th, 2015 11:09pm
The best way to get over loneliness is to write down your feelings. Maybe even draw. I find expressing a great way to feel better.
comfortingPurple81
July 22nd, 2015 3:20am
I am a nerd, a big one at that. I have always felt quite at home at conventions with like-minded people. Now, I do get lonely quite often but when you have those people around that share your interests you find yourself forgetting about the world and 'geeking out' to your personal interests. List your interests, things you love doing that people might not realize can be a hobby. Gaming, art, music, tv shows, writing, etc these are all interests that in today's world with two clicks of a button you can find a whole community, meetup, etc that caters to it. Try to find that and absorb yourself in something that makes you happy and find others that are the same.