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What's the best way to get over loneliness?

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Michael77
July 11th, 2015 1:03pm
I think this depends on the situation. In a world of 6+ billion people, knowing that number alone and feeling lonely compounds that feeling, or at least it does for me. I feel lonely quite often because of all of my work travel. I don't see clients outside of the work environment, nor do I spend any time with colleagues in other cities aside from when we cross paths in the field. I'm introverted, so that doesn't help matters any, either. I have friends, but they aren't all that close. I think some of that is my own doing from pushing people away when I'm depressed and partly because work is a great excuse to avoid social contact. Yet... I crave some social contact. I do know in the past though, that I'd get into romantic relationships, hopping from one to the next within a week or two because I couldn't stand the thought of being alone. The best suggestion I have for this is to learn to be comfortable with being alone with yourself. Discover who you are and then try to meet people of common interests. Photography meetups have been great for me in the past as they have all sorts of people come to them, and some you kind of kick it off with. If anything, they may be someone you can have lunch or dinner with every so often.
delicatePillow38
July 11th, 2015 9:46pm
the best way to get over loneliness is to go out and find things to do, find a new hobby that interests you.
StevensLion
July 11th, 2015 9:48pm
In my opinion, the best way to get over loneliness is to reach out to someone. It's hard if you don't think anyone really cares, and that causes you to feel even worse, but the only way to let others know you are lonely is to tell them. If those people don't think your feelings or loneliness is something to care about, then find better people because the other ones are wrong. You deserve to be heard and understood, and you deserve to be cared for. Your feelings are valid.
Anonymous
July 12th, 2015 7:21am
Find something you enjoy doing. Happiness isn't dependent on being around other people, spend your time doing things you love and from there everything will become so much easier.
originalLion57
July 12th, 2015 12:41pm
Reach out, talk to family or friends if there's any you feel would listen to you and be respectful towards you. Be more social whether it's in school or at your job or any hobbies or at the gym or at a park. Try to talk to people - if you already have people in your life that you can talk to, then try to talk about deeper topics and get to know one another more and tell them about how you feel so you can get support and comfort and feel like you're being seen for who you really are and being understood and accepted. Communication is the way to do it.
AutoPhobia
July 12th, 2015 4:39pm
I think you could get a family pet and try to bond with it, or go out and explore try to make new friends in diffrent places
HisBestFriend1030
July 15th, 2015 1:19am
Usually finding something that makes us forget that we are lonely. Keeping busy etc. I know it's usually not that easy but the time we spend doing something that grabs our attention makes the time go by faster and by the time we know it we are already starting another day!
dancingRiver48
July 15th, 2015 5:04pm
The best way to get over lonliness is to love yourself and start having fun alone! Do the things you enjoy, and indulge in your hobbies...
Anonymous
July 15th, 2015 10:41pm
I often feel that thinking about something else helps a lot. As well as talking to other people about this.
Anonymous
July 16th, 2015 7:06am
Do something that you love doing or try out something fun and new like baking, running or maybe reading.
VictoriousVision20
July 17th, 2015 2:11am
There is no surefire way to cope with loneliness. Some methods have higher success rates though. For example, hanging around with close friends who include you. Participate in numerous activities and/or clubs like swimming or hobbies of yours. What often works best is doing something that you love and that calms you down and trying to share it with someone else, hence the group activity suggestion.
Sanya29
July 17th, 2015 9:25am
I think to get out of loneliness you need proactiveness to find what makes you feel better and healthy. The best way to just reach out to a friend and speak up.Another good way would be to write about your feelings to vent if you are not comfortable about talking to someone
Anonymous
July 17th, 2015 2:47pm
Find someone who you truly love and spend the day with them. Or, what i did was, get a pet, pets can solve loneliness very quickly.
alise
July 17th, 2015 10:49pm
There's really no "way" to get over something. You just do. I suggest surrounding yourself with the people you don't feel lonely with, and if you don't really have anyone (which is totally okay!) immerse yourself in the things you love to do. You're bound to meet some fun people you can relate to along the way!
Anonymous
July 18th, 2015 10:04am
try and join a club or something that you enjoy , then when you go you may meet someone who you click with , because you both like the same thing .
comfortingPurple81
July 22nd, 2015 3:20am
I am a nerd, a big one at that. I have always felt quite at home at conventions with like-minded people. Now, I do get lonely quite often but when you have those people around that share your interests you find yourself forgetting about the world and 'geeking out' to your personal interests. List your interests, things you love doing that people might not realize can be a hobby. Gaming, art, music, tv shows, writing, etc these are all interests that in today's world with two clicks of a button you can find a whole community, meetup, etc that caters to it. Try to find that and absorb yourself in something that makes you happy and find others that are the same.
