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What's the best way to get over loneliness?

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Last Updated: 08/25/2020 at 9:48pm
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2ears1heart
August 12th, 2015 10:22pm
I get over loneliness by going grocery shopping or somewhere public. Its not a cure but it definitely helps me in the moment, when the feeling is overwhelming and I cant seem to shake it off. Seeing people walking around and doing day to day tasks reminds me that I am never alone.
Rift
August 13th, 2015 3:10am
You can be physically lonely or emotionally lonely. It's best to identify which of the two you're dealing with. Physically means you just need to be around other people. Seek out family or friends in this case. Emotionally means you require contact with other human beings. Find someone you trust that you could talk to about how you feel, or maybe even talking about other topics with them already relieves the feeling. If you're afraid to feel lonely again later, arrange a future time where you can meet with and/or talk to the other person again.
kittykat
August 13th, 2015 4:56pm
That depends a lot on your personal situation and what's causing the loneliness. Loneliness and isolation are often symptoms of depression, and if you have depression that's going untreated, it's best to seek help from a mental health professional. All the socializing in the world won't help if there's a mental health issue at play. That said, reaching out to people is one of the best ways to feel less alone. You can meet people in real life or, if that's not a solid option, find online communities to take part in. 7 Cups has a great forum community with tons of people who can offer both support and fun!
Anonymous
August 13th, 2015 9:19pm
I personally enjoy being alone. It gives me lots of time to read and a bit of personal head-space after a long day. However, I also know what it's like to feel disconnected from others or left out and excluded. The best way to deal with this, in my opinion, is to do something you love. For me, I'd have to say that I either read or write or paint or something along those lines. Just doing something fun, or maybe something you haven't done for a while can give you a new lease on life and better your mood too.
kindwinter
August 14th, 2015 12:32am
Either learning to love and treat yourself or investing your time into a hobby is definitely one of the best ways to dismiss loneliness.
here2listenn
August 14th, 2015 12:05pm
The best way to overcome loneliness is to get comfortable being alone, its good to avoid becoming dependent on people, while having friends and having good support is all well and good, relying on others to make you happy is not, go out and find something that makes you happy :)
CrystalFriend
August 14th, 2015 8:56pm
If you are able to signing up on Meetup sites where you meet other people in your area with similar interests is a good idea. You know you will meet people who you should have an easier time talking to and who possibly could become friends. You could also sign up for a cooking class, volunteer at an animal shelter or a homeless shelter. You meet others who are there to help out and they are usually kind people. If you are not at the point of being able to go out into the world I think joining a website- Like 7 Cups and being active in the forums and chats is a great way to beat loneliness.
Tomislav
August 15th, 2015 1:02am
Obviously finding company... I have coped with loneliness and i still am and i still havent found a good way to deal with it. Spend time with your friends! Go out and walk your pet or just walk, should it be in the park or nature on in town. It is a perfect place to start if you have no friends. Dont be afraid of failure and approach someone! People are social beings and that is the reason that someone is there for you, my dear questioner. Find a hobby. Join a class or a group of some kind with same interests ypu might have. Seek professional help if you can because you have to know that people can feel lonely in the middle of a carnival. Loneliness comes from within and if it strives for too long, it can turn into a serious depression and introvertism. Seeking aid in such cases is nothing shameful. I am sending you this hug, my dear questioner, in hopes that youbwill feel less alone. You are not alone!
Anonymous
August 15th, 2015 1:25pm
understand that you are not lonely. even if someone dies they are always there with you and even that person that may be dead still want to see you happy :)
IntuitiveSoul
August 15th, 2015 7:57pm
The best way to get over loneliness is to listen to the parts of yourself that want to be heard. Or find people who you can open up to and who can hear you. Sometimes, it also just helps to know there are people who feel/think the same way and you're not alone.
Larzy
August 16th, 2015 3:41am
There isn't a best way to overcome loneliness but, I'd suggest finding something you love and stick to it.
