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What's the best way to get over loneliness?

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Last Updated: 08/25/2020 at 9:48pm
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Top Rated Answers
sunbeams
July 4th, 2015 1:17pm
keeping yourself busy can make you feel less lonely like doing the things you love. For instance, reading a book or talking to a friend.
ItIsANewDay
July 4th, 2015 5:04pm
Go out. Surround yourself with people who have positive affect on you,do something for yourself only and have fun.
Lovatic226
July 4th, 2015 7:09pm
By simply doing what you do best, like sports or hiking or just something you like to do. Play with your animals if you have any.
Anonymous
July 4th, 2015 11:15pm
Call or get in touch with a friend or family member. Or talk to people online, anybody. For me, the best way is to be around somebody or talking to someone on a phone.
stronger10
July 5th, 2015 5:09am
Reach out! Talk to someone, a friend, a family member, someone here on 7 Cups. Also, any distraction, like television or exercise, can help.
coffeemanbren2
July 5th, 2015 1:25pm
a long time ago i used to go into yahoo games rooms, like pool or euchre and try to make other people feel miserable. they call it trolling these days. it took me a long time to realize that sometimes the people on the receiving end of the trolling were taking real offense and feeling real emotions. i vowed never to troll again. now im like the anti troll... if i feel lonely ill go to a place where people are gathering online and be the nicest possible person i can be.
PondIsle
July 5th, 2015 7:24pm
Learn to love yourself. Easier said than done, don't I know it. But you're the only person who will guaranteed ALWAYS be there for you. So learn to love that wonderful person that you are. (Because you are).
peachysunny
July 5th, 2015 8:40pm
be with other people and people who love you and people who make you laugh and that make you happy and feel good
PieceoftheUniverse
July 5th, 2015 10:02pm
I think ways to get over loneliness are different for every person, so I do think that there is a universal way to overcome loneliness. I do not know why you feel lonely but the first thing that comes in my mind is: search for people that love you for who you are/like-minded people. If they aren't in your environment right now, go out and search them. You could join a sportclub/theaterschool. Just go out and chat with people there. But I understand that this doesn't Always work that way if you do not find people that are like minded. And again I do not know why you are lonely but if you struggle with social contact because of anxiety for example you could talk with a therapist about that. (and do not be afraid to talk with a therapist about your loneliness in general, you're worthy of that!) And I think it is Always a good idea to remind yourself that you are not the only one that feels lonely sometimes. Look at the statistics... They say enough. Most people do not admit that so fast. If you miss deep conversations you could join a spiritual/religious movement. And I think that it's possible to learn how to be alone. If you would get a more loving relationship with yourself and do not blame yourself for the times you feel lonely everything becomes way better to handle (this has worked for me anyway). I hope the loneliness will go away some day! Remember that many people feel this way, and that there are people in the world that would love to have a deep relationship with someone, do not lose hope!
Anonymous
July 5th, 2015 11:03pm
Talk with someone. Especially your beloved. Surround yourself with loved ones that will understand how you feel and will support you no matter what. Those who truly care about you and your well-being will always try to do their best to help and keep you happy.
abbygaylee
July 8th, 2015 12:04am
Try not to focus on being alone keep yourself active and introduce new people to your life it can be scary but it will be ok.
Tejash
July 8th, 2015 7:07am
Loneliness..no one wants to be lonely. What exactly is loneliness? Loneliness is when you find yourself to be without anyone who is able to connect with you. In this case, you don't need ANYONE to make you get over loneliness. You are the best company for yourself. Do something spontaneous. Dance, cry, or just laugh uncontrollably into your pillow. You are with the best company you can ever have, and that is yourself :) Pursue what you really wish to do. Write a book, sing your favourite song in the park, go to the beach, watch a movie, anything! Let your heart and mind connect as one, and you will realise they are your best friends. Remember, you are the best company you will ever have!
Anonymous
July 8th, 2015 1:36pm
You can find some hobbies or go to the courses and make new friends in there. Dont worry, people are not that bad
sweetSun27
July 8th, 2015 5:49pm
The best way to get over loneliness is to keep busy by getting a job, spending time with family, and doing fun activities.