Rojoe
July 23rd, 2015 12:24am
surround yourself with things and people who you care for. spend time with yourself. enjoy your own company..
befree87
July 23rd, 2015 9:28pm
go out and meet people. join groups and take part in activities. maybe get a animal to keep you company
tranquilBubbles99
July 24th, 2015 8:25pm
Hangout with friends or listen to music. Sometimes you just have to think positive thought. Go out and meet new people.
AshlynHeart27
July 25th, 2015 6:10am
When I am lonely I know I am in a terrible place and that I need to get out of it, but I just can't bring myself to. It's almost as if I'm trying to isolate myself from people even more. This might apply to so many people. If you're feeling lonely, the best way to get over it is to fight it head first. Even though you want to stay in bed and sleep for the rest of the day, force yourself to get up and attend that party. Surrounding yourself with people is the best remedy. Being lonely also is the key way to convince yourself that you are alone in this world. That will never be true. You are never alone. Telling a family, friend or even reaching out to someone on 7 Cups about the way you are feeling can make the world of a difference. By letting someone know, they will help you. They will drag you out of bed, message you and all in alone remind you that they are there for you. Fight the constant urge to isolate yourself by doing the exact opposite. Initiate meetings with people you love, and I assure you, at one point or another, you won't be feeling as alone as you were before. There's also the issue of feeling alone despite that you are surrounded by people. This can be considered the worse kind of loneliness. From my experience, telling people you are feeling this way (as mentioned before) can help. Who knows, they might completely understand where you are coming from.
Anonymous
July 25th, 2015 12:54pm
Communication is the key. No one wants to be lonely but if you talk so many people, make friends, or go out with them. I am pretty sure you will do the best thing you want :=)
littlesnowflake1
July 25th, 2015 11:09pm
The best way to get over loneliness is to write down your feelings. Maybe even draw. I find expressing a great way to feel better.
NiaMostMysterious
July 26th, 2015 3:26am
I have found that the best way to get over loneliness is to surround yourself with people who you are comfortable and close with. if it isn't feasible to be around people then reach out, either by text or call, and just talk to someone. It doesn't have to be a long or deep convo, but just reaching out can do a lot!
Clouder
July 26th, 2015 5:04am
Loneliness is a natural part of life. We all need to feel some sense of connection with others. When that's lacking, loneliness arises to remind us that it's time to get out there and build or strengthen those connections. Unfortunately, depression often sucks away the will to be around other people. At a time when you need it the most, depression tells you that you're unworthy of human connection, or that you shouldn't let yourself be a burden to others. One way to manage loneliness when you're depressed is to volunteer with other people. Volunteering is a way to get some social interaction with a clear purpose (helping others) in a structured setting. It can also help lift your mood to know that you're doing some good. If you've been feeling lonely for a long time, spending more time with other people might not make a difference right away. Try not to be discouraged. Keep putting yourself out there. Sooner or later, you will start feeling reconnected and the loneliness will fade.
OrangeMarmaIade
July 29th, 2015 8:52am
Find someone who you can be open with and connect with other people if you don't have any. Sometimes all you need is a bit of courage to talk to someone. Once you find someone you can trust and be open with they're like a friend for life the you should treasure and appreciate, because just like shooting stars they only come so often.
samc95xc
July 29th, 2015 4:35pm
Keeping Busy! You head that line I dont know who said that that "Empty Mind is a devils Workshop" No, please dont throw shoes at me, I'm definitely not trying to say that you are a devil. But what im trying to say is DO SOMETHING. GET UP. GET BUSY in some ACTIVITY out there. GO OUT from the house. Who knows you'll find something or someone who you'll love, That will get kick the loneliness out of your system?
Anonymous
July 29th, 2015 9:06pm
I think the best way to get over loneliness it to embrace being alone. Embracing loneliness is thekey
pocketfulofsunshine
July 30th, 2015 6:32am
Finding someone to listen you is the best medicine! I go out with my best friend or go out for a walk so I can feel realived.
Anonymous
July 30th, 2015 7:47pm
Spend time with the family and friends that support and love you. Find a hobby that you're passionate about and helps pass the time. Listen to music and dance till your feet hurt! Talk to someone that will listen.
Anonymous
July 30th, 2015 11:12pm
I usually find a song that gives me comfort in my time of loneliness. If that doesn't help, I write it out, either as a venting paragraph or a poem. I find that it helps me focus my emotions.