Anonymous
August 16th, 2015 4:29pm
you feel lonely when you don't get the attention you want from someone you like and to overcome this you have to start noticing the ones who are actually there for you and just be at peace with yourself.
gracefulHand73
September 1st, 2015 2:55am
you can do that by keeping yourself busy and doing things you love will overcome loneliness in life
Anonymous
September 21st, 2015 7:25am
There are people here on 7 Cups that are more than glad to have you as a friend! Talk to me if you want :)
EternallyAlive
September 22nd, 2015 5:47am
There are people who may make you lonely, but you have the right to make friends and have people care for you. There aren't many healing factors that can help loneliness, but being lonely can't always be a bad thing. Loneliness is mainly caused by alienation from bad friends, or simply because people are too afraid to make friends. There is always someone who would want to be your friend, it's just that you yourself have to get out of the circle of isolation. It might not be now, but only time can show how much can change from just having one friend to having more than a hundred. Getting over loneliness is something that only you can change from the choices you make and the difficulties you may face. You can't always sit around whining about how you are so worthless and annoying. It would only affect you even more, and during that time of whining, you could already be chatting with friends and sharing laughter together. So just start off a casual conversation with someone and experience the excitement of getting over loneliness and making new friends.
smzvf
November 8th, 2015 3:07pm
Have a routine and stick to it Go out in the nature Explore a new skill or a new place Go out of the house Dont stick to the telivision
Anonymous
November 24th, 2015 3:15pm
Surround yourself around good people that can keep you laughing.... Having lots of activitys helps so much... Give it a go.....👍🏾😎
hxlfbloodprincess
December 28th, 2015 7:54am
My favorite way to get over being lonely is by surrounding myself with my favorite music and tv shows! By enjoying myself and reliving some of my best experiences, I can sometimes move past the feelings of being alone
BrooklynRose
January 5th, 2016 9:41am
Realize that loneliness is only a feeling, not a fact. Love yourself, love your own company, do fun things while you are alone. Learn to be okay with being alone, but be ready to have friendships and relationships when they come along.
olive
January 22nd, 2016 11:49am
I think that getting over being lonely includes creating a better balance in your life. Meeting more new people, connecting with old friends, putting yourself out of your comfort zone, etc. but also being okay with yourself when you are not around other people. Plus, knowing that there is always someone here on 7 Cups who is here for you can help! :D
Anonymous
February 1st, 2016 2:54am
Try to talk to people online or offline, find people who like the same things as you and becpme friends with them.
DarkAlly
May 31st, 2016 12:50pm
The best way for me to get over loneliness is to help someone else. By this way, you are being social and beneficial for you and the person you're helping.
sensitiveBalloon8762
May 31st, 2016 1:11pm
just listen music and relax your mind forget everything and do what you like
NeverToFarGone0
July 26th, 2016 2:47am
Best way to get over loneliness is getting out of the house. Don't isolate. Go to church, start a club, go on meetup.com, go to bars to meet people and volunteer at places like animal shelters and so on. This will help you feel more involved in life and help you be more social.
Mariyia
November 8th, 2016 6:41pm
Well, its just be with me and share your thoughts with me I'll help you overcome all those thoughts
Anonymous
January 21st, 2017 3:54am
whenever i feel lonely i try to imagine all the other people out there that feel the same way as me. knowing that i'm not the only one makes me feel better
Anonymous
August 8th, 2017 4:22pm
The best way to get over loneliness is to surround yourself with your friends or family, or to just change the situation that you are in, for example when I feel lonely and my friends and family are busy I normally take myself out for a walk to clear my head
TogetherForeverAlways
November 20th, 2017 4:18pm
I don't know what is the best day, but I know some good ones. Discover new passions or reactive forgotten ones and loook for activities outside home and in group in which you can practice them. And do the same with friendships, even if you don't have many or almost none, don't avoid people, instead try to cultivate those relationships.
chloelistens
March 5th, 2018 2:28am
Some people feel loneliness even when surrounded by a crowd of people, at events, or even if they know they have great friends that they can reach out to. In my opinion, loneliness arises when you aren't immersing yourself in anything that you're passionate about. Find what it is that makes you get up in the morning, and truly focus on that.
endearingPoetry78
July 9th, 2018 12:08pm
Dont think about the negative qualities about being lonely. I know it can be quite hard, but there are lots of good things! There is a lot of things you can do independently.