Sunflowerseverywhere
July 8th, 2015 7:45pm
I would recommend the easy solution of finding more/new friends, but of course this isn't always as easy as it looks. Learn to love yourself, and to love spending time with yourself. Go to the movies alone, go to a restaurant alone, enjoy your own company first! If you don't like spending time with you, why would others?
Anonymous
July 8th, 2015 11:20pm
Whenever I feel lonely, I go onto social media like tumblr and twitter and talk to people. You can also join local clubs and organisations. Or get a pet. Being in charge of caring for something else often helps :)
JaimieF
July 9th, 2015 3:13am
Do what you enjoy doing. Remember that you don't need others to complete you. Do what you can to gradually build up your independence and self-confidence/ self-esteem. And remember that we on 7 Cups of Tea are here if you feel that you need someone to get through a fit of loneliness; but you can do things to eventually stop feeling so lonely.
Box3dJ3llyFish
July 9th, 2015 7:51am
- Identify the reasons why you feel lonely. When do you feel the most lonely? Do certain people make you feel more lonely when you are around them? How long have you been feeling this way? What does feeling lonely make you want to do? -Start a journal to track your thoughts and feelings. "I feel lonely when.." "I feel lonely because.." When did you first start feeling lonely? How long have you felt this way? -Meditation To get started with meditation, find a quiet spot and get comfortable. You can either sit in a chair or on a cushion on the floor with your legs crossed. Close your eyes and concentrate on your breathing. As you focus on your breathing, try not to get distracted by your thoughts. Just let them happen and pass by. -Consider talking to a therapist about how you have been feeling. It may be hard to figure out why you feel lonely and how to move past those feelings.
BessyB
July 9th, 2015 11:05am
Realize that loneliness is a feeling, not a fact. When you are feeling lonely, it is because something has triggered a memory of that feeling, not because you are in fact, isolated and alone. Reach out because loneliness is painful and can confuse you into thinking that you are a loser, an outcast. You might react by withdrawing into yourself, your thoughts, and your lonely feelings and this is not helpful. At its best, anticipation of loneliness might motivate us to reach out and cultivate friendships, which is the healthiest thing to do if you are sad and alone.
Anonymous
July 9th, 2015 1:00pm
Going out, doing things that you love, talking to people, making friends, stop thinking how lonely you are
heartsNcupcakes
July 9th, 2015 3:01pm
Talk to a counselor, join a support group (in person or online), talk to listener on the site, find hobbies and work on finding happiness that comes from you and not rely on others for happiness. Use that time to focus on yourself and better yourself. Fill that time with positivity and work to achieve what you want.
Anonymous
July 10th, 2015 12:53am
For me this is something I sometimes struggle with, but sometimes we are looking for something more and overlooking what is there. I like to remember and acknowledge the people that surround me every day.
MandyCaliaba
July 10th, 2015 4:14am
Finding your own way to distract yourself, doing what you love and chasing your dreams as it's the only way of really being proud of yourself, smiling at truly meaning it.
RadiantSun
July 10th, 2015 8:42am
Music is the best and effective way to drove away loneliness....Just had to figure out what kind of music you love the most....
Sunshine99x
July 10th, 2015 12:40pm
Some research has suggested that meditation may ease feelings associated with loneliness and depression.[6] Meditation is also a great way to get more in touch with your feelings of loneliness and start to understand where they come from
CheerfulLion
July 10th, 2015 6:19pm
When I feel lonely, I listen to music and do things I enjoy, or try to find a friend to hang out with me.
AstroStan
July 10th, 2015 8:25pm
In these events, the best thing to do is talk to someone you know that is close to you. You can surround yourself in a Social Setting. Surround yourself with Friends and Family, you might even consider Volunteering to make new friends. We, at one point in our lifetime, will feel as if we're alone... But in actuality, we're not.
lucy1013
July 11th, 2015 3:56am
I like to just have TV or music playing in the background. I find noise comforting. I try to keep busy and find fun activities I like to do. But if you're truly lonely, take classes or join clubs to meet people with similar interests! I'm sure you will find wonderful friends there.
Penelope210
July 11th, 2015 5:35am
Join a club or learn a new skill, first of all though love yourself and who you are because then you will be comfortable on your own first this will help you make friends.
butterflykisses27
July 11th, 2015 5:57am
Try and join in with groups of something you have always wanted to do. A craft , sport, gym anything where your around